MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

jackstini - i was on that Due in March thread last year too. Way too many of us mc-ed at that time . . . fingers crossed that it works out for you quickly.

cece - good luck with the ttc and so sorry to hear about the outcomes of the postmortem.

Hi Tjuice & Cricri - yes was on the March thread with you. Had mmc in Aug and then mc in Nov last year. Good luck to both of you though!!
Thanks for the welcome all. Yes Mollie AF is a witch!
Mistle - it must be hard at work. I work from home mostly so don't have the 'everyday brave face at the office' issue but often only see clients once a quarter so walk into meetings to be shocked by some huge bumps sometimes.

sweetkittty edds are hard - my first edd is looming in may and i so want to be pg by then to take away some pain. but sounds like it doesn't really lessen it much. i hope you feel better and can take joy in the little girl in your belly

cece sorry to hear. it's so hard not having the clear answers in things. fingers crossed on the ttc front.

hi mollie - spent most of the weekend sleeping. banned from computer by dh who thinks i dont rest enough. we had a proper chat about ttc and he (surprisingly) wants to continue ttc right away as long as i feel that i am physically better. so it's up to me and how i feel. i change my mind on a daily (almost hourly basis) i almost feel like i am going looney. doesn't help that i have a cold now so dont feel in tip top shape for ttc. i have a few more days to think about it before i ov. am so scared to ttc and have it happen again... how about you? isn't it this week that you get to find out whether you are pg or not

mistle some people are just clueless and insensitive. hope you feel better.

jackstini hello and sorry to see you here. i lurked for a while before joining, but am so glad to have an outlet now.

cricri how are you - you must be 5 or 6 weeks by now?

Thanks for your messages. The other good thing he said was that I could have his secretary's phone number so I could let him know as soon as I get a bfp. He said I will be offered more scans for reasurance - starting with one at 8 weeks... So that is postive isn't it?

Yes that is positive Cece. Sending lots of positive vibes your way......
Bunny the outlet is much needed sometimes isn't it. MN in general is but at specific times it is sometimes my only guilt free release!

CeCe I bet the offer of the early scans made you feel heaps better, I know when my GP said that it took a wait off me. Hope your OK today?
Bunny Yes AF due Friday, I did an HPT on Sunday morning, which was BFN but then started convincing myself it was too early so not touching them now until after Friday. I don't think I am, I'm too evily hormonal at the moment, PMT is rearing it's head good and proper!
Mistle Now you know you have to flounce around the office with your hand on your forehead wailing woe is me!!
I hope everyone with due dates coming up are feeling OK? You know where we are if you want to moan, cry, rant, rave, or sob

at me flouncing round the office. Don't really do that!

Cece - seeing an early heartbeat is fantastic. I got a 6wks scan with ds because of the previous mp issue and saw lovely strong heartbeat. Not before I had completely run out of finger nails - 9.30 appointment, didn't get seen until about 10.20 and absolutely no finger nails left by then. Saw him again at 9wks when he was called a 'boogie baby' by the scanning person (? I know there must be a proper job description) as he was jumping around so much. Simlarly at 20wks scan he was really awkward - it took about 40mins as every time a photo was just about to be taken he moved again. Much like that now - he came for a 'cuddle' in our bed first thing this morning and I got kicked, bounced on, head butted, fingers in my mouth and kissed....

mistlethrush - yes I saw a little heartbeat with my first mc at 8 weeks , sadly a week later there wasn't one, which wasn't so good. I am glad I have been offered more scans next time (if there is a next time) but in some ways it can be stressful actually just prior to them.

I went to have some acupuncture today - as recommended on here. He said I was holding onto a lot of tension and that my body was still holding itself as though I were still pg. So I have some exercises to do as well... Feel very light now.

Hope you ladies don't mind me coming on here, jackstini directed me after I posted another thread. Just wondering if you could help me.
I've just had a D&C following a missed miscarriage. I've read loads of info about waiting for period to return before TTC again but is this really necessary? Could anyone share medical advice they've received on this subject please? Also any personal stories would be useful. Does anyone know if I would be at greater risk of miscarrying again if I got pregnant right away?
Thanks

Hi saz, so sorry you have had to join us. How are you feeling?

I think the advice about waiting for your first period is so that they can date the pregnancy easier. We certainly tried first month after we lost our LO.

I found that the first few cycles after my m/c were odd and it took me a while to get back to normal but similarly there are lots of ladies who have tried straight away and got pregnant or in the month after. Good luck I hope you get your BFP soon and its a sticky.

Cece I'm sorry the pm results for Hope were inconclusive. Big hugs. How long have you been having accupuncture for? I'm thinking of trying reflexology (I'm scared of needles so can't try accupuncture).

Mistle its crap having someone just ahead of you at work. I had one of our audit staff one week ahead of our edd. When they brought up her 'you're off on maternity leave' card a couple of weeks ago I closed my office door and sat and my desk and cried and cried. It really sucks and if people know it sucks even more they aren't thinking.

Hey to everyone else!

Hi Saz, sorry you're here, but very welcome. I've always left it - but 1st mc, I knew things weren't right, and, as a result, have been very wary after 2nd & 3rd, hoping that I don't get a repeat of what happened after #1 - someone else here might have more 'normal' experience and be able to advise you better.

Cece - I know what you mean about light - sometimes I come out of a session as though I'm floating, and nothing matters, beautifully calm etc. I think just that feeling is worth going for! Based on what I was told at my first appt at the recurrent mc unit, I should be able to get weekly scans there which will be a great relief. I know that it felt an absolute age waiting between mw appt at 10wks and next one at about 16wks - started getting worried about 3 days after appt ('what if....?'), so you can imagine what I was like by the end of that period...

Will really have to have words with dh. No cooperation last night - he was reading a book!

Hi and welcome saz sorry you have had to join us, I had a missed m/c in January, ERPC was 15th Jan, my GP told me I could start ttc straight away she said that they only say wait for one AF so that it makes their job easier to date the pg, but if I got pg beforehand it didn't matter and to go for it of course she did mention that you have to ensure that you are ready emotionally?
There is no research to say you are more likely to m/c again. Was this your first pg?

Glad you joined us Saz - hope everyone's advice helps - I knew they would come up trumps.
Hope all you other ladies are ok - am starting to dread my due date on Saturday. Planning on going out with my sister and some friends and getting v drunk. (On af at the mo so thinking what is the point is staying off alcohol!)

Jackstini sounds like a good idea, although I would probably end up in a corner drunk and weepy! If I forget to post before Saturday I hope all goes well and it's not too horrible for you hun, you know where we are if you need us x

Jackstini hope you have a 'good' night out and that your sister and friends are all kind and supportive. Like MM I hope it goes OK.

hello everyone. I think it is probably far too early to be posting on here but felt a bit lonely now that I'm not on the due in Oct thread any more. and I know we will be trying again as soon as we can..

just had, well still having, a mc, 10 weeks pg, baby died around 8 weeks. Went for the scan yesterday as I'd had some bleeding and saw little bean lying very still. An hour later I miscarried our lo. I just want to turn back time and make it all ok, but of course none of us can do that.
I'm sorry if I'm saying too much, it is a shocking thing to go through isn't it.
I hope all of you are looking after yourselves. dh keeps telling me to rest up in bed but I can't keep still.. so here I am on mnet

Hi spink sorry you've had to join us hun, but glad you've found us, put your feet up and relax and feel free to say whatever you like on here

Spink welcome although a sad welcome. Don't worry about saying too much, say what you feel helps. It is a very shocking thing to go through you are right but here on this thread everyone is so suportive.

Hi Spink - so sorry to hear your news You say whatever you need to luv, there is nothing we can do to change things but we will be here to support you all the way.

spink very sorry to hear your news. Hoep you are taking care of yourself.

Claire - it was my first try at acumpuncture. Was fine, never saw the needles and hardly feel it at all.

thank you for the really warm welcome. It is good to know you understand and I don't have to explain myself dh has been working abroad for the last few weeks and came home when I started bleeding, but had to go back again today. Not looking forward to tonight, why is it that night time is the worst, he'll be home Saturday though so I am focusing on that.

I feel oddly fine and then have waves of feeling totally lost, empty, scared and sad. it knocks me off my feet, and I can't stop crying. and then it passes and I feel kind of normal, until the next wave. tell me this is normal and it will get less painful?

Spink so sorry to hear your news, I remember you from the ttc baby waiting room thread. Am gutted for you. Everyone on here really does understand what you are going through, you really can't say too much so don't worry about that. The way you are feeling sounds totally normal, straight after my mc I had periods of feeling oddly positive - possibly partly cos it was a mmc and things dragged on for nearly 4 weeks from the time we first found out things weren't right to the erpc, so in the end, although this sounds awful, it was almost a relief it was over and we could start looking forwards again. I think once we knew there was nothing to be done for our bean it was time to start looking after ourselves as top priority. Rambling now, sorry...
But I certainly had a lot of tears too, generally at the most inopportune moments and set off by the tiniest things. It does fade though. For me, talking things through on here was enormously theraputic, saved my sanity and quite possibly my marriage (well meaning but idiot DH at one point told me I was behaving like I was mentally ill...!)
Wishing you lots of love, and the strength to get through what we all know is a really horrible time xx

oh spink im devastated seeing you on here. I am so sorry, I wish I could help you. Feel too sad to offer any good advice, you will get suppport from the girls on here,take care of yourself, I will speak soon XXX

Spink So sorry to hear your news I also remember you from the baby waiting room and I'm really sorry to hear that you're having to go through this alone at the moment.
I'm pleased you found this thread though - the ladies here are fantastic and I also found it a lifeline after my mc last September. The rollercoaster of feelings you describe are entirely normal. Personally I was quite optimistic initially and it wasn't until a few months later that I think it really hit me. Talk as much as you need to and take care of yourself. (((Hugs))) to you.

Hi spink how are you today, hope last night wasn't too lonely for you, must be awful not having dh to lean on (or to make insensitive comments as they have a habit of doing!) Hope you can surround yourself with family and/or friends if you need them hun x