One year+ TTC part 3

[BritInNZ]

Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

@Carla2601 - so pleased to hear everything is going well 💗

@BritInNZ - Hope you had a good night out, i know what you mean about hangovers i just cant hack them anymore and you feel like you have just wasted a whole day! It must feel positive having a new plan/approach, looking forward to hearing how you get on.

I am CD4 period is over and done with, does anyone get ovulation pains early on? Its like i can feel everything growing! I am feeling a bit brighter/positive today, Sunday was the worst i just felt so down in the dumps but you just have to pick yourself up and carry on x

@NatW2021 glad to hear you're feeling happier. I think it's hard to distinguish between actual turmoil and hormones. Like I always have two days where I feel awful towards the end of my period, so I'm guessing it must be hormonal as it's always consistent! Doesn't help that this whole TTC thing is totally crap. Sorry for being forgetful, but do you have a plan of action in place yet?

Yes will be interesting to see how I get on, really hoping I don't get bad side effects! I already struggle to be motivated with work with TTC sucking the life out of me, let alone if I feel like rubbish too 😂

We finally booked a trip back to the UK which I can't wait for. Potentially going away to Greece too so need to get holiday shopping (I've forgotten how to do it!). Will be early 30th birthday present for me. 30th will be bitter sweet - I will definitely be emotional about lack of being pregnant/having a baby when I started TTC at 28. But hey, at least I'm prepared for it.

@BritInNZ - Yes think hormones play a big part but definitely find myself feeling overly emotional and things just kick me off and i get upset. My DH just called from work and said one of his colleagues wives is pregnant. (We have been on a few nights out with them) I think they had been trying awhile) he said it gives him some hope, it breaks my heart as he doesnt say much but i know its upsetting him.

I am just waiting for my follow up from NHS appointment, i am hoping they will do a Hycosy but then i need to lose some weight for IVF so that will be my next step after my holiday. Just feels like endless hurdles xx

@BritInNZ - sorry sent before finishing! Aw that will be so lovely i bet you cant wait, it really helps having something to look forward to and takes sometime of TTC thoughts xx

@NatW2021 have you seen a consultant yet? have they told you your next step is IVF? Are you around the 12 month mark now? Has your partner had a semen analysis done? You may find they ask you to keep trying longer if there aren’t any obvious issues. That’s what they told me and I’m 35…. I think you are younger than me ☺️

@Hoping43 - yes its 12 months this cycle. My DH has had his semen analysis done all fine. I havent spoke to consultant yet but i am just preparing myself that i need to lose weight in preparation for if/when the times comes as i dont want it holding me back any longer.

@BritInNZ - not sure if this will be helpful - i have followed her awhile - she talks super quick (i have noticed that when i listen to American podcasts 😂) but might be useful x

@NatW2021 thanks! Might have a listen when AF arrives. I find podcasts mega depressing, no idea why. But they take me down an anxious rabbit hole 😂

@BritInNZ i know what you meN and wasn't sure if i should share as i too am trying to come away from information overload x

Hi everyone, I was on the last thread very briefly before disappearing for a month or two because everything started to feel a little too much.

Anyway, I just wanted to update you all that I have finally gotten my BFP! 11 months, 1 early CP and 10 cycles later, it’s happened.

I’m a little anxious as I’m still 11dpo but I’ve been testing since 9dpo and the lines are getting lovely and dark each day.

I just wanted to come and say thank you for letting me join in and welcoming me on the last thread and thank you for being a safe space for when I needed it.

I wish those still ttc all the luck in the world ❤️✨

@L0ts - Amazing congratulations! Bet it feels like a huge relief although i understand the nervousness. Xx

@l0ts congratulations! And good luck for the rest of your pregnancy. Hope you’re feeling well x

Thank you so much ladies!

I have had next to no symptoms tbh, totally different to my first pregnancy with my son. I know that that’s probably going to change though. All I’ve had is some dull achy feeling down below and across my thighs.

Ironically this month I’d given up a bit, I thought there was no chance. We only dtd 3 times, I had a migraine for 2/3 days and took prescription strength cocodamol, antihistamines twice a day for spring allergies.. I even had a uti and took antibiotics, I really thought I was out. I thought there’s no chance after I’ve popped all of this medication.

I got my first positive digital yesterday too so it’s starting to feel a bit more real.

Thank you again, I’ll check here from time to time to see how you’re all doing! ❤️

@L0ts congratulations!! Enjoy and happy and healthy 9 months.

Well after 3 and half week of bleeding. Finally it has stopped. And after 5 weeks of no sex I have finally dtd again hurrah 😅😂

Also I’ve had a negative pregnancy test phew. Bit backwards. But I’m so glad my hormones are now back to normal.

so I await to se when I ovulate. Hoping it will be soonish within a week.

so stocking up on OPKs again. 🙈🙈 We should have shares in these pregnancy tests and OPKs amount we all have to use!

@BritInNZ hormones are the worst. Pre AF are always far more emotional. And again found j was coping fairly well and minute I got to my hormones trying to drop close to my negative test I was all cray cray again for a few dahs. Snotty crying the mess. I feel a bit more stable again now they’ve evened out 🤞🏼

Hi, I'm new to this thread but this month me and dh have been TTC for 1 year. I had a mc at 7 weeks in March so I need to wait 10 months before I can go to my GP to start fertility investigations. In a way before I found out I was pregnant I was looking forward to getting to May so I could speak to my GP, being in the situation I'm in feels quite lonely.
Is there anyone here in the same situation? I've followed the TTC after MC thread for a while so if you think I'm better off there please say.

Welcome @Frida9 most of us on the thread have been TTC for over a year now too. I’m TTC my third, had no issues conceiving my first two 💔. Unexplained secondary infertility and onto month 14 now. It’s a hard journey wherever you are on it. I hope you can get some answers when you go to the GP. I think it’s all really strange. I have friends from my NCT class who had various fertility treatments and tried for 6 years. Nothing worked then eventually they just got pregnant naturally and now have two children, two years apart. It really feels like there’s no rhyme or reason in some cases and that most people get there eventually 🤞🏻🤞🏻. Wishing you the best of luck xx

@Indianna2006 that’s really positive, and hurrah for DTD haha 🎉🎉🎉

@Frida9 welcome, and you’re very welcome here. This is such a lovely and supportive thread so you’ve found a good spot. I’m so so sorry about your MC and also to hear you’ve now been told you have to wait much longer than you were expecting for further support. None of it’s fair is it x

@Frida9 👋 Me and DH have also been ttc our second for a year now. Literally only found out I’d had a mmc 5 weeks ago. And only a week out from surgery. I found out at 9 weeks. It sucks to feel like you finally made that stepping stone of the two pinks lines. To feel right back at the beginning.

instead of thinking each month is closer. I now almost feel wtf was that year for?! It’s just been a waste.

I’m now awaiting my ovulation to start ttc for cycle 1 since Mc. Cycle 1 😫 took 11 cycles before so..

@Indianna2006 that is how I feel, I'm really worried that it happens again at the end of this year meaning I have to wait ANOTHER year to get advice from my GP. I know I'm very lucky though that where I live they start investigations after a 2nd MC. Really hoping it doesn't come to that and I get pregnant soon and can have a healthy baby but I feel like it's been so long now that I want to talk to a medical professional. When I had the MC the midwives gave me details of charities to contact which was great but it feels like everyone's just saying "you got pregnant once so you have to just wait now".
I know it's stupid but I really want to be a mum by the time I'm 30, I'm 28 (and a half) now and it feels like I'm going to miss that goal. Especially as I can't get any medical advice on the NHS. It's really scary to think that I'll wait another year for them to tell me there is something wrong, or for them to say "just keep trying because you were pregnant before". At least talking to my GP would stop me worrying so much.

@Frida9 I know it’s hard. And it could be almost another year for you to fall again. But you just have to remember that can be normal.

there isn’t really a need for you to get advice from a GP because there is nothing they can tell you if you fell pregnant within a year. Which if you have been trying a year and mc in March than you fell quicker than me 🙂

I understand the frustration. I do. Because even if you have fallen pregnant once there is no guarantee how long or if it does again all the time. Just got to just try your best each month to increase your chances and keep going. It’s just crap when losing a pregnancy pushes you back to the beginning.

it’s naturally to worry. Because it’s an unknown still..even when you have fallen.

will you fall again. Will it be okay. Or will you mc again. And be back here all over again.

but it may seem like everyone gets pregnant super easy and if your not pregnant after 6 months that abnormal. But it really isn’t that case. It’s such a mixed bag. An that does suck sometimes.

@Frida9 the best advice I can give you is to stop putting a timeline on it. We all know life doesn't happen as a linear journey that we can plan to a T, let alone when TTC. I was the same when I started trying and I wanted to have a baby by the time I was 30. That was 16 months ago and I still haven't had a positive pregnancy test and I turn 30 in 4 months. Unfortunately we have to let these things go and understand it will happen when it happens. If we're under pressure to make things happen before a certain date, it only adds more stress and worry to your situation.

No update from me. This month has been great as I haven't had sore boobs from ovulation onwards which has been a dream! AF due in two days and I haven't had any spotting yet either which is a small win! Looking back over the last few months, I would have started spotting yesterday. Got to take these little wins when you're not getting your big win 😂 how's everyone else getting on?

@BritInNZ - thats amazing! As you said got to celebrate the small wins!

Not much to report my end, CD10 so approaching ovulation, had lots of ovulation twinges this month. I am on holiday tomorrow bit we are staying over night tonight at a nice hotel do holiday officially starts soon. I am taking a break and will be back in 2 weeks, fingers crossed we have all have some positive news to share 🙏 xx

@NatW2021 have the best time!!! Enjoy your well earned break x

@Carla2601 - Thank you i really cant wait. All the running round getting organised the last few days really took my mind of it all so hoping i wont think about it on my hols. Hope you are doing ok xx

@BritInNZ yes small wins!! Love that and think that’s the best way to look at it!

@NatW2021 enjoy your holiday!! Deffo take a couple of weeks break. Forget about everything else. Enjoy the sun and your time with your partner. Try switch off. Sounds perfect!

I think..I may be back in the 2ww..trying to work out ovulation and hormones post mc is an absolute minefield. And my opks were doing odd things and nothing seemed to add up. But I had ovulation pains and EWCM which has now gone and a temp shift today. So if it stays high. Guess they was ovulation.

an now the fun begins 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂