MC avengers, still eating cake, 2008 WILL BE OUR YEAR!

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Hey ladies I have been brave and started new thread.
Aquababe will not have to look at her thread opener again.

bunny - the thing that meant I knew that things weren't right was that I didn't get any regular cycle - bleeds could happen at any time - more recently cycle has been a bit out following mc and different for probably 2 cycles before getting back to normal, but at least proper cycles iykwim.

Cricri fingers crossed for a sticky one!

heellloooo anyone there? here's what i posted on the recurrent mc thread.

went to the acupuncturist for the first time yesterday. she said that my kidneys were weak and i had blood stasis. not sure what either means. she thought it would be common sense to wait and get stronger before trying again. anyone been for acupuncture after recurrent mc and had the same thing told to them? drs said to wait after first af. physically i do feel exhausted, but just want to get on and a baby. cant get out of my head that may is coming up and that was the due date of first baby i lost. i was envisioning a lovely summer with new baby.

torn between letting her treat me for a few mths and ttc right away. help!

bunny - difficult one. i am torn between thinking that the body will get pg if its ready to get pg, if you know what i mean. but at the same time, you don't want to risk another mc. i think i would get treated, but let her know that you will have sex as normal without obsessively ttc . . . not sure if its really possible.

either which way, fingers crossed and hope that she can rebalance you quickly . . .i went to my acupuncturist just a couple of days after my d&c and went weekly to get my hormones and system back in place. i got my bfp six weeks later - after one af. was sooo chuffed.

sorry for newcomers ladyhelen and nuttypixie but welcome.

and big congratulations cricri - that is so amazing. fingies and everything crossed for you. xoxoxo

Thanks for all your good wishes - it means a lot.
Bunny It's hard knowing what to do for the best and I can't imagine what it must be like to have had more than one mc. I agree with TJuice - perhaps keep BD'ing without obsessing too much (if that's possible!)... Hopefully it won't take too long for the benefits of acupuncture to kick in. I started having treatments after Christmas and got my BFP on my first full cycle as I was mid-cycle when I had my first session. I'm going to continue going for treatment regularly now in the hope that it will help support this new pregnancy. In the meantime try to rest as much as you can and make sure you're eating well to get your body ready. Best of luck to you.

Bunny I'm with TJuice I'm a big believer of if it's meant to happen, it's meant to happen! It's a difficult one and only you can answer it really. Like you said with May coming it would be lovely to be pg by then, but you need to look after yourself as well. Sorry I've nothing constructive to say, but i'm sending you hugs and positive thoughts and let's hope they help hugs

thank you lovely ladies for your words of support.

you are right Mollie, if it is meant to be it will happen when it does. am just going to chill and not have ttc on my mind (hard as it is) for a few weeks (or days) and try to just enjoy dd. thanks for the hugs and good wishes. x

Bunny how are you feeling today hun? Made any life changing decisions?

I agree - if its going to happen it will. Hopefully dh will stop counting accidentally which will make it more likely that it might happen!

hiya not been here for a while but been following this thread when I can.

Today is my due date of the baby I lost in August and I'm feeling strangely sad about it all. I'm 22+2 weeks and part of me feels if I didn't lose that baby I wouldn't be having this little girl but I still have that feeling of loss. I haven't done anything to mark today theres nothing that seems right TBH.

Thinking of you Kitty and wishing you and your little one lots of love. A very sad day, but the best is yet to be xx

hi kitty
totally understand - i was due the 19th of march and its really strange and sad. i am so happy for this little girl too but i met a woman yesterday who is due this month and I thought "that could have been me".

thoughts with you today xoxoxo

sweetkitty I know how you are feeling, I cried on 29th December because that was the due date of one of my miscarriages, I thought I would be alright but just broke down lots of love to you XX ps I am approx 7 weeks pregnant!

hey sweetkitty been thinking alot about due dates as mine seems to be coming thick and fast. Been trying to think of ways to 'mark' the day, but nothing seems quite right. went to a mother and toddler group the other day and came across tweo woman who looked exactly the same number of weeks pregnant as I should have been totally broke my heart.

Sweetkitty I also know how you are feeling. My EDD for the baby I miscarried in September is coming up in 10 days' time and I keep thinking about how things would have been if it had all worked out. I've recently found out I'm pg again, which has helped, but it's still difficult coming to terms with what should have been and wasn't. I've also struggled to find a way of marking the occasion - I may plant a rose bush or something. It's very personal though so don't feel that you should do something if it doesn't feel right.
I hope you're feeling a bit better today (((hugs))) to you.

Thanks for all the lovely messages. I feel sad but at the same time feel that the baby that was lost wasn't strong enough for the world and we were sent this little girl instead.

We will never forget our lost little ones but it's so heartening to hear that so many of us are no pregnant again.

March 31st doubly bitter for me. EDD for mc 1, but also last treatment for mp... Was really glad that ds wasn't too early so didn't arrive on that date - I think it would have made it really difficult.

Didn't have definite edds for most recent mc as too early - but secretary at work is about 2 - 3 weeks ahead of most recent which is rather difficult.

Its very peculiar - when I was pregnant, everything was very low key as a colleague was having problems, and I certainly wouldn't have wanted to make it even worse - but that's not happening for the secretary, even though it is known that I've had a mc...

Well been watching the thread title and kept meaning to join but part of me was thinking 'hopefully this month will be it and I might not need to'
Sadly got af on Friday so no go this month too.
Recognise a lot of you from mc boards when I had my 2 mc last year. Will read all of the thread when I can to catch up!
Sweetkitty - it is a wierd feeling isn't it.
My edd for my first mc is on Saturday. I kept thinking I would feel ok as long as I was pg again by then - but now I know I am not

Hello everyone,

I had my consultants appointment today, about the post mortem results for Hope.
It looks like she didn't have Down's, but their were indicators that things started to go wrong about 2 weeks before she was born. However, they have no idea what was wrong But she was small for her dates and they said she could have died about 2 weeks before... However I am not sure about that as I heard a heartbeat at the hospital on the Sat, 3 days before no heartbeat was confirmed.

So sorry Cece. Would like to give you rl hug...

Oh forgot to add the ocnsultant said he had no problems with us ttc even though I haven't had the gynae consultant appointment. (I described my symptoms to him..) He is also an gyn/ob consultant so DH very happy and me too with ragrds to that. The GP said we had to wiat till sfter seeing gynae doc...

Cece - such a sad day for you - must make all your memories of little Hope very raw
Good news about the ttc though - consultant will know better than GP I would think

Jackstini sorry you had to join us, but glad you did, also sorry evil AF got you, she's such a witch!

CeCe what a shame you couldn't get more out of the postmortem but good news on being able to ttc again. Did the consultant give any indication what has been causing all this pain?

sweetkitty How are you today?
mistle Why are people so insensitive
Bunny You OK?

Apparently its fine as I've not been overtly flouncing around saying a) that I am/was pgt and b) that I've just had a mc - and the fact that I was off due to a cold anyway meant that I didn't even turn up looking lousy without another excuse. I must say that its not as bad now that I've got ds anyway, but even so...

Lousy maternity benefit here too, although not too bad about flexible working.

Cece Sorry to hear that the results of the post-mortem were inconclusive. Today must have been very difficult for you. Good news about ttc though.
Mistlethrush at other people's lack of sensitivity!
Jackstini I remember you, weren't we on the Due in March 2008 AN thread together last year? EDD are hard Fingers crossed this will be your month. In the meantime you'll get lots of support from everybody on here.
Hello to everybody else.