Fertility Appointments and Beyond.... the journey continues

[Gracie2021]

New thread for us to continue our fertility clinic appointment progress...

Some of us are waiting for initial appointments, some are having tests and some are starting treatment!

@tillybabs
@thislittlebird
@kay00
@jeaniej
@PurpleUnicorn01
@paintfairy
@dogmam
@flutterby8
@Ughmaybenot
@dancingfairydreams
@beckycarlos
@jkjellyhead
@juno231
@decaffe
@bumble44
@BritinNZ
@tinkerbell098
@pinkginpls
@thedaydreambelievers
@everymumday
@wanderlust16
@lori23ttc

@sofasogood I'm shocked! Can you get hold of anyone?!

@thislittlebird I'm sorry youre having a shit few days. Everything is so overwhelming when you put it all together. Sending lots of love x

@thislittlebird so sorry you're having such a tough time. Yes the clock and the waiting and how long this all goes on is awful. Really hope that your transfer in April is successful but understand how jarring it can be not to know what next steps are just in case. How are you doing today?

@Sofasogood1 I cannot believe you never got your call. How incredibly frustrating. You're dead right to complain it's not fair leaving someone sitting waiting for a call all day. Have you spoken to someone in the clinic since?
Your friend did four full rounds in 18 months? Wow. Did that include transfer? Really hope she was successful 🤞

@Kay00 think the doses are very much calibrated based on AFC and AMH so not surprised you're on low dose to start. For example I'm on 450iu cause my Numbers are so low. But have read that there are definite concerns with egg quality if you go that high as you're putting your system under so much strain. And lower doses for sure with higher counts make OHSS less likely. If they're not getting the response they want I've seen a lot of people get their doses raised midway through too. What are your next steps now?

@beckyCarlos sounds like we're facing the same issues. I'm just about 34 too and with the ovarian age of a 40-44 year old with dodgy reserve. Interested to see how your protocol goes. We're trying testosterone priming this time but if this doesn't work I've asked about either estrogen priming or micro Lipton flare which seem to work well with poor responders. How long are you down regging for?

Waiting on my first stims scan tomorrow. Twinges in the ovaries so I'm trying to tell myself that means good things. Can't remember if I had this last time when I was doing nothing. Clomid is over as of yesterday and no really bad mood side effects so that's good. Tomorrow will tell a lot. So nervous after my last atrocious round 🙈

I have heard NOTHING. No call back, no email, no rescheduled appointment. NOTHING. I'm going to call every hour on the hour today and leave messages and if still nothing by end of day tomorrow I'm going to go there on Monday morning.

And yes my friend is now 30 weeks pregnant. She was on long protocols and I'm not sure they even got anything fertilised until round 3. Am so happy for her.

Omg @Sofasogood1 they've really left you hanging. The absolute lack of care. I'm so sorry you've had this stress on top of anything else. I hope you get through to someone today and can get this sorted and an apology. So glad for your friend too. Love to hear success stories!

@Gracie2021 Good luck with your scan tomorrow! Hope it goes well. Everything crossed for you

@sofasogood1 jesus! You're absolutely right, keep calling and then go in person if you still dont get anyone! I cant believe they've just left you!

@gracie2021 downregging for 14 days, then a scan (sun 13th) to check all is quiet, if not maybe a few more days. I tell you what though, not sure if its in my head but the buserelin is making me lethargic af in the evenings! On Tues I was whacked from about 3pm, yesterday wasnt that bad but come 8.30 I just wanted to lie down which is not at all like me, I'm definitely a night owl. Hope your scan goes well!! X

@Sofasogood1 that is shocking! Good on you for keeping on following this up, I can't believe they deleted your appointment from the portal - that is like gaslighting!

@Gracie2021 wishing you all the luck for the scan tomorrow!

@thislittlebird as far as I understand- if you can't have a fresh transfer you have to have 2 normal periods before doing a FET on the 3rd cycle at the very minimum? Even with a private clinic. So the 3 month 'delay' isn't really a delay from what's normal anyway? That's pretty standard.

@paintfairy it’s less than that for me now so that’s not the case for my clinic. Second cycle after IVF they’ll schedule me in, I’ll be calling them end of this month. The person on the thread said the delay was because of her needing a procedure anyway. I’ll speak to them soon.

@Gracie2021 yeah it’s crap, but I’m glad I know and I can now ask them how long we can expect things to take and discuss our options.

@Sofasogood1 really great that it worked out for your friend! Absolutely mad that you haven’t heard anything. Really frustrating and disappointing.

@Gracie2021 forgot to ask, when is your scan?

@paintfairy think my clinic doesn't make you wait three months either. God I hope now! Won't know when we can transfer til these two rounds are done but thinking of taking April off and try do a transfer in May. Assuming (probably come back to bite me) that we have something to transfer 😂🙈 hope you're feeling well and healthy and all going smoothly for you btw 🤞

@thislittlebird I hope it ends up being a moot point for you and you have a good long 9 month+ wait for your next transfer 😂🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞 scan is at 8am so thankfully doesn't interfere too much with work and I'll know nice and early. Twinges in day in my the general ovary area but who knows 🤷‍♀️

Thanks a mil @magnoliasinbloom I'll take all the luck I can get xx

@beckyCarlos that's a horrible side effect. Is life quiet enough at the mo that you can just take it easy until you're feeling better? Hope your scan comes quick and you can stop taking it 🤞

Think @JeanieJ was due to start about the same time as you actually. Hope your bloodwork and scans went well Jeanie and things are going smoothly.

Have you had any luck getting through to them yet @Sofasogood1 ? Unbelievably bad service.

Hope you're keeping well @TheDaydreamBelievers and everything crossed that you'll be able to start your Letrozole soon.

@dogmam hope the clean living is going well and you can enjoy a brief break from the madness.

@Gracie2021 yeah for me now it’s 2 months from EC to transfer as far as I know, they told me to call on my next cd1 and they’d schedule me in for a transfer on a Wednesday with the doctor I’d seen already to do my FET so I knew who was doing it. She also said she’d get me some sort of drug to relax me because I was anxious when she saw me before. Results when I googled yesterday varied and seem to depend on whether you’re doing natural or medicated etc too. What’s the time scale for your two rounds? March and April collections?

I would love the first transfer to work but don’t want to put all my eggs (or embryos) into that one basket and assume it’ll work!

8am is a good time, keep us posted!

@gracie2021 yeah luckily I can wfh for the duration, so I had a power nap on Tuesday 🤣 I'm taking it stoically, its not the worst side effect (I hope I havent jinxed myself!). Also, didnt reply before but I too have the ovaries of someone 10 years older, I didnt even know it was a think before speaking to the consultant in Aug (whereafter I spent three days crying and telling my husband he should leave me for a younger model (or a 30 something with correct working parts) 🙈 he didnt, thankfully!

I had a call... After spending all morning crying in frustration.

I'm going to come back with an update on what I was told though as I'm very confused... And asked for more info.

I shall come back! And catch up on all your posts too now I've stopped raging. Thank you for all raging with me xxx

I'm glad you had a call @Sofasogood1 and hope you're doing ok processing what they've told you. I often need time to process and figure out what it all means before I even say it out loud sometimes. Also here to rage with you any time!

@beckyCarlos haven't said it out loud to my husband but I have the same feeling of guilt as everything his side has come back perfectly. Feel like the lame duck of the two. Glad you're able to squeeze in the odd power nap or two. They're a great cure.

That consultant sounds brilliant @thislittlebird and love that she's remembered you had a tough time last time and giving you something to help. Know what you mean about eggs all in one basket in terms of hope. Having the second round right around the corner is somehow taking some of the pressure off this round. The way it works for me is two collections in March (only a five day break in between) probably finishing up first week in April all going well. So that would give me April off and transfer in may.

Scan this morning went well enough, happy out and so relieved. Left: 15.6 and 11.1
Right: 18.8, 17.1, 15.4, 9.1, 8.4.
The two smallest probably won't get there in time but figure I have a good chance at 4, maybe 5. Some people would be devastated with these numbers but perspective is a great thing after my last cancelled round and this is good for me. Collection will probably be Monday or Tuesday.

@Gracie2021 that's amazing!! So so thrilled for you, especially given what you went through last month. And I'm sure this would give you confidence going into the next round too? xx

@Sofasogood1 I'm glad they called you back, but not that they put you through unnecessary anguish! I hope you're feeling okay today and do let us know what they said when you've had time to process.

I feel the same, my husband's results have always come back great, and I am the weak link because no matter what PCOS lifestyle measures I follow I barely ever ovulate :(

@Sofasogood1 glad they called, what was the call outcome?

@Gracie2021 how do they fit in two in March? I’m assuming you have a period between collections so I’m trying to get my head round it.

Really positive news on your scan! Fingers crossed one or two of those slow ones catch up since you’ve got a few days left, you never know. Monday or Tuesday for collection is great progress, it’s nice to get that far.

@thislittlebird hopefully it won't really be a three month wait between transfers. Remember age is just a number, and you hopefully not much will have changed within the next year regarding your numbers. Maybe its worth talking to the clinic and asking them what the wait between transfers is?

@Sofasogood1 OMG!! I'm so angry for you!! Its just rude. Please file the complaint, and keep calling them until you get through. Is moving clinics an option?

I had my BMI check for our IVF yesterday, we passed (as expected), so now we are waiting for our appointment letter in the post (which I assume will come in after our funding has been approved).

First time testing at 14 dp IUI. It could be remnants of the trigger so will test over the next few days… but I’ve never had a positive test before and it’s so shocking to see one!

Omg @magnoliasinbloom that's a positive. The trigger would be long gone by 10 days past at the latest and it would be very faint. That right there is a strong positive 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

@magnoliasinbloom absolutely not the trigger! Congratulations! 🥳🎉🎉🎉

@magnoliasinbloom omgggg!!!! That is amazing!!!!

@magnoliasinbloom aah that's such a strong positive! Definitely not trigger at this point! 🎉

@Gracie2021 @paintfairy @beckyCarlos @Juno231 thanks so much!! Tested again this morning on a FRER and digital and feeling optimistic. I’ll ring the clinic tomorrow.

@Gracie2021 is your egg collection tomorrow? Wishing you lots of luck! xx