MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

Hi everyone - have been off the radar for a couple of months, thats 20 pages of this thread!!!! Hoping I can shuffle my way back in, as needing some support for this dreaded 2WW. Every twinge is getting me up and then down again. Looked after my nieces this morning, having a very broody afternoon now. DH is enjoying his time off for good behaviour tho!!! LOL
Still, I def feel we tried our best this month, so will just have to wait and see. 10 days to testing....
Hi to everyone on here, sorry you are here, but hope it helps to talk to the very supportive people on this thread!! They are all stars!!!

prepg after both mcs (first one was erpc), af pretty much arrived bang on 28 days later. both were heavier and hurt like hell, were slightly longer (7 days instead of 5). but this is my second af after second mc and it's just going on forever! it's so annoying! i would like to wear pants without any pads for once and not fear ruining them (sorry for tmi) hope it settles soon for you prepg. the first one is often a bit wonky so hopefully it will settle soon.

re MIL for you.i hope she doesnt bring it up - it is so hard to keep up the brave face and it's not fun to be reminded when you least want to think about it.

ebb at least your af is here and hopefully you can move on from there - hope it doesnt stay too long!

hello lou wow good to hear that you are well into the swing of ttc. hope for some good news soon. i am not ttc though i still do think about it quite often - wish i can get on with things already but feel that body is still very weak and have decided to listen to body and strengthen up for a few mths before trying again. good luck to you!

Hi everyone. Been trying to get a minute to say hello all day. DD1 broke up for easter hols today so have had her, her friend and DD2 this arvo.

Been trying to catch up on what everyone's been up to. Hmmmm, not so sure about people's insensitive actions and comments. Couple of my friends have not called at all since the m/c. Only sent texts saying they 'want to give me space'. Not sure whether i think it's a cop out or not. Mind you one of them has 3 DC's, never had a m/c and fell pg first time they tried all 3 times. Grrrrrr . Think she's v sensible to steer well clear of me at the mo.....

Oh, and I wanted to tell you all about a book I'm reading called, 'Eat, Pray, Love' by Elizabeth Gilbert. I've found it really theraputic to read. Would recommend it to y'all. Not at all 'heavy' just really really good read.

On the holiday front we're off to Kalkan in Turkey this summer. We're going to Sunsail's club there. Should be able to try some water ski-ing this year seeing as I'm not pg. And there's fab kid's clubs for the DD's so DH and I can even have some 'afternoon delight' .

I'm 22 days into cycle and don't think I've ov'd this month. Can usually tell as get pains. Am with you all on the front as to what's happening with my body.

Mistle - hope tests results are good for you. Am off to GP's on Tues to bully her into referring me to clinic. Only had 2 recurrent m/c, but 3 in total. And not getting any younger (38 in June) Sigh.

Hope everyone has funky-doodle-dandy weekend. And seeing as we're on the retro tip with Walnut Whips, here's some Wagon Wheels and butterscotch Angel Delight.....blisssssss . xxxxx

Claire - sorry about your af

bunny - know what you mean about the work woman. at my work everyone thinks its their business to ask when you're going to be pg, dreading when i go back! but hope I'm strong enough to give that sort of response!!

PrePG - good luck with your MIL on Sunday. Mine has surprised me by saying just how very sorry she is and how sad, my mum on the otherhand said to me today - "everything alright now?, good", even though ERPC was only 3 days ago and actually I'm shattered.

I think it has made me realise how differently people cope with news like this. my oldest friend (the one who is pg now) is still acting like I've never told her and when I said I wasn't going to a wedding next weekend cos I feel like s*t she said "oh well, let me know if you change your mind", nothing about why I feel like s*t, whereas 3 other friends who have no children are texting or phoning me every day offering to come over or meet if I want to. Its nice to just have people checking on you.

sorry, that has turned into a long rant so thanks for just listening

Thanks bunny my first cycle off the pill was similar to this one, I think. Quite long anyway - about 35 days. and LOL about the pants! not TMI - I know exactly what you mean.

Georgiegirl sorry your friends are being distant most of ours don't know anyway. I've told a few of my girl friends from school via email, but come to think of it, the only people we've seen in person who know about the mc are DH's brother and sil.

napa so sorry your mother is being insensitive - it's amazing how some people understand that it could be devastating and others expect yuo to carry on as normal. I fear I was kind of like that in the past. Genuinely sorry for others if I'd heard they'd had a mc, but not really understanding the depth of it, you know. I guess, until you've been through it... My MIL didn't even know I was pregnant let alone that I'd had a mc. But really I don't think she'll say anything, she doesn't seem that warm to the grandchild she has already - I don't think she'd want to encourage any of us to have more! She would definitely be one to expect life to carry on as nothing happened if she knew. She's way too efficient, stoic, etc for my taste.

Hi all. I suddenly realised I hadn't posted here for ages and hadn't shared my good news with you all. After nearly a year of ttc. no.2 and a miscarriage in the autumn, I got a BFP (well, three to be exact, couldnt help myself!) 10 days ago. Got scan at early pregnancy unit on Weds. Nervous but thrilled! have moved over to the due Nov 08 thread for now, but look forward to seeing you all in the Pregnancy section very soon. Baby dust to all. 2008 is our year!

Quick question. Anyone else been plauged by large bumps/spots/lumps on chin, back, chest since m/c. Know that my hormones all over the place, but this is just adding insult to injury....

Oh, and there's an article in this May's issue of Red about miscarriage. If you're interested. Nothing earth shattering, just how it's a hugely difficult thing to talk about so therefore no-one talks about it or glosses over it. Which proves what we're all saying at the moment about people's comments. They should have come to us shouldn't they. We'd give 'em the right story.

hi gg yes and yes! huge welty red and angry lumps under the skin that stay for a long time and were very painful. i didnt understand how i am 35 and still be breaking out like a teenager! now i think it's definitely hormone imbalance from mcs. after acupuncture for 1 mth, the spots have calmed down - shrunk to nothing and no new ones have appeared. could be just a passage of time, but i am convinced that it is acupuncture. in fact last week my acupuncturist commented that it looks like i am responding well as the red bumps and spots have gone down. who knows? i am a fan - i guess part of it is feeling like i am taking control back of my health and body and it feels good to be proactively doing something towards wellness... the rest could be psychological...

congrats to mrsmattie sticky dust to you.

i cheated today and ate a RL choc brownie it was sooo good. am now gnawing on some grapefruit to make up for it - not quite the same...

I'm also thinking of acupuncture Bunny, good to hear you've found it helpful. I think even if psychologically it helps me, then that's a start
Congrats Mrs Mattie, hope your early scan goes well on Wed.
Saw the consultant again yesterday, still no sign of m/c starting, would have been 10wks this Monday I have decided to give my body another week to get its act together, before contemplating another erpc. HCG had dropped from 17,000 to 15,000 so it's taking its sweet time as well. Don't mean to sound flippant about it all, just after 4wks, I'm ready to get on with things and my body is still pretending to be pregnant, so I'm slightly frustrated......
Good luck for your 2ww Lou
Tuscany and Turkey, very of both those destinations. We're off the Sunshine Coast for 3 nights at the end of April, so looking forward to that
dh was supposed to be at work for 2hrs this morning, it's been 7hrs and he's still not home

PrePG and napa MIL's are odd things - aren't they!! The day after we told my the in-laws about the miscarriage, my MIL sent us an email joke (They live abroad) about how babies are made (you know the type of circular jokes, with cute baby pictures.) She thought it might 'cheer me up'. My DH and I were absolutely livid. I have spoken to her once since then and she asked what colour scheme the nursery would be. 'For when we try again.' Needless to say I haven't spoken to her since

georgie and bunny - I have woken up today with big, angry red bump on my chin! Glad I am not the only one glowing in the dark!

I have decided to go to my good friends birthday dinner party tonight. I asked her to spread the word about our miscarriage to avoid any embarrassing scenes. I felt like a 'princess' for asking her, but it seemed more sensible than me bursting into tears < NotSoNew kills the party> I don't mind people knowing about it... My DH and I will leave early if the baby talk gets too much. Am hoping a big glass of red wine will help!

Did anyone elses' hormones go CRAZY in the second week after a miscarriage? It is 9 days since I miscarried and my moods are all over the place. I seem to go from paranoid to angry to inconsolably crying within a few hours. My poor DH is tiptoeing around me!!

Oh...forgot - congratulations MrsMatie good luck for your scan on Wednesday. Keep us updated!

wow notsonew your MIL sounds scary very sensible not to talk to her!! hope your dinner party is ok and where one glass of wine might help, one bottle might help more!

don't know about the crazy hormones yet cos mine was only on tues but at least i'll be prepared for next week. i'll warn DH!

congrats mrsmattie

Has anyone esle got snow? We are all very excited here! Have put pics in my profile but that was an hour ago - much deeper now! Waiting for DD to wake up before we head out in it!

Cece we have snwo too - DS is v excited!!! Hi to everyone - been 'snowed' under at work (groan) hence silence - good news re hormones, I was wondering whether I was really paranoid Off to make snowmen now....a Wagon Wheel would be just perfoect now

We only lasted 10 mins out in it. DD and DS both reckon it was too cold. LOL!

We have snow here (SW London) It was very beautiful this morning (As I watched from the warmth of our kitchen window but it is melting now.

I can't believe that in April last year we had a mini-heatwave!

Just to add re comments etc - I had my first question about whether we were going to have another child this week - thanks to all your comments I was (sort of) prepared so just smiled and said 'it would be nice some time' and all was OK so thanks to everyone

My you lot have been busy! Here goes:
Bunny So I'm not the only one with longer heavier AF's now?! Thank goodness, it's so frustrating though! Hope you enjoyed your brownie hun, don't beat yourself too much about it, you need a treat once in a while!
GG Wagon Wheels Is it just me or have they shrunk in size since we were kids? Definately more spotty after m/c on my chin and chest, odd isn't it? Will look out for your book recommendation
Napa Your mum sounds just like mine, very business like, now put it behind you and get on with getting me a grandchild! Not much pressure Glad to hear that at least some of your friends are being supportive.
MrsMattie Thanks for the dust I'm grabbing large handfuls! Sending you sticky vibes.
Scully So sorry things are dragging on for you, I hope your body does what it's supporsed to soon for you so that you can move on, as you sound so ready. Are you going to ttc straightaway?
NotSo MIL?? What an insensitive cow! How did the party go last night? So agree with you about the moods, I was swinging all over the place for about 3/4 wks, now I still get over emotional days but they are linked to cycle so getting 1 every 2 weeks when I could cry at the drop of the hat (sorry just realised that that's probably not what you wanted to hear, but at least your prepared!
Quarkee So glad you got through your first insensitive comment,
Hi to everyone else

Evening, Scully I'm sorry things are dragging for you how are you today?

Wow - I'm having trouble keeping up!

Lou - good luck for your 2ww.

MrsMattie - good luck for your scan.

GG - I've had a spot on my chin this week and since the mc I've been having to wash my hair more often as it has been a bit greasy - figured it must be the hormones.

Bunny - I know what you mean about the pads/pants situation!

napa - my hormones were all over the place after my ERPC. I could burst into tears at any time with no particular trigger. Settled down after a couple of weeks.

Hello to everyone else

Sorry just looked at my post and that was meant to be an evening everyone!

eli I can't keep up either, how are you?

hello everyone, hope you're enjoying the snow, if you've got some. The sun is out here this morning and everything is white and sparkly. yay, it is lovely.

I'm afraid I've totally lost track of everything and everyone - so much happens so quickly here and I am a bit slow it turns out . So I am just going to say I hope you're having OK mornings, whatever is going on for you.

GG, I was going to join in and say my skin is awful too at the mo, but then AF arrived today (27 days after mc..) so I guess it was down to that rather than still mc hormones? Sounds like lots of us are looking particularly attractive at the mo though

and for everyone collecting post mc AF information, this is a very heavy CD1... I can keep you posted on how the rest of it progresses if you like!

MrsMattie - how lovely to hear your good news. Wishing you a very sticky one

Hi all, hope you enjoyed the snow over the weekend. I didn't manage to get out in it as I had orchestral rehearsals, but ds loved building a snow man - special birthday present!

Hi everyone - we had a lots of snow but it melted v fast - not enouh time to build a snowman so we'll have to wait 'till next time.

Have been hacking away with a cough for the last 2 weeks or so but it was worse over the weekend so finally went to the doc today (DH practically marched me in!) and I have a chest infection and have to do anti biotics - am fed up as I have a big workshop tomorrow (that I cancelled due to mc so i really cant cancel ti again)that I am running and I cant string more than 4 words together without coughing my guts up (nice) - DS has the same so his appointment is tonight - what a healthy bunch we are

To cheer myself up I brought along a double chocolate hot choc with cream and choc buttons scattered on the top - any one else want one? Did we finish off the WW's??

Hi claire. I'm ok thanks. How are you doing?

Spink - glad to hear AF has made an appearance for you. Hope she doesn't out stay her welcome!

My AF appears to have gone today. Next stage of waiting now for ov (currently CD7).