TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

[FfayeN]

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@mummatara thanks lovely! How are you doing? I saw your HCG is going down - yasss! That's such good news 😀

@bunnykins123 it is thank goodness. I think most likely nothing retained but good to be sure at least. I haven't bled other than a random wipe on Monday for a week. Temps are nice and low which reassures me even more. Now we just wait and see. we've been dtd every few days and it's been so nice not to poas. I think in my mind I've written off anything happening this cycle it's so nice to feel chill about it and just enjoy spending time with DH without any pressure of will it happen or wont it happen. Im in a really good headspace atm too

Hope everyone is doing ok. @bunnykins123 sorry to hear you aren’t feeling great, UTI’s are the worst 😖

Sorry this is a bit of a rant so feel free to skip this but just need to let it all out.. I’ve not been feeling great this cycle, me and OH had horrible cold last week. Only just feeling better now. Also gave up the OPK’s thinking it would make me feel better and more relaxed but I actually feel worse not doing them 😫OH didn’t initiate anything either around fertile time so have only DTD once on day 11 as I practically forced myself on him 😖 think it was because he felt poorly which is fair enough but now feels like have wasted a month of trying and had a bit of a row about it as he said he doesn’t like having to plan sex so much but then how am I meant to get pregnant if we are not DTD in fertile time…feel like I can’t win 😔
Also had my scan today and have a small cyst on left ovary. Reading up says shouldn’t impact fertility but is that 100% true? She also couldn’t see a dominant follicle and said could be that I have already ovulated but I’m only day 14 (usually ovulation on day 13 going by OPKs last 6 months) so surely it wouldn’t have disappeared that quick?! Now worried something is wrong with me and not ovulating. Just feeling awful about this whole thing and like giving up but I want a baby so so much. Can’t stop thinking why did we have to lose that baby, it’s so unfair as I would have been 35 weeks by now 😢

@emhope oh lovely, so sorry to hear you’re feeling rubbish😖 I totally get feeling like you’ve wasted a cycle, but it’s so hard to dtd when you’re not well and you both know it’s purely to make a baby! I get what your dh is saying but tbh if he wants one as well he’s kind of going to have to suck it up and do it when he might not feel like it! We plan to do it everyday in the fertile week even if he doesn’t want too, you think they’d enjoy the extra sex wouldn’t you 🤷🏼‍♀️

@emhope sorry you’re are feeling down 😔 I think DTD can feel so pressured and sometimes ‘forced’ when you know it’s a means to an end, I.e getting pregnant. My DH has struggled with it too in the past. Plus if your DH was feeling rough anyway maybe he didn’t want the added pressure. But I don’t blame you for letting it get to you, it’s hard not to take these things to heart and worry about them. I’ve been thinking about my lost little boy a lot too recently, not that I don’t all the time anyway but even more than usual. I’ve had quite a sad week thinking about him. It’s so unfair that this happened to us 🌺

@emhope we have all been through issues between wanting to DTD to make babies and not wanting to because, we'll, frankly sometimes I just don't want to and like you have to gear myself up. If we weren't trying to make a baby I could quite happily go 3 weeks without any 😂. DH is way more interested in it that me so we have friction too. I think it's normal to get frustrated with it.

Is she sure that the cyst wasn't on the side that may have just ovulated?! I am sure that when you ovulate you're left with the remains on that side which look very similar (I am by no means a doctor and I can't remember all the proper names lol).

Now you're starting to feel better you know how you can get back in control or feel more content next cycle 😘 xx

@FfayeN me too lol I cba sometimes, I’m alright when it’s happening but it’s just the thought 🤣 some of my friends do it everyday just because they want too, I sometimes wish that was me🤯🤣

our flight homes delayed 2.5 hours, I am so bored 🙄

@ChloeN I think with the stresses of both working full time on different shifts, step-children and general life getting in the way I would be exhausted doing it everyday now!
I've often had the complaint from DH that we used to, but when we tried everyday for fertile week and he couldn't get there. I was '-' this close to throwing his comment back at him 😂.

@emhope it's so hard and unfair. Feel free to rant any time, that's what we're all here for.
Just to reassure you about the cyst, I also have one on my left ovary and was told it's totally normal. "Ovaries are cysty things" the sonographer said to me.

@emhope your cyst is probably from where you ovulated. When I had a scan couple weeks ago they could see a cyst on mine and said it’s what develops after you ovulate and can stay there for 3 months they don’t seem worried about them. Sorry you’re feeling down, dh was probably just feeling ew with having a cold.

my bleeding is definitely getting lighter along with my test this morning if it wasn’t an early detection test I’d say it would be negative on a normal test. Dh and I haven’t dtd in around 3ish weeks so I’m ready to stop bleeding and jump back on it… although I now have a cold courtesy of ds so feeling like poo too

@FfayeN you should of 🤣🤣 maybe they don’t want it as much as they think😇

@mummatara POAS is literally the most depressing thing! I like the spontaneity of not using them but tbf, we are not the randiest of couples so I do it to make sure we cover dates. Saying that, this month I O'd on cd11 which is so unusual for me.

@emhope it's called a corpus luteum (sp?) which happens after you O. It's basically what produces progesterone. I'm surprised they didn't explain that to you? It's completely normal to have a cyst if you get scanned after O. I hope that reassures you 💕

@bunnykins123 I'll be back to it next cycle I still have about 12 CB's to use don't want them to go to waste. I think I must have known because after our positive I looked at them and thought nah I'll keep them just incase 🙄 honestly I think I could happily go about 3 weeks without it 🤣 that doesn't help make a baby though does it so off I trot with helpful suggestiveness every time 🤦🏼‍♀️

@mummatara haha well you do hear of women getting pregnant from 1 attempt so maybe there is more in your advice than you think 😂 I actually did send back my opks to Amazon after my 2nd pregnancy. God knows what I was thinking!!! 🤦‍♀️

Hello, just popping on. I had a miscarriage earlier this year. I already have a 3 year old daughter and I’ll never forget her face when I told her her baby brother had died . Anyway, we are now ttc for our 2nd lo, and it’s hard not to be apprehensive! Even if I did get pregnant I don’t think I’d be able to be excited until they where born. Good luck and rainbow dust for us all!!

fuck xx

@bunnykins123 tbf I was that woman 😳 back in March. I came off the pill in Dec all ready for TTC after our May wedding and apparently got my timing very wrong it was 5 days before O too so I mean it's not impossible I was quite shocked 🙈 haha oh yes what were you thinking 🤦🏼‍♀️ the glory days of pregnant and no problems 😭 I sadly couldn't have sent them back because it was a big box but I was thinking I might Chuck them on Fb marketplace glad I didn't now.

@Fuckallthetories welcome sorry for your loss ❤️ it's def hard not to be apprehensive I don't think many in here would manage not to be so you've come to the right place xx

@Fuckallthetories I'm sorry for your loss, it's such a hard thing to overcome. I don't think the apprehension really ever goes 💕

@mummatara same with me - 2 of my miscarriages were 1 only attempts. Weird as I was sure I got my dates wrong. It was the 2nd miscarriage and I had good lines so just thought all was well. Oh how wrong I was! I have read that the pill is good for regulating hormones and quite a few women conceive 1st cycle they come off it!

@Fuckallthetories I’m so sorry for your loss. I agree about the apprehension, pregnancy will always feel different once you’ve had a loss

Hello, everyone, let me please make a come back to this very supportive and resourceful group! There was a period i checked out from mumsnet, thought now I am more gathered to come back . I hope it does not bother anyone i have been reading the threads though staying quiet!! 🙇The thing I really like about this thread is its really stable and comforting, everyone is sharing a story and keeping each other going strong in high times and low.

So... a bit of a long intro about me, might be a bit long to scan through even😅 - I had a MMC in Jan at 6 weeks and since then ttc life has been so turbulent... post a long waiting after period came back in April and went regular twice, it went nuts😲- cycle has gone from a regular 29 days to 47, 17, 40, 13 days since July (!), so then not only with my older eggs, i also could not finda time to try.😤 One min, i thought i was in O window and then within next 24 hours, AF arrives. It has been mega confusing for me, and of course my partner, he found me so very "unpredictable!"😂

I've checked multiple times on bloods (baseline FSH, Oestradiol, LH etc) , and talked to different fertility clinics etc. a preliminary diagnosis from doctor in fertility clinic is I am in peri menopause at 40. It can be painfully true but i had my doubts... I had a surge of work related stress in May to July (and busy schedule like everyone else), and i thought miscarriage related hormone changes could play a role too. (?)

Anyhow, I have tried understand about this crazy cycle but it was a bit of a myth till now, so i have decided to respect and work with my body on what it does and doesn't!! Like most of you do, we are back to trying (when we catch a window) and although we feel this road might be bumpy and long, really hoping something could happen naturally, maybe by March next year?! With our odds, its very hard to say, but we ll keep trying and stay on this journey for a bit!!
Hope i get to stay on here for longer without more health scares too!
Congrats to the BFP ones and i root for sticky beans!! 😀 xx

@Aprilsunnyday welcome back! Mumsnet can get a bit overwhelming at times - I dip in and out but used to be more active in the earlier days. Have you considered IVF due to age? I've just turned 38 and whilst all my bloods are normal (apart from high NK cells but that's not related) my cycles are defo getting wobbly so think the peri is imminent. What was your AMH / FSH? That's a good indicator fertility wise. This forum is actually really helpful to just talk so defo keep in touch if you feel up to it 💕

Thank you ❤️@bunnykins123, its much appreciated. And I am sorry you were feeling poorly recently, I hope you are feel better and in better spirit very soon. I think supporting means so much.

Yeah to you question, think we would have considered ivf if my Amh was quite OK, it is too low for ivf. The only suggestion we got besides trying naturally was to go through modified natural cycle, but that doesn't really increase the chance by much statistically.... 😑
Sorry if this all sounds a bit depressing.

I am thinking, trying when we can this year, is the way to go? 😎 Then we might need to think other options.
I keep on thinking we got pregnant on a second trial in December, we could be lucky again?!
Hmm its a hard one isn't it 😂but thanks so much!! X

@Aprilsunnyday welcome to our great big hug of a thread 🥰.
I am similar to yourself, on top of thyroid issues my AMH is very very low. Have you started taking any supplements? I'd recommend 'it starts with the egg'. Don't take myo-inositol to regulate your cycles as it's not great with low AMH but Coq10 would be worth taking. Also have you tried seed cycling? It really helped even out my cycles a bit 🥰 xxx

@Fuckallthetories I feel like it’s hard not to be anxious when you know what can happen, sorry for you loss😖

@Aprilsunnyday sorry to hear of your loss and then crazy cycles! That must be so stressful not knowing what’s going on when trying to ttc, sending lots of love xx

@FfayeN aww!! ❤️Thats really well said, it's a big hug ❤️🤗
I take a few vitamins, folic acid, Coq10, vitamin D. based on the book, also doing acupuncture (very expensive).
We ve also used fertility and ordered twoplus last month... 😂
I am in my tww now on dpo 8 and have tested negative this morning (shouldn't have but could not help 😂and went through a bit down, will try testing maybe on Sunday...I d report back. :)

I guess coming back to trying has already given just a bit more hope.

Is your thyroid situation in good hands? I watched a YouTube video about it just earlier...we ve all become so knowledgeable on this topic 😁😂
Thanks for checking on me. 🥰

@Aprilsunnyday it sounds like you're doing all the right stuff, and now give just got to get down and do the 'stuff' 😂. Dig in and good luck.
Yeah it seems like it's finally under control thank you xx