🌈 TTC after miscarriage thread 9 🌈💕🤞⭐️

[bunnykins123]

@LuckyMoonstone @MrsCristiano @Astar21 @curliegirlie @emhope @HoneyPea @FfayeN @Mabelledox @Indianna2006 @mummatara @Skylark1990 @theblueflowers

New thread ladies - please add anyone I've missed 💕

@mummatara I think I see a difference too. Congratulations! Deffo a BFP!

well we didn’t manage dtd last night. We were both too knackered. Peaked too early with tbh sex 😂 hoping that won’t make much difference?

all other times we’ve got pregnant I have had sex on ovulation day. But then also the day before when I look back on my app. But newer studies seem to say ovulation day is bit less likely than day before. All they all seem to suggest diff thing!

did anyone else realise that once the sperm get deposited they can’t just swim to the egg and fertilise it straight away. They have to go through a process called “capacitation” in your reproductive parts and that takes 10 hours. Only then they can fertilise the egg. Go figure! So I can see why ovulation day sometimes can be a bit too late.

anyway hopefully still in for a good chance. Dtd -4,-3,-2 and -1 🤣🤣

I do also find I only really get loads of EWCM the day before and day of ovulation. I have some before that. But not in huge amounts. So imagine those really are my most fertile days.

next month think I may hold off until I see lOADS and EWCM and just have sex them two days tbh 🙈

@bunnykins123 symptoms wise I have had nothing other than that day of heartburn and a lack of sore boobs. Mentally I am very up and down. One minute I'm so excited the next Im running through the list of what ifs 🤦🏼‍♀️ we will likely go for an early scan as we did with the others but it didn't make any difference last time I think I'll most likely be holding my breath until that 12 week scan. My naivety of once your pregnant that's it is gone but i I'm quite a chill person in the normal way so I think I can navigate through without too much freak out

@theblueflowers thank you

@Indianna2006 thank you. Ooh I didn't know sperm did that either that's really interesting must be quite a small percentage that make it through in the timeframe on ovulation day. I think you have a good chance with what you have done you must be knackered and ready for a holiday 😂

@mummatara I think that's completely normal, you're in self preservation mode until you get given the green light. Just try to remember that every pregnancy is different and just because the others weren't stickies, there is no reason why this one won't be the sticky bean! Seems like lack of symptoms is defo a good sign too!

@Indianna2006 I did know that, but I didn't until recently. Did you know it can take up to 8 hours for that process to happen? It's nuts! So I agree with your point that actually bding on O day may (or may not?) be too late. I defo didn't hit my peak last month but like you say, it's hard to get timings perfect. I actually get loads of EWCM before peak, no idea why that is! On peak day it dies down 🤨 I wonder if that's a hormone issue!

@mummatara definitely see some progression, congratulations 🥳 fab news

Ovusense finally confirmed O for Monday like all the other apps lol

@bunnykins123 in my head my thoughts are this my first pregnancy was fine and we were actively trying so lots of fresh sperm. My second pregnancy was a lucky surprise we only dtd once 5 days before I ovulated that one we lost at 10 weeks and I know it could have absolutely nothing to do with it but I feel like the sperm was not so fresh and that might be why 🤷🏼‍♀️ so my logic is we tried for this one and there was lots of fresh sperm so all will be ok 😬

@LuckyMoonstone thanks lovely and I'm so happy ovusense finally got the message 😆

@Indianna2006 I've heard that ovulation day is too late too. 8dpo and still no symptoms of anything 🤷‍♀️

@mummatara eeek there's definitely a little progression and it's definitely a pink line! Apparently early implantation is a good sign too. Hope this is your sticky rainbow bean 🌈 Have you told DH? 🥰
I don't know when to test 😩 I've never tested on a FRER before 12dpo. 8dpo today, still creamy white CM and no sign of any brown spotting 🙏🏼 I'm scared every time I go to the toilet and wipe 😣

@Indianna2006 looks like you've covered all the important days there 🤞🏼

@Astar21 oh I really hope so 🤞🏼 no I haven't told him yet he was out early for work this morning and I wanted to do another to be sure the first wasn't a fluke 😂 I was originally going to test on Saturday 10dpo. I think if you test early you have to brace yourself for a little disappointment just incase. My CM is quite creamy but I don't know if that just a normal thing or not 🤷🏼‍♀️

@mummatara Congratulations :D Nice to see another BFP on this thread! Hopefully we get lots more now.

I'm 7dpo I think but can't wait til next Friday when AF arrives as I already know it's impossible for us this month. I just get so cross every time I remember that we messed up this cycle. I'm also cross that this cycle will be 38 days long as that pushes the others up meaning that I'll probably get AF when I'm in Spain and I so badly wanted to swim :...( (We only have a pool for one day)

My little boy is just getting bigger and bigger too and I really don't want him to be an only child :( I'd hate a large age gap.

So yeah, just feel a bit blah today. Very jealous of all those people who get pregnant at the drop of a hat. Why does my husband have to be the one with fertility problems :(

CD25 today, no spotting yet, no symptoms of anything really but a lot of CM. My cycle is usually around 26 days. Stark white BFN this morning so I guess just a longer cycle and waiting for AF, still not convinced I O'd at all this month which is unusual for me but I'm still disheartened as the small age gap I wanted between children gets likely larger and larger (or non existent, even sadder thought) 😔 it's so hard not to get caught up on that. My DD will be 2 soon and if I hadn't MC the first one this year, I'd have 2 under 2 which is what I wanted.

Please excuse my emotional wobble!

@TheBirdintheCave I think we're both on the same blah blah emotional page today, your post reads similar to mine apart from cycle length/dates!

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@Margo34 @TheBirdintheCave I have definitely struggled the most this cycle compared with the last few. I think it's the 'what ifs' and 'why's'. And also the upset that my body just doesn't seem to be working well.

@Margo34 I'm sorry you had a bfn, I actually think they are worse than AF arriving. I tested last month (perhaps that's why I'm down in the dumps?!) as I was a teeny bit late and had bfn. Have you had any fertility testing done?

@TheBirdintheCave are you sure there is no hope this cycle? Why is it that AF is always due when you are abroad!

@Astar21 creamy discharge is a sign of progesterone so it's not really indicative of much. Do you usually spot before AF around now?

@MrsCristiano how are you feeling? Any more nausea etc? Will you test? So many questions!

@mummatara for what it's worth, 2x my chemicals was off 1 attempt with DH not releasing for a while so part of me always thought it was dodgy old spermies so your theory could actually be correct! Got fingers crossed for you!

@Margo34 Yes we are similar! My son is nearly two as well and I also would have had two under two :(

@bunnykins123 Yeah we only managed to DTD on the day of ovulation as I thought it had already happened and by the time I actually had O pains it was most likely too late. My husband has low sperm motility so I doubt they had any chance of making it to the egg in time :(

@bunnykins123 I really don't know why I bothered testing at all, tbh. Optimism, I guess. Hadn't thought to consider fertility testing yet tbh. Have you gone that route? What does it entail? I'm conscious age isn't on my side (practically 38) but also feel like it acknowledges there may be a problem and I'd rather bury my head than accept there's potentially a problem. I don't know. I'm still mid-20s in my head!!!

@bunnykins123 I have no AF symptoms or pregnancy symptoms 🤷‍♀️ had decided to test Tuesday with an FRER so that'll be 12 dpo. Maybe a cheapie sneaky IC on Sunday. I have many of these😂

@bunnykins123 yes I normally get some brown spotting a few days leading up to AF, but no sign of it at the moment

@Margo34 and @TheBirdintheCave sending you both positivity ✨ this journey is so emotionally hard 🤍

@Margo34 i get why you feel sad, I wanted 2 under 2 as well 😔 if I got pregnant now then DS would be about 28 months when the next baby is born. I really don’t want the age gap to go past 2 and a half years, especially as I want more children and I’m conscious of DS being way older than his youngest sibling(s).

I was also going to have 2 under 2 😢 but for anyone worrying about a big age gap there is 11 years between me and my brother and 13 years between me and my sister we are all really close and we still had plenty of fun and sibling squabbles so doesn't matter how old you are they happen 😆

@LuckyMoonstone what will you do if the potential age gap gets bigger than 2.5y then, if you want more DC? If I get pg now the age gap would be 31m, but I'm pretty certain I'm out this month so it just gets bigger. I also wanted more DC. Regret starting so late on in age, but DH wasn't ready and I wasn't going to trick him into it accidentally, so it was a split or wait decision for us both, which means now it's hard for resentment not to build from me towards him. We first spoke about each wanting DC when we got together, age 22!!

Anyone else a similar age or had similar experience?

@Margo34 not as such but I was the one between me and DH that wanted to wait. He's 39 (I'm 36) and he already has two DD 11 and 9. He would have had more when we met 7 years ago, but I wanted to concentrate on my career and travel. Now we're struggling I feel he is the one questioning the wait, I have had 'do you wish we started earlier' questions. I just have to trust that I would have had these issues at any age, but it is hard! We can never go back and I've had such amazing experiences up til now that I don't regret anything.

I had fertility testing just incase and all was ok once my thyroid was in check apart from low AMH. This can apparently fluctuate month to month and isn't a true reflection of how many eggs we have left so I'm trying not to worry too much about that. Xx

Argh I can't stop thinking about testing. Give my head a shake 😩

Your lines look really good @mummatara

@MrsCristiano use a cheap one if you feel the need to do it 🙈 not that I'm one to talk 😂 thank you just told DH he's very excited

@Margo34 My husband and I didn't meet until we were nearly 30 so didn't start trying until after our wedding when we were 32. Unfortunately we then had fertility issues and our son wasn't born until two years and 21 days later when I was 34 :(

I'm now nearly 36. We'll have a 29 month age gap if by some miracle I get pregnant this month.

We definitely have a cut off point. If our son gets to three and it hasn't happened then I think we'll stop trying.

@mummatara 🥰 no I might tomorrow on a cheapie don't want to be squinting in poor light now too. Going to bed🙄