@SH998 I totally get that. I was the same. For me I always wanted to be in a relationship, then when my mum died, I had no immediate family at 31, it panicked me the idea of never having family again so I started online dating and I dated for like 4 years and I HATED it. Most men wouldn't talk to me, the ones that did were perves, the small minority I went on dates with were very socially awkward, the ones where I felt it wasn't too bad had huges issues. It was really upset and fustrating. I wanted a relationship but not the dating part.
Of course if I met a decent guy I would have enjoyed dating him and i think im more designed for a friend who becomes more. I also realised my panick wasnt really about a romantic relationship it was about running out of time to be a mum. At 35 I was like I'm not going to date anymore I'm going to have a child by myself. But I had to sell my mums house and buy a new one, that took time I was 37 by then, then covid, then at 38 I started. Thought I'd get pregnant at least 3 IUIs didn't happen.
I agree about the lack of donors esp during covid. It was empty the banks. Lot of the criteria I was looking for one donor did not meet, like good eyesight, no allergies,etc I really wanted someone raised in the UK a lot were abroad. I didn't want to have to teach my kid about being German or Polish. 😁
I was born here and my ethnicity is Jamaican, i was OK with having my donor be Jamaican or English. As then I wouldnt have to teach them about their culture really. That was hard to find. In the end I was like you will never find the perfect man. My donor is English white , 6"2, good eyesight, blonde, police office, was in the army , I have a 20 min audio of his interview, his handwriting, I know more about his medical health than I would a husband 😂 I cried at the end of his audio as he said the only thing that would disappoint him is if he's offspring was unhappy and wasn't doing whatever it was to be happy.
I didn't check my CMV, but I chose a donor who doesn't have it anyway. To have free IVF you have to have a partner where you've tried to conceive for 2 years so single women don't get it for free.
I will let you know but I really don't think much will have changed.