One year+ TTC part 3

[BritInNZ]

Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

Ladies sorry for tmi but i have been the loo and have EWCM! Celebrating the small wins 🎉🥂

@Indianna2006 thanks so much! Fingers crossed you are getting back on track xx

Hi guys!

@Indianna2006 great to hear you're starting another 2WW 🤞🏻

@BritInNZ have you started letrozole yet?

How is everyone else getting on?

A little update from us... we are going ahead with IVF now and have an appointment in 3 weeks with the nurse, then I hope you will start the following cycle. I've been advised to do long protocol, but I have some questions which I'll be to ask the doctor this Thursday. It's a bit surreal but it feels good to have finally made a decision x

@FlyOnTheWall89 no my period is due tomorrow, so if it arrives on time I should start it on Saturday 😊 great news about having a plan in place! Things will move soooo quickly now and like @Carla2601 you'll be pregnant before you know it! So happy that you have something to work with now 😊

@FlyOnTheWall89 that’s good!! Probably feels a bit daunting. But think that is the right next step. And it could be your path to being pregnant very soon. Which is exciting!

@BritInNZ and exciting for your to start the letrozole. It’s just another step isn’t it.

🤞🏼🤞🏼 Have my fingers crossed for everyone these next steps are what make these babies happen.

@FlyOnTheWall89 really pleased for you as you know! You can do it 💪💪💪!

@NatW2021 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 It’s so nice to just get something that you think YES to sometimes isnt it!

@Indianna2006 so pleased you’re hopefully out of your limbo x

@BritInNZ exciting - really hope it goes great

so much progress gals! ❤️❤️❤️

I let myself get a little excited yesterday as AF didn't arrive but it arrived today. So letrozole starts Sunday evening for me 😊 fingers crossed we get somewhere!!

How do you feel about starting today @BritInNZ - hope you're okay!

@FlyOnTheWall89 first pill done! Feel absolutely fine so that's great. We booked a holiday to Crete yesterday (during our trip to the UK) so I have something to look forward to! Was a funny conversation saying 'I kind of hope I'm not pregnant by then so I can go all out on the all inclusive drinks' but also 'I kind of hope I am pregnant by then so this is all over' 😂

That's great @BritInNZ ! It's at least something new to try and tick off. Everything crossed it works. Im calling the clinic most days to try and get an appointment next week or the week after to give us a chance to start this cycle. Not looking hopeful rn x

@FlyOnTheWall89 ah no that's so annoying! If you can't get in this cycle are you prioritised for your next? That's how it worked with my ovulation induction.

Ye I have an appointment for 7th June but as I have to start stims on CD21, I'll have to wait nearly a month until the next CD21 to begin and then it begins to get tricky with us visiting parents abroad and then we will have to come up with an excuse to delay the trip etc. we are going to see what we can do. We haven't told family and tbh, just managing our own emotions is enough for now, we don't want to begin telling people. Hopefully it will fall into place and we can get going. I only have a certain period of holiday because I'm a teacher - if I wasn't we would have a bit more flexibility.

@FlyOnTheWall89 ah yes! That's so tough!! When is CD21 for you? Fingers crossed you manage to get in touch with them and sorted in time. I know what you mean with flexibility - I'm heaps more flexible but you still have to plan these things. I'm also not drinking while on letrozole. It's not that I'm not allowed to, but I figured if this is last chance saloon for us I need to do my bit too and not drink. So now I'm going to have people asking me if I'm pregnant because I'm not drinking 🙄

Opened Facebook to ANOTHER baby announcement today 😭 I don't understand how people get pregnant so quickly?! And why do I torture myself by working out roughly how long it took them?! 😭 I'm like 'okay so you've been married 7 months, you announced at 3 months so it only took you 4 months'. The jealousy and anger is unreal 😢 I literally want to Google 'can't get pregnant after 16 months' and there to be a miracle answer why...

Oh I know @BritInNZ it's giving me big time anxiety at the moment because I can't control those angry / sad / upset / envious feelings. I completely am the same and I think it's quite normal. My friend who has just married and is openly told me she is trying (I guarantee she will be pregnant before me even with IVF lined up) went to a wedding this weekend and the bride is already early days pregnant. They make it seems so bloody easy.

CD21 is 5th June then 5th July. 😭 I've just been looking at freezing sperm which we would have to pay for but as my OH is away for the first 2 weeks of July (completely unchangable), we could do that... but then he wouldn't be here for EC and transfer if we do fresh which maybe isn't the best idea. Arrrrhhhh why can't it just be sex and done.

@FlyOnTheWall89 it's so nice to come on here and know I'm not the only who feels this way. I'm sure DH thinks I'm mad sometimes but he just isn't affected the same way I am. I get anxiety to open Facebook now in case another announcement comes up 😫

Ah that's so hard! Are you going to try the clinic again today? I hope you can get it sorted for this cycle!!! I know what you mean, I still feel grief and upset that I didn't get that exciting/fun journey to pregnancy. I'm quite bitter about it all, but just keep thinking one day I will have a baby and I will forget all this awfulness.

@BritInNZ omg I am exactly the same. I feel bitter and resentment. I hate that my choice of conceiving naturally has all but vanished and even though I'm so grateful to have access to IVF, it isn't the journey I wanted. It's effecting all my life choices from small things to the job I now have to stay in which I am unsatisfied by, it's effected my relationship and the fact I hate the idea of pumping myself up with so many drugs to make a baby and it's more likely to not work than work. It's a really tough period of time. I agree, hopefully one day it will be this small period of time and the pain will be mostly forgotten.

Do you ever read those threads where people are getting back in touch months after having their baby - all the journeys were different and hard in different ways.... one day this will be that thread. Hopefully.

@BritInNZ @FlyOnTheWall89 pregnancy announcements are the worst! Not only are they incredibly triggering I’ve never understood why people are happy to share an internal photo of their body and their growing baby with people they don’t know (let’s be honest most of the people on Facebook aren’t friends anymore it’s out of date). I’ll be certain not to upset anyone if I get past 12 weeks….because I won’t be ‘announcing it’ at all! Apart from in person to the people who love us and will love the baby.

I’m so pleased things are moving for both of you. For what it’s worth I think you could do egg collection fine with a cab home (I didn’t need anything and I think most people are fine just make sure he’s stocked up all your fave bits so you can chill) but transfer is really nice to do together (you see the embryo and you get photos and it’s a bit like a first scan) so I guess it’s which is worse (another delay or solo transfer). Although everything crossed they can just bring you forward by two days or you’re two days late in your cycle in June! X

@Carla2601 hahaha good point. A girl I don't know that well (I worked with her for a year a while ago), who shared her difficulties getting pregnant with me and said oh I'll not announce and it's so hard and blah blah blah, has honestly broadcast every single moment of big bump and baby not only on Instagram but also posted on FB AND used FB stories. Who even uses FB stories?!? I think people are very quick to forget.

Top tips again @Carla2601. I think we will miss the cycle where EC would be around 2nd/3rd July because transfer will be when my OH is away and we have discussed it and it will probably be quite difficult emotionally and not something we want to do apart. So annoying but maybe it's just meant to be that way. We will probably have to wait until the following cycle. 😢

For interests sake I called ABC Harley Street which is now actually CREATE St Paul's and they could see me today for a scan to check basically everything and then I'd be booked in straight away and could begin on CD1. They only do mild / natural modified which I much prefer the sound of but it's hard to go against the advice of the consultants at C&W. Their standard is long protocol to maximise egg collection. For anyone else looking ABC do a very reasonable package which inc ICSI was £3950 and the scan would have been £200.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I deff think sounds like better trying to do it together and waiting for another cycle even though tbh has sinks as you just don’t want to wait anymore.

re on the stuff about announcing. I’ve always thought sharing scans was weird. But having had a mixed bag of conceiving and losing a pregnancy well two now and feeling more protective of letting people into they world.

once you fall pregnant. Whether it took you 3 months or 16 months. Somehow..your just so excited once you get that scan of that baby. Most ppl just want to whole world to know. An I think it’s actually more heightened the longer it took because it’s felt like some secret youve desperately wanted a baby for a very long time. And other people are so unaware. And you almost then want to shout it from the rooftops. Well that’s what I find in a lot of people.

i dont think it’s that ppl forget. It’s just overwhelming happiness and you wanted to finally discuss it and share it. Not be secretive and not mention it to ppl. Cos you’ve spent a year plus sharing NO NEWS at all haha.

Anyway that’s my two scents on that. I think once you got 13 plus weeks with a scan. And get further on. You do forget a little how hard it was. Cos the pain fades a bit.

hope that makes sense. Not trying for say ppl should of shouldn’t do it.

GOD I waffled there haha.

I am 9 or 10dpo…waiting for this first period is creating huge anxiety.

we did dtd when I felt ovulation pain. But nothing before I was still bleeding from surgery. And it was be nothing short of miracle. Just want a new fresh cycle.

@FlyOnTheWall89 for the very little it’s worth I think that’s a good call although Totally appreciate the frustration of the delay. We could have started in Feb but af was due the day of OH surgery so didn’t want to just in case they were unable to get any and we were left with different decisions. We delayed till March and I’m so glad we did because they said to me you can just have good and less good cycles and we ended up landing on a good one so everything crossed that’s the same for you too.

And lol I can imagine but I definitely won’t be changing my mind on it for me that pic and announcement is private….the world would probably be easier to navigate if there was a bit less sharing on socials haha

@Indianna2006 that’s so frustrating I’m sorry that’s happening and hoping for improvements for you super soon x

@Indianna2006 good perspective on announcements. I always think 'why should infertility take away the moment from me' but I'm also with @Carla2601 that I probably wouldn't do a big announcement, just tell the people who matter. But my husband is quite secretive on social (didn't even share a picture of our wedding!) so I know it's what he would want too. I'm in the mind that the people who matter will know and others will find out when I share normal pics and I have a bump 😂 although that doesn't feel like it will happen any time soon!

@BritInNZ you never know….come on the letrozole!! Oh yes I agree you shouldn’t hide away and avoid photos with a bump (although I hate having my photo taken so I might try 😂)

@Carla2601 haha I love your optimism! But I just think that ovulation isn't an issue for me so it's not going to fix anything that's wrong. We'll see but I'm definitely not optimistic. I even went down a Google rabbit hole about small cervix's today. When I had my HSG they couldn't get the catheter in and had to use an even smaller one, and even then couldn't inflate the balloon. So now I'm like maybe it's too small for the sperm to actually swim through?! Clutching at straws, I'm sure that's not the issue 😂