Tactical seduction and POAS addicts

[FfayeN]

Hi ladies. I have started to feel a little overwhelmed with our usual thread and we are at different stages of our journeys now. Please feel free to leave this one if you don't feel the same but I feel so invested in your journeys and don't want to miss any news. Hoping this is ok, I don't think you can do DM as a group?
Hope you are all doing well and if there's anyone I've missed from the usual bunch feel free to add 😘😘😘

@MrsCristianoX @TheBirdintheCave @Indianna2006 @theblueflowers @bunnykins123 @LuckyMoonstone @mummatara

@FfayeN don't feel bad it's nice to have a little group esp as we all know each other so well by now ❤️

We were at a fam party last night and we were chatting to someone who had a baby 8 weeks before us and they knew about our first MC as we are quite close to the couple. He asked if we were trying again and I said about the second MC. DH was infuriating as he said oh it wasn't the same as the first which I know it wasn't but it was still a baby 🙄 he did say he didn't mean it like that when I mentioned it was a baby later and I know he didn't mean to hurt my feelings but I do feel like it's not the same this time for him as we never saw a HB etc but it's still just as gutting for me. They then mentioned they were ready to try again and I just know it's going to be all groovy for them 😒

@mummatara it's so frustrating! My first was 8 weeks and I saw a heartbeat (he didn't covid laws)) at 6 weeks. My second was earlier at 6 weeks and because he was with me at scans he felt it more.

How are your hcg levels now? Xx

Not sure exactly what I did to get left out, unlikely I was forgotten as tested at pretty much the same time as two other people here.
I am sorry if something I said triggered anyone - I was on the last thread for a long time, having a positive test did not suddenly take all the worries away. It is just the beginning and everything is scary and every day feels anxious. Mumsnet was a good place for difficult times, I guess from now on I will somehow navigate them myself but an honest thanks for all the previous support.
Good luck to everyone ❤

@MrsCristianoX it is isn't it I know he was sad about it but perhaps not as bad as last time. Doesn't help they don't feel all the symptoms 🤦🏼‍♀️ so Fridays level was down to 1088 it dropped 1000 in the week so I'm happy with that hopefully another week or so 🤞🏼 and we'll be clear. I'm interested to see if I ovulate this cycle as I didn't the cycle after the previous.

@lovenaps I know nobody means anything by it in here. It's so hard to remember everyone's names when your making a new thread and can't go back to look at previous and there were so many participants in the last one. Don't feel like it was intentional on anyones part we are here to try and support each other as best we can because it is scary and anxious like you say. Don't feel like you can't stay and chat with us ❤️

@lovenaps absolutely wasn't intentional I just had a few names spring to mind that I remembered, as I said I was overwhelmed on the other one and couldn't keep track, especially since my bfp. Sorry if you felt left out. You're welcome here of course, I just didn't add everyone on my '@' list as that would be the same as the other thread. How far along are you now? 😊 xx

@lovenaps I'm so sorry I've been a mess this week. I got vitamins can't even muster the strength to take them. I didnt even realise you had a positive test..and we all know the worry doesn't end with a positive test (I so wish it did 😢) tentative congratulations my lovely and believe me you have done nothing to offend Xx

@mummatara that's an amazing drop! There's me thinking it's not over for you. But it looks like it might be 🙏

@MrsCristianoX I know I was actually quite shocked because I was so so convinced I hadn't passed it. They have booked me in for a scan on 31st and have told me to keep it even if I get a negative test in their words it's best to get checked out 🤷🏼‍♀️ my temp has dropped really low now too so I think there can't be anything in there or the progesterone holding it in would be keeping my temp up

@mummatara i would defo get scanned even for my own peace of mind. God it's tragic isn't it. Roll on December.... Christmas and bfps?! gonna start these vitamins again. I spent so much money on them. I'm at the what's the point stage. I'm due in a week so daft hormones making me crazy 😅

Deffo wasn’t @FfayeN intention or any of ours to offend anyone @lovenaps. We are all still active on the other group and giving support the same as we were before. Some of us ladies here have been talking for the best part of 8 months. I for one joined the group in April.
As the other group is for ttc after mmc. You will get new people adding in all the time and there has been in influx in the last 6 weeks/month and it became impossible to keep up with the new peoples stories and some original people still in there.
This was just so we can keep track of the people we’ve been talking to for nearly 3/4s of a year. That was all. Nothing more or nothing less.

@mummatara deffo sounds like your going in the right direction lovely. Especially as your temps have dropped. Interestingly I ovulated within 6 days of my temp dropping. But then my hcg was more like early 100s when my temp dropped. So it perhaps may not be as far off as you imagine. That’s if your ready to go again of course 🙂

@mummatara I think you've passed it. I think because you technically were quite far along, your HCG was high so is just taking a while to drop. But hopefully a scan will reassure you and you can move on 🤞 mine took agggges to go down and I read that exercise and green tea help speed up the process. It worked!

@curliegirlie honestly, I have no idea what my DH thinks. He's a closed book to all this but every time I mention alternative methods, he seems onboard. My point is, without talking to him you won't know what he's thinking. Jeez, it's a hard convo, I get that but at some point you need to have it for your own sanity. You never know, he might actually be more up for it than you think!

@lovenaps awh hun, you've done nothing wrong! I'm a terrible tagger. In fact, I often tag the wrong people 🤷‍♀️

@pangolin84 I think do what feels right. I hear you about that big 'tick tick' noise in the head but actually, I don't think that helps much either. I'm full of covid-type-rotten thing so once I'm over this, I'm going to start getting my zen out and just accept what will be will be. Have you had any bloods taken just out of interest? I can't remember...

@FfayeN totally agree that you need to deal with your own mental health before anyone else's 💕

@MrsCristianoX I will def go when the nhs offers you something you take it imo 😆 ahhh I hope so what a nice Xmas present 🤞🏼 haha oh the hormones I have been a moody bag all weekend I know it's them doing it 🙊

@Indianna2006 I'm so curious if ovulation will happen this cycle🤞🏼haha of course I'm getting right back to it don't want to waste any time 🤣 we've dtd every few days since bleeding stopped I haven't done any opks as they would be pos atm so didn't see the point in wasting them. I've been quite relaxed about it all I think as I'm not expecting to O so if I do happy bonus 💪🏼

@bunnykins123 yes totally agree stupid body making all that hcg unnecessarily 🙄 don't you worry I remembered your advice from last time I've been downing green tea as much as poss 😆 and gentle exercise. I'll test again weds I think

@mummatara I just don't think the DH know what to say sometimes, I can be really sensitive over certain things, especially if I have a different opinion. You're right thought because they physically don't go through it it's hard for them to relate to the attachment we feel 😔. Deffo have the scan just to be sure and put your mind at rest.
You never know this cycle not tracking and it could be just what you need.

@bunnykins123 & @Indianna2006 😘

@MrsCristianoX would be lovely for you to have a BFP at Christmas...I just need to start on that list for you 😂

@FfayeN haha I'm not expecting miracles..mind it would help if I wasn't so damn moody. Must work on that..😂 I just want this blood test over already

@MrsCristianoX I can absolutely sympathise, I had to take a break between my MMC and then my tests with Prof Quenby, once you get TTC again though you'll know it was worth it and you'll be in a better place x

@FfayeN let's hope so 🤞🏼 if we do fall this cycle I would have missed all enjoyable drinking occasions this year wedding honeymoon and birthday 😂 but I would def trade the fun drinking for a baby ❤️ youre right they just don't know what to say about it half the time frustrating as it is we have to remember that's how they work. I'm sure he's looked at some of my outbursts this year and thought wtf because I never show too many emotions I'm usually a good practical dealer of emotions but this year it's all come out 😂

@mummatara great news about those levels! Hopefully this last bit is quick and you can get back to business. That temp drop is also really encouraging.

@lovenaps you've definitely done nothing wrong! It was not intentional at all, just so many people at the moment!

I met up with a friend yesterday who told me that she was 9 weeks pregnant. It's amazing news as her first was IVF and this one is completely natural. My first thought though was that when mine fails, I'm going to have to watch her go though her pregnancy which is near enough the same timings as what mine would be. I've had no symptoms yet to justify this, I just think it's self preservation.

@theblueflowers that’s totally normal. I think we do a lot of self preservation. But you have to try keep the faith.
how many weeks are you now? Rainbow babies are all around us so they happen. And it’s just as much your turn as anyone else’s 🙂🌈

@theblueflowers I get that feeling. I somehow just knew my last pregnancy wasn't going to work out and when my sister in law announced her pregnancy to the family a week after me I was so upset.

Turns out we both had missed miscarriages 🤷🏻‍♀️ I put too much faith in the strength of tests I think (hers were dark and mine were faint) yet we both had the same outcome.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is zero reason you won't end up with a baby this time. We are just as worthy as people who get pregnant at the drop of a hat :)

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I ended up catching my son's stomach bug from Friday so was extremely sick all night 😭

@theblueflowers it's so hard isn't it. About a week after I told my friend about my MC she announced she was pregnant. I know though that they have massively struggled too, I won't lie the first 2-3 months whilst I was still living in the grief of mine, I did find it hard. Now though I can't wait to meet their little one who's pretty much due any day. I have tried to forget the due dates of mine for the exact reason at least someone we know has a baby around the same time and I hate being sad at the 'what ifs' and just have to trust that it'll someday happen when it is meant to. (And I really hope that this time is that time!!) xx

@mummatara I know exactly what you mean! It's all for the greater good though 🤞🏼

@Indianna2006 @TheBirdintheCave @FfayeN ah you are all so great- you just get it!

@FfayeN I've done exactly the same about due dates as with both I had/have best friends due the same month and I think that helped with moving on with the 'what ifs'

@TheBirdintheCave we absolutely are! We will all get there though. Sorry to hear you're not well, that kind of sickness is just awful! Hope you can take it easy today and it's a bug that is over quickly.

@Indianna2006 thank you! I'm trying to think really pragmatically and remind myself how common MCs are and that it could very well have just been bad luck that it happened twice. I'm only 5 weeks so a long way to go, but this is a new sperm, new egg- positive thinking!

@theblueflowers thank you yes it is 💪🏼 sorry if you've answered already somewhere 🙈 will you go for an early scan?

@FfayeN 😆 yes for the greater good

DS just poured the dogs water all over the kitchen to "splash" 🙄 we've only been home 30 mins 😂

Well ladies I've just done a pregnancy test for absolutely no reason at all. Maybe to see if immaculate conception was a thing. It isn't 😂 👍🏼