One year+ TTC part 4

[lemons44]

Hi all
Onto thread 4! Hopefully this one is lucky for us 🍀 🤞🏼

Just a supportive thread for those of us who have been TTC for over a year. New faces are welcome. Feel free to vent, cry, laugh, ask silly questions, seek advice and talk about anything.

Tagging our BFP ladies who are rooting for us too.

@Tinkerbell098
@NatW2021
@Koalie
@Netflixnchilli
@JSS15
@BakinABaby
@KatieLooLa
@Indianna2006
@Carla2601
@BritInNZ
@FlyOnTheWall89

Feel free to tag anyone I have forgotten.

Thanks for tagging me in @lemons44, here’s hoping it’s lucky number 4 🤞🏽

How are you doing? Have my HSG tomorrow at last but low key dreading it because I am a nightmare for hysteroscopies xx

Thanks for the tag and for making the new thread @lemons44 . I've been a bit quiet as we had a few days away for my birthday this week - doing my best to not dwell too much on the fact that last year I thought I would have had a baby or be pregnant this year!

Best of luck for the HSG tomorrow @Netflixnchilli. I would be nervous too. Let us know how you get on xx

@lemons44 Thanks for adding me :) x

@Netflixnchilli I just had a HSG on Friday, a bit more uncomfortable than I expected! However on the bright side everything looks good, no blockages to be found. Hope your scan goes smoothly! X

Hi guys! 27 weeks here and as @BritInNZ I can deeply still feel the trauma of the months of trying and not knowing and research and endless analysing.

I see various people have had or are due to have HSGs. Keeping everything crossed for some positive news following these. I was so nervous about mine and I honestly barely felt it and I'm a fainter.

Sending you guys ALL the luck 🍀 x

Thanks for the tag! I haven’t been on here much because I just mm, idk if anyone relates, but just feel somewhat disinterested atm. Still not even a hint of pregnancy, on my third month of progesterone, not even expecting anything anymore. I’ve managed to let go of the wish for two close in age and accepted that just isn’t happening. I did make an appointment for my gyno (private) for december but I have since found you can actually book an appt for a healthcare funded infertility specialist, no need for a referral (I’m in Estonia) but I just havent bothered yet. I feel kind of tapped out about ttc. I’ve been a bit more into the vino lately which might just be a seasonal thing, that surely doesnt help but I just don’t give a crap. I’m gonna see this cycle through, then see if I can get an appointment to the specialist and maybe cancel the gyno. The wait times are not as bad here I hear.

Hi everyone.
I'd like to join the conversation if that's Ok?
Been TTC for about 18 months now, no hint of a positive yet. We've had the normal tests on NHS and have unexplained infertility. I had a Hycosy 12 days ago, and am currently on 7dpo, not so patiently waiting.
We're looking at IVF if the Hycosy hasn't prompted anything over the next few cycles and I can see this thread has a lot of talk of IVF etc so hopefully I'm in the right place 😁.

Question to you all - how have you coped with the stress/ disappointment? It's really starting to hit home that this might not happen for us, and I've been getting upset over the last few days.. how have you managed? Anyone been to counselling?

Hi everyone!! We are waiting on a fertility referral right now but honestly only got that because our only child has a serious life threatening genetic issue.

My dr basically ignored any concerns I have about my endometriosis and that we have been trying and had no luck. Really hoping the clinic will be more helpful! I woke up feeling depressed and sad today but that could be AF. Just feel like I’m surrounded by group chats with my friends complaining about their new babies or pregnancy symptoms and I’m trying to just disengage. They have no idea what it’s like to have fertility struggles, or to have a child with a serious medical issue that means you could lose them.

Sending lots of baby dust to all!! Hopefully this will be our month! I can’t try again till January as having some major abdomen scans in December and so post Christmas will be trying again!! Starting to worry it won’t ever happen. Trying to stay off social media as it feels awful! My last vent is that the gyn and fertility clinics are always next to the pregnancy centers where I live

@Tophy124 Hi!
Gosh, I'm so sorry to hear of your situation, that must be quite draining. Hopefully the fertility clinic will provide you with the support you need.

How long have you been TTC?

I know what you mean about being surrounded by pregnancies and babies.. it seems to be all that's on social media. I find Mumsnet helpful if I want to have a scroll on my phone reading posts - rather than going on fb! I find it nice seeing people's posts in similar situations when they get their BFPs :-)

Oh yes - the clinics are annoyingly placed.. I'm sure I look longingly at those doors to the pregnancy unit... lol

@SaraSS Truing ‘properly’ for 5 months but been trying on and off for around a year now. The fear of wondering if it will ever happen is high

Hi everyone,

Welcome to all the new people joining, sorry you’re here but it’s such a great thread.

Im just over 35 weeks pregnant (ivf) and super happy to answer any ivf questions and also any about sperm blockages/transport issues if I can (not remotely medical so just on my own experience).

still a regular here because you’re all great and I’d really miss everyone if we weren’t still chatting

@Carla2601 shat are the risks with IVF? And did you have to pay a lot out of pocket? I think we would be looking at around $9,000 if we decide to go that route but that is heavily heavily discounted

@Carla2601 good grief! Please ignore my horrific autocorrect!! Should say ‘what are the risks’

@Tophy124 im not sure there are any real risks to IVF (beyond being even more mentally challenged with all things ttc and potentially spending a lot of money) so I wouldn’t worry on that front.

cost wise we spent circa £18k but that included an expensive sperm retrieval operation that most people don’t need and we did go with one of the more expensive London clinics so it can be done for a lot less. We could have had nhs funding but we didn’t want to wait and so we went private.

Worth noting that cost was with it working first time and includes the cost of freezing the other 9 for (maybe who knows) the future.

Hope that helps?

@Carla2601 Thank you that helps! I found out I carry the breast cancer gene and so I will find out from my drs if the IVF has any implications due to the medication. We only want to have one baby from IVF and so hoping it can be an option for us!! Huge congratulations to you! Did they protest the embryos for genetic issues? And do they tell you the gender? (Not interested in gender selection per se but my child’s condition is more common in males)

@Tophy124 so as standard they don’t test them for conditions or gender in the UK but my understanding is it can be done because it is in the US. I suspect that if there’s a good reason like you describe here perhaps they can however I do also know there’s some discrepancies around how accurate the testing is (not gender that they can do) so I’m not 100% sure sorry, we don’t have any other children so we don’t know if we carry anything to be passed on (they tested us for the cystic fibrosis gene because of a condition my husband has but that was it), so it didn’t come up for us sorry.

really sorry to hear about the breast cancer gene too that must have been hard news. They’ll definitely be able to tell you the risks if any around that as they’re used to supporting people affected by cancer who’ve had egg freezing pre chemo etc so definitely speak to them

So I pulled my legs from under me and got over my fear of calling strangers :D and finally got myself a fertility specialist appointment for december, just before Christmas. I did some groundwork and they were recommended and hopefully they won't shrug me off with some progesterone like the gyno and actually look into things.

Hi ladies,
I’m also joining :)
We have been trying for over a year and a half, almost two. My dh’s SA was great, my cycles are super regular - 28-29 days.

Just had HyCosy about two weeks ago and I’m currently 10-11dpo! According to the dr. my ovaries look good, no cysts + tubes weren’t blocked or anything. 😬 So we still don’t know why after so many months we weren’t successful.

keeping my fingers crossed for a lot of new bfps before christmas! :)

@lemons44 Thank you for the new thread lovely!

@Tinkerbell098 thank you for your last message on the old one re how you felt in the run up to starting IVF. I think I need to find a way to approach it from a different angle. I guess we are finding it difficult because we’ve been pregnant twice before so we are just thinking aaahhh what if we wait another month or two … would we fall again naturally with a sticky bean this time? 🤯 but then, where/when do we draw the line and accept that IVF is our next step?😔

@JSS15 i have been really sad too for the same reason. Last Christmas we had just had our first miscarriage so we had a terrible time but I remember thinking to myself that it was OK because I was so confident that this year I’d either be pregnant or have a baby but here I am, two miscarriages in and still no end in sight 😩 So now I have absolutely no hope for next year. 💔

Welcome to all the newbies here 🙂

@SaraSS in answer to your question about how we all cope …. We don’t 😒 we just vent to each other on here and keep going. I am seriously considering counselling. We are about to start IVF on the NHS and apparently they will also offer free counselling throughout the process so I think we will have to take them up on it.

@Carla2601 & @Tinkerbell098 we’re you offered counselling when you started? The lady at the sun fertility clinic told me that we only get one free session on the NHS but one of the PowerPoint docs they sent us said we would get it free throughout. 🤔

xx

* sub fertility clinic 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Netflixnchilli how did you HSG go? x

@Netflixnchilli I hope the HSG went ok?

@FlyOnTheWall89 and @Carla2601 I can't believe how far along you both are. It must be getting so exciting now!

@Tophy124 I'm sorry the Dr ignored your concerns! With regards to the group chat stuff.. I totally get it. I've muted a few chats now 😕

@BakinABaby well done for making the call! I found it petrifying making that first call but then empowering as I felt like I was taking control of things.

@SaraSS to be honest it is hard to cope! But this group helps me so much as I can say anything on here and I know other people just get it. Nothing worse than being on one of the other TTC groups and there are people who say 'I can't believe it didn't happen on month 1 I am so disappointed' 🤣 I just think oh shush lol.

@Carla2601 wow 35 weeks. Soooo close you can almost smell it lol! Hope you are keeping well.

still following you all on the thread and hoping there is another BFP soon! 🤞🏼🥰

Sending lots of love all your way for the shitty journey that is ttc xx

Hi all, hope I'm okay to join too? We've been trying for 16 months, I've had normal TA and TV ultrasounds and DH's SA was all good. My progesterone tests have suggested I'm not ovulating but my cycle is so irregular that Dr isn't sure if I've just done them at the wrong time!!

We've been referred to fertility but I'm really finding it difficult at the moment as it seems that everyone I know is getting pregnant straight away, and everything on the NHS moves so slowly that it just feels there's no solution on the horizon.. When we started trying I'd think 'oh wouldn't it be nice to tell our parents we're pregnant at this time...' or 'oh we might have a baby by that family holiday' so it feel roughs with all these imagined milestones going past!

Has anyone had any experience of clomid?

@Koalie i was offered counselling but didn’t take it up - I was really considering it then it all ended up going so well for us that I didn’t, definitely think it’s a great idea to access it. I was private though so could well be different

Hi ladies,

Quick IVF related question (I'm trying to get my ducks in a row in case we are lucky enough to find sperm in my DH's SSR next week!).

Did you have to have day 2 bloods for IVF? I've been looking at all our test results so far and realised I haven't had these done. My cycles are regular and my AMH and follicle count didn't show any concerns about ovulation so I just didn't think to get these done.

I've had normal bloods done lately for separate reasons that didn't show any deficiencies. These were on day 18 of my cycle annoyingly (I just checked).