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Waiting to TTC,any one else in similar sitch??

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Wannabamummy · 19/12/2007 15:23

Hi all

am looking for ppl in similar situation who are waiting to start TTC, interested to hear when thay are planning to start, reasons for waiting etc!

I am waiting to TTC as DP and i have agreed due to number of reasons, holiday in aug and trying to get ourselves better off financially, getting head straigh after mc in july, spending time together... Would just like to hear from those in similar boat, would be nice to get excited with someone!! sometimes feel an intruder being here hope no one minds!

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NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 15:21

I saw a thread the other day with a link to a pisture of what it looks like BB, I'll see if I can dig it out

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 15:22

Pisture? Picture

.... wish I was pissed, wouldn't be able to feel my horrible cold/bug thing!

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 15:25

Bet you wish you hadn't asked now!! Just for BB

BeMyLilBaby · 22/01/2008 15:36

omg thats gross!!! ha ha looks like raw egg x

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 15:39

It is the false nails that pull it off for me!

Diege · 22/01/2008 15:52

Urghh, ewww, total gross-out . Agree, false nails really 'sets it off'

NatalieJane · 22/01/2008 15:59

Can you ever imagine taking a picture of that for the internet?????

Suppose it is very good for showing people what EWCM is like though...

Playingthewaitinggame · 22/01/2008 16:39

LOL at the picture, it really is foul . Pic is maybe one step to far, surely the title speaks for itself, it looks like raw egg whites, do we need the pic?! Why would anyone want to take a picture of CM!! Spose it is a help to some people but even so... At least now we all know exactly what we are looking for if we want to become obsessive CM watchers

Playingthewaitinggame · 22/01/2008 17:44

Right off home now. Gonna be good at not look at Mumsnet tonight. Speak to you all tomorrow.

BabyBump2B · 22/01/2008 19:45

Hi Ladies!

I'm thrilled to find a thread about people waiting!

We've been trying (unsuccessfully) for a couple of months but now have to wait 14 weeks before we try again as I'm a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding and although I don't mind being a pg bridesmaid I need to be able to fly!

NJ - that picture had me laugh out loud. Slightly gross but also a great example of what ewcm is!

Nice to meet you all!

Teuch · 22/01/2008 20:32

Hey, I've found you too!!! We've been off pill for couple of months but not trying in earnest til this month.

at the reluctant CM-checkers...believe me, by the time you are all underway you will be comparing CM, checking CP and evrything else!!! There is NOTHING that can't be shared on the conception/antenatal threads!! ,,rubs hands in glee>>

So, lets kick it off...I'm around CD 24, no idea when OV'd as no EWCM, but copious creamy CM now and CP high, firm and closed. Don't temp though and no OPK's here.

Expecting AF saturday-ish but have a feeling I OV'd late...

Teuch · 22/01/2008 20:33

ps - I am convinced that is actual egg white in the photo...

NatalieJane · 23/01/2008 07:09

Morning all

Hi BabyBump2B and Teuch and welcome We have a bit of a list that is growing a little up the page, feel free to add yourselves on

Teuch I think I tend to agree with you about the pic. I have been checking my CM since Jan 06, I know when it has changed to the lovely EWCM, but it doesn't look quite the same as that. I think it is more the stretchiness than the colour that let's me know!

Playing well done on being good and not checking last night, you did better than me

Still got the cold/bug thing I am sooooo grumpy! My poor DH I am not very good at being ill.

xxx

BeMyLilBaby · 23/01/2008 08:16

Morning all!

Welcome to BB2B and teuch, are you both ttc number1?

AS you can see we will all be starting in a little while so you may be the first graduates!!

BB2B im sure those few months will go quickly, looks like we'l be ttc together!

I had such a stressy night last night...arg... everthing seems to be getting me down xx

NatalieJane · 23/01/2008 08:24

Anything we can help with BB? Sometimes just getting stuff off your chest is all you need

I will be back after 9, got to get these ready for school, at least DS1 is having school dinner today so no pack lunches to sort , and I get a bit of a longer day, he has an after school club tonight so a whole extra hour of peace Bless him, I hate Wednesday's, can't settle till he's home!

Right after my 500th sneeze since 6 o'clock this morning, I am off, will be back soon though, feel free to rant if it will help

BeMyLilBaby · 23/01/2008 08:42

Thanks NJ i think maybe if i write it all down perhaps gettin it out will help?

WEll DP came home upset last night because two of the project managers have complained to his line manager that he doesnt work quickly enough, althoiugh his manager was nice about it and understands there was too much work for one person (having recently employed an assistant for him) i still got a bit stressed about it and told him he ahs to buckle down and not ring his mum n dad from work, which i dont know why he does anyway???

I spose im just paranoid about one of use lossing our jobs again, because i was made redundant last year and the stress of it was what i believe caused me to MC - it cant be coincidence that it happened the same week?? i spose i just worry.

Also the whole situation with my mum is stressing me out, DP has broken her laptop and although she isnt the type to be really bothered about it as it was an accident and she only had it as a spare, i dont wanna tell her its broke, also i still have to tell her we cant go on hol with her, and thats playing on my mind because we've really drifted apart lately, she is more interestede in her BF than me but i still fell i need her?

Add to that the general stresses of working etc, and the feeling that ive drifted apart from a best friend of 11 years (she's at uni and im in FT work) and i think there you have it...

sorry for the whinge xx

Playingthewaitinggame · 23/01/2008 09:21

Morning all, welcome to our newbies.

BB - feel any better? There is something so scary about work insecurity. I will share a story with you in case it helps. I was sacked in Feb 06, after 4 months in a new job (I had a 6 months probation) for "not fitting in". Basically my new boss felt threatened by me I think and was a complete b**ch. For example, on a day off she rang my mobile at 9am from the middle of our open plan office and yelled at me for lying to her about something, even though she had her facts wrong. I had had enough of her and the company so tried to quit. I handed in my notice and everything but they talked me round, she apologised and said I was good at my job and convinced me to stay. I was fired 8 days later. It really hit my self esteem and you question your abilities but since then I have been in a job where my boss basically thinks I am fantastic which has helped. I have learnt a lot from that and hopefully it will never happen agian but it doesnt stop the worrying. Particularly if you are planning to have a baby.

NatalieJane · 23/01/2008 09:24

Whinge away my lovely, God knows I've been doing my fair share of whinging these last few weeks!

Point 1, DP's collegues, they have obviously shown themselves to be arse's if the manager even agreed to employ an assistant, so don't worry about them two.

Point 2, DP phoning his mum and dad, does he see them often? I live 200 miles away from my mum and we speak about twice a week. How old is DP? I don't mean this to sound rude at all, but how would you feel if it was him telling you not to ring your mum? Maybe he could agree to ring whilst at lunch or after work, if it is effecting his work that much?

Point 3, I can hand on my heart say that stress doesn't always = miscarriage, when I got pregnant with DS1, I was 18, married, to my DH, who is 13 years older than me, my mum and I had fallen out over the wedding, she didn't come to my 'big day' which wasn't so big with out her, I was absolutely dreading telling her I was pregnant, I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, I was so mixed up with being estactic that we were going to have a baby (who was very much planned, so in no way a shock) and then so torn the other way that I didn't want to completely wreck my already failing relationship with my mum. I lost weight, looked a state, I got ill one thing after the other, all from the stress, but the baby stayed, and was perfectly healthy, so please don't blame you stressing for the MC. It isn't always as straight forward as that.

Point 4, this laptop business and holiday thing. It is like I said the other day, I expect she felt like she was losing you a little when you and DP first met, it is what happens in new relationships. Can you afford to fix/replace the laptop? You can normally buy the part's off eBay for pennies, and it might cost you £30 to take it to be repaired unless you or DP know anything about fixing them. As for the holiday, if you don't want to go into the ins and outs of it all, could you tell her that you are planning on starting a family (which I am sure she will be more pleased about thean any holiday) so you are saving every penny for that? You don't have tell any time lines or anything, just a vague within the next 12 months or so should do the trick, then she won't be questioning you about from here till forever!

Point 5, work stresses, can't help there I'm affraid, I think stress just comes with jobs....

Point 6, your best friend. 11 years is a long time, maybe you have both just grown apart and in which case as sad as it maybe, it is the right thing to let things die down? On the other hand, if you want to make it work, arrange a night out, or a girly weekend somewhere nice or something.

Is that everything?

BeMyLilBaby · 23/01/2008 09:26

thanks playing, sorry to hear you were sacked, thats not on. I know in my heart of hearts that worrying about loosing the job is a bit silly, a waste of enrgy etc and i know we wld cope one way or the other, i feel better having just got it off my chest.

I've decided im gonna talk to my mum sooner rather than later, do you think it would be better on the phone or in person? x

Playingthewaitinggame · 23/01/2008 09:32

Also I think the fact that you will be relying so heavily on someone else's ability to bring home a good income is hard. We have have had to get my DH a new jon because his last company were taking the piss. He used to work so many hours, they continually failed to give him the training they promised and he could never get all his work done because they expected him to do far too much. In the end he had to go, not just because the long hours and stress were killing him and he was not getting the right training but because I could seem him eventually getting sacked. When you are tired, stressed and overworked it is only a matter of time before you make a big mistake and I am sure they would have blamed him. Funnily enough since he left 2 months ago they have already fired his replacement for not being "up to the job".

Playingthewaitinggame · 23/01/2008 09:34

hmm, re; your Mum its hard. If it was me I would talk to her face to face. Tell her your worries but don't sound like you are blaming her. Maybe she just feels that as a grown adult you dont need her ass much anymore and is completely unaware of how that is making you feel?

NatalieJane · 23/01/2008 09:34

Morning Playing

In person always BB, she will be able to see how sorry you are about the laptop, and the missing the holiday, will make it all the more sincere

BeMyLilBaby · 23/01/2008 09:35

i think you've hit the nail on the head playing, thats exactly the way i feel, im not used to relying on anyone else, YOur poor dH, it sounded a very stressful role x

Playingthewaitinggame · 23/01/2008 09:46

Hi Natalie. How are you this morning?

BB- both me and DH are fine. I have no hard feelings about my last job, I was better off out of there. DH seems to be working somewhere much better now, more money, more senior, fewer hour and training starts next week. So he's done ok out of it, he has a very good job for someone in their mid 20's!

NatalieJane · 23/01/2008 09:50

Didn't I moan say enough about how I am this morning? I have a cold, a head ache, a runny nose, a fever, a horrible belly ache that is coming and going (strangly just like contractions but in a different place) sore throat, everything is achey, still got a rash around my mouth, and my ears are killing me, but other than that I am OK LOL Bet you wish you hadn't asked now Oh and I am OV'ing.

Told you I am grumpy when ill!!!

How about you?