Hi, I'm new. I've been a dreadful lurker over the past months, but I did want to post to say that the messages here have been amazing - everyone's stories have just been a source of inspiration and hope, and empathy. We've had quite a complicated ride of it, but the good news is I'm now pregnant :o, and I hope that brings everyone babydust (have no idea how to do that fancy thing). Still feeling in shock, and trying desperately not to shout it to everyone.
If its any help to other people, we used donor insemination to get pregnant, and our donor took zinc for the months before hand. The last time (the one it worked), we changed the time delay from 1 hour to 30 mins, so maybe that helped (also back of car 
). And I cut out coffee, but still drank tea. But we had an unusual route, we’re both girls, we tried the NHS (not funded) donor insemination route, had horrid experiences (DP), the clinic ran out and started prioritising, and then we tried with a known donor (much much better). We think DP had a very very early miscarriage about 2 months ago, followed by an anovulatory cycle so I started trying to take the pressure off her, and got incredibly lucky first time. Obviously that means our good news is a bit tinged with her difficult feelings about failing (though she’ll try again), but we’ll get through that. Although there haven’t been that many months in total where we’ve ttc, the whole of 2004 was dominated by it (getting doctors referrals, being checked by counsellors etc.), so its helped to read about people having the same feelings and going through the same things. Of course I’m now terrified it won’t stick, but I at least feel a bit more prepared having read about other people’s courage in going through that.
So, thank you to everyone who's brave enough not to just lurk, and thanks for being there for anonymous people like myself.
Good luck to everyone - I hope you all get what you want for Xmas.
xxx