TTC after Miscarriage Thread 8

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Just starting this as last thread nearly full💕🌈

@Chellooo awh hun, don't beat yourself up about what happened. For what it's worth, the exact same thing happened to us last month too and I reacted the exact same way 😞 I think it's often hard for our hubbies to dtd on demand and then they get stage fright. It's absolutely not that you can't make him happy! Have you spoken to him about it?

@Indianna2006 oh no 😥 I'm so sorry that you've had a bfn. I hope you're okay 💕 I absolutely hate the FRER indents, I had a really juicy indent line on the day of O before so knew it was just an indent. It's so disheartening to see something and it to amount to nothing.

@MrsGrealish hope you're feeling a bit better today?

@pangolin84 I've had 8 days of high before which was absolute torture! Fully recommend using a OPKs at the same time so you can see when your Lh is increasing as the CBs don't really help with that!

@theblueflowers I think ovulation spotting is a thing. I've not had it before but I know lots of ladies do get it so it's not likely to be anything to worry about! God knows how CB works but I defo start getting highs when the EWCM begins so I suspect that's something to do with the estrogen surge?

@LuckyMoonstone how are you getting on today? Did you do another opk this morning? 🤞

@Chellooo I know this makes you feel like shit but please don't let it. He's feeling the pressure. I went through exactly the same thing actually in May the month I got pregnant. We DTD on CD8 I got my peak CD10 I told him and I swear I don't know what happened but he couldn't that day or the day after. Like nothing. Believe me I tried everything. It's the pressure and nothing else. I even asked him to put 'it' in a cup and give it to me. He wouldn't. He's never been like that again in fact he's ridiculous horny atm. I gave up that month it annoyed me so much I gave up for May. I think I posted all this on another thread too. I got pregnant though. The CD8 sex must have worked. He told me about a week after it was the pressure I was having none of it. I think he knows my user name so I hope he's not reading this🙈 (I may change it soon I like to spill my guts out in total privacy)

@Indianna2006 I'm sorry for the bfn 😞 I thought 12dpo with no spotting was a sure thing Xx

After my massive bleed at the start of the week I've had nothing, nada, So it looks like my current AF is 2 days of brown spotting and a massive bleed. I did an OPK last night just out of interest and it's like 0.43 so high enough for me. Not peak or anything. I think my hormones needed looked at because this has been a hateful month with mid cycle bleeding and brown spotting. 😩

@theblueflowers yay for the bags though 😊

@calimc83 I don’t know 😞 just feel like giving up. It’s so hard isnt it.

@Chellooo sorry your feeling like this. Like @MrsGrealish said it is the pressure. It can get to them.
itd hard to try make it light hearted after so long. I usually don’t say much about it and we DTD a lot anyway so tends not to matter. But this cycle as he was going away. On time felt more pressure and was a bit more difficult. Which is why I hate timed dtd. I avoid it at all costs.

well I feel on a right Debbie downer today. I know I will pick myself back up in a few days. Think I’m beginning to realise it’s gonna takes us ages to conceive again. An I just can’t bare the thought of that.

im so angry and bitter and jealous. At everyone around me with there two children. An just think I just want that. I’ve wanted it for 3 years. Why is it so hard.

it’s so unfair and cruel.

meh. Anyway. CD1. On I plod.

@MrsGrealish I get brown spotting after my period ends. I never used to get it, but sometimes it can last 4 days after I've finished bleeding. Is that the same as what you're having too?

@Indianna2006 I think it's completely normal to feel that way - I know I certainly do. I go through waves of being ok and then being really angry/sad. I think I too, am beginning to plan a future with only having 1 child which makes me so so sad. I so wanted a sibling for DD. Dtd is absolutely no fun anymore. Just know you're not alone 💕

@pangolin84 I'm on day 4 of CB flashing smileys but I don't think it's going to happen soon no good CM and I've done opk strips in the evening and they are not looking high yet so I reckon I'm in for a long stint of flashing smileys 🙄

@theblueflowers glad you got your bags back 🥳

@Indianna2006 so sorry lovely. It's so hard to see a BFN when you just want it so badly 💕 hope you're ok

@Chellooo big hugs 🤗 I didnt tell DH anything when we were first trying with our DS and I won't this time. We fell on cycle 2 with DS and second pregnancy that MC we DTD once 5 days before O and fell. It was really hard not to be very disheartened when DTD didn't work around my peak days but the DTD we did before peak days worked out for us so don't lose hope it's over it might not be.

@MrsGrealish how are you feeling covid wise? Can you get some blood tests done for hormones?

@mummatara @bunnykins123 sorry I was having a 'woe is me' moment there. Covid wise a lot better. It's day 6 now so I need to pull myself together. Back at work Saturday and I cannot wait. I hate over obsessing. The brown spotting has been kinda ongoing this cycle started at ovulation then culminated in the big bleed. Yes I was thinking blood hormone levels xx

Ladies thank-you so much! It's funny how you unload to strangers on the Internet things you'd never tell your closest friends 😂😂

@Chellooo you are so welcome😘 i was a bit mean to DH in may. I thought if you can't do it when I want to I'm not doing it when you want to. The cycle broke when we went on holiday 3 weeks later 🤣

@bunnykins123 yes there was barely a whisper of a line! So it’s def not following last months pattern. A bit more ewcm today though so maybe soon. BBT is all over the place, probably because of the mad weather

@Indianna2006 sorry to hear of the bfn. I hope you enjoy the spa day. A bit of relax and unwind will help 🥰

@Chellooo sorry that you're feeling down about the situation. It's the hardest journey when we want something so much. But if you've DTD on your high days before peak your definitely not out!

First sign of ewcm for me today on CD13. I said to DH we need to DTD tonight, as soon as the words left my mouth I regretted it, he wasn't too impressed with me trying to schedule it in 😆 I don't want it to take the fun out of it but it's hard to not let it just become about baby making!!

@LuckyMoonstone so sorry it's all frustrating!

Hurrah for found luggage!

AF is in the house now: hello cycle 6 .....

Got my test at lunchtime. Now to decide when to test. I have work tomorrow, and if positive, I don't want to have to come in and keep shtum all day, but waiting until Saturday feels soooo long.
Do you think a post work POAS is a waste or worth it?
(Fully expecting AF to rock up any minute now I have bought tests!)

@DrinkingAllTheGin good luck!

@curliegirlie awh no, I'm so sorry 😞 big glass of wine for you tonight!

@Astar21 I have to give DH warning. I absolutely hate having to do that but otherwise he will fall asleep on the sofa or will stay up too late 🤦‍♀️ good luck bding!

@LuckyMoonstone my temps are all over the place this cycle too. I've stopped temping as the hot weather is throwing them all off! I would go off opks and EWCM

@Chellooo that's why this forum is so good as you can talk about things that you wouldn't irl. How are you feeling now? I had a big chat with DH when it happened to me and it made me feel way better!

@MrsGrealish it could be. Hormone levels go really wonky after a miscarriage. It doesn't sound like anything to worry about though!

@bubunnykins123 I'm fine, just a wobbly earlier...its just hard. Tried to talk to him but it turned into a 'I'm not a machine I can't just perform' but in the same breath saying to give him notice so he doesn't sort himself out the night before 🙄

Honestly, I blame fucking porn, i swear men are so desensitised to actual women these days!

Just gonna write this month off and have a night to myself and watch love island 😂

BFN here. Might test again first thing. Now 5 days late.

Name change

My game with DH of guess my username is coming back to haunt me🤣

@Chellooo that's sounds exactly like how my conversation went 😅 he still never explained why he wouldn't use the cup. I didn't care 🤷‍♀️ Suppose not the most romantic way of conceiving but even so

@MrsCristiano are you trying to tell us your DH is a famous footballer?! Maybe suggesting the 'cup' makes them think they are insufficient? They are very proud individuals!

@DrinkingAllTheGin ah I'm sorry to hear that!

@Chellooo for what it's worth, that's kinda where I'm at too. He needs warning so he can prepare himself mentally as well I think. Which obviously takes all the spontaneity out of bding and makes it feel very regimented. But if he's happy, I'm happy!

@bunnykins123 jeez in my wildest dreams 😂 he's an engineer

Haha the 'cup' shattered his manhood 🤣🤣 sorry not sorry

@Chellooo if he’s going to ‘sort himself out’ he could do it in a cup and give it straight to you afterwards 😂 win win 🤣

@MrsCristiano @LuckyMoonstone 😂😂 if he came near me with a cup, he'd be wearing the contents 😂

@Chellooo @LuckyMoonstone 😂😂

I'd be heading down for the calpol syringe..

@MrsCristiano don’t waste a drop 🤣

@LuckyMoonstone @MrsCristiano @Chellooo the calpol syringe is a great call! Or the pre seed applicator - whichever is nearest 🙃