One year+ TTC part 4

[lemons44]

Hi all
Onto thread 4! Hopefully this one is lucky for us 🍀 🤞🏼

Just a supportive thread for those of us who have been TTC for over a year. New faces are welcome. Feel free to vent, cry, laugh, ask silly questions, seek advice and talk about anything.

Tagging our BFP ladies who are rooting for us too.

@Tinkerbell098
@NatW2021
@Koalie
@Netflixnchilli
@JSS15
@BakinABaby
@KatieLooLa
@Indianna2006
@Carla2601
@BritInNZ
@FlyOnTheWall89

Feel free to tag anyone I have forgotten.

@lemons44 thanks for thinking of me ❤️ I’m much better now. Got another counselling session this morning. I’m just waiting for my cycles to regulate now and can go for the next frozen round. It’s great your CCG lets you go private without losing funding. Ours lets you have two before the one funded round and I know a few girls on another thread I’m on have gone private before the nhs rounds as it’s taken too long and one girl is now pregnant from the frozen transfer. Depends how long you want to wait. Looking back, I wish I had gone private at the start of the year before my nhs round. But I’m 37 so feel like I’m running out of time.

@lemons44 pretty much the same story as @SaraSS 😬 ttc first bebe 😍 have been trying for over a year and a half … almost two. I also had HyCosy this cycle (almost had to cancel because I had a fever a few days before and the blood results were showing inflammation which wasn’t ideal).

Does anyone know if the procedure (HyCosy/HSG) can delay AF? 😬 I’m supposed to get on tomorrow and I don’t have the usual spotting 😏

I’m definitely going to test tomorrow if Af doesn’t show. I’m approx. 13dpo today (yesterday was a midday test) … so I think if I do it with fmu tomorrow, the results would be realistic.

@summerchild92
tomorrow FMU should be realistic, fx for you! I've not heard if it delays AF, I know it can bring it forward if you have a Hycosy towards the end of the cycle, but that's not the case for us anyway.
It makes sense that it could impact the cycle with a delay as it's quite an invasive procedure.
Sorry that's not much help lol.

Does anyone know how I can find out what timescales we're looking at if we end up with an IVF referral? I'm in Cheshire and currently seeing the fertility specialist at Leighton Hopital. When I asked the timescales she kind of avoided the question and said it's "not too long" as we are already in the system.. but now I'm wondering what "not too long" means!

Hi all just checking back in here. Good luck for your referral @lemons44 that’s good news that it has come through!

I’m not in the same area @SaraSS but I have tried to look for my local wait times and didn’t come up with anything. My gynaecology referral was something like 45 weeks wait and is still pending, so I am worried about how long a fertility referral would take if we need it.

Hi @JSS15 how are you doing?

@SaraSS @summerchild92 I am trying for my first too, I think most on here are trying for number 1. It will be 2 years for me in January but we haven't really been trying the last 8 months as my husband has azoospermia so we have a 0% chance of natural conception. Waiting for a surgical sperm retrieval next week to see if there is a blockage stopping it getting out or DH just does not produce any sperm.

I think some ladies in one of these earlier threads got lucky after having a hycosy so keeping my fingers crossed u have luck in the coming months x

@JSS15 45 weeks! That is 10,5 months. That is insane.
@lemons44 oh that is exciting! Good luck for next week, hoping you will find swimmers.

This is such a lovely supportive thread. Sending everyone lots of luck

Hoping I've now ovulated and I'm on the TWW... again!!

Here's a round up of my fertile week

CD 12 digital OPK blank circle - didn't DTD
CD 13 digital OPK blank circle - didn't DTD
CD 14 digital OPK static smiley - DTD
CD 15 super strong positive strip OPK - DTD
CD 16 super strong positive strip OPK - DTD

Really hoping the above means we're in with a good shot but worried we left most of the DTD too late after the positive OPK.

Any advice / thoughts / experience welcome!

I’m currently one day late according to Flo 🙄 test was negative yesterday. 🥲 The past few months my cycle was 28 days, I’ve had longer cycles (29-30) so I could very well have a longer one, so I could be very much out already considering the negative tests … but we’ll see what the next days bring.

I’ll probably start taking Letrozole next cycle once AF gets here. Anyone have any experience with it?

@SaraSS how are you? Have you tested again?

@lemons44 oof, sorry to hear that. Hoping for a good outcome after biopsy! Fx they find something!!! ❤️

@BakinABaby I know!! I guess because it’s non urgent? Still it’s pretty bad when target wait times are 18 weeks. I think we’ll be eligible for a fertility referral by the time it comes around, but here’s hoping I’ll be pregnant before then!

@lemons44 I’m doing good thanks. Told myself I’d not track this month since my husband is away but ended up doing it anyway 🤡. Figured it would actually give me peace of mind since my cycles have been so erratic recently. Looks like my LH is peaking today, and he’s not back until late tomorrow but at least I’ll know when to expect my period. Plus it’s CD23 today which is really good considering my last cycles have been something like 40-63 days!

@monsteramunch i don’t use the digital OPKs but I think ovulation is usually something like 12-24 hours post the peak. Therefore I reckon you should have at least hit O-1 and O with your DTD-ing! Do you temp? It’s worth it for a cycle or two to check when your ovulation actually happens after your peak, as it can be different for everyone.

@JSS15 I think you might still make it. If you think you’re gonna ov tomorrow then intercource later that day may very well still be valid.

We managed to dtd only once during my fertile week this time. I had gotten a pos opk earlier that day and we were dtd later in the evening and I felt the ov just before we ..ahem (I often feel when I ov like that) so couldn’t have been better timing I guess, fresh guys to meet the fresh girl 😀

@summerchild92
AF arrived last night, disappointing but expected after the last few negative tests towards the end of the TWW. My cycle has been slightly shorter this time but not drastically.. I doubt the Hycosy has changed my cycle (having said that, I'll see how heavy /painful it is over the next few days!!)
Have you had any spotting or anything?

@lemons44 sorry to hear of the situation, and fx it's a simple fix for the surgery and you can conceive soon! Do you know what the statistics are if they remove a blockage? Does it put you at the 'normal' odds of conception or would you be looking at other methods like IVF?

@JSS15 45 weeks is very long! The initial referral to Gyno for us was about 3 or 4 months, but I managed to get a cancellation appointment at late notice. In fact all my appointments have been cancellations at late notice (luckily I could make the time they offered) .. if it wasn't for the cancellations I'd probably still be in the first queue!

@monsteramunch
I think you're in with the usual chances. As others have said - the LH surge is 24-72 hours before ovulation so anytime around then is the most fertile time.
Good luck :-)

@BakinABaby yes we could do I think, but he’s coming back from the states so might be jet lag dependent. I’ll have to try my best at seduction 😂

@SaraSS sorry about AF. Yes i was shocked at the wait! There were 3 clinics I could choose from - two at 45 weeks and one at 35 I think. But the 35 week one would have been hard to get to. Interesting to hear you got cancellation appointments. I might give them a call in the new year and see where I’m at in the list. I’ll maybe ask about cancellations too knowing you had luck.

@SaraSS oh, sorry about af 😏 for me it’s always emotional couple of days after i get on 😬 but then I get excited abouf trying again. They say three cycles after HyCosy you are most fertile … so fx we get our bfps soon!!

I’m not spotting yet, haven’t tested this morning, nor do I plan on testing again, because it’s just too disappointing always seeing negative results. I will wait for a few days in case af is just late due to the procedure. 😬😬

@susummerchild92
I know what you mean about getting emotional when AF arrives. The hormones don't help either!
For me, it's partly a relief that at least I have an answer for that cycle, I try to take a break for a few days then prep for the next cycle... so I've just ordered some digital ovulation sticks and some more vitamins.. I'm trying pregnacare now as it was on offer for £4.99 for a months worth. I was on the 'conceive plus ovulation support', but now I know my ovulation is fine there's not much point in spending £25 a month on that!

I've got everything crossed for you that AF doesn't arrive and you get a positive test! Keep us updated :-)

@JSS15 Always worth asking! The hospital I'm at is very good for cancellations, they just ring the next on the list and the first to pick up and confirm gets the appointment.
I also hassled them a little bit for my second appointment as I'd had bloods done in August but because of the back log I had to wait until October to get results (and that was a cancellation appointment!) So I don't know if my ringing a few times prompted me up the list.
I just hope there isn't a long wait if we end up getting referred for IVF. By that point it will be 2 years and I just feel like I'm going to really struggle if we have to wait another 6 or 9 months or something to get started.

Thank you

Just had a negative OPK so my full week looks like:

CD 12 digital OPK blank circle - didn't DTD
CD 13 digital OPK blank circle - didn't DTD
CD 14 digital OPK static smiley - DTD
CD 15 super strong positive strip OPK - DTD
CD 16 super strong positive strip OPK - DTD
CD 17 negative strip OPK - didn't DTD

Hoping so much that means we've caught the surge at the right time that we get good news this month.

Hope we all do soon

Hello All,

We are planning to start our ivf journey next month privately but I am worried if having IVF will reduce my AMH level or impact my regular periods as if unsuccessful after 2 to 3 rounds of ivf then we still want to be able to have the option of conceiving naturally. I am not sure if having IVF treatment will have any negative impact. My Amh is very low so I am worried as I do not want to take any wrong decision.

Please if anyone could help and guide.

Thanks

@zubi23 Hello! :) I am in the same boat and wondering exactly the same thing re AMH, as mine is 10.7 which is deemed low for my age. It’s on my list of questions for our consultant at my next appointment! From what I can see online, it seems to only impact the rate of AMH decline for those with PCOS … but it’s still a worry I have too! With regards to it affecting periods, I’d not heard of that but I’ve heard that IVF can give your body some sort of re boot … I know a few people who had failed IVF and went on to conceive naturally straight after so I’m just hoping we will also have that option if IVF doesn’t work 🤞🏼 x

@Koalie, thank you for your reply. I hope ivf would work. Are you taking any special supplements or anything specific in your diet?

I am a vegetarian so relying on green vegetables these days.

Xx

@zubi23 Both me and hubby are taking impryl, vit d and fish oil. We are both eating really well with no refined sugars, fried foods or red meat. Hubby Eating lots of walnuts and tomato juice and avoiding soy as much as he can. I’m just having a couple of Brazil nuts (and others) every day in addition to lots of fruit and veg. We’ve also made lots of lifestyle changes - e.g 0 caffeine and alcohol, only drinking filtered water, switching up our beauty products for paraben free stuff & lots of exercise. ☺️ xx

@Koalie
Thank you for sharing

Good luck.. Its an amazing journey.. X

@zubi23 You too! I am sure I will be keeping everyone updated on here … would be good to hear how it’s going for you too ☺️ x

@SaraSS af still not here 😬🙄 but still bfn, so I guess it’s a longer cycle 🥹 hope af shows up soon if it’s meant to … dang, I guess HyCosy did mess up my cycle a little bit 😬

Hi all, can I please join? Soooo fed up with all this ttc business! I fell pregnant in early April after 12 months of trying, had a mmc which completed at end of May. So now on month 7. This month I am avoiding refined sugars, alcohol and caffeine. I don't know how I've made it this far as I'm a total sugar and caffeine addict, but I'm running out of other ideas! We have an appt with consultant in Dec xx

Oh girls you will never guess what 😩 u know we had so much bad luck with our old clinic trying to have our surgical sperm retrieval? We were finally so happy to have it booked with Mr Ramsay for Thursday and we've just had an email to say... he's off sick and can't do it! 😱

Luckily he works with another consultant who is going to do it on Thursday at a different hospital but I just cannot believe our luck! My DH said he thinks we are due to give birth to the antichrist or something and someone up is just doing everything they can to stop us having this procedure 😅😅