One year+ TTC part 4

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Hi all
Onto thread 4! Hopefully this one is lucky for us 🍀 🤞🏼

Just a supportive thread for those of us who have been TTC for over a year. New faces are welcome. Feel free to vent, cry, laugh, ask silly questions, seek advice and talk about anything.

Tagging our BFP ladies who are rooting for us too.

@Tinkerbell098
@NatW2021
@Koalie
@Netflixnchilli
@JSS15
@BakinABaby
@KatieLooLa
@Indianna2006
@Carla2601
@BritInNZ
@FlyOnTheWall89

Feel free to tag anyone I have forgotten.

Hi ladies, I'm new. Found you after spending the evening crying my eyes out after the third pregnancy announcement of close friends with their second babies in the last couple of weeks following a year of multiple close friends births. Starting all the fertility tests through the doctors but after three months to get my day 21 and 2-5 due to lack of appointments done I had a call with the doctor to find out the day 21 didn't get done properly so need to re do it before they can send off to the hospital.

Feeling a bit deflated. Had an operation to get rid of endometriosis last year and it seems to be coming back again so having to wait for a referral back to gynae again.

Sorry for the rant, my partner is so supportive but I just don't think he gets it in the same way.

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@TheBirdintheCave - amazing! Bet you cant believe it! Not long to go now till your scan although I can imagine everyday is a drag.

@littlebopeep1991 - welcome! Sorry you find yourself here. We have been TTC over 2 years with unexpected infertility and currently on ivf cycle 1.

Just a little update from me, im learning for some IVF isn't plain sailing. Had my scan today and numbers have improved got 12 good sized with 3 more potentials.

As however I have 2 x 22mm they measured my progesterone which is higher than they would like so now it's a freeze all as apparently it can impact the uterus environment and reduce implantation, can't help but feel down about this as I was hoping we would have a shot at a BFP sooner and more waiting!! But got to take positives after a cancelled cycle in July due to a poor response.

Trigger shot tonight! Wish me luck x

I had my collection yesterday. 19 retrieved, 17 mature, 10 fertilised. Now we hope and pray 🙏.

Obviously a little disappointed with the drop but I no its to be expected. I wasn't expecting 19 so got to focus on the positives 🙌

@NatW2021 That's brilliant! Well done for getting past the egg collection. I found that the hardest bit of the whole process. Fingers crossed all ten are still going strong in five days time! Are you going to have a fresh transfer?

Sorry for my absence ladies.

@NatW2021 that's fantastic news. Fingers crossed for some good blasts. I had a freeze all due to developing OHSS if you remember ... It was a little disappointing but it was definitely the best option for me because I just know that my body wasn't ready for transfer - we could have lost our boy if we'd have gone ahead and not waited. How did you find collection? Were you sedated?

xx

@NatW2021 Ah just read back up it's a freeze all! Apologies.

@TheBirdintheCave @Koalie Thank you 💕 I'm happy considering my AMH and also AFC scan hopefully these 10 are good quality and we get a few to freeze.

My dr said we could do an FET when my withdrawal bleed comes. @Koalie when did you get your period after EC?

I feel absolutely fine, bit nervous initially but the sedation was brilliant and next thing I knew I was awake! I had some cramping but once the pain relief kicked in I was fine and I've not had to take any painkillers today. The clinic said they will update me tomorrow aswell. X

@NatW2021 I felt the same re the egg collection - I actually quite enjoyed the whole experience lol. So, looking at my calendar, I THINK my period came 13 days after egg retrieval. But then I had a medicated FET cycle so I then needed to be down regulated like 3 weeks after that and then had my transfer like 5 weeks after that so the wait for me was looooong. Are you having a natural FET? x

@Koalie yes I have read lots of positive stories about EC so I wasn't that nervous more worried about the numbers and fertilisation the sedation was brilliant honestly didn't have a clue what was going on.

The dr mentioned about a natural FET as my cycles are regular when we decide I need to book a follow up to get a plan in place. I think my period will come as usual in 2 weeks.

Do you mind me asking why you do an medicated FET? I haven't looked into it much but I know success rates are similar so would rather do it naturally but i just don't know what's best? X

@NatW2021 I had medicated because it was standard for my clinic. I had lots of questions around this at the time because I have regular periods and wanted to do a natural but they said I would need to speak to the consultant and then offered me an appointment with them like 2 months later so I didn't really have a choice unless I wanted to wait even longer. However, the clinic were adamant that medicated would give them more control over my lining etc. It also meant that there was no risk of the perfect day for transfer falling on a day where they weren't open. xx

@NatW2021 however, I will add that I think some clinics are more flexible around which days they will do transfers. It's worth asking the clinic the pros and cons but like you said, they both get similar success rates xx

How did your embabies do @NatW2021 ? Xx

Hi @Koalie I was coming onto update you and seen your message 😊 meh we did ok, we got 2 frozen I was a bit disappointed as we had 10 fertilised and 4 extra made it to day 4 but didn't have everything they needed they kept them until today (day 6) so it's the end of the road for them now.

Just feels like such a drop from 17 mature eggs, 2 didnt fertilise, 5 fertilised abnormally( 2 sperms they think) then 10 nornal and only 2 made it. 5AB and. Grade 2 which is apparently 2AB god knows if it's any good but I'm sure it's ok as they seem very strict on what they freeze.

I'm just panicking that these 2 won't stick and I'll have to go through it all again and then that's it, i cant help but look for the negatives.

Dr or embryologist couldn't realty advise why we had so many drop off but says maybe icsi might help the abnormal fertilisation if we go again.

Plan is to start with my withdrawal bleed but period after.

I just cant shake the disappointment even though 2 isn't all bad. X

Hi ladies
Just checking in to see how you’re all doing?
Sorry @NatW2021 i thought I had replied to your previous message! 2 embabies is a good result ! Do you know when your transfer will be?
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@Koalie I'm ok :) I'm 11+5 now. 12 week scan is on Thursday which is very scary. We've had three so far (7, 9 and 10) and all have shown a baby growing ahead of schedule with a good heart beat but it's so hard to shake the worries!

NIPT was all clear which is a huge relief.

How are you doing?

@TheBirdintheCave Amazing news! I still felt like that going into my 12 week scan even though we’d had one at 10 weeks. Only 1 more sleep to go!

I’m good thank you. 34 weeks now so on the home stretch. X

@Koalie Oh my gosh you'll be holding your little one before you know it! I can't believe how quickly that's gone.

@TheBirdintheCave hope everything went well with the scan?

@Koalie I'm just waiting for ovulation now, I'm doing a natural FET, so hopefully some point towards the end of next week/weekend for transfer. Just hope I have a normal cycle this month, last month was a bit weird and I didn't detect a peak but my temp did rise and I had my period as normal although temp rose later than normal so my cycle was a bit longer. So nervous that this won't work I'm like 90% it won't in my head!

@NatW2021 Yes it did! Sorry I always forget to update this thread 😂Baby was happily waving and turning over. I'm 13+2 now.

I hope you ovulate on time. Not too long left to go now! :D

Congratulations @TheBirdintheCave I’m so pleased it’s still going so well for you

@AgeGapBbe Thanks :) I'm still in shock I think. Feels like a bit of a dream.

@TheBirdintheCave Amazing so glad everything went well. 💕 x

Amazing news @TheBirdintheCave !! Hopefully you can relax a little now the big scan is out of the way 🥰 I know that’s often easier said than done 😆

@NatW2021 … nearly transfer day for you! PMA always … sending hugs xx

@Koalie @TheBirdintheCave ladies I'm 5dp5dt and losing the plot, lots if cramping and twinges last few days which I just associate with AF this wait is torture!

Worrying my period will come before I even get to test. Any tips to keep me sane? X