Hoping to get our BFPs in January ✨

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All welcome to come along for the ride and lots of support along the way!

Checking in at 5dpo, no symptoms yet!

@Geemmm quite a lot like period cramps but usually to the one side! Sometimes had to catch my breath it was strong and sudden!

Fingers crossed for you! Symptom spotting is tricky and I try to ignore all of mine… but I say if it strong and consistent enough to notice 2/3 times then note it down it could lead to your BFP!

lol @Margo34 you have so much more waiting power than me. I managed to get myself to 10 DPO which was a massive achievement! Personally i'd be POAS right now at 13 lol. My luteal was only 10/11 days max though, so at your timing i'd already be at least 2 days late. Do you know if you are late yet?

@madeleine85 I agree, there seems to be more pressure the second time round. Everyone around me seems to be having second or third babies and I’m conscious of the age gap growing. I think if I knew it would happen at some point, even months away from now, I’d be content with that but it’s the not knowing if it’ll ever happen that I struggle with.

@mightbeyesmightbeno I stupidly tested too! 7DPO on evening urine! I have no idea why, it’s like I couldn’t help myself.

@Billymay thank you. You’re right it’s really hard and it makes you so much more aware of all the pregnancy announcements whereas if I wasn’t TTC I wouldn’t notice as much! Yes my husband is supportive, this was only month 4 and he seems to think I’m getting too obsessed and worked up with it all and that I just need to enjoy the journey, but its easier said than done when no one can guarantee it’ll definitely happen. I hate feeling so out of control.

I ovulated earlier than usual this cycle for some reason (maybe it was the booster jab affect) so under the usual pattern of my cycle AF would be due Monday, but because I ovulated early, AF should be due earlier too 🤷

@madeleine85

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/results-by-day-past-ovulation.php

This was the only thing that made me hold testing

Such a great resource, thanks for sharing!

@Margo34

Tests are expensive. Don't waste a test. Tests are expensive. Don't waste a test. Tests are expensive. Don't waste a test. Tests are expensive. Don't waste a test. Tests are expensive. Don't waste a test. Tests are expensive. Don't waste a test.

I hate myself every time I test, and its stark white for this very reason.

@Moonshine160 ah tell me about! I am the same would have had the second one due soon and the age gap perfect. Something about having a miscarriage makes me feel so inadequate as a partner, as a woman. I feel like such a let down and that theres something wrong with me. My heart goes out to those of you with with multiple miscarriages must be so hard but let’s hope this year will be the year!

@Hopingforarainbow27 you have done so well with abstaining from testing. I said i wouldn’t until AF arrives but then I got 5 free tests with my preseed….yes they are almost gone and im only 7DPO

Interesting so many of you relate breast tenderness as part of PMS and AF around the corner. The only time my nipples felt funny was due to pregnancy.

Speaking from my experience, on the random months I tested Early, it brought nothing but trouble, evap, false positives, disappointment & sadness.
There’s nothing good comes from it for me x

@RosyappleA I know I just don't want to be disappointed so I pretend I'm not pregnant as I've had so many let downs in two years.

What feelings do you get in your nipples? Mine feel very sensitive

@RosyappleA I think my boobs in general swole a bit from water retention/were a bit sore pre AF, but for the BFP it was the weird, over sensitive nipples that I can only liken to the feeling at the very start of breastfeeding, there was nothing else like it. It was like pins and needles in my nipples only. Weirdest feeling. They were also insanely sensitive to the cold. Only with my 2nd pregnancy though, first time I swear they did nothing until after DD was born.

@Moonshine160 the not knowing really got to me. I researched and saw it usually takes 3-6 months for conception, and 3 months to get to normal after the pill, so in my brain I knew it wouldn't be instant, but then when I didn't get pregnant the first month I felt like a complete failure, even though I was the only one pressuring me. Even this month, my cousin announced she is pregnant with twins, and she had her first a year after mine. For some reason i felt really behind hearing that news, and it feels ridiculous, as 1) I am terrified of twins and 2) the age gap of 3 children under 3 would not be fun and 3) we are different people, with very different lives. I know it is rubbish advice, but just let it happen, treat your body well, and enjoy this time with your existing child. Trying new TTC things each month made me feel better for some reason. I did COQ10 for 2 months to help egg health, preseed and a fertility cup the one that worked. Fingers crossed you get your sticky BFP very soon x

Feeling very nervous as have a 6ish week scan tomorrow where we will see if it has developed into anything not. I'm still lurking on this thread as this one feels so different to my last/MC is so prevalent that I feel like I can't relax, and i'm now closer to 40 than 30. Please distract me with BFPs and general tales of TTC :) To everyone testing tomorrow sending all the good luck your way!

@madeleine85 thank you and I wish you all the best for your scan tomorrow 🤍

Girls yesterday I had cramping and I thought AF was coming early so I put my period pants on but this morning the cramps are gone. I normally only start cramping like 10 mins or so before I come on. I'm due tomorrow. Could it be implantation at 10dpo?! It's going to be such a long wait now to see if I come on tomorrow 😱😱😱

@kizzy97 I'm lying in bed so scared to get up and test!

I caved and wasted one, it was negative. I'll commiserate with an alcoholic drink later

Girls I'm shook. It doesn't mean baby for me as I've had two losses but I'm so grateful to have a positive but also sitting here shaking like a leaf

@Hopingforarainbow27 wow congratulations, that’s a very strong BFP 🥳🥳. Really sorry to hear about your two losses; it’s so understandable that you’re anxious now. 🤞🏻🤞🏻 for a healthy and happy pregnancy xx

@RosyappleA I’m so sorry you feel that way! But know that you’re not alone. This is such a hard journey. I really hope this is all our year!

@madeleine85 that’s how I feel too, like a failure and I’ve instantly jumped to the conclusion that because it hasn’t happened in the first few months that there must be something wrong with me. Next cycle I am going to start taking COQ10 from cycle day 1 and DTD every other day throughout the month. I am wishing you all the best for your scan today - I have my fingers and toes crossed for you ❤️

@Hopingforarainbow27 huge congratulations on your BFP! Hoping you a really happy and healthy 9 months ahead!

I chickened out, grabbed the box went in the bathroom with it, stared at it for 5 minutes and then ended up putting it back 🙈

@Hopingforarainbow27 that is a beautiful strong line!! Congratulations and sending positive thoughts your way! X

Congratulations @Hopingforarainbow27 wonderful news. Fingers crossed for you 🙏🏼🧡

@madeleine85 all the best for your scan today xx

Congratulations @Hopingforarainbow27!!! ❤❤

Thank you all for the well wishes. I'm a nervous wreck. Is that strong for 13dpo? Mine were always quite faint. I really appreciate you all and hoping everyone gets theirs too

This thread moves so fast, I can’t keep up. Congratulations to all with a BFP 🎉🎉. So sorry for everyone whose AF has arrived. I agree with all the PP that it’s the uncertainty that’s the hardest. I think uncertainty in general is just so hard to take, and most people don’t cope well with it (I’m very much one of them). When it comes to TTC I think it’s about a million times harder than about other things as it’s natural/in our biology... wishing everyone lots of luck and baby dust xxx

@madeleine85 all the best for your scan today 🤞🏻😍. What time is it at? I love it when people who already had their BFPs stay on the thread.. it feels like they spread baby dust and hope 💐 xx