January Testers (TTC September/October🎃🍂)

[Roxybabe]

New thread for the ladies who are TTC from late Dec/Jan!! Best of luck to you all ❤️

@Roxxybabe I need to put my big girl pants on and avoid the testing too. Well done for staying strong!

Wow ladies this thread is moving FAST! Huge congrats to everyone who has had their BFP! 🫶🏼

@PeopleAreToads so sorry to hear this 😩 hope you are ok! I know exactly how you feel and it’s not nice but it seems you have a great outlook!

@Roxybabe welcome back! Strangely enough I was just thinking about you today (does that sound weird 🤣) and wondering how you were doing. I agree on the not testing early, I haven’t done that since my
chemical in November either 🥺

CD30 for me… AF due anytime between now and Saturday at the very latest. So nervous each time I go to the toilet 🙈🤣 praying she doesn’t arrive!!! 🤞🏼✨

@Laul89 thanks, doing better than I thought I would be to be honest. Just focusing on the next cycle now, trying to be practical and remember stress won't help

@Roxxybabe so sorry to hear about your experience. Bless you! I’m with you completely on this after having my own chemical in November.. luckily I was dubious and edging on the side of caution but I had about 7 or 8 BFP tests ranging from digital to the FRERs and I count myself lucky that I didn’t just dive into celebration because it only lasted 2 days before BFN.

like you, I see it as hopefully a positive that we can conceive potentially - it’s definitely a step forward to where I’ve ever been in the past 3 years so fingers crossed my op for endo has worked ✨

I hope you get your BFP very soon my lovely x

@Yolo23 @Laul89 hi ladies, nice to see some familiar names, it’s crazy how many chemicals there have been recently, I will def no longer be testing early. I got my BFP at 7/8dpo after some brown spotting which I think was implantation spotting at 6 dpo which makes me wonder if it tried to implant too early and thats why it failed. Apparently 8-9 dpo is best for implantation. I guess I’ll never know. It’s crazy but as soon as I got those BFPs (2 FRERS and a digi) I just had a gut feeling it wouldn’t last, like I just knew I was going to come on. Sadly because it was xmas and I wasn’t drinking we ended up telling our parents 😔 but next time I’ def be waiting until a scan to be sharing the news.

anyways moving forward now and positive vibes all round. 2023 is going to be our year ladies ❤️

Also question to the ladies that had chemicals/early miscarriages? The following cycle did you find you had a tonne of EWCM! I had a crazy amount that I have never seen before whilst TTC, it made me pretty excited but obviously trying not to get too excited as it doesn’t mean I’ll fall. But was def nice to see it for once!

@Roxxybabe oh love you! I can totally empathise … I wrote a poem for my partner and took a photo of the test with our dog 😭 all for it to be BFN soon after. Luckily we didn’t tell anyone but I’m more so certain now that we’d have to wait for scans before having those conversations.

In my calculations, I was spotting at 10dpo… had BFP 2 days and the day before before AF (13/14dpo), then a BFP 15 dpo I believe - so I’m not sure there is a rhyme or rhythm! I wasn’t taking folic acid, and had a few cups of coffee so I’ve introduced caffeine free coffee and folic acid every day - not sure it will help but it feels like progress. Anything that you’re doing differently? From all my research it doesn’t appear to be anything that prevents it but it feels like some control when you have little by making small tweaks 😩😅 x

@Roxxybabe definitely! But as we were on holiday, I put it down to just being happy and excited in the sunshine 🤣☀️

Sorry BFN at 15 dpo that was meant to say!

@Yolo23 ahh sorry to hear that, I actually just decided to stop testing after a BFP on a digi as I just thought well if it’s a chemical I’ll bleed… and I did, in a way i’m glad I didnt keep testing because it may have been BFN on Xmas day/boxing day which would have ruined my xmas… ignorance is bliss as they say and atleast I experience some joy over xmas even if it was short lived. But I can fully understand my ppl want to test and see line progression! I think your right, there is no ryhme or reason… but you can’t help but try and find a reason! I actually have done the opposite, before my chemical I was taking loads of supplements, reduced my caffiene intake and eating healthy, upped my water etc etc but now I kind of have a f*ck it attitude… after my chemical I kinda thought what the point… so atm I’m being quite chilled, not taking anything! But I might start taking my folate again as I know at the very least I should be having that. It’s just annoying because I feel like every Tom Dick and Harry is pregnant and they don’t seem to be changing there lives drastically so trying to chill out with it abit…

@Roxxybabe I’m with you there - pre Christmas it was announcements galore! Probably be another batch now to look out for coming up to March with all the festive fun 🤣

Well atleast we have two sides covered so it’ll be interesting to see what happens - but reassuring that we’ve both had the opposite approach and the same outcome 😅 just shows there’s no rhym or rhythm!!

when is your AF due now?

@Yolo23 yeah I’m just starting to think what will be will be now, there are no magical supplements out there that will get you pregnant, I literally spent a small fortune on them and I still had a chemical! I just think if it’s going to happen it’ll happen, and if nothing happens by July I’ll see a doctor but praying that won’t be the case!! Although that being said I am still watching what I eat and could prob do with losing a stone or 2 as I’ve heard that sometimes helps..

@Roxxybabe that sounds like a good mindset to be in! I spent soooo much money on tests after my BFP 🤣 as I’ve been TTC in totality for 3 years, it’s sort of sped up the process a little for me and my partner as I have endo too - so we’re down on a waiting list to see a specialist but in all honesty, you just don’t know how long these things will take so I feel more prepared knowing we’re on the list ready but hopeful I’ll not have to see anyone before that date comes around!

I was told before my second op that I’d likely need IVF so we felt it best to just get the ball moving. One of my ovaries was stuck against my womb lining so that was detached - the fact I had a BFP means it must have done something but the chemical means we’re not a leap closer just get.. but still happy we’ve seen a BFP and small steps is fine as long as we get to the same goal 😅😆

@Yolo23 wow 3 years…aww bless you, endo sounds like a nasty condition 😔 but hope you get your BFP soon! And a BFP is def a step in the right direction! Are you having anymore ops for your endo?

You may have already heard of it but I recently listened to a book on audible called ‘it starts with the egg’ by Rebecca Fett, some good advice for people who are TTC and especially women who are about to undergo IVF/fertility treatments!

@Roxybabe I didn’t notice more EWCM the cycle after but this cycle (2nd cycle later) I definitely did! I was wondering what it was all about.

I’ve woken up this morning with AF type cramps. Feeling really deflated that I’m probably going to be out in the next few days 😢😢

@Roxybabe really sorry to hear about your chemical especially at Christmas. I had one too over Christmas but I hadn’t really had strong positives and started bleeding before AF was due.
I’m 13dpo today and did a FRER this morning and it’s super faint. Pretty sure it should be a darker line by now. AF was due yesterday or today. So I’m preparing for a bleed as I don’t think this line is getting any darker.

I’m 12dpo, have that heavy feeling as though AF is going to arrive. Is due between tomorrow and Saturday as my cycles vary a little. I’m sure I’m out though.
If I am them I’m going to take a few months out if TTC. I just booked some flights to Tanzania for March - I visit each year to teach in a hospital over there but haven’t been since Covid. I clearly won’t go if I’ve caught this month. But if I haven’t then I’m going to stop tracking everything and just go with it. We get married in July too, I’m not bothered about being a pregnant bride in the slightest, just would love our family to be complete with a little one. Good luck to all of you ladies for the next few months, I hope when I come back you’re all moved into pregnancy chats.

@Laul89 did you ovulate at normal time in your next cycle after the chemical? Based on ovulation date AF was a few days early, and really heavy yesterday but stopped today, so trying to work out what to expect from this cycle.

I've been watching this thread for a while.

TTC #2 - am currently in my TWW.

We DTD quite a few times during my 'fertile window' according to my app but missed out on the last couple of days becuase we were away but hoping it was enough.

I never realised that it's such a small window to get pregnant - we weren't actively trying with our DS and I wasn't tracking ovulation or anything like that. We just happened to have sex at the right time 😂I also happened to find out realyl early last time (about 2 weeks!) and thankfully he stuck.

Now we've actively decided to try for another one, it feels like a lot more pressure than last time.

Keeping fingers crossed for everyone!

Thats me out for this month. Kinda knew we had missed it.... so on to next month, again 🙄

@PeopleAreToads sorry I’m not 100% sure as I don’t track ovulation using OPKs or BBT! I had the EWCM at the same time as my fertile window according to my app though. I started bleeding with the chemical the day AF was due so I’m hoping I was still in sync!

@Ncl31 I’m exactly the same, due between now & Saturday and was really hoping for the best this cycle as we DTD so much over Xmas 🤣🫣 but feeling so full/heavy and crampy I’m convinced AF is on the way and feeling really down about it 😭
Tanzania sounds amazing!! Its definitely good to have things to do/look forward to isn’t it cos this can take over your life 🫠

@Laul89 thanks! I'm going to test with OPKS for a longer window this cycle and maybe consider my fertile window to be a bit longer to try and capture the right days if things are a bit wonky

@Laul89 oh it absolutely is. Tanzania is just amazing!! But obviously it’s not somewhere to go if pregnant. So I need to be super sure I’m not pregnant when I start taking my anti-malarial meds. Having stuff to look forward to is exactly why we have booked our wedding and trip to Florida, which I’m secretly hoping we can postpone but if not we will have an awesome time!!!
it’s difficult having a window for AF arriving isn’t it, I never know when I should test. Fingers crossed

Cycle day 18 and so impatient 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

@LotzW I am cycle day 16 I'm just excited now to be entering the TTW lol because even waiting of ovulation was difficult lol