TTC after miscarriage Thread 14 🌈✨💕💙

[FfayeN]

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Thanks everyone for the support! I've decided not to test until the new year as I got a positive on the 30th last year and it's just going to trigger memories unnecessarily. But I'll let you know how it goes when I do!

Hope everyone is feeling ok for the new year, it can bring up so much emotion I find!

Had ovulation bleeding again this morning, never had it in my life and these last 2 cycles after mc I’ve noticed it, very light pink and only when wiping.
Had left sided O pain at the same time, which I can always feel from my left ovary anyway.

Period started yesterday afternoon, slightly relieved as had been getting faint positives from 9dpo that weren't getting any darker so started stressing about ectopic 🙄 no pain and lots of blood so think a normal period. Maybe just dodgy tests 🤷‍♀️ anyway, have ordered a ferti Lily and a pre mom strip tests and bbt thermometer to see what's going on this cycle.
Thinking about aspirin - I was prescribed 150mg at night from 8weeks after the first miscarriage, didn't stop the second one though. Does anyone take aspirin from ovulation, does anyone know pros and cons for taking it before 8weeks?

@MrsC2018 sorry AF showed ☹️

@MrsC2018 sorry to hear AF arrived, but sounds like it’s prevented a lot of stress.
On to a new year and a new cycle.

I had noticeable O bleeding yesterday, not lots but pink CM and hair line streaks of blood in it.
Have had an awful migraine so haven’t managed to get any more sessions in unfortunately, dtd yesterday and I think O day was today, can’t confirm but yesterday was a painful one.
I’ll probably test on the 13th when I’m 11dpo, if I get there, praying my LP is more normal.
last cycle was only 17 days long and this cycle it’s taken me until CD18 just for O

@mummatara have your temps confirmed O for you?

@Mannymoomin they have risen slightly but I had a terrible night with waking up coughing. I took it at 2.30 which was my biggest block of sleep but obvs I don't normally take at that time and it was well above what the coverline will be I then took again at 6.10 and it was about on the coverline but higher than yesterdays which again is a later time than normal but I also kept waking every hour to cough so not sure if either are reliable. I don't normally get a massive temp spike though it rises slowly so I think we're all good still. I am happy to report that finally on CD14 I stopped bleeding though 😂 I checked cm it's quite creamy and sticky so I think it's def happened 💪🏼 we didn't dtd on O day either as long as there's some in there you have a chance 🤞🏼 I really want to try and hold out my LP is normally 11 days but I am a serial tester and the closer I get to it the more I will want to test 🙈

Feeling pretty crap today. I’ve decided that I’m going to get the ball rolling on some private fertility investigations at a well-known clinic near me. Because god knows how long this nhs referral will take, my GP can’t even tell me what the wait time is.
I am also going to try to stick to a diet and exercise plan, as I feel terrible that I had the entire year last year to sort myself out and i didn’t. Twelve whole months wasted on moping around being depressed.
I just don’t know how much more of this I can take though. I am so desperate and so sad and this is the state I’ve been stuck in permanently for 12 months. It has wrecked me mentally and physically. I’d quit my job because I feel like I can’t deal with it anymore but we need the money.

@LuckyMoonstone super big hugs lovely it's so hard it really does zap everything out of you ❤️ try not to think of it as one big overwhelming picture take little steps and goals like this week I'll walk a bit more and book my appointment. Then after that add in another little step xxx

@LuckyMoonstone I'm so sorry, but exactly what @mummatara break it all down so it's not big and overwhelming. Everyone's different but I always find a plan of action helps me cope mentally.

The thing with TTC and infertility is just how long the timescales are, so do something to help yourself as often as you can.

Keep working if you can so that it distracts you and you have the money for private referrals or a mat leave if you're lucky enough. Reframe it from an unnecessary hassle to a means to be able to afford your baby.

Get the ball rolling at the clinic so you're doing something, don't think about how long you'll have to cope with this for, just think about what you can do to cope with this week

Thanks @mummatara and @Mannymoomin was tearful NYE and NYD think it was just putting this awful year behind me plus the sadness of period starting as relieved as I was as those positive tests just weren't right. Think you always hold out hope that there will be a miracle!

@mummatara @MrsC2018 thank you both that helps x trying to think a bit more clearly today but I feel so much dread thinking about the future. I feel like I’ve got nothing to look forward to

Well I can deffo rule myself out of this cycle. CD15 darkest OPK I've ever got, started to mess about with DH and it was over before it started 🤦‍♀️ fml

@MrsCristianoX ahhhh no 🤦🏼‍♀️ bloody hell what a waste I bet your fuming 😤

@mummatara currently comfort eating Christmas shortbread. Ah well.

@MrsCristianoX I'm not sure whether you mean he 'american pie'd it or couldn't rise to the occasion 🫣.
If it's the first one you need to adopt the insemination method, get it up there 😆.
Did you manage to DTD in the last couple of days? Xxx

@FfayeN the first one 🙄 CD12 was the last time

That's still within your FW so all is not lost. Are you temping?
What happened to 45min man? What did you do to him? 😂, keep that trick for next time!
I'm sorry, I shouldn't joke as it's shit, they're one extreme to the other aren't they! xx

@FfayeN and he's not 19 anymore so can't go again 😂 honestly I was thinking about scooping it up but I was still half dressed and in shock 🤣

@FfayeN if you didn't laugh you'd cry. I think we were both in shock 🤣 oh god 45 minute man didn't even finish never wanna relive that moment. He's very apologetic and bringing me all the shortbread now which I may crumble over his side of the bed. Oops 😬

@MrsCristianoX I don't blame you! I can't remember who it was that used to cup. You might have to get one on standby 😬 xx

First tests booked for me and DH next week, consultation the week after! It seems like so many people go private because the NHS wait is so long!

@LuckyMoonstone Glad you've got your appointment. I've had a letter saying they are running behind and I might get my first appointment over the phone but to just wait and see.
Has anyone used Pregnacare conception and had their cycle messed up? Started last month and cycle went from 28 to 30 days (only started when I stopped taking the tablets for a day) and now this month I've got very light pink spotting 7DPO

@HoneyPea well we’ve agreed that we would rather pay to speed things up than waiting an undetermined amount of time to hear back from the hospital! And yes I used it briefly last year and it gave me mid cycle spotting so I binned it off

Hi everyone just a quick question, sorry If it's been asked x10

Post ovulation calculations- is it your last day of ovulation or does it go off your first day of ovulation?

Thank you ✨

@HopefulP do you mean the first day of a positive opk?

I'm 3dpo today and the tww struggle is real 🙄 I don't know if it's because this is the first one after the MC and I know I've ovulated so it feels like there's just so much pressure of getting a positive. I don't remember it being this hard the first cycle after the first MC but maybe it was and I don't remember 🤦🏼‍♀️ I'm mentally telling myself to wait until at least 10dpo but I'm sure I'll pee on something at the weekend then I'll be cross at myself for doing it and not waiting