TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

[FfayeN]

Ready for when we tip over the last one. Lucky 13 🍀

@RaliaMusca try not to worry. You could possibly book a private scan if you think that would ease your anxiety before your dating one? I think we are all now set in a state of anxiety in any pregnancy because of our pasts. Try and take reassurance that they weren't concerned given your dates.
Also totally possible to test positive 8/9DPO which may be on with their suspected dates? Xx

@RaliaMusca agree with everything @Indianna2006 said. Don't worry. Easier said than done I know xx ❤️

@RaliaMusca congratulations on hearing the heartbeat. Such a beautiful sound 💓 I wouldn't worry about being a wee bit behind. DD was 6 days behind at my 12 week scan, still can't figure out why - she's a happy, healthy 3 year old now!

Thank you all so much. Your words of encouragement do mean a lot and just knowing you all get it and know what it's like is amazing. So glad to have found you ✨

@RaliaMusca aww 🥰 so happy your scan went well! As others have said try not to stress too much about measuring behind. With this pregnancy at my first scan I was around 4/5 days out, scan 2 weeks later I was 2 days out and had caught up by 12 weeks. I also measured behind with one of my MMC so I don't think it matters too much - fyi - the anxiety doesn't go the further on u get 🙈😆 xx

@RaliaMusca this is wonderful news! And amazing that you have a reason for the bleeding as well! One day at a time x

Hello ladies, I hope it’s ok to post on this thread? I suffered a missed miscarriage in June 2022, and have been ttc ever since. Feel like I’m losing hope and could really do with a little community of people who relate ♥️

would anyone mind sharing if their cycles immediately went back to normal or if it took some time? I’ve always been regular (7 day, heavy period, 28 day cycle) until the baby loss. My periods are really light and running for up to 12/14 days at a time! I keep reading online to be patient and ‘wait for my body to get back to normal’….

really appreciate any info/response xxx
thanks!

@calimc83 thanks for sharing that, that's really helpful. I'm fully expecting to be an anxious mess for the next nine months (if I get that far, hah!)

@Babydustmamma so sorry you have found yourself here. I also had a mmc recently. It's so cruel. Hope you're alright.
I can't advice much on cycles post mc I'm afraid. My cycles were notoriously irregular before the mc. Are you tracking ovulation at all?

thank you! And congratulations ♥️

I have been tracking my ovulation (a bit obsessively 😅) I’ve been using OPKs and the Mira fertility kit. Annoyingly I seem to get really anxious doing the basal temping! I just wind myself up in the night that I’ll forget to take it and end up having really naff sleep.

@Babydustmamma so sorry to hear about the mmc, it sucks. I hope your cycle will return to normal soon.
My period wasnt returning till 10 weeks later after mmc completed. And the cycles went a bit wrong but would likely gradually come back with time. 🤞
I would say being patient with your body is key... Its hard though! Xx

Thank you @Aprilsunnyday ♥️ I appreciate you sharing your cycle journey. Sorry for your loss too! It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone I guess - when I Google it, it seems like your cycles are just supposed to ‘bounce back’ but if I think logically then I know my body has been through a huge trauma so 4 months isn’t that long. It’s just grim waiting it out though isn’t it! ♥️

@Babydustmamma so sorry for your loss 😔. Do you mind me asking how the MC was resolved? Was it natural or surgical? That can sometimes give a reason for different periods after? xx

@Babydustmamma I had 3 consecutive early miscarriages and I’ve had 7 months of light periods, even after my chemical last month the bleeding was light. This months af is the first one that’s nearly back to normal for me, so hoping everything is finally settling down 🤞🏻. It took 3 months after my chemical before ds for them to settle. Think it’s one of those things that for some it’s quick and others it takes time annoyingly. Fingers crossed yours settles soon.

@FfayeN thank you ♥️ Through the pills only, at home ♥️ That’s really interesting! I had no idea that the different types have different effects. I went for a private scan on a Thursday when I found out because I’d had a little spotting, and then was referred to the hospital. When I got to the hospital on the Monday, no one explained anything to me they just asked me which option I’d like 😅 (not nhs bashing, think it’s a brilliant thing just stretched) but because of that I don’t think I was really prepared or informed about what came next. I wonder if anyone else had a similar or different experience?♥️

@Bubblesandballoons thank you so much for sharing and I’m so sorry to hear about your losses ♥️ I think you’re right, we’re all a little different! Reassuring to know that it’s normal to resettle at different rates at least, so thank you!♥️

@Babydustmamma only so much as there are risks with having the surgical management which can include scarring. Really light periods after can be an indication of that but sounds like your body is just readjusting again if you had medical management. I really hope they come back to your normal soon 😘 xxx

@FfayeN ahhh I see! That makes sense :) thank you so much for your help and kind words! Feel like I’m definitely in the right place ♥️

@Babydustmamma so sorry to hear about your experience. I also went down the pill at home route. It took just over 4 weeks to get a negative pregnancy test, and then another 7 weeks for a period. I was like you and so frustrated because I was reading online that it should be a lot quicker. It sounds like your body is working itself out though, really hope it settles quick for you x

@theblueflowers thank you for sharing ♥️ I really appreciate it!

That’s the thing isn’t it! You see online it should be super quick and it’s easy to get caught up in the ‘should be’, especially when you feel like you should be pregnant still ♥️ It’s been a really tough process to go through. Has anyone found any podcasts that have helped at all?♥️

It’s a me (a mario?)

amazing news here.

ready (drumrollll)
after six months of trying, two failed ivf treatments I am finally finally pregnant!!!!

@Babydustmamma
so sorry my love about your loss we’ve all been through this so we know to some degree how you feel xx

Congrats @Fuckallthetories :)

@Fuckallthetories congratulations! Fabulous news!

@Fuckallthetories congratulations 🎉
@Babydustmamma I had medical management with the first of this set of miscarriages, I passed the sac 3 days after and then had negative tests within 2 weeks. The next cycle ran like clockwork so I thought I was ok, but then I had the two chemicals, and then the light periods started 🤷🏼‍♀️. I was expecting heavy painful periods from what I researched after miscarriage. Can’t say I listen to podcasts, but interested to see what people recommend. Definitely having a supportive group helps. Is the Mira good? I was tempted, but worry I may get obsessive over the numbers 🙈 xx

@Fuckallthetories congratulations 🥳 xxx