One year+ TTC part 3

[BritInNZ]

Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

@FlyOnTheWall89 @BritInNZ

Try not to worry too much about symptoms or no symptoms. I know it’s hard. But every women is different and so is every pregnancy.

Amount of ppl who say things like oh well she’s got sickness so must be a good sign. These people have no clue what they are talking about. you can have NO symptoms and have a very healthy pregnancy. And have all the symptoms and it not be healthy.
An that’s coming from someone whose continued to feel sick and feel very pregnant even after the baby has stopped growing.
In fact I’d say my DD out of all 3 pregnancies gave me the less hassle. And she was the baby I actually got, got figure lol.

don’t read into anything 😚 take it as it comes.
also I wouldn’t worry about doing digital weeks confirmation. They don’t really indicate everything is fine either. It’s a gimmick.

my advise is if you are ever worried and concerned. No amount of obsessing over symptoms or no symptoms or tests can reassure you. Only a scan can 🙂

each day and each week and it comes. But yes it goes SLOOOW!!

i am about driving myself bonkers now I’m 8dpo. Thought I was all cool as a cucumber and now I’ve got myself all emotional about see any lines and worrying or seeing no line at all 😭😅 never happy lol

@Koalie I hope you get some answers soon. I’m sure hopefully your body will do what it needs to do. Especially if it’s too early to see anything on an US. Hopefully your body will cotton on at some
point.
Sending you lots of love. It’s crap. One mum and now this. You can call pregnant. Just need a sticky healthy bean in there. It will come. I’m certain. 💗

That's reassuring @Indianna2006, thank you so much. The biggest thing is the insomnia and I'm hungry. I'm not a big eater / snacker and I rarely get to the point of hunger pains but i'm getting them now, even when I've eaten a few hours previously. Scan booked for next Friday. It's going to be a long wait!!! Xx

Ps fingers crossed for this month. 8DPO... I feel you're past the worst of the wait if you don't mind testing quite early...!!!

@FlyOnTheWall89 i have always found symptoms kicked in more week 5 - 6 and by 6 weeks pregnant I suspect you’ll have lots of lovely annoying symptoms going on lol.
how far will you be next Friday?
I only say because if it’s about 6 weeks ish you really can’t see much..it looks like this tiniest bean an might not even yet of developed a heart beat. And week 6 mark is often when for whatever reason if it won’t work out it doesn’t as it’s when the heart starts beating. So I think if you can hold on for a week and go at 7 weeks. You see a little more and I personally find it more reassuring it’s got to 7 weeks but of course it’s upto you 🙂 just think it helps avoid bit of anxiety and unknown if it’s smaller and they can’t see much and you’ll worry.

It’s just what I’d do and I’ve had lots of early scans 🙈🙈 lol. Next time. As there will be a next time!! I’m going for early scan at 7 weeks. Then another one at 9-10 weeks. Then I’ll go for dating at 12-13.
my DH is just gonna have to go along with the two scans cos I’ll need even more reasurance!!

oh don’t. I was doing well. And now I can’t stop thinking about it.
i know I’ll be upset if it negative which is prob is gonna be let’s be honest. But also terrified to be pregnant and wait and hope.

but got to keep hoping right. It’s all you have 🤞🏼

Thank you @Indianna2006 🤍

I am also with you on the early scan thing. I always said after my MMC that if I fell pregnant again I would wait until 9 weeks to have my first scan, as it was all so uncertain and stressful when I went at 6 weeks x

@Indianna2006 I completely know what you mean and thank you for tips. I'll be 6+5/6 I think. More likely to be more rather than less than that given my P-test strength. I didn't do any tracking so can't be exactly sure. My OH goes away the next day for just over 2 weeks so it's either then or I have to wait until I'm nearly 9 weeks. I know we might not see a heartbeat. I'm in two minds but I have left it booked for now. Still might cancel. Xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 oh okay I see that’s makes sense then.
i reckon at 6+5/6 you more than likely will see a heart beat. Less likely if you’d of been closer to 6.
but yes I know what you mean..it’s such a hard personal choice. Because going that early for a scan 2 weeks later your not reassured again and want another one 🙈

well I would anyway. But mostly because of my experiences. Most ppl don’t even have early scans tbh and think nothing of it 🙂🙂

do what works for you 🥰 I just try help if I can so ppl know what to expect or what they hope to see for expectation purposes I guess

Xx

@Indianna2006 thanks for the tips on symptoms. I haven't had anything apart from the insatiable thirst, even the cramps held off for most of yesterday which meant I got a nice nights sleep 😂 just trying to get back into the gym now, my beach body mission I started 6 weeks ago was pretty pointless in the end because I feel like a bag of water walking around now 😂 oh well, this kind of thing makes you realise priorities. DH and I were laughing about how I fell at literally the worst time - UK trip (with belated wedding reception), all inclusive Greece trip, my 30th birthday and Christmas and New Year out the window. I'm going to tackle this issue later but if my timing is right, I will be due literally the week of my friends wedding and I am a bridesmaid 😬 she already bought me the dress and it obviously won't fit then! Im going to cross that bridge when I get to a safe point as im absolutely terrified I won't even get to that point!

Hope everyone is doing okay? Any updates on where you're all at? Routing for you all so so much. Can't believe this thread finally got some positives!

@BritInNZ i have an appt with my existing clinic at the end of July to try and ask for letrozole for the third time 🙃. I’ve requested access to my medical records so I can’t go private if all else fails. I think I need to know I’ve exhausted all options before IVF. Surely I can’t need to have IVF less than 3 years after having my last baby. I just don’t get it 🤯🤯 xx

@Hoping43 fingers crossed you get some movement this time! I understand why they're reluctant, but I'm also proof that it works! Not that I can actually pinpoint it was that, but I feel like it must have been?! It's so odd that it's so tough to access it over there, it was practically thrown at me here 😂 I still have two months worth of letrozole too, definitely keeping that in the drawer for when/if we try for number two...

@BritInNZ i was given letrozole after 8 months TTC my second but I think the guidelines have changed. I never took it as I was pregnant. I still have it in my drawer but it’s expired 😂 xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 those were my two biggest symptoms early on (and strong smells). I’ve never had sickness or any of the bad symptoms and they told me everything looks good and I’m nearly 14 weeks so I def agree with @Indianna2006 (I think it’s a bit like that lucky if it rains on your wedding day thing - something to make you feel better whilst you’re sick/got soaked in your dress!)

@BritInNZ check the exercises you’re doing before jumping back in - I love yoga and I was really surprised how much of it isn’t safe in pregnancy (loads is too just needs modifications I hadn’t thought about)

@Koalie im really sorry this is happening to you and I hope it resolves itself for you soon

Hey Ladies - just catching up.

@Koalie - really sorry - thinking of you 💗

I am 9dpo and just no I'm out again as BBT is same as always. Really do feel like giving up as im just never going to be able to shift this weight for ivf - i really try but just struggle and my mental health doesn't help as im struggling to get motivated. I have my NHS follow up in a months time a i sent of my medicheck bloods yesterday to check all my thyroid/vitamin levels again which i did back in january so be interesting to see how everything is doing after 6 months of medication/supplements. Really am feeling rock bottom abd to top it off i am off to my friends baby shower lunch at the weekend with all my friends who are mums - ill be due AF which will make it even worse! Think ill have to stay on the soft drinks as if i have a wine ill be in tears 😂

Hi @NatW2021 - sorry you're having a tough time. I actually stopped temping for a few months because I was just getting so obsessed with overanalysing. I saw a thread where a girls temps went down and she got her BFP. I think once you've confirmed you ovulate for a few months, maybe it's best to just put it down for a bit and have slightly less statistics to focus on. I also then pretty much lost track of the exact cycle day. Obvs I had a rough idea, but it did help me not get quite so down as AF loomed. Just an idea xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 - good advice, i think i might just bin it then I'm not tempted and also delete my tracking apps. X

@NatW2021 I'm so sorry you're having a tough time, we all know what it's like so please vent away. On the weight loss front, maybe you're putting the end goal front of mind rather than baby steps, and it's daunting so doesn't motivate you? Maybe it's just starting with 'I am going to achieve at least 10,000 steps a day' (bonus is I found walking to be therapeutic). I know weight loss is hard when TTC because you also want to get all the nutrients in, so perhaps next step after walking is managing meal sizes alongside the walking, and having heaps of veggies with your dinner? I don't think you need to do all the things at once, just focus on the short term. E.g. first goal is to lose 2lbs - once that's done sort the next goal 😊 not sure if that helps at all!

@BritInNZ - Thank you 💗 i know i need to break it down, i tend to have a really good week lose a few lbs then have a treat at the weekend then back to sq 1. I think i just keep hoping it will happen naturally although I'm cycle 13 now so clearly some problem somewhere.

I also think im a little scared of ivf not working although i know i cant think like it but you know when you have tried so many things and it doesn't make any difference and you just lose hope. Think i just need some sort of diagnosis sooner rather than later x

@NatW2021 I don't think you can write yourself off at 13 months, there's every chance it could happen before the two year mark! I know I had a bit of help, but I was 17 months and my friend in the UK had no help at all and it took her 18 months. I know you need to mentally prepare yourself for IVF, just like I was doing, but I don't think you should lose all hope yet either. On Friday I was having a meltdown in a hotel while away on work saying 'I know my period is coming' and then two days later found out I was pregnant. Things can change very quickly, so keep ploughing on and then do what you can with the weight loss. You never know, it might help and you won't need the IVF!

@BritInNZ - Thank you for the positivity 💗 i think i am just in the horrible build up to AF and everything feels doom and gloom but it usually passes. I have seen a few post on insta the last few months from people i follow being really open about how long it took to conceive when announcing their pregnancy - along with you girls - it gives me hope 💗 xx

@NatW2021 i lost 2 stone after having my second baby using the FIIT app. It’s not too expensive for a yearly membership and you can just do 20 mins a day or a few times a week and I think it would make a difference xx

Hi @NatW2021 so sorry you’re feeling down! :( I agree with @BritInNZ re the small steps … I find that when it comes to the weekend, allowing myself a naughty meal doesn’t set me back, as long as I get straight back on the healthy eating the next day and keep up with the exercise.

My hcg levels seem to be staying stable. They’re still calling it a ‘pregnancy of unknown location’ but said it’s likely to be ectopic. We are hoping my body will absorb the pregnancy by itself so that I don’t have to have the methotrexate injection (can’t drink or ttc for 3 months if I do 😩) more bloods in a week to see what’s going on.

over & out x

Hey ladies, I've found myself reading some of this thread and being relieved by the honesty amongst all the frustration. Friends keep sugar coating things and I get mad they don't get it but I know they have good intentions

I had my iud removed about 18 mths ago , we have tried actively for 12 cycles with measuring LH peaks/bbt . We took a short break in the middle when I moved job.

It's only been bfn's. I find myself bombarded on the Internet and overwhelmed, I'm too heavy , dont exercise enough or do too much, cook with the wrong oils , stored food n the wrong containers, specialist supplements.. the list goes on as ppl look to cash in

I'm 13dpo today, bfn but getting nausea at night and if it's just a new improved pms torment I'm gonna lose it

When did you all speak to your gp? Was it actually helpful or did you need to jump through hoops. I get a sinking feeling something is wrong and as much as I don't want to face that , I'm terrified of wasting years going thru this month after month. I don't know how you all have the strength at times

@Koalie so sorry to hear that, I hope you get to the bottom of things soon and you're able to move forward quickly.

@D22 I think everyone in here understands how you're feeling, so welcome to the group. As you've been trying over a year, now is the time to see your GP. They can do some basic testing for you and your partner to check everything is okay, which is the first step. I don't think you need to mention you took a break either. I actually booked a appointment with a private consultant around the 9 month mark and we had basic testing, then at a year I went back and had a referral for a HSG and another semen analysis and when that was clear, told to try for another 5-6 months and then get in touch. I did that and then got letrozole, and then got pregnant the first month I was on it. All my tests came back as unexplained infertility, but there could also be something wrong that's an easy fix. I found the testing was handy for making you feel in control and like you have a plan too.

Welcome to the group @D22 & sorry you find yourself here. I’ve not even hit the 1 year mark yet - we started trying in August and I’ve had 1 MMC and currently going through an ectopic. However, I’ve already been to my gp and started investigating any way I can persuade them to, as I am just desperate to make this journey as short and painless as possible and have found it quite empowering to be able to start ruling things out. My next step once my ectopic is resolved will be going for a HyCosy to check the condition of my tubes (and hopefully give them a flush out in the process.) As @BritInNZ said, most causes of infertility are fixable when you finally work out what it is that’s stopping you from conceiving x