MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

quarkee - sorry to hear that you are not well. Hope you get better soon. That double hot choc should help. Might join you for one and add a green and blacks to dip into it!

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm [smiles through the coughs]

I think I need to join the spotty face club too

Got a corker on my chin. On 2ww due on the end of next week so nto af spots. I am hoping it is a conception spot Has anyone heard of these...LOL

I've seen some friends' snowy pictures, how lovely, mind you, glad I'm not living in it
Hi Claire, thx for asking, I'm ok, my choice to live in limbo land I guess, just not sure of what to do. Consultant said if you need to have an erpc it's better if you have already started bleeding, so that just confused me even more
Your cough sounds lovely Quarkee, I'm sure the cold weather has really helped. Hope you're feeling better soon
Hi Mollie, I do feel ready to ttc again, but I know once the m/c ever happens then my moods will all over the place for a bit longer. I needed a break after last Aug's m/c but feel ready to try again straight away after this one.

oh, I'm sorry to bring a downer onto the thread.. I've been trying to ignore feeling a bit odd today, been an irritable cow and putting it down to PMT, which a lot of it is I'm sure. But I'm just suddenly feeling so sad, I am gutted af is here (I should be pleased, my body is doing the right thing, it is a good sign, I know) but I shouldn't be having this period.. I keep thinking, if it wasn't for the mc, I would be stroking my bump.. blah blah blah. Not helped by the fact that I started an extra day back at work today, have been working 3 but now it will be 4.. so I am missing ds, and to top it all I am working in a department that I was last in when heavily pregnant, and there are lots of pg women here waiting for appts.. I'd forgotten there was a midwife clinic here. I just want to cry and curl up into a small heap. But of course I can't, and I'm walking around with my work head on.
I am sorry, I can't believe that I am feeling like this, that everything was fine, and then, everything is not fine at all.

Shame Spink, how you are feeling is so normal, to be up and down without any warning. Especially working with pregnant women, that would be really hard
I work 3 days a week, and definitely wouldn't want to increase to 4, not after a m/c as well, hope the extra workload doesn't stress you out even more. Do you need to stay in that dept?

spink sorry your feeling so bad today, days like this can be a real test. your doing really well to keep work in mind but make sure you switch off when you go home and let your emotions out.

Sorry you're feeling down Spink. It is funny like that isn't it - you think you're fine, no problems, over it etc (well, at least, functioning and not feeling awful all the time) then it suddenly creaps up on you... At least you know that you're not alone, and this isn't something that you shouldn't be feeling...

Hope you feel a lot brighter tomorrow.

Morning ladies
Quarkee Sorry your poorly hun, hope you feel better soon, I'll join you on the hot chocolate though, mmm. I was so good this morning I made my packed lunch and did cous cous with raw broccoli and carrots. Now all I want is a big jacket potato with cheese and beans I'm starving, I'm putting it down to the cold weather (well that's my excuse!)
Eli Are you temping or using OPK's or just an au naturelle girl?
CeCe I'm sure we could discover the new phenomonan that is the "conception spot"
Scully Sorry your still waiting Have you thought about returning to hospital for the tablet that brings it on or are you OK waiting?
Spink I know exactly what it's like, where I work there are so many pg women or newly born babies, it's pants! You will get bad days, it's not a bad thing, it's all part of the process unfortunately. Can you nip to the loo for a little cry, it might make you feel better? Sending you lots of hugs and sticky buns x x x

Oh spink big hugs to you - its hard work keeping a work head on when all you want to do is crawl away - can you get out at lunchtime and go for a walk far away from all the pg people? I am just about to do the same and get my medicines and a bacon buttie from the local caff (the diet can come back tomorrow, today I need a warm inside) - failing that at least you are halway thru the day, hometime soon

Sorry you are feeling down Spink . Sorry if my earlier post upset you. 1st post mc af does come with mixed emotions. On the one hand there is the relief that hormones are settling and ttc can start but on the other is the fact that you have reminder of the mc every time you go to the loo and as you said you should have a bump not be having an af . Must be extra difficult working around pg ladies.

The sadness can hit you by surprise can't it. It got me the other day when I was talking about what to wear to a party I'm going to in the summer - it hit me that I should have had a big bump then and be wearing a maternity dress but now I won't.

mollie - I don't temp or use OPKs. I have 2 very definite signs of ovulation and tend to go by those. In the past I've also used the babycentre ovulation calculator (but can't this month because I can't be sure of my cycle length since the mc).

spink Hugs to you I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. I've been getting like that a lot lately too - Everything's fine and then something will set me off and I'm devastated all over again. With each week that passes, I think 'I would've been 14 weeks today' etc. And I'm still waiting to O so that we can move on and TTC again. Best of luck to you

Hi ladies. Glad I'm not the only one with HUGE spots and wrinkles. DD2 and I had much fun yesterday in the snow. DH was left to sort thru the boxes in the garage trying to find files that I need for our building works (we've moved into rented place whilst they build our new extension and there's tons of boxes that w haven't unpacked). But, the demolition started today . Ho-bloody-rah about time.

Quarkee - how you feeling today? Any better> Def think hot choc is the way forward. Sometimes a girl just needs a big dollop of choc in her tummy to make her feel good.

Scully - my heart goes out to go. Anything happening? It must be hell for you. really, really hope you get some closure soon.

Spink - am with you on the crying front. I seem to be drawn to every flipping baby program on tv and find myself looking wistfully into people's prams. Crying is a very good way to get all the emotions out. A little pivate grizzle might do you the world of good.

NotSoNew - to your mother in law. How incredibly insensitive of her.

Hi Mollie, Mistle, Bunny, Napa, Feb. How are you all today? And hi to anyone that I've missed out.

Eli - good luck lady. Pom poms out and shaking for you .

I had a hum dinger of an argument with my stupid ex-h yesterday. DD1 called to say hello (she's with him for first week of school hols) and told me that he had put sellotape around her thumb to stop her from sucking it . He's also been telling her that one lady at work used to suck her thumb and now she looks liike Nanny McPhee . I've told him before that I feel incredibly strongly that she should be allowed to suck her thumb until she's ready to give it up herself (she only does it now at bedtime and when she's watching tv in the evening). She's only 6 1/2 and has been thru a divorce and shuttled between 2 homes for most of her life. Her thumb is her security and comfort. He says that I'm opening her up to the 'trauma' of wearing braces when she's older. I then found out that her step mother has been telling her not to suck her thumb, even though she knows that it's expressly going against my wishes . Am having to now tell her that when she's at daddy's she has to abide by his rules (no thumb sucking until bedtime) even though it goes against every maternal bone in my body . Plus his DD by his new missus walks around with a dummy. Granted shes only 2 but one rule for my DD and one rule for his????? And if he's that worried about the (and I quote) 'trauma' of braces then why let his DD have a dummy? Grrrrrrr [angry}.

hey, thanks everyone for, as usual! being so so lovely. It is just one of those days, isn't it, with lots of stuff that triggers thoughts of bumps and beans.
Elibumbum - please don't worry, your message didn't upset me, cos I was glad AF arrived, it just made me feel sad too.. It is exactly as you say, you have this path in your head you thought you would be going down, and suddenly you're on a different path. It is just shit every time the realisation of that dawns!

Scully, you are lovely. In the midst of feeling sorry for myself I've been thinking of you and what you must be going through. Thanks for being so supportive.
tbh I'm not that happy about being back 4 days a week, the 3 days felt like a good balance with ds, and the work I do is emotionally pretty tiring so it isn't great timing. But financially we need it. TBH, when I arranged the extra day, I was thinking "I'll only be doing this for 6 months til I go on maternity"! so it had an end point that didn't feel too far off. I do love my work usually though and find it really rewarding, so that is the pay off. I will talk to my manager about avoiding work with pg women though, think that is not a bad idea for now anyway.

and thanks for the advice about getting out at lunchtime - had a quick walk in the cold sunshine, then went for a cheese and beans jacket potato! it was a good thing to do.

Hey Spink. Just wanted to send an extra ((((hug))). I don't work outside the home now, but can clearly remember how much I missed DD1 when I had to drop her at nursery five days a week. There will be a happy end point for you. Just a little bit more in the future than you first thought. xx

Spink - the benefit of doing 4 dpw now is that they won't think 'I bet she increased her hours just so she could get additional maternity pay' !!!

We're in the same boat - 4 dpw works out better financially, although I manage to cram mine into 3.5 days pw by arriving early and not taking lunch breaks! Means I can pick up ds on Thursday lunchtimes which suits me.

Feeling a bit with dh at the moment - had an orchestral rehearsal weekend, which means staying with my parents. Dh decided to stay at home to get some things sorted out without ds around his feet and I came back to find that 'he hadn't been feeling well'. I think that this is the same 'not feeling well' which happens whenever there is something to do. And its funny it only happens at weekends. And he decided to ignore my not at all subtle hint on Thursday night...

Evening ladies. Sorry to crash. I've not posted on this thread in A G E S. 21+2 and still cooking....I wish all of you the same luck.

I just happened across this [[http://www.justmommies.com/pregnancy/hcgcalculator.shtml HCG Calculator] and remembered my HCG test results following my MC. I could have used this to gain some peace during those very stressful first weeks.

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Hello Ladies, this thread had been recommended to me from some on the Knicker CHecker thread. I was on the Nov 08 thread, but on Friday night I had an erpc. To cut a longish story down into a few lines, I was about 9 wks preg, but measured 5-6 wks. I had been attending the EPC over thea past fortnight referred by my GP. 2 weekends ago I started bleeding and last Monday had a scan, which showed sac and fetal pole but no HB. Rescanned on Friday ahich showed the sac bigger but fetal pole smaller and still no HB. I decided to get it sorted out asap and I personally didn't want the trauma of letting nature take its own course so elected to have a D&C (ERPC). I was kept in hosp and had it done very late on Friday night, home on Sat, slept through to SUnday afternoon! THe hosop staff were great with their support and empathy and also hopes for hte future - try again! Definately up for htat. I don't feel down about it, cos I kind of was prepared for it anyhow, so I def want to TTC asap. The hosp will bury the foetus and I can attend a remembrance service in July, they also have a book of remembrance all of which I think is fantastic!

Anyhow, I haven't bothered to even try to read all the pages and catch up with you all - some of the names I already recognise - Scully xx HI!! xx - but I'll get to know you over the next wee while xx

Hello divedaisy, how strange (and sad) to see you here.. I too went scan on Friday at 10 weeks pg, baby only measured 7 weeks 4 days and no heartbeat. Am going through natural miscarriage at the moment but have to go back for scan on Friday and may end up with a d& c if it's not progressing. Hope you are ok. You sound quite upbeat.

I wish I had known that the hospital do that after a d&c, I may have opted for that instead. I think it would have helped me deal with it better.

I feel like I want to TTC asap as well. with this pregnancy I conceived in the 1st month of trying - I shoudl have known it was too good to be true!!

Best of luck to all of you. xxx

wow i can't keep up either - apologies in advance if i missed anyone..
scully very very for you - the waiting is not fun and i hope that things come to a conclusion sooner than later for you. sending you positive vibes - you are so strong!

cece keeping everything crossed for your 2ww. it seems like yesterday you were posting that you had to wait for a few mths to ttc, and here we are!

spink your feelings are Totally normal. i absolutely howled during the first af after first mc. felt ugly, fat, crampy, empty, sad, angry, disbelief, despair, at the world and preggie ladies, you name it, i felt it. i spent a whole night just crying until could cry no more. as the others have said, let it out. it does a world of good.

georgiegirl what the (^&% re your ex dh??!! i felt my temp rising just reading your post!! i would throttle your ex dh's wife too!

mollie do you test this week or next?

re insensitive comments. i also have another winner...for those of you who recall that i passed the "baby" from my second mc last mth, i didnt go to a mommies meetup the next day as i felt totally crap. i told my friend who has a newborn to pass on the message (was in tears on the phone). that afternoon she sent me some pics to cheer me up - the gesture was sweet, but no thought whatsoever, as it was all pics of her newborn in various cute poses??!! how was that meant to cheer up someone who's just grieving the loss of another baby?

i am a f/t working mum (but use most of my hols to take days off during the week) and i have to say that working s*cks when you have a kid... i dream daily about owning my own company and hiring only women with kids as i know i will get a v. intelligent and hardworking set - and i wont care what hours in the day they work as long as the job gets done. don't you think that would be great?

finally, i've been given my herbs by acupuncturist. and i can officially confirm that they are the most vile and bitter brew i have ever tasted. she did warn me, and i did say "i can heck it - i will do anything to get well..." but i am now engaged in a gagging session twice a day. feel like i am being punished for some past sins... but i will carry on - mind over matter or something like that...

Hi ladies, just a quickie, thanks for all the congrats about my scan, it was very emotional just burst out crying when she showed me beanies heartbeat, kept sobbing throughout the booking in process, just couldnt get a grip They told me that I was 10 wks and 4 days and due on 23rd Oct but think that the date is wrong as my FDLP was 26th Jan, and I 'O' on CD9??

scully glad that you decided to join this thread, just wish you didn't have to again, lots of love to you XX

spink hugs and squishy cuddles sent your way, really sorry that you have been feeling so low, its best to have a good cry at home you may feel alot better afterwards. (wish I could have controlled my emotions last week!)

hello to everyone else and the new girls hope your all doing well!
P.S My brother was married in Falmouth in Cornwall, I love the place but the Seagulls like to steal your ice-cream! Brother now lives and works in Truro, speak soon XX

xd posts with aliciajohn and daisy - welcome and sorry you have to join us. take care and be good to yourselves over the next few days and weeks. rest as much as you can - although you may think you feel physically ok after a day or two, it does take a toll on your body so dont be too hard on yourselves and rest rest rest and treat yourselves to your favourite treats and movies/books etc. we're here if you need to talk or rant (like i just have in previous post!) x

Just back from an awful night out with a group of close friends who knew about the baby. Only one has children and she spent the whole of the 2nd half of the evening going on about when she was pregnant with dc's, about them being born, about a friend (who none of us know) who is pregnant etc etc. It was all I could do to not crumple. She knew our LO was due in April, its sad how people can't even show the smallest amounts of compassion. Am appalled and saddened at her behaviour.

I really hope if I am ever fortunate enough to become a mum I never become so unkind to others who have lost/are or could be trying as she was tonight. Our loss has taught me a lot about sensitivity to others I think.

What an awful night out Claire, I have to admit I probably wasn't as sensitive as I should have been, having our dd's was problem free. But these 2 m/c have since taught me it's not that straight forward for everyone.
Know what you mean about working full time Bunny, I did from when dd1 was 9mths old until she was 3.5yrs. Never realised how hard it would be to leave her each day. Now I work 3 days a week, and have a 10min drive from home to work, rather than 50miles each way, so a much better balance One of the reasons we moved back to Australia actually, just couldn't achieve that work/life balance in the UK.
Hi Daisy, sorry that you're here but glad to hear the erpc went ok & that you can try again straight away if you're ready.
Hopefully we'll find ourselves on the same 'Due in' thread again soon.
Have booked in to see the acupuncture/chinese medicine lady on Sat week. Looking forward to some 'me' time and hopefully it will be beneficial as well. Not sure about the herbs though Bunny