MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

Jackstini AF due 9th April, are you like me and get tempted to test early? I tested last month after 10DPO but I've vowed I am not doing it again this month I will just wait patiently like a good little girl and see if AF arrives!
Mistle We stayed in Looe last year it was a gorgeous little place, really liked it. We're heading to Perranporth this time, dh is well excited because they have a pub actually on the beach!

I think my next holiday will have to be Norfolk after my Mum told me this morning that they are thinking about letting it return to the sea! God knows what they will do with the people that live there. My grampy's family came from there so I'd like to go back to his roots before it disappears! Anyone been there, any suggestions for areas?

Just had to join in the weekend break conversation Love Cornwall - DH and I last went there in 2000 just before getting married and keep meaning to go again.
Mollie DH and I went to Norfolk last November in a bid to get away after the mc. We stayed in a cottage in Blakeney on the North Norfolk coast and it was lovely. Some nice pubs and restaurants there and the cottage was next to a deli. Went for lovely walks along the marshes. You can take boat trips out to see the seals at Blakeney point and also walk along the point if you fancy it now the weather is nicer. Cley-next-the-sea is also very pretty and has a fantastic deli... (food-obsessed, moi, never ) I agree it's a shame that they're going to let the sea flood parts of the coast there, but I think it's an uninhabited part that will be affected fortunately. It's a lovely part of the world so would definitely recommend it.

Hello ladies, can i join your thread please?
I'm sad, scared and excited to be TTC again after mc at 15 wks, 6 wks ago.
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CriCri Thanks for the info on Norfolk might look to go in September for our wedding annviersary, bring on the food obsessed info I say!
Feb Welcome, sorry you had to join us, but make yourself comfy. Feel free to have a moan, ask advice or cry we'll be here for you

Hello all, thanks to everyone for the very warm welcome.

I am very jealous of all these talks of Cornwall. My grandfather lived in Falmouth, and I have very fond memories of holidays in all these places you are talking about! Perranporth is especially lovely.

prepg I remember your lovely words of support on the Miscarriage board - thanks. It is great that you are looking forward and planning TTC again. Are you using a particular chart or website to record your temps? I didn't temp the first time we TTC, but intend to next time. The romance is dead - I am moving on with military precision

bunny I am sorry you were also in the same situation as me. I was originally really angry at my body for behaving like it was pregnant, even though things weren't developing properly. Like it was playing some evil trick...

quarkee I know exactly what you mean about having to act normally at work - people are innocently happy that I am 'better' and back at work, meanwhile I feel anything but happy! It stinks!

scully Thanks - that limbo / uncertainty phase was terrible!! To be honest, like you, by the time I actually had the miscarriage - I felt a sense of relief that it was now finally over and we could move on. In the 3 weeks before, I was told I had miscarried already (I hadn't), told it was ectopic (It wasn't) and told it was all fine - my dates were just wrong (Which I wasn't sure about). So when it was finally over, I was relieved that it was a definitive answer. At the same time, I feel guilty about that relief! I am keen to start ttc'ing really soon. I want to start getting as healthy as possible over the next few weeks and then back on the proverbial wagon.

And everyone - you are right. I seem to be surrounded by pregnant ladies & cute babies at the moment. I thought I was surrounded by motherhood when I was TTC - but now I know the truth...they were actually hiding in preparation for my mc!!

Anyone want some grapes or some melon slices? (Am desperate for a percy pig, but trying to stick to my healthy resolutions for a few more hours...)

NSNA - I just managed to read your update on the Miscarriage board. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that, my heart is breaking for you But glad you feel that you can move on now. Once mine was finished I felt a sense of peace that it was all over with and that I could move on. When it was happening and everyone was saying "You could just try again" I really felt overwhelmed because to me there was so much that had to happen (ie more bleeding, possible D&C, then one complete cycle that may not be normal, etc, etc) before we could actually try again! But anyway, here we all are!

I use Fertily Friend to chart and LOL about the military precision! I'm a huge fan of temping - just seems to me it's better to know when you should be timing things than feeling your way in the dark so to speak Fortunately, my DH is very practical and agrees with me and we still manage to squeeze in some romance! Good luck to you! Are you waiting a cycle or are you going to dive straight in?

Been to gymae today and she said she thinks all my af problems were due to the mc. As my last af was painfree she thinks I am bakc to normal. But I can self refer myself back if I need to.

I am using ov test sticks this month. Should get a positive tomorrow I think!

All those off to Cornwall I can recommend somewhere nicer than Exeter services to stop at. I am from down that way... So if you want some recommendations let me nkow.

scully I might be interested in your contact in Knaphill. Quite near to me.

Hello to feb sorry you had to join us. I had my late mc in Dec - what follow up appointments/care are they giving you?

PrePg - after my first mc I ended up having to wait over 18 months before being 'allowed' to start ttc again - so I know all about the waiting, annoyance and heartache that goes with that.

jackstini I'm in Gloucestershire so its straight down the M5 for us not such a long way

Hello feb Ive been here a whole 36 hours or something and have polished off DS's Easter Lindt bunny and a bag of Percy Pigs everyone is so nice here - bigs hugs - the friut starts tomorrow

Work still pretty hard but will have to get on w it I guess - have just found out I have to go for a meeting in Switzerland next Friday (my non working day) which involves getting up at half 3 in the morning to get to Heathrow in time for the flight - have been tonight reading a book about a woman who runs a knitting shop and have been dreaming of a replacement career all evening as a result...any ideas????

Quarkee - I do a bit of Pampered Chef as an extra to my pt job (partly as I really enjoy doing it and the products are fab) - some people manage to give up their jobs in the civil service and replace their salaries doing PC, which is pretty surprising. There are, in fact, several ladies whose salaries will be in 6 figs from PC this year. i just get a little extra money and a lot of enjoyment. [Let me know if you want more info, could email stuff...]

CeCe Really pleased for you that everything seems to be getting better for you, good luck with catching the egg over the next few days Would be interested in suggestions of where to take a break, as I'm off to sunny Cornwall in a few weeks.

Just for Quarkee on offer today is fresh fruit salad, and for those of you not dieting or wanting to take advantage of MN food, hot chocolate brownies!

OOHH me please for the Brownies. I do so like eating chocolate on MN - my only chance to do so. (Pile of apples behind me in RL!!!)

It will have to be the fruit mistle thank you - I got on the scales this morning and have put on 2kg in about 10 days - I am a serious comfort eater and of course I cracked open the wine after 7 weeks of nothing at all - liquid cream cakes. Back on the straight adn narrow again for me...can I just sneak a last brownie too thoug {wink]

Re new careers I am mortgage bound to keep this job for a while longer but want to have a 5 year plan to get out and do something else. What is PC btw it sounds intriguing. I was recently diagnosed with Parknisons (2008 has been such a great year, not) and while I am pretty much fine now (stiff hand and rubbish handwriting only really) things can get worse and I dont fancy spending my good years stuck behind a desk tbh - in my dreams I run an arts and crafts retreat or a quilt shop or something....one day maybe (sigh)

Hope everyone is feeling bouncy today anyway. My offering is rice cakes (in RL, blurgh) and banana crumble with ice cream for everyone here - enjoy...

Q sorry about your diagnosis. I understand that there are very good treatments now though, although I do understand its a pretty rubbish thing to have ended up with.

Pampered Chef - can you give me an email I can send you some info on - don't like Hijacking thread!

Yum I love crumble. And I have just sworn in RL not to have icecream either unless its really expensive and made with cream - sets off my lactose intolerance too much if I have ones with milk high on the ingredients list

I'm bringing in a Tart Tatin with some clotted cream (or custard)

[email protected] is me....and salivating over the tarte tatin.....

Tarte tartin, I'm drooling here!!!!

Would you like custard or cream with that Quarkee?

both

perhaps we should have an option where you don't even have to have the TT...! Perhaps we should have some of your icecream with it too - then would go all the way from hot, cool and cold in one bowl... yum yum

Stop stop I cant bear it, I am craving sweeties now!!! I just mistook a piece of polystyrene tile for a rice cake (we're having the bedroom redecorated and its mass wallpaper stripping in there at the mo) no taste difference whatsoever

Have just opened a nice bottle of bubbley, happy to share, but you'll have to be quick
Actually, after weeks of not drinking, 1 glass and I'm slurring
I lived in the UK for 11yrs before moving back to Australia, loved going to Cornwall, Devon, Dorset etc all lovely down there.
We've been watching Doc Martin here (show with Martin Clunes), don't know where it's filmed but it's a gorgeous village, and always seems sunny
Mistle, waiting 18mths before being able to ttc, that's such a long time.
CeCe, do you know Knaphill at all? dd1 went to the Leapfrog there, I was so sad when she left, lovely friends and teachers. I will try and find the name of the reflexologist for you. I went to help dd2 not be breech like her sister (she wasn't) but would recommend it just for relaxation and some 'me' time, I love my feet being fiddled with

here's the reflexologist I saw in 2005
here

PrePG I understand what you mean by the sense of peace and closure. And the 'you can just try again' comments, which at the time seemed a heartbreakingly sad and scary prospect.

I also hated the comments of 'It was obviously just the wrong time for a baby...' wtf does that mean? We were actively ttc - why did I get pregnant if it was the wrong time? And it was the wrong time for a healthy pregnany but the right time for a heartbreaking miscarriage? I know people thought they were cheering me up, but some of the stupid comments...

But we are moving on. I have just stopped bleeding but still get a very (very) faint positive pregnancy test. I am undecided on when to start trying again. The consultant we saw said that there was no harm in trying right away (after a negative HPT), but I think whilst we won't do anything to avoid it for the first month (if you see what I mean), we will start ttc in earnest after one cycle. at 'feeling our way in the dark' - hopefully there will still be some of that!

quarkee you sound amazingly strong given everything you have been through Have you read Michael J Fox's autobiography? I found it really interesting and quite inspirational. Good luck on that five year plan!

I am definitely in for the tart tartin with cream...after polishing off my last easter egg last night, I reckon the healthy diet can wait a little longer.

NSNA it was the first book I read actually, DH has it now so I wont see it for about 6 years as it is probably buried under the car mags I also have 'Parkinson's for dummies' (still can't believe they do one for PD but its a great book so I must be a dummy!)

MJF was a good book even though I was sceptical at the time - it's probably all still sinking in tbh along with the mc. Its only been a coupel of months althogu the symptoms have ben creeping up a while now.

I am good at compartmentalising which I know is not too clever really in the long run but it seems to work right now so what the heck. Every now and then i stop and think but then i try to focus on good things (DS, DH, good job even tho I moan, good friends etc etc) - it works most times. I have also decided not to read up on the latter stages of PD becasue I cant do anything except try to stay fit and healthy (hence fruit and rice cakes, yuk) so why scare myself now? Also, its a d@mn sight better than being given say 6mths to live and its a chance to reevaluate. I have a friend who is recovering from luekemia (cant spell sorry) who just takes my breath away with her attitude, comapred to her I'm suicidal.

Anyway, that's me off my soapbox (hey I almost convinced myself ), cheerleader pom poms back in their box - any more cakes??!!

MMmmm tarte tatin with all three for me please!
Scully I know it's later with you, but I think I could still manage a glass of bubbly with you hun even at this time of the morning! How decadent! Enjoy you deserve it after what you've been through, in fact we all do, cheers But feet YUCK, I've got a real foot phobia, the only time I don't have socks on is when I'm in the shower, I can't stand for my feet to touch each other or be touched and if dh puts his feet anywhere near me, he knows about it (usually with a violent end )

Quarkee Hope your enjoying your polystyrene rice cake!
Notsonew I think your policy of just seeing what happens is the best for the first month and then start obsessing like us after that. It does get a little easier, I know what you mean about the comments, but when I think back I'm sure I've said things like "it was for the best, there must have been something wrong" and all that crap myself Unless you've been through it it's so hard to understand I suppose. At least I know I'll never say that again!