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TTC Thread 15...........a thread full of babydust.

1218 replies

geordie · 03/12/2004 11:28

here it is girls.

ttc 15

the last one of 2005 I think.......

However- I am sending loads of babydut to you all

I really hope this beanie sticks......cos as much as i luv you all I really want to join a antenatal board!!

Geordie
(and beanie due august 15th 2005!)

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RudyDudy · 13/12/2004 14:21

did you mean me cockenzie? (I don't think hula is due to test) I'm trying not to test as AF isn't due for 7 more days and so it is wayyyy to early and I will undoubtedly only get a BFN. I'm going to try to hold out until Saturday but frankly that seems like a lifetime atm. Some of the early tests reckon 2/3 days before AF is due obviously it is best to wait until AF is due/late but we ttc'ers aren't exactly known for our patience Wink

cockenzie · 13/12/2004 14:31

sory rudy for the confusion.what is ur due date?

RudyDudy · 13/12/2004 14:35

sunday or monday

cockenzie · 13/12/2004 14:41

rudy - how do u feel down below or in belly?

kizzy212 · 13/12/2004 14:42

HI JUST MANAGED TO READ THREAD. THANKS TO ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR THOUGHTS.
WHY IS AF BEENING 3 DAYS LATE, ONE BFN AND STILL BFN ONE HOUR AGO.I THOUGHT ALL TEST SHOW ON DAY OF PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IM GOING TO GO MAD.FEELING REALLY LOW. PARNTER DOESNT SEEM TO CARE, IM REALLY BEGINING TO DOUBT HE REALLY WANTS ANOTHER CHILD. OR ARE ALL BLOKES THE SAME. HE KNEW I WAS TESTING THIS MORNING AND STILL HE DIDNT CARE TO ASK WHAT THE RESULT WAS.

HESTER HOW MANY DAYS ARE YOU LATE? IF I HAVE THE CONVERSATION RIGHT.

RudyDudy · 13/12/2004 14:45

I don't feel in the least tiny tiny bit pg at all, if that's what you're asking. Just starting to think about it as AF time draws closer and wondering if I should test for the hell of it. And although I don't feel pg we did bd a lot this month so of course I am hopeful. But mainly feeling full of cold and sorry for myself so it would distract me for about 3 minutes but wouldn't tell me anything I don't know already!! Utter madness to even be thinking about it. Will go and get my head down and try and get some work done and hopefully forget about it for now...

RudyDudy · 13/12/2004 14:47

hi kizy Sad sorry to hear you are feeling low. I don't want to make you feel worse but apparently you can be pg for 8 weeks before getting a BFP. Try and leave it a couple of days before testing again (if you can!). Fingers crossed for you and sending loads of babydust your way...

cockenzie · 13/12/2004 14:55

kyzzy - i am sure ur dh cares, mayb he is hiding his feelings? my dp, i know he wants another one but doesnt seem to want to try as desperately as i do.dont know if all hubbies are the same? ladies, r they? but every month when i get a bfn partner looks at my belly and says ' no bun in the oven yet' with sad voice and am always convinced he dont care the rest of the month.but i kno he does.they just dont show it like we do

cockenzie · 13/12/2004 14:57

rudy - would he not like to read the test once u peed? instead of u reading it

StNickschik · 13/12/2004 15:01

My dh does care and is sad when af arrives cos he really wants another but it's not the same for blokes is it? They just fire away and that's that. Having said that he's not making me feel bad either - not letting me get too down about it which is good.

jeddah · 13/12/2004 15:17

Anyone out there that has been referred to Gynae Consultant for infertility????????

From referral.....who long have you waited for your appointment?????....by the way, on NHS.

jeddah · 13/12/2004 15:35

Its very quiet here today I guess most are at work?

Where are you Tania?

RudyDudy · 13/12/2004 15:44

well, trying to be Blush

can't help with the gynae ? afraid jeddah. When I was referred with suspected endo the initial appt took 6 months but we weren't ttc at the time so hopefully given your circs they will be speedier. Fingers crossed for you.

kizzy212 · 13/12/2004 15:48

COCKENIZE- THE THING IS A AM REALLY SURE HE DOES CARE. I MUST ADMIT IT WAS MY IDEA TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY IN THE FIRST PLACE. IM 24 AND MY PARTNER IS 42. HE ALREADY HAS A 20YR DAUGHTER FROM FIRST MARRIAGE AND WE HAVE 7 YEAR OLD BOY TOGETHER. WHEN I APPROACHED HIM SIX MONTHS AGO HE DIDNT WANT TO START AGAIN AT THE AGE HE IS, AND WAS ENJOYING THE LIFE WE HAVE. WE ARE BOTH IN VERY GOOD JOBS AND ENJOY A GOOD LIFESTYLE. E.G HOILDAYS ETC. I TOOK HIS FEELINGS AND DECIDED OK. I AM HAPPY WITH JUST ONE CHILD. BUT THE FEELINGS DONT GO AWAY AND SAT HIM DOWN ONE EVENING AND SAID HOW I FELT.A FEW DAYS LATER HE SAID GO AND HAVE COIL OUT THEN. SO I DID!! AND FOR THE TWO MONTHS OF TRYING HES BEEN ACTING REALLY STRANGE.(BUT AGREENG TO THE SEX) SO I HOPE YOU CAN UNDERSTAND ME TODAY WHEN I SAY HOW DOWN I WAS WHEN HE DIDNT ASK OR SAY ANYTHING THIS MORNING WHEN HE KNEW I WAS TESTING. HE IS NORMALLY A VERY LOVING BLOKE, AS IN GIVING ME A HUG WHEN I NEED ONE. BUT THIS MORNING NOTHING!!!!!!!! [SAD]

HE JUST WENT TO WORK AS NORMAL.

ernest · 13/12/2004 16:49

Kizzy, I'm sorry you're sad. It honestly, I'm sure is more to do with thew fact that he's a man, not that he does or doesn't care. I told my dh I was due next day & what if I was pg etc etc - for me it was exciting, for him it was a threat - that I expected him to deliver the goods. anyway, i was 2 weeks late & took (ok I admit it, a few ) test - he didn't ask once. Eventually I told him 9when af finally came) And this baby was more his idea than mine, but he doesn't want to wallow in details ( didn't pay too much attention to the pregnancies either) - how was your dh with yopur last pg? Did he come to every scan? Did he read all the stages of development info? Did he constantly have his hand on your belly to feel the slightest movement?

If no, then this is just the same. Just like my dh. sorry he left for work & left you feeling sad. We're all here for you

kizzy212 · 13/12/2004 17:32

thank ernest,

needed it. partner back from work and still no mention it drives me mad. i feel like having coil back in and screaming "there i cant get pregant now" but thats just beening silly.

as for last pregancy he wasnt around for everything as of work commitments but that is one thing i cant knock him for. he is a brilliant dad and always puts me and christopher before himself. the pregancy was ok apart from last 4 weeks when i had to deliver earlier due to pre-clam...

i think i just want him to be there, cause it aint nice for anyone. espically when your so postive it will be postive like i was.

hester · 13/12/2004 17:41

Kizzy, I agree with the others that your dp is being... well, a typical dp. Not much comfort for you, though; this business can feel very lonely, can't it?

You asked how many days late I am, and the embarrassing answer is that I'm not even due till Wednesday! Am just going insane because of symptoms since last Thursday... And yes, I am spending an absolutely fortune on First Response. I know I should wait a least a couple of days between tests, but I am feeling so miserable and crazy I can't make myself wait longer than 24 hours.

jedds - I got referred to an infertility consultant just for my basic blood tests (because my GP considered that me having a baby is immoral and so wouldn't help in any way). The hospital then refused to accept the referral on the basis that they don't see women 'in my position' (which my GP had so kindly shared with them). They are, of course, legally entitled to discriminate against me in the provision of fertility services but what really infuriated me (not that the discrimination doesn't) was that I only wanted a blood test, not flippin IVF Angry. As I explained to the chief executive in my (storming) letter of complaint, I had gone to my GP because my cycle seemed up the swanny and this could be due to many things, including early menopause or ovarian cancer, and both my own GP and the hospital had refused to even take a history, which seems to me a clear failiure of their duty of care. One thing that irritates me almost as much as discrimination is the way our fertility services assume that their job is to provide IVF (as opposed to all the other ways they can help); that means that hospitals that have decided not to provide IVF to lesbians and single women will also not provide even the most basic diagnostic services.

In the end I got a fulsome apology and my blood tests, as well as an HSG and a scan (kind of how you get free grocery vouchers after finding a maggot in your cornflakes Grin). But even then, when I asked the consultant some questions his reply was, 'I don't think I can answer that, because giving you information counts as providing a service rather than diagnostics'!!

Sorry to rant on at length, but my whole ttc journey has been made even harder and more lonely by the experience of being treated as a dangerous freak by the NHS.

Phew, think I need chocolate after that Grin

jingleballs · 13/12/2004 18:18

my god girls, u lot can talk! :o right, now i've caugh up wiht the goings on in everyone's world! lol, I can post!

Hester - I can't beleive the audasity of some people, that's just discusting not letting you have treatments etc.. because of your presonal choices, I'm gob smaked, no truely. Hopw dare they play god like that and decide who can and can't have treatments. (sorry will get off my soap box now)!, we've all been there with the early testin hon, don't worry, just try no to do about 3 at the same time just incase! lol. and XP, well funny thing is we're really good friends now, I guess at 16 we were both too young and imature to handle what was going on (no offense to Kiz/FS but in our case we were)

Each time I come on here I think more highly of my DH, (nkow I shouldn't blow his trumpet as it were but still) when he know's i'm testing, he waits patiently outside the loo, and then check the stick (mainly cos if I see the faintest shadow of a line that's it i'm PG and he's getting more stressed than me with the whol yes I am, not I'm not thing!) still every month thou when we thought I was PG he did a little dance, with words along the lines of yay I have super sprems!, lol, sad really, but it chered me up! (v good a cuddles as well when we do get a BNF followed shortly by well we'll have to try harder next month Wink he he.

Jeds - It took me 2 months for my date to come thru, (well i had the phone call with the dr on the friday afternoon, the letter from the hosp the followin weds/ thurs saying I had an app on 11th Jan which was about 8 weeks in total to wait) initially the dr told us it would be 3 months so we were happy to get such a quick app esp as it's xmas and all. Is you're doctor/gyno messing you about with the app? (don't forget i'm in wales as well, which for some reason seems to have quicker waiting lists etc.. don't know y thou) and we don't pay for perscriptions until we're 25! yay!

Rudy - lol, it's def too early to test I think, but hey if u do, it doesn't matter cos if it's a BFN (hopefully it won't be thou) but if it is then u can say, oh well I still might be it was too early! lol, only thing is thou u loose how ever much money it is for the test. I have a spare i'm just dying to use when DH comes home! lol. (and yes I did get pampered this week ty, - can't wait for xmas now!)

Sallie - hiya again, i'm sure you've been in b4 thou haven't u?

St nick, sorry about AF hon, have some choc (the cure for everything in my book!) and some wine, (at least u can have a good xmas) and by this time next yr hopefully we'll all be PG :o yay!

Tania - try not to worry too much hon about what might happen during the op, as u'll only work yourself up even more and make urself ill, which of course we don't want cos next month, u'll be heading the hit list! :o only kiddin hon!, have they said how soon you can resume the TTC agenda afterwards? - hopefully you won't have to wait too long anyhow.

Any how sorry it's a longen, i'd best get and pay some bills on here now! lol.

Colinsawmommykissingsantaclaus · 13/12/2004 21:05

Thank you all for the kind thoughts you have sent about my sister. It is much appreciated.

Tania-Will be thinking about you tomorrow. Hope everything goes great.

Hester-I can't tell you how mad I was when I read your post about how you were treated. I just don't even have the words. If it makes you feel any better, AF is due for me on Wed. also, and I had to go and test this AM, too. BFN. Serves me right for having no patience whatsoever. Smile

marinda · 13/12/2004 21:07

Hi folks - gosh what a lengthy thread and not even Xmas yet. Nothing to report on CD11 - Waiting !!!!!!!!!!!

marinda · 13/12/2004 21:13

Anyone around ? Quiet tonight!!!!!

jingleballs · 13/12/2004 21:28

I am. how r u hon?

marinda · 13/12/2004 21:33

Hi jingle !!
This thread is taking foe ever to download !
I am ok except sice two days before OV I have had these wierd AF like pains in stomach - only CD 11 so can't be AF - they are maddening - don't know what's going on ! Went to DR'S last Thur as she is referring mr for blood test as I have been TTC for 6 months (although I said a year!)
Any new from you!

mariella · 13/12/2004 21:34

Hi everybody, haven't had time to catch up on the thread (I think I've got about 300 emails to read...)
ernest, I sent you a CAT the other day, did you get it?

will come back when I've read all of this!

jingleballs · 13/12/2004 21:36

lol, nup fraid not, DH is away. (whispers we lied as well to the drs! lol, said 6 moths and it was only 41/2! weeee! lol) hope the tests go ok for u thou.

i'm off to watch most haunted so see u all in the mornin.

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