IVFers thread

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Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

SS...as much as possible try not to worry.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.
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I am now worried about my DH!!
I don't know how he is possibly going to survive the next 2 weeks as he asked me today if I could do a pg test yet??!!!
Bless him......how on earth is he going to keep calm??!!!!

Hello everyone, hope the house is ok and you haven't burnt it down in my absence! Thank you for all your messages.
Coggy keep your DH busy with housework and threaten more should he mention the word test in the next 10 days, that should do it!
SS I am sure your test will be fine tomorrow, sometimes your HCG levels indicate whether you are expecting twins or not....
Had some acupuncture today, But suffering a huge af, which makes me wonder... No decisions made yet, but the acupuncture, still on. I suppose its a question of IVF or IUI and the frozen embryos, but we can think for a while.

I'll look in on you all soon.

Love S x

Soosy, glad you are still around. Would GIFT be an option you could consider? It is interesting isn't it as an idea - no good for me as I only have one tube left and that doesn't work at all and is blocked from here to eternity, but sounds a good idea in practice?

SS - glad you have got to today safe and sound. Its funny what you can fix on to worry about isn't it? I was convinced DD was ectopic for weeks last time.

Coggy - would suggest sending your DH to India where he can keep mine company. Best place for them if they can't be calm and helpful!

Sticki - hope yesterday went well for you. Do you know how many eggs you had?

This day 7 I think for me, depending on how you count. Am driving myself mad with symptom spotting for the last couple of days, but am very snappy with everyone apart from DD so think I am premenstrual. Roll on the weekend.

Sticki - I looked into GIFT too. I was told that, in suitable cases (e.g. where the fallopian tubes are open), it can be more effective than IVF, but that it tends not to get recommended, in part because it's more invasive and therefore more costly. My specialist said that one of its suspected advantages is that, whereas with IVF the fertilised egg ends up in the womb sooner than it would do naturally, GIFT allows the egg to stay in the snug environment of the fallopian tube for its preferred amount of time before making its leisurely way to the womb when ready to implant.

I also know of ZIFT, a mixture of IVF and GIFT, where the egg is fertilised in the lab but then put back into the fallopian tubes instead of the womb. (It's strange: I studied all these technologies as part of my degree 20 years ago and NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS did I think they would be relevant to me!)

But, never mind the technology! As Coggy says, we just want you to be one of the 40%!

Best of luck!

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TRQ - How are you doing? Good to see you. You have such a good way of describing the magic that Im relying on. Thanks. Yes, its more invasive (sore and tired today) but not a huge amount more money (esp not when compared to another failed ivf cycle or pgs etc).

ss - hope you are doing ok today? I remember waiting for my hcg results with huge anxiety (biting my nails). They usually phone about 5-6pm with blood results for injections or can they do it earlier?

Soosy - no I dont think we have burnt down the house yet. Hope your acupuncture helping and your not feeling too sore with the sh*tty af. Glad to see you back in now and again.

Coggy - bless your dh! (Or hide him in the cupboard under the stairs for the next 2 weeks!). Hope you manage to distract him - but something like 24 or the west wing from Amazon to keep you going?

OAP - Day 7! Getting there! When does your DH get back? Dont worry about being snappy - you have lots on your mind. Impressed you are not snappy with DD - sadly I have been today which makes me feel v guilty.

Take care all

Hi all

well HCG was just over average for this stage - 599 (no idea what the unit of measure is).
My progesterone was low though so I have to restart the evil gestone injections that I was really struggling with (see earlier posts!) Not sure how low it was - she just said low not 'a bit low/ very/ worryingly' so I need to really call them again tomorrow and grill them a bit! Will then need to go back on Monday for another blood test.

Soosy - really glad you're still posting with us. How are you feeling about it all now?

Coggy - is your dh driving you crazy?!? I like the idea of keeping him busy with the cleaning. Or get him to search on Google for more info on IVF and when you can start peeing on sticks (given he is a bit clueless about this clearly! )

Sticki - how are you?

Glad your hcg is over average...it would have been worse if it was the other way round and at least the progesterone dip is easy (although a PITA) to sort out. Good news I reckon.

My DH is totally clueless with all things ttc bless him, but he is very enthusiastic. I really do hope this IVF works...actually more for him now. He will be so gutted if it doesn't.
I'll be really devastated too obviously but I will also feel really badly for him.

He hasn't asked me about testing again so obviously my minor hcg explanation was ok....however...he now keeps asking me if I can feel anything working??!!!!
Whereabouts in India am I buying his ticket to OAP??!!!

Oh bless him Coggy - at least he is really taking an interest in it all. Would be worse the other way round. Could you spon himn a yarn that research quoted in the Lancet suggests that women who are undergoing IVF who are seriously pampered by their husbands have much higher success rates!??!

LOL!
He is currently downstairs emptying the dishwasher while I MN.....he's looks after me very well.

Hi all

SS - good news on the HCG front - are you a little less worried now?

Coggy - how do you feel? Glad you have 2 little embyros on board, hopefully burrowing in.

Sticki - hope the aches and pains have worn off now. What sort of sedation did they give you for GIFT?

Day...er...8 for me now I think. Am convinced it hasn't worked but then I felt mildly sick all morning which isn't usual. But this could be pyschosomatic - one month last year I was convinced I was pregnant, and indeed woke up several nights in a row needing a wee (this is how I knew something was up when I had DD) only to find that I wasn't in fact pregnant. Your body can do weird things under pressure.

Hi,
My first posting. I am having egg transfer tomorrow. I am doing ICSI, 5 eggs fertilised and 2 (hopefully) be transferred tomorrow.

Hi Seabright, welcome. Hope your transfer goes well tomorrow - was egg collection yesterday then? Five eggs fertilised is fab, you must be so pleased.

ooh...seabright...that is a good number. Hope all goes well today.

OAP...I feel fine, although I'm not sleeping very well...possibly the progesterone?? Or maybe just the whole thing on my mind....I don't know.

I keep thinking that I'm over stretching myself as I feel twinges every now and again but I know that if it was just a normal day/ time then I wouldn't even think twice about them....a bit like you and your weeing!

I have been weeing every night but that is partly because a) I am awake so there's nothing else to do and b)I am drinking gallons of water still!!
Besides I think 4 days post ET is far to early to even start thinking about symptoms!!!

Coggy - not sleeping well either. Maybe we can have an all night party in the 2ww house?!

It's so annoying as I'm totally exhausted now.

Injection yesterday was ok but it is going to be such a pain to have to go to the GP every single day which is disruptive for work and means all my mornings with ds are screwed up if we want to go somewhere. I took ds with me yesterday for that one and he was quite fascinated by 'mummy medicine' luckily from afar so wasn't in the way. I've a lovely friend who is a nurse lined up to do the ones at the weekend so that's good.

Seabright - welcome and good luck wishes for today! Hope all goes well.

Did you all get pampered by your dh's for valentines?!

Hi,

I posted last week, as my sister is having IVF. She tested this morning (2 weeks after ET) but got a negative test result. She is gutted and can't speak to anyone and has gone for a lie down.

Is there ANY chance she could be pregnant as she hasn't had a period yet? Or really should she be getting a strong test result at this stage?

I am probably clutching at straws but its heart-breaking as everything was looking so good and I had assumed if her period hadn't shown up, then it was probably going to be positive (and twins). For there not to be any baby is very upsetting.

Hi Pulapula - your poor sister, she must be feeling gutted today. I think my clinic says if you tested negative but have not started bleeding, to test again two days later. Bear in mind that embryos inplant between 5 and 10 days after ovulation/egg collection so if she has embryos that implanted late then it is possible that she won't have a positive test yet. I know this may seem like clutching at straws, but I do hope it all works out for her.

SS - can't believe you have to go to the docs every day - is there not some sort of tablet or pessary you can take instead. Talk about disruptive!

No spoiling here from DH. As he is away I half expected him to have arranged flowers or something, but nothing turned up apart from an Amazon order I had arranged myself! Still, he isn't entirely to blame as the card I had bought for him, intending to slip it into his suitcase, is still sitting beside me on the desk. Oops. Hope everyone else managed better than this.....

Am feeling increasing drawn to shopping as a means to passing the time. We all know that IVF etc is expensive - well so is the 2WW! DD has sufficient summer clothes now to last for at least 3 years!

Thanks onlyaphase,

My sister called my mum, and she'd spoken to her clinic who said to carry on her treatment for now but it looked likely that the pregnancy had taken for a short while, but now ended.

She is obviously really upset as things were going so well compared to her first attempt when no eggs fertilised. The only positive is that they have 1 frozen embryo from this attempt if they want to use that.

Pulapula - sorry to hear your sister's news. it sounds like she has a very caring family around her in you and your mum. She should try and go to the clinic if it is a negative and decide next steps when she is ready so that she knows what to do next.

OAP - it is a total pain in the bottom (literally) re the injections. The only upside was the nurse at the GP was lovely and it helped me to have someone to talk to as I've been pathetically weepy and rubbish recently. She also said that she totally understood why I couldn't do these ones myself as they are so much harder than the other IVF injections given the way bigger needle/ into the muscle etc.
So I didn't feel like quite such a wuss. They're really uncomfortable afterwards for ages!! I never had this problem with the other injections.

Wow OAP and Coggy - d-day (or should that be t-day) for you guys is just around the corner!! When are you going to get those pee sticks out?!?!

Sorry to hear about your sister Pulapula.

SS...I'm on day 5 of the 2WW I think...I'm a bit confused really 'cos I thought that everyone would test 2 weeks (ish) from ET but you were all talking about how long since EC I seem to remember. My clinic told me the bog standard 14 days after ET which would be a week on Monday.
That would be horrible testing before I go back to work so I think I'll probably test on Saturday or Sunday morning (assuming I get there!). I don't suppose a couple of days early is going to make all that much difference is it?

oops...alos meant to ask...will you have a 7 weeks scan?
Is that standard with fertility treatment?

If so...that won't be long after our TDay I guess.

also weeks

Must go and get my flapjacks out of the oven now!

Let's hope they are better thanmy typing!!!!!

ooh coggy I love flapjacks....send some over please!

Where has the weekend gone!? Far too quick for my liking!

Coggy - if I get that far there would indeed be a 7 week scan - scheduled for a week on Weds. I will have a better idea of viability tomorrow I think as I have my follow up blood test for the progesterone and I'm going to insist they check HCG again. If it has gone up since the last one in the right magnitude that'll be good news.

Will let you know tomorrow night.

Had a lovely weekend - dinner with dh last night at a gastropub type place and then went to Surrey today to see friend's new gorgeous country house. Bit of a trek (am in outer N London) but worth it.

Where vaguely do you all live by the way?

Bum hurting from today's injection - ouch!

Hi all

Just to let you know that I don't have good news I'm afraid. Tested early yesterday, and got a negative and feel distinctly like my period is starting anyway. Given I tested positive so early last time, and the way I feel now, this cycle is a no go.

I will speak to my clinic on my official test day - Wednesday - and see when I can start again. Problem is that we are moving 250 miles north at the end of April, so can't fit a cycle in before then, and will have to line up a good clinic to start asap in May. Bum.

Will be avoiding MN for a while I think - I need to keep busy doing things with DD rather than sitting on MN all day, and also I find it very difficult to deal with threads about people getting pregnant when they don't want to be, or pregnant on demand. So will be keeping busy elsewhere, but will drop in to catch up at some point to see how you are all getting on. Good luck all

Oh OAP.....I'm so sorry.

I really, really, really hope that it's just too early for a strong hcg result and that you will get some surprising but wonderful news in a few days time.

I totally understand the need to avoid MN....I have had to do that several times over the last years.

I wish that there was more I could say or do.
Take care.
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