Preparing to TTC in 2023

[DanisEndo]

Hi,

I'm part of a lovely thread which was started in 2021 for those planning to start TTC in 2022 and it was such a supportive group! we've now seen lots of positives and given each other a lot of support and tips through ups and downs.

I'm now 'pausing' TTC until after my wedding in 2023 and thought it'd be nice to start up a similar thread to see if there is anyone else now prepping and getting excited for next year!

On the last thread everyone introduced themself by saying their age, what they're trying for and when they plan on starting - I'll then keep a list up to date and post so everyone can easily see others who are at the same stage as them!

I'll go first:

Age: 27
TTC no: 1
Starting: Sep 23

Between now and then I'm going to be taking folic acid, try and loose some lbs to get closer to a healthy BMI, save some money in a baby pot and enjoy some 'baby free' activities (i.e., wine, gin, sushi and surfing!). I have endometriosis and PCOS so going to try and get my periods more regular and pain management via diet.

@happyfeet5 Ive replied to others about this on here (but I don’t think you?!).

When you say you were like clockwork - was that on the pill? Because if it’s the combined pill then that would have just been the pill setting your cycles rather than your hormones.

have you had an AF since coming off the pill?

It took me 10 months to ovulate when I came off (exceptionally long!!), but I was getting patches of EWCM on and off before that (signs of my body trying to ovulate) but I knew I had eventually ovulated by BBT!

You can’t ovulate twice in a cycle, so it sounds like your body is just getting used to being off the pill? You may have ovulated first or second time, or not at all yet

hey @Hopefulhoney6 yes, bodies are so strange aren’t they

I was like clockwork when I took a break from the pill for 4/5 cycles, about a year ago. all cycles were 28 days and I definitely ovulated them so not sure why it’s different now

Thank you. I will most likely be under a consultant due to previous pregnancies but I’m still so excited at the prospect of hopefully having another baby by the end of the year. I came off the pill in august but didn’t track anything until this month. Sorry I don’t know all the abbreviations everyone is using but trying to pick them up

@happyfeet5 bodies are so weird!! But I would say don’t read too much into it and worry right now, if you don’t get AF in a month or two could speak to the doc (or maybe you will get a BFP!!). Hard to know what is happening!! Good luck

@Noodles4Me I feel a bit like you. I’m going to be 38 in April and I have 2 boys. It took 5 months with the first and 1 month with 2nd but I have a feeling the 3rd is going to challenge me and I’m only on the first month of trying. My youngest has just turned 2

Is it too late to join?

Age: 25
TTC: no 1
Starting: end of February

Previously trying for a year, finally tested positive in November but unfortunately ended in a miscarriage a couple of weeks before Christmas. We've decided to have a few months break but will be starting again in about a months time! (When I should be ovulating).

Has anyone had any success with pre-seed? The doctor at the hospital when we we're told we had miscarried said he highly recommended this but I've not known anyone personally who has used it!

@happyfeet5 hey! So I had my period 2 days late this month, just about to finish now - came on with pink spotting and thought maybe late implantation but then my period came normally. Finishing today (early) with light spotting again. So took a test and very faint positive - obviously won’t be a successful pregnancy but figured must be chemical with short period and mostly spotting.

@Wonkyjelly so sorry to hear that 😢

Ladies I’ve really frazzled my brain! I’ve been having fertility readings on Etsy loads of said March - April which is ok now some are saying aug- sept 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hi @Noodles4Me and @Lindsey02 I'm in the same boat- 38 and ttc #3. My husband had his vasectomy reversed 2 weeks ago so we are now ttc. I'm currently CD4. I had my other 2 children in my twenties so concerned that my age might be a barrier

@Mummymidwife33 I’ve on CD14 with my 3rd day of a flashing smiley 🤦🏼‍♀️ can’t wait to get the solid smiley! I told myself I’d act different this time and not let it take over but it slowly is.

im hoping I know my body as well as I did last time. I knew a few days after conceiving I was pregnant with no doubt at all my mind so had no surprise when I saw the Positive test.

So the month of planning to try my cycle seems to have gone mad!

I was due to ovulate the 30th Jan, so planned to DTD loads this weekend (haven’t been able to in the week). But my BBT has shot up implying I ovulated on CD8?! (I normally ovulate CD17).

No idea what’s going on, still going to DTD this weekend but my body seems to be screwing over my best plans!

Is so confusing isn’t it, I just wish it was simple!

I think I normally ovulate around CD15 so hoping it’s soon

@Lindsey02 i know! All of those years of being terrified of it happening accidentally 😂

I've been following this thread for a while and love seeing everyone's journeys - I hope everyone gets what they want this year :)

I need some Mumsnet wisdom today please...

I've got a VERY feint BFP this morning but it doesn't seem to make sense...I had an early MC just before Xmas, then a normal period 4 weeks later and according to OPK only ovulated a day or 2 ago so we DTD then and I was settling down for the dreaded 2WW.

There's no way I can physically be pregnant yet is there? Implantation can't even have happened!

I bled lightly a couple of days ago which I put down to ovulation bleeding (I don't normally get this though) and my boobs feel bigger.

Could the positive OPK actually be because I was already pregnant?

As I said it's very feint so not counting my chickens yet as I've been here before and it didn't get much stronger but I wondered if anyone had been through something similar?

First month of trying and feel so deflated with doing ovulation tests daily trying to convince OH these times are precious. I’ve already got 2 kids one of which is 2 I think I might have to settle with my little princes.

@Mary1986 sorry hear about your MC 😞
that’s strange, I know some women say they don’t trust the OPKs, could you have actually ovulated earlier than you thought? Or could there be leftover hcg in your body? When I had my MC (I had a D&C) I was still testing positive about 2.5/3 weeks later as some of the hcg was still in my system, takes a while for it to go down I think, but then surely you wouldn’t have had a period if it was still in your system? Ahh I’m even more confused now 🤣
could the light bleeding have been implantation bleeding?! Keep us updated, I’ll have my fingers crossed for you! 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@DollyGx I'm so confused too 😄 and thanks for your sympathy x

I definitely tested negative for HCG after my MC as I was looking forward to it all being over. I MUST have ovulated earlier than I thought but this would probably have been while I was on my period which makes zero sense and we weren't DTD then?!

It could be a false positive also not ruling that out because I can't make it make sense! I think I'll test again in a week and hope for a stronger line 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hi ladies, I’m a little confused so wondering if anyone can shed some light. I have been getting a flashing smiley on clearblue for 4 days now which indicates high fertility, but I have also been doing the easy@home cheapies and they are all coming back very negative. I am guessing from this that the easy@home will only pick up my peak rather than high fertility? I would have thought the two tests even though different brands, would both come up with the same result. Anybody else had this happen?

@Summer022 you're exactly right, the Clear blue flashing smiley means high not peak fertility which is meant to be helpful but I just find it confusing!

Just before ovulation you'll get the static smiley and hopefully a positive on the easy@home too.

The first time I used Clear Blue I was making DH DTD every day on high fertility and we were worn out by the time I actually ovulated 😂

@Mary1986 oh god knows then! 😅 It’s a total minefield isn’t it! I do also think after a MC your body and hormones can be a bit all over the place, so maybe you’re still getting back to normal. Yeah that seems like a sensible idea, keep us updated! 🤞🏼🙏🏻☺️

@Summer022 I think the CB ones detect ovulation as well as lh, and flashing is for the surging oestrogen, peak is then the lh surge. It helps get all the days leading to the peak but I agree it feels a bit endless! EOD during flashing days is absolutely enough :)

@Mary1986 that is very very confusing! I cant help Im afraid but I hope you get an answer soon!

@Mary1986 oh i am so glad you said that as I have been doing the exact same thing up until recently - we were totally exhausted and I haven’t even ovulated yet 😂 Thank you so much, that’s super helpful!

@TunnocksTCake Ahhh yes that makes perfect sense. That’s awesome thank you so much! :) it’s such a learning process isn’t it - I never knew making a baby would feel so complicated 😂

Ladies I’m on day 3 of flashing smilies we DTD on day 1 and was hoping to today but no luck. I feel sooo down about it but seeing your recent msgs I feel a bit better as I may still have time as the peak hasn’t come yet on my CB ov tests