Hoping for a BFP October/November

[Purple29]

Hi all just creating a new thread since the other one is almost full!!! Really really hoping this is our month, but not hopeful, DH is away with work for most of my FW and only comes home the day before I think I will ov. I've also injured my back!!!

9dpo boobs still tender if I poke them. Cm continues to be white and mucousy. I was going to test this morning as thought I had a CB, I don’t! So can’t test. Not a bad thing though.

I probably only have one more cycle, maybe 2 at a push, I think to try before a short break as my sister is getting married in Rhodes next October so obviously a time I won’t be able to travel, after 36wks and up to 2wks after birth. I don’t mind people knowing I’m pregnant pre 12weeks. Really doesn’t bother me, I would rather people knew so if something went wrong I could be supported rather than it be a big secret. From a work perspective everyone finds out really quickly being in maternity, and my friends I would tell fairly early also.

@BCxx I think we’d go for an early private scan just before Xmas if we were successful this month so we could tell family. But I’d be very like “with caution”. We don’t really see them often though so I think it would be the best opportunity to tell in person!

@Bananatoast123 that’s exactly what we did with #1, I would be 2 weeks further on this time though so wouldn’t feel so ‘eek’ 😬 I just don’t know what I’ll do if this isn’t the month, if it was next month I think I’d only be 5 weeks or something by Christmas so really wouldn’t want to be telling anyone then 🙈

@Mummyme87 yes I think I would be less bothered this time about people knowing early. It’s hard knowing you’re on a bit of a time limit! Suppose you’d only need to take a couple of months off to avoid it but it feels like a lifetime when you’re trying. When we started in august I just said I hoped it wasn’t due as late as Christmas next year as we have December and January birthday’s and would rather avoid it if possible! but I feel like I’ve only got a few tries left even to avoid that 🙈

@BCxx yes also keen to avoid late December and January babies. Would avoid Christmas and already have mid January child (plus myself). But when you’ve been ttc for so long it stops mattering

@Mummyme87 I’m in Scotland too so the month(s) to avoid are February/March for a young child in their year so I feel like that rules out about 4 months from Christmas onwards and I can’t put it on hold that long 🙈 just need to hope this is the month!

@BCxx not bothered about being young at school so much, I have a July baby and that’s fine for me. How many months have you been ttc? This is cycle 14 for me 😭

@BCxx I'm also in Scotland, think the cut off is end of Feb, March babies tend to be the oldest in their class. My DS is early March and he will be 5 and a half when he starts. With Jan and Feb babies you get the option to defer them (my niece and nephew are both Feb and my sister chose to defer them both) so don't let that put you off, there are options x

@Purple29 I would only avoid March in case he/she came a few weeks early 🙈 but as you say more and more people are deferring now so it really doesn’t matter

@Purple29 @BCxx I'm also Scotland. Where are you guys?

Yeah a real worry for me, my DS was due in May so was 10 weeks early!! So a big fear for having a second. @Krisnov2020 I'm in the North East.

@Purple29 oh gosh, that is early! Was everything okay?

@Krisnov2020 Just outside Ayr 😊

@BCxx yes, a long time in hospital and he struggled to put on weight (he only broke the 5lb mark when he was 9 weeks old) but he's now 2 and a half and the same size as all the other kids, and doing really well, hitting all his milestones etc. X

Does anyone else spiral and worry it’ll never happen for them during their TWW or is that just me 😅? 6dpo and I’m hating the lack of control / having to let nature take control. Is there anything anyone does to help their mind / de-stress?

@Bananatoast123 im feeling like it won’t ever happen. 14 cycles in and I feel like it won’t happen for me

I’ve been having lotiony white cm and Just had some more ewcm this seems to be a second lot of it this cycle But I thought I ovulated around 30th October. So possibly 9po is this a good sign? I did test which I know was stupid I thought I saw a Evap line but I’m hindsight think I had major line eyes as I can’t see a thing now lol the tww is a nightmare haha 😅😅

@Mummyme87 I can’t imagine how you feel as we are 9 cycles in and I feel this way now! Today I had to really rethink my mind and I’ve determined I need to start a manifesting journal! It’s so difficult to be hopeful when month after month AF comes. But it does happen and some of us just have to wait a little longer than others 🥰

@Giraffe2205 ahhh test again tomorrow? Tww is cruel at times!! I’ve been symptom spotting all day and I’m only 6dpo!

Today should of been my baby's due date 😢

@My2boysaremyworld I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you’re treating yourself today and/or doing something special x

@Bananatoast123 thank you. Not done anything so far as OH is at work. Iv just msg him to say shall we pop out for one drink later, feel we need it xx

Fee like shit. Exhausted, so so tired, fell asleep on the sofa at 8.45 until after 10 last night. Banging head all day. Boobs still tender, had some mucus discharge on wiping today also. Hoping it’s a good sign

Apparently the full moon can throw off pms / symptom spotting eurgh!! I hope this is made up as the twinges I’ve been feeling had given me hope 🤣

@Mummyme87 I hope this is a good sign! When will you test?

As expected AF has arrived…….maybe next month and a Xmas present bfp 🤞🏻

Just gone through my app - as I have shorter cycles it’s not as easy as how many months ttc ….so it’s been 13cycles :(