Hi everyone 👋
I've just come back to mumsnet after a bit of a break and this seems like such a lovely supportive thread so thought I'd join if you don't mind. I’m not actively ttc right now but hoping to start again in January next year. But it’s nice starting to dip my feet back into this community.
I haven't been able to read everyone's stories yet but so sorry for what everyone is going through. Whether it’s a mc, ttc after loss or pregnant after loss, it's so so hard. I truly think everyone is so amazingly brave for continuing to go after their dreams after such heartache.
Hope you don’t mind if I share my story so far. Sorry for the very long post!!
I’m 35 and started ttc last year for our first. To our surprise and joy we fell pregnant in the first cycle but started bleeding at 6 weeks, miscarriage was seen from a scan a few days later. It was awful, I’ve never cried so much but we knew the odds and felt hopeful that this was just bad luck and we still had a good chance next time. We took a bit of a break to get married and started ttc again in October. After some months of poas and BFNs we got a positive in January just before my af was due. However, I started bleeding a few days later, so it was a chemical this time, confirmed by a BFN. DH was very upset I’d tested so early. It’s been hard as he has a very laid back attitude to it all whereas I have become obsessed, like to have all the knowledge and do things to try to increase our odds as much as possible, which has caused quite a bit of tension during our first year of marriage unfortunately. But we carried on and fell pregnant again the next month. I was so tense and scared, I was literally just getting through each day to the first scan which we were able to have at 7 weeks. We were so hopeful as we’d got further along than ever, it seemed like this was going to be our time! But at the scan they couldn’t see a heartbeat so sent us away for 2 weeks, mmc was confirmed at that second scan and I opted for medical management. For a few days after the news I was numb and just didn’t know what to do with myself, went through the whole medical management process and all that that entails then started really researching recurrent miscarriage. Got a referral to the St Mary’s clinic in London and asked my GP to do all the tests Tommy’s recommends on their website.
Still waiting for the results of the initial tests from St Mary’s. GP tests came back all clear bar one - I discovered I had Coeliac disease. Completely asymptomatic but recurrent miscarriages can be the only symptom that you may get. I’ve now been gluten free for 3 months but it may take longer for the antibodies to reduce. Still not sure if this is the problem. We won’t know until we start trying again I suppose and even then it’s hard to be 100% certain. But in a way I am hoping it is, as at least there is a chance I can treat it through diet and have a healthy baby 🤞🤞🤞