One year+ TTC part 3

[BritInNZ]

Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

@Indianna2006 amazing news!!! I’m so happy for you ! 🤭 I know it will be difficult for you not to worry but this is fresh hope 🍀 Congratulations ! Xx

@Indianna2006 thats wonderful news! Thrilled for you and will keep everything crossed that all goes well for you!

@Tinkerbell098 that sort of makes sense because they don’t want to risk it but not sure how they knew when it would fall it can be any of 5/6 days I thought (or it was for me…I didn’t know till 3 days before). September will be here in no time and I’m so glad they took some time with you but sorry it’s been so stressful and upsetting.

@Indianna2006 congrats!!! Amazing news! I know you'll be worrying (like we all do, but with even more reason) so take it easy and understand everything you're feeling is valid. I am so hoping this works out for you - I was 17 months TTC, so looks like around the year and a half mark is the magic number!

Hope everyone else is doing well too. I'm 12 weeks today and off to have a private scan this afternoon. As we're in the UK, my official scan is next week once I am back in NZ but I wanted to check everything was still okay before letting everyone know. The worries never disappear! When you're TTC you're worried something is wrong and it's never going to happen, and then you fall pregnant and worry something will go wrong (and then we'll be constantly worrying about them once they're born for the rest of their lives)... so I think it's fair to say we'll all be worrying for the rest of our lives 😂 but it will all be worth it in the end! Sending love to everyone who is still struggling through the TTC part 💗

@BritInNZ thats very exciting !! Is this your first scan? ☺️ You’re so right … we’ll all be worrying forever now 😆 x

@Koalie no I had one at 6+4 and saw the little heartbeat, but guess it's the first scan when it will actually look like a baby rather than a blob on the screen haha!

@BritInNZ oh gosh yes, the little thing will have grown a lot 🤭 can’t remember if you said whether you’ll find out the sex? X

@Koalie no we're not going to find out 😊 after 17 longgg months neither of us care if it's a boy or girl so we'll just wait for a lovely surprise!

@BritInNZ that's lovely ! We will do the same … one day ☺️ X

Thanks everyone!

@BritInNZ yes the worry is non stop. I’m just getting through each day and week for now. I can’t change the outcome. Just do my best to mitigate the anxiety. Which is mainly around scans for me.

yes it will of grown loads 🥰 enjoy xx

@BritInNZ good luck! I also have my scan today (21 weeks) so it’s clearly a day for it haha

@BritInNZ @Carla2601 - hope everything went well today 💗

I just caved an did a test - BFN as expected i can feel AF on the way (although pms hasnt been as bad so managed to convince myself there was a possibility. At least i know now and can try to focus on my hycosy next week.

i have been in tears this afternoon as i sit and think about how gruelling the last 15 cycles have been and how its been just disappointment after another and how much of a toll it has taken on me mentally, i struggle to recognise myself and forget who i was before this. Hopefully next week i will have clarity. I am going to give it a few cycles after the hycosy (if all is well) and i plan on taking a break because im not sure if i can keep doing this - i need a break.

AF blues have taken a grip, sorry for the negative post x

@NatW2021 it went well, thank you 💗

So sorry you're having a bad day, I still remember them well. What I will say is when it did happen, I couldn't believe how quickly your luck can change. I know you never want to be too positive as it makes the bad news even worse, but one day you'll be so shocked and can't believe how just 4 weeks ago you were in bits.

It's completely gruelling and I will never forget the feeling. When it happens though, you will get back to the original you eventually and you'll remember the hardship and appreciate everything so much more.

Also to echo what others said - the hycosy/HSG really isn't that bad. It's over very quickly - and this is from someone who they struggled to get the catheter in. It's a good thing to tick off the list and lots of people have a boost in fertility after. So keep going!

@NatW2021 I can relate to you feeling like you don’t recognise yourself and feel as though you’re not the same person. I feel this too, although I’m struggling to work out if it’s the fertility or if I’ve felt this way since my Mum died a couple of years ago.

Sorry, I don’t have any wise words, just that i completely understand. I’m also waiting for AF so that I can book my HyCosy - they said to just call up on CD1 which should be any day now. What date is yours booked in for? X

@BritInNZ - glad to hear it went well it must be sp lovely and now you get to share the news with everyone.

I know its crazy to think how quickly it can change. At the moment i am just down a dark hole of feeling helpless and i i now the hycosy might give some answers (if somethings wrong) and boost fertility if all is okas you said so thats some hope. Hopefully i will lose more weight this week which will mean 1 stone to go before i can go private to try letrozole, i feel better knowing i am trying as doing nothing isnt working. I am glad you mentioned about the struggling with the hycosy as my smears are often a bit difficult. X

@Koalie i am sorry about your mum that must be really tough. You have been through alot it is bound to change you.

AF is due friday and hycosy is on cd7 next Thursday x

Glad the scan went well @BritInNZ

@Carla2601 I hope your scan went well too. Can't believe you are that far gone already, how exciting.

@NatW2021 I'm so sorry you're having a bad day and I can also so relate. That disappointment every month is just so painful. My body would always play tricks on me too and make me think I 'felt' things when I was just imagining it  then I would worry I was losing my mind!

I don't think a break is a bad thing. We haven't been trying ever since we got DH's SA results because we obviously know it is physically impossible for me to get pregnant. As shit as our situation is, I have really enjoyed just having normal sex without wondering if it's worked, or the endless symptom spotting and peeing on sticks. It made me feel a bit more like myself again. So perhaps give it a few cycles after your hycosy and then if you need to, just have a few months off. In the grand scheme of things, your mental health is far more important than the relentless trying month after month.

I am keeping everything crossed for the hycosy though and hoping the hycosy magic works for you and you fall quickly afterwards!!

@Indianna2006 that is such good news. I completely understand about how it must still feel worrying. I think you are doing the right thing by taking it a day at a time.

Not much to update from me. It's 4 weeks tomorrow till DH's sperm retrieval. It's driving my crazy waiting tbh but trying to keep busy so I don't obsess over it too much.

@NatW2021 im so sorry you’re feeling this way it’s so awful - it’s like nothing else matters and you can’t get away from it and it’s all consuming. Know that you’re normal and we all understand but I know that’s not much consolation on a day like today. I really hope next week is a better one for you.

@Koalie so sorry about your mum that’s really awful and I’m sure it absolutely compounds all the feelings now as they’re both such stressful and upsetting things to go through it’s absolutely no wonder it’s impacting you.

@BritInNZ glad it went well!! Have you told many people yet?

@lemons44 Tysm it all looked normal according to them so I’m really relieved and happy

@lemons44 @Carla2601 - It is totally relentless, when you know AF is due you just think here we go and and the whole thing starts over it really is exhausting and consuming and i can't escape it.

I am definitely considering a break soon i know i will find it tough to switch off but been thinking of just deleting apps/stopping supplements/stop tracking. All of this could change next week when i know the outcome of the hycosy as if there an issue we will be looking at IVF so trying not to overload myself or give myself hope as things can go either way xx

@lemons44 meant to say 4 weeks, it will soon be here! I remember you saying 7 not long ago, time flys doesn't it x

@Carla2601 yes we've told everyone now. Still have the NIPT and spina bifida stuff next week but we have a reunion party tomorrow and no way can I get away with not telling people when I have a growing bump and won't be drunk 😂

@Hoping43 - how are you? Been thinking of you x

Hi @NatW2021 thanks so much for your message. How are you feeling now? I’m ok, im
on cycle day 45 and no period. My consultant has been on holiday but finally had a scan yesterday and it does seem I’ve ovulated now and due to get my period soon (hopefully) but obviously the letrozole hasn’t done it’s job so having my dose increased. I feel frustrated because I’ve wasted like 7 weeks now. But because we’re not trying now because we’ve been waiting for my period to come etc and I wasn’t sure if I had ovulated or or, it’s been a bit of welcome relief as im not analysing my body every second. I would never have knowingly taken a break but actually I think it’s been good xx

@Hoping43 - frustrating but hopefully this dose increase will do the trick 🙏🤞

Yeah im alright just had to accept im out for another month. Period pains today so hopefully AF arrives on time as i am away with work around ovulation so I'm hoping we just catch it.

I know what you mean about the break - when AF arrives then the lead up to ovulation it does feel like a mini break. Its the TWw that is a killer.

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Hi all, hope everyone is well. I still always keep up with this group to see how everyone is doing, this group really helped me so much. I am now 30 weeks and looking to make some space in the house and wondered if anyone would want my pregnancy test stash? See photo. One from each box has been used other than one box of the first response which is unopened. If anyone (UK based) wants them if you PM me your address I could send them to you. They were all good luck for me! Thanks

Hi all!
I know it's been a while since I last posted, so hope everyone is doing well (maybe some BFP's!).
So a small update... a few months ago my partner and I went to our GP and decided it was time to put our names down for the fertility clinic.
Hadn't heard anything but was told it could take up to 10 months.
Yesterday while on break at work I got a call from the hospital, I'm at the top of the list and my appointment is 14th September (2 days after my birthday)!
I'm so excited and nervous!
People have said it's very quick after the initial appointment so maybe by the end of the year I'll finally get that BFP! X

Hi Ladies

I had my hycosy today it was a bit of drama but we got there in the end and everything is fine, so pleased! X