TTC Thread 14 ... Santa knows what we want for Christmas

[hester]

Here we go! Thread 14 for the nicest bunch of women on Mumsnet

Thread 13 was very joyful and very painful for me, but what it has shown me is that even old warhorses like me can get lucky, so there's no excuse for all you nubile young honies not to deliver the goods! Come on now, Mama Hester expects you to do your duty by your fellow ttc-ers

Get ready now, 1 - 2 - 3, GO!!!

hi all, hope every one's ok, It was a quite one today wasn't it! lol, I was busy busy at work! I do have a quick question thou about the atkins diet. I'd like to give it a go but i've heard it effects fertility, any ideas/advise?

hi, you all seem to know a little about periods and stuff.... i've never had periods, the doctor said that i dont ovulate (but ive got 2 kids - he says that i must have ovulated twice and caught both times) last week i started to bleed and it lasted for a week, was quite painfull but know ive been feeling sick for the last couple of days... did a test 2 weeks ago and it was negative. am not sure whats going on..... any ideas?

Hi Mikeyjon. Sorry, i really don't know what is going on - and I wouldn't want to hazard a guess, given your unusual obstetric history. Was the doctor you saw a specialist? If not, I would go back to your GP and insist you get referred to someone who can really explain what's going on.

it's a side issue, but I'm not sure how your doc can be so sure that you've only ovulated twice. Sounds a bit like my gran who likes to insist that she's only had sex 11 times in her life - which I guess is the fewest you can get away with when you've had 11 children

Hester I have just CAT you!

And I have just replied! how funny that we are having a simultaneous conversation on two different media.

But I have to rush now - it's gone 7 and I need to go home. Just to let you all know that I have seen jeddah's wedding photos and she is a bit gorgeous - not at all bad for a broody old mare!

Night all xxx

Hula...have you changed your name????????/ sorry getting a bit confused is hulababy same as hollybaby????
Had a look at your chart.......like geordie I think you may have ov on day 17!!!! (don't forget ff is automated!

I would test friday morning....then you will know if you can 'lorry load' or not!!!!!
Best of luck!

Runtus...boody GPs load of crap most of them!!!!

Vel whats happening now..... can not believe about early meno!

Hester......get home!!!!

jeddah - yes, just using my Christmas name My chart does suggest that OV may have been around CD17 to me too. We will see I guess.

rantus, can't u ask to be refered to a specialist (they'll prob have a waiting list anyhow)? fingers crossed u can start the clomid soon thou.

Hi I'm new to this thread - hope you all don't mind !

I'm TTC with no success.

Has a miscarriage on August 23rd at 8 weeks + 2. Did not need a D&C (or ERPC whatever they call it these days) Passed it all 23rd August evening after my routine scan that morning.

Had one period 6 weeks after miscarriage which started 30th September and have had nothing since - did a test yesterday which was negative.

Seen GP and he said it's normal - has anyone else had similar problems ??

Makes matters worse I work as a physio on the maternity ward and so see loads of babies and happy mums every day.

And my sister is expecting her first baby in 2 weeks and so the whole family is baby mad at the moment.

Is it worth doing ovulation tests to see if I am ovulating despite my lack of periods.

I'm 28 and husband is 24. Both desperate for a baby.

Anyone got any advice what we should do ?

Been mesmerised by all the other threads and can;t help reading them for hours.

Summoned up courage to add an entry - so please be nice to me

Hi muppetmentality (too long! can we call you muppet? or mm?!). You're very welcome to this thread; you'll find everyone is lovely and accepting here and EVERYONE will be nice to you. I'm supposed to have walked out of the door already, but will post quickly and I'm sure the evening crowd will be along soon.

First of all, I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I miscarried a few weeks ago and I know how terribly painful it is. big hugs for that.

I'm sure your doctor is right that your cycle is still settling down, but if it was me I'd be back there asking for more detail (how long should it take?) and maybe asking for a referral to a specialist.

Also, have you tried seeking advice from the Miscarriage Association?

It must be very difficult for you with your sister expecting; of course you're happy for her but it just reminds you of your loss. You'll find lots of women on here who will understand how that feels.

hiya MM, can't really help out there, but we do have lots of folks like urself thou. the OV kits can be quite handy could well be worth a go, but i'm sure someone else will have better advise for u.

best of luck thou, we're all baby crazy on here as well! lol, but v supportive with it!

PS. Yes you could ovulate before you get a period. Do you know about how to detect ovulation? if you have a strong stomach, you can find out all about it on here! I really, really must dash now or I'm going to be beheaded when I get home, but if nobody gives you all the info before I get back in the morning, I can give you chapter and verse then!

And welcome again

hester - (said in a v stern voice) GO HOME!!!

r u STILL here! lol,

PPS. There's a couple of us on here who are childless and work with maternity services so BOY we know how that feels!

Now GO HOME Hester!

OK Munnzie, I'm gone!

Yes, it's fine to call me muppet - I wasn;t allowed it as a name because someone has already got it - so hope it doen't cause confusion.

Thanks for the welcome.

Not sure about ovulation before period - could be what happened the first time I got pregnant as I was due period on my wedding day June 5th and didn't have it and then pregnant by 26th June.

Maybe off the pill this is a usual cycle for me ????

Get off home if you haven't already I know how addictive this is !!

he he, right then where to begin (with a nasty grin on the face, lets find out the gen on OV!) he he he

First things first, u can check your temprature with one of the thermometer things, and also fertility friend.

You can also check the positioning of your cervix

theres also the whole CM thing, which many of us have great delight in sharing with everyone else! lol, egg white type CM is v fertile so get and do some BD!

Hi muppet, sorry about losing your baby. I can sympathise ive had 2 m/c.
I was advised to wait for 3 periods before trying again and we did.
Luckily it was ok.
There were times when we thought that we would never be allowed to have a baby and we were desperate. The foetal assesment unit was situated at the end of the maternity ward which was just devastating each time we were given our news.Coming out to the sound of crying babies and heavily pregnant ladies just felt like our noses were bieng rubbed in it.
This must be unbearable for you, working on one.
I dont have practical advice, im sorry but i do have reassuring words for you. Dont give up, dont feel negative and believe that you will hold your own baby in your arms one day soon.
Think about "this time next year..." i will either be pregnant or holding my baby, think ahead.
Although you will never ever forget your little one, and you will continue to count the weeks that "should have been" focus on bieng well and prepare for your baby.
Take it easy and good luck,my hopes and good wishes are with you.xHTH

I think my problem is that being a physio nothing seems gross - when you deal with peoples phlegm all day - cervical mucus is easy !

I'm 63 days today since a period - which is frustrating as I don;t know where I am. I feel it's probably my bodys way of making me wait as I'm the most impatient person in the world !

I'd just like a period though - to know that my body is working normally again. Feel in limbo with no period (so feels like no chance of conceiving) and no pregnancy either.

Was really prepared for my expected baby and bought all the nursery stuff thinking that these days nothing goes wrong with pregnancies - and my sister breazed through her pregnancy with no problems - so I've got a room full of moses baskets and blankets and clothes. Doesn't help much.

Can't believe how common miscarriages are ! This site is brilliant as you see how many people's lives actually are obsessed with trying to make babies.

Great to know that other people are thinking they could be pregnant - feeling sick - bloated - sore boobs and then negative tests - I though it was just me going mad and psychotic.

I had no periods and awful pains about 3 weeks ago and convinced myself I had an ectopic pregnancy - so now since my harassing my GP about this - I feel afraid to see him again. He already thinks I'm mad.

don't worry MM we don't think ur mad! could you possibly store your baby bits elsewhere until you conceive again?

Donbeam,

Thanks for the re-assurance.

I'm assuming from your message that youo have sucessfully conceived - how far gone are you ?

Congratulations - hope all goes really smoothly.

LOL Muppet

OMG i went through 10 pregnancy tests a month at least! luckily i found a cheap shop which sold them for 99p each so i bought up loads. I cant tell you, it was all i thought about. My cycle dates were etched in my brain. I drove myself mad with it all.
I know how desperate and impatient you feel. You are not mad, not mad at all you are just READY aren't you.

Chrismunnzieb,

I tried to put all the baby bits away and that made me really sad - as if I'd never get to see them again - so I left them out where I could see them as an incentive to get pregnant.

My friend tried to help by squishing them up in a cupboard and that annoyed me but I know she was trying to help me.

My mum bought me some snowdrops which she thought would remind me of the happy thinkgs in life - so I planted them in a pot outside my front door and the bloody neighbours cats keep crapping in them.

My mum said in prayers at my Wedding that we need to remember to support each other and that

"Rainbows follow Rainy Days !!" which I try to remember every time I get down.

Sorry to be vague, i have a 17 month old boy now and i still cant believe that he is here and that he is mine! My M/C are still very prominent in my mind, in fact i dont think that i will ever get over them.

I think that it was the unfairness of it that i cant seem to get over, do you know what i mean? We were so ready and so excited and so very deserving and it was just gone in an instant.