MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

Emmsy - will keep my fingers crossed for you. Won't they give you an early scan?

Glad thinsg are going OK Emmsy will be keeping my fingers crossed for you on 31st. Not long although I'm sure it feels like forever to you.

Are you our last graduate? If so I think we are due another!!!

ebb no, cant get an early scan, did ask the receptionist when I rang to make the booking in request, said surely because I have had 2 consec M/C's in the last year and because of my age 42, that I could get an early appt, was told "no,it doesn't matter,they won't see me until I am approx 10 weeks" So that was that, still only 2 weeks & 1 day to go now, thanks for crossed fingers!
claire thanks for your grossed fingers too! I wasn't last graduate from this thread, I think it was cricri she got a BFP on 1st March, she added it to my little list in my waiting room, feel free to pop in when ever you feel like it, theres afew girls in there that you will probably know

Just wanted to say thank you for all your kindness and lovely words. I know that your experiences are still very fresh in your minds. I found the m/c incredibly painful and traumatic. But at least it's all over. Back to hosptial tomorrow for a scan to check that everything has gone. It's going to be really difficult as the EPU is part of the ant-natal dept so loads of pregnant ladies walking around .

DH and I have decided on a plan of action. So we're looking for a good privte clinic to get some tests done, check my hormones, cervix, check his boys are swimming in the right direction etc. Anyone know a good one in London? Then I just want to start TTC again.

My heart is saying get pg again, quick. But my head is saying give yourself some space to heal. Sigh....

Bunny - Hi there. Am hoping that your scan gives you the results that you want.

Emmsy - Congrats on the BFP. And fingers crossed for 31st. Seems rather harsh that they won't give you a scan before 10 weeks. Wish people would be more sensitive to the individuals needs rather than the majority.

Mollie - DD1 is called Mollie and her nickname is Moo! Hope all went as well as possible with the visit. You're a strong lady to do that.

Am really pleased for cricri. Great news

Hello to everyone else. Hope you've all had good weekends. xx

Good to hear things are going well Emmsy - will be keeping my fingers crossed for you on the 31st.
Bunny - so sorry you had such a traumatic time. Hope the docs can check you out and give you some peace of mind that everything is over now. Seems so cruel to drag out the situation even longer
Mollie - how did you visit to SIL and baby go today? Must have been so hard for you
Welcome to Ebb & GG - sorry you are both visiting this thread and hoping for very short stays for you (& the rest of us!)
Ebb - re bleeding I bled for about 1 1/2 weeks after EPRC following mmc in Aug. Caught pg straight away at the end of Sept but lost again at 6 weeks in Nov. Had no AF in Dec, awful one in Jan and Feb & current one been pretty normal although slightly heavier.
Well ladies I got through my due date yesterday by doing lots of stuff to keep my mind off it. Went shopping, out for lunch with my sister, took dd to soft play then went out and got completely hammered.
I think it actually hit me more last week when I suddenly had a vision that I should be sitting on my sofa with a newborn by now. (dd was em cs so likely I would have had elective 1 or 2 weeks before due date) Just made me feel really empty inside. I had kind of pinned my hopes on being pg again by the time edd came round and felt like a kick in the face that I wasn't.
I do really believe I will have the baby I am meant to have, just wish it would hurry up and happen soon!
Hope the rest of you have had better weekends

Jacks - Seems as if you did completely the right thing this weekend. Although, it's always at the back of your mind isn't it. Am dreading 6th June and 16th October this year as these will be EDD's for the two I've lost. Going out and getting hammered will be top of my list. Although am complete Lucozade Lightweight and will prob end up puking guts up after 2 glasses if vino . Hope you can get through this difficult time. Amd sending ((((((hugs)))) and fave moist carrot cake with fab cream cheese icing for you to munch on.

Morning to everyone. Another week to get through . But hey, what does not kill us makes us stronger. Right?

And Jacks. Yes. Agree 100%. We will have the babies we rightly deserve. And soon.

Now. Where can we buy industrial quantities of the stickiet baby dust known to woman-kind?. xx

Mmmmmm - thanks GG for that cake - exactly what I needed!
My next edd is 10 June so just after yours. We will be away on hols with friends so if I have a sticky bean by then will be fab, but if not, I will do non pg things like sit in the hot tub drinking champagne and eating prawns and blue cheese...
You are right though, I have weak moments but do feel stronger overall and more determined to face whatever life throws at me.

Emmsy Can't believe you can't get an early scan!! I've only had one m/c and my GP actually booked me an appt to come and chat to her after the ERPC, she just wanted to see how I was and to tell me that they would give me as many early scans as I wanted from 6 wks onwards next time! How awful for you hun to have to wait, let's hope it flies by for you
GG Glad you've got a plan of action, will probably take your mind off things, and then who knows what will happen just when your least expecting it!
Jackstini You survived! Well done hun, must have been hard for you, I know we all want to be pg before our EDD but it doesn't all work out like that and I'm sorry it didn't for you. Sprinkling baby dust right in your face!
Thanks for all your kind messages, felt a bit better Saturday and was really excited about going to see our newphew William yesterday. He is so so tiny but really cute, we look took loads of pictures and we were able to touch him in the incubator. He's doing really well, and I was fine, dh said he was so proud of me, but as I pointed out I haven't held him yet and I think that will be hard, but I'll live
Came back to work today after they sent me home on Friday and felt really embarrassed by the state I was in on Friday, really don't like the person this m/c has turned me into!
Hope everyone else is OK, can I have some carrot cake too??

Emmsy I second the 'can't believe you can't get an early scan' thing. Shockingly poor treatment.

Mollie I'm sure work understands, are you feeling OK today?

Jackstini glad you got through weekend OK. Hope that you're feeling OK today.

GeorgieGirl mmmm carrot cake, thank you!

claire and mollie when I had my other children I was offered early scans just because of my age and because we have twins in the family! Can't understand why things have changed so much in a couple of years? I will be making enquiries about it when I do actually get my appointment, if I find that the booking clerk didn't do her job properly, and just couldn't be botthered to give me an early appt I will make an official complaint about her, they will easily be able to check the staff number of the clerk who booked me in (where I work, if we enter any details in to the computer, there is a special 'test check' area that gives out your staff numbers for supervisor to check why you have entered someones account!) Im assuming that the NHS will work in a similar way, I'll make sure that she doesn't do it to anyone else!

bothered not botthered!

Claire Much better today thanks, ready to face the world with a smile on my face instead of mascara streaks!!
Can I ask some advice please girls? Anyone else noticed a change in their AF's since a m/c or ERPC? My first AF after mm/c & ErPC was last month and it was a bit heavier and lasted an extra day, this month, lots heavier and still going on the 6th day. Before all this it would last 3-4 days and was really light. Is this normal?

mollie I have had 2 m/c in the last year, and my cycles are now slightly longer ie: I am ovulating later, I have put this down to being an old git, this is supposed to happen as you slowly approach menopause my AF seems to be the same amount of days as years ago but dont seem to get as much blood as I used to?

Mollie - yes my af is a bit heavier than it used to be before my mcs. Glad you are feeling better today, I am too.
Emmsy - can you call the EPU and ask for an early scan - I rang direct and they were happy to oblige

mollie af has been heavier and darker since mc's and more crampy i guess body has to adjust back to normal. hopefully that is sooner than later. i cant remember with so many here doing acupuncture - are you doing it too?

thanks everyone else for kind words and support. i am still waiting for scan dont think it will happen this week..will have to ring up and harrass them again.

gg hope your appointment went ok and no need to eprc. sending hugs. it's not fun having to go back to antenatal unit after mc. thinking of you.

emmsy sending sticky thoughts to you.

clarepo are you ttc right now? sorry if i missed that in previous posts.

i soooo feel like ttc but right now know is the wrong thing to do...just hate having to wait but know i am feeling so knackered and weak...

Well I am pleased to announce that so far this af has had no pain, or at least no excriating pain (touch wood). Is it due to the acupuncture last week or a coincidence? Who knows? Just happy that this af is painfree although the downside is it is now heavier again and with lots of clots Sorry if that is tmi.

Bunny difficult as it is I think perhaps you should leave ttc for a month or two. It is now 2 months for us and although I was desparate to ttc we couldn't due to af problems. I can now look back on it and think emotionally it was a good thing for us to have done.

Jackstini - yes, I'm sure that you're meant to have the dc that is meant for you. Ds is wonderful! He is beautiful, he is cleaver, he is enthusiastic, he is full of life. Love him to death, would do anything for him (in floods of tears, luckily, dh has gone to bed due to ds having ear infection and our sleep being rather low over the weekend). Could not ask for a better ds. or dc...

Would still like another dc so that he could be a big brother, as he'd make a really good big brother.

Bunny, don't get too worried - still bfp whenever I've had issues re mp, so if you've had a bfn and a proper af, you should be OK. Hope that this is reassuring.

jackstini I rang the epu last friday, thought I would ask them about the pains that I have been having, I didn't ask them directly for a scan but was hoping that they would invite me, because of the pains. Was told if the pains get worse or I was really worried then I must go to the GP to get checked over! My pains aren't bad they come and go, and didn't want to go to the GP's and make a fuss, not long for me now, only 13 more sleeps!

good morning, bacon buttie and cup of tea anyone? I've also got a stash of pain au chocs and coffee for anyone who's feeling continental today...

Emmsy thank you for your very kind words. I'm really pleased it is going good for you this time! you seem to have a fabulous attitude to all this, lovely lady

georgiegirl how did it go yesterday? I've been thinking of you. I have to admit that i am weeing myself at the thought of going in to EPU on Thurs for my re-scan, it is the same as in your hospital, the ante-natal clinic is in the same place. Yuk.

bunny just wanted to send you a squeeze, really. I am definitely with you for harrassing for a scan as soon as possible. Especially if you are feeling physically not right, you need to be checked out. i can call them on your behalf if you like, I've been told I am particularly good at harrassment... not in a criminal sense, mind.

mistlethrush how old is your ds? he sounds gorgeous. and I'm sure he will make a brill older brother soon!

mollie I thought of you this weekend, went to see a friend and her newborn. She's got a 2 yr old too, who was needing catching (she is an explorer..) and my friend handed her baby to me. caught me completely off guard.. made me feel very sad, but also made me think.. I WILL do this with my own, I WILL. just a bit later than I thought. It was a bittersweet feeling, but I'm actually glad it happened like that. If she'd asked me if I wanted to hold her ds, i would've said no, and put it off and off, and worried about it. anyway, I thought of you meeting William and just kind of wanted to join forces with you in a shit-it-hurts-but-we'll-manage-this frame of mind!

elibumbum & cece I've been wondering about when to start ttc again, and you've written a bit about it recently so wanted to pick your brains - I know there is the physical recovery side of things that we have to wait for, but with the emotional part - how do you know when you are ready to ttc again?? One of my friends said she was worried we'd ttc before we were emotionally ready, but isn't that a really hard call to make? what do you think - and what do you say to friends and family who say "make sure you're ready emotionally to ttc again". I have to say, I felt really angry with her, though I knew she was being protective and lovely, it just felt .. i don't know, judgemental somehow.

Morning Spink - its difficult being around babies isn't it, but I'm glad you had a positive experience with your bf baby, even if you were a bit too. In terms of starting again, that is just something for you and dp to decide, no one else can tell how you're feeling really, and it can feel quite a big step (and result in more tears, which can be a bit depending on when they arrive (but if this is the case, I'm sure he'll understand))

Ds is 3 in April. He is just starting to be a really nice little boy (at times), saying thank you unprompted, saying sorry unprompted (we get quite a bit of this at the moment as he's a little rascal too) but he is lovely with younger children - he will take their hand, help them up if they've been knocked over etc.

CeCe so pleased that you haven't got as much pain this time round, sounds like things are on the up!
Bunny No I'm not one of the ones doing acupuncture, do you think that would sort out my longer, heavier AF? I'll see what happens next month, unless I'm pg by then >
Spink With regard to waiting like Mistle said only you will know when your ready. I kept thinking to myself if I got pg straight away and had another m/c would I cope, and decided I could, possibly, maybe! Thanks for joing forces on the new babies,, as the song says "We will survive" it's just a bit pants at time!
Emmsy I so hope the next 13 sleeps fly by for you hun, so glad your not going to let the booking clerk get away scott free (if she's at fault)
Mistle Your ds sounds so cute, any chance of a photo on your profile of him? No probs if your not comfortable with that it just gives me something to ooh and aah over!
I'm up for the bacon buttie and the pain au chocolate, I'm such a pig!!!!

Oh but can I have yorkshire tea instead of coffee??

I have yorkshire tea and lindt choccy bunny, wanna share?

Yes please!!!!!!

Spink - we had to wait due to a few gynae problems I have been having. At the time I was very upset about it, but looking back with some perspective I can see that it may have been a good thing to leave it a couple of months. TBH if I had then got pg and had another mc I would have been in pieces. At the time I thought I was doing OK after losing the baby but I now know that I wasn't really.

Only you know if you are ready or not. We did try the same month before I had an af, as I just felt desperate to be pg again. I didn't want to be pg on 13th Dec 2008 as I thought it would be bad luck.

We have now had two more cycles since then and are about to try again. I feel more together about it and calmer. Hard to explain really.