Entering into 8th cycle..

[Indianna2006]

Entering into 8th cycle…ttc number 2.

Feeling defeated and deflated even though I know odds are still on our side really..
I already have a DD who is 3 years 9 months so very much feel time is of the essence. Just desperate for it to happen now.

Feel like either people seem to fall super fast or seem like 12 months plus and don’t find many “in the middle” types.

Ive fallen pregnant 1st cycle before. And then DD took 7 cycles. So hence why this failed 7th cycle seems like a miserable milestone!

Anyone welcome to keep me company. Sucks 😫

@FlyOnTheWall89 that's good news!

@Indianna2006 also good progress!

Who knows maybe just getting these things organised and ticked off will be the mental offload that will help get that BFP soon.

@Lillice congrats how very very exciting 🥰

I am CD1 today as spotting turned into AF. Feeling ok though, going to take a break entirely from tracking and temping this month and plan to DTD(ish) a bit less so it's not as tiring. CD12, CD16, CD18 and CD20. Something like that anyway, I think sort of following the approach one of you mentioned last month. And will just assume / hope I ovulate around CD19/20 as I have done previous months. Long old wait now 😑

@OK92 I think I'll be right there with you tomorrow. I hate CD1. Your plan sounds fab.

@Indianna2006 ok brill - yes I had to tick that box too.

🤞🏻 for us all x

Congrats @Lillice wonderful news 🎉😀

Hi ladies, a little update. I finally got my bfp this week! I really didnt expect it, as I was getting the cm (tmi sorry) I usually get before af. But here it is, it finally happened when I least expected it. What I did different this month was no alcohol, EPO and didnt leave the bed for an hour after dtd. Sending everyone baby dust, it will happen for you ladies too. Just a matter of time, I promise xxx

@solven congratulations on your BFP!

I think I’m maybe CD6/7 at the moment. Not entirely sure as I’m not looking at my app and logging or doing any opks this cycle. I’m gonna try not obsess about it. And just get our blood tests and DHs sperm test done I. 2 weeks and await results. As Dr wants the nurse to check this polyp on my cervix. So feel like take a break from ttc so hard will do me good until we know what’s going on with that and if it’s hindering things. I have a feeling it might be..

Just gonna dtd when we want and have no pressure.
@FlyOnTheWall89 our form said DH will get his semen results back in 7 working days. So by time my next period is due when my DD has her birthday we will hopefully know more where we stand.

I’m gonna try take some time away this month from the board so may seem a bit quieter. I’m still here. Just trying to have a chilled cycle and think less about it as it’s getting all a bit consuming. Want to try enjoy the last month of my DD before she turns 4 and enjoy her and stop obsessing over what I don’t have as such!
Hard but I need to try.

🥰🥰 @FlyOnTheWall89 let us know when you get DHs sperm results back an I will check back on to hope for good news for you

Xx

@Solven massive congratulations. I so so want you to be right... it's just a waiting game.

@Indianna2006 💕, I might do the same and be a bit quieter but will check in for news.

We might get the SA results at a similar time then. I asked my OH to call earlier and he said the nurse was extremely expressive about calling on day 15 and not earlier hahaha.

Not sure if we should try DTD less this month. Just to try something new. Then I thought maybe I'll buy a ferti-lily. All these thoughts.

Xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 hahah we’re so impatient aren’t we. I just want it to be 3 weeks time so I know already. So just gonna try pass the time. Almost feel like at that point then we can begin to get further so so almost feel like what’s the point in trying atm as think it will come to nothing 🙈

Yes sometimes it’s too much in our heads rights. An this whole relaxing business is semi bollocks. But I think obsessing over every little thing and feeling negative and worrying about it all CANNOT help surely. But it’s hard.

@Indianna2006 @FlyOnTheWall89 I’m also going to be quieter this cycle, taking an active break from MN as was spending too much time reading threads / getting stressed and upset. Will check back in on this one though here and there. I’m only CD4 so a looong wait until ovulation for me.

We’re doing a few private tests now, perhaps premature but decided I want some peace of mind or to know if there is anything stopping us from conceiving.

Thinking of you both - we will get there ladies 🤞🏼🙏

@Solven huge congratulations!!!!

@OK92 looks like we are all on the same page. I'm around CD3 so we are linked. Speak soon guys xx

@Solven congratulations exciting news 🎉🌟

Hi guys, just popping on. My bloods came back for AMH. It was 10.7 which is indicated as normal on the paperwork. Going to do some of my own research too. X

Hi ladies!

Mind if I join? I know I'm late to the party!

TTC #2 cycle 12 but been trying since last a March (my cycles vary from 24 days to 27 days) currently on CD 26 and expected AF today. Nothing. I'm currently sat with very very mild cramps and my boobs are sore so expected her to show very soon. Took 8/9 cycles with DC# 1 who was 3 end of November.
We haven't told anyone and the amount of comments we get "when you having another" etc.
Feeling frustrated now and so glad but sad to see so many others in the same boat as us.

Congratulations ladies, 2 BFPs since I last checked in, amazing!!! There's hope for us all, 2022 has started well so far! 🤞🤞🤞
I'm trying not to check in too often, I get myself stressed so trying to keep than minimal. Trying to find time to DTD with an insomniac 2 year old is as much stress as I can handle 🥴 !
Thats us officially hit a year of properly trying/ no contraception/ no breastfeeding..... Not a nice milestone but just starting our 2 week wait so ever hopeful for this month.

As a random question - Do you ever wonder why we stressed so much about contraception when we were younger? All the pills, hormones, condoms, morning after pills 😳 and now it's the blooming polar oposite - we stress about cycles, dates, have perfectly timed, constant DTD and still nothing! We just can't win.

@FlyOnTheWall89 that’s great the results of your AMH were normal.

@moonpie32 hello! I hope AF didn’t show for you! I also get the ‘when are you having number two’ comments constantly. Puts me off socialising tbh as each month goes on without a BFP I find it harder to deal with. Thankfully my family are in the loop and are v sensitive about it so I mostly chat to them about it.

@Teachermummy83 ugh I know. Little did I know how HARD it actually is to get pregnant!!! 😮‍💨

Hope everyone else is doing well. I’m CD10 so approaching fertile week next week. As it stands I’m not tracking or temping this month and planning to follow CM and do it every other day around expected ovulation.

Hi @OK92!

AF hasn't showed and I got my BFP tonight. I was hesitant to respond as I know people have been here a while and are still trying. That's great that your family know and you can chat with them. Means they are there if you need them etc!

Congratulations @moonpie32 - really great to see a BFP at 12 months.

Hope everyone else is okay. News my end is pretty dismal. Terrible SA results, mainly in the morphology area so we are a very long way from a BFP. We have been referred to a fertility clinic now although may have a private consultation to get things moving. My lovely DH feels utterly shi*e about it - we have ordered ALL THE SUPPLEMENTS and hope we can improve things a bit in the next few months, if not it is most likely ICSI for us. Will watch from afar but might be a bit quieter on here while we work out what is next x

@moonpie32 congratulations! Lovely to see a BFP cycle 12. Well deserved!

@OK92 hope you’re okay hun.

@Teachermummy83 keep going. Any month could be the month.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I’m so sorry to hear that hun. That was not the news you were hoping for. What were his results if you don’t mind me asking? We’re his other parameters normal? As I believe if morphology is sometimes low if count is high it almost makes up for it. But obv depends on the other parameters and numbers etc.

I can only imagine that’s probably hit him hard. Men deal with stuff harder than us women on that front I think. Stranger things have happened and people can fall pregnant with lower sperm SA. But it can obv take longer than normal.
It’s no consolation. Medicine is amazing nowadays. And you will get your much awaited baby. But this procress is very difficult and distressing when you can’t choose it when you’re ready.
Sending you big hugs. If there’s anything I can do at all.

Let me know. Always here to lend an ear.

DH is off for his SA on Wednesday. And my bloods Friday next week. So hopefully we know more than too. I am expecting something similar maybe. But only time will tell.

@OK92, tell me about it!

@flyonthewall89 sorry you're having such rotten luck, that's tough. I totally get why a break might help.

@Indianna2006, yes, will do - not giving up yet!!!! Determination has got me this month, and we managed lots of DTD so I'm ever hopeful........ 🤞

@Moonpie32, huge congratulations, BFPs after a long while of trying give me hope..... Hope you're well and it's a smooth journey for you xx

In other news, I visited my cousin today who had her IVF baby just before Christmas. He's now 8 weeks old and has passed his due date which was Tuesday. We had a lovely visit, including a chat about their journey and donor situation and our long journey of trying. We spoke at length about how hard it is when other folk around you are popping out babies, whilst you struggle. Made me feel loads better, none of us are alone in this, and it's good to talk openly about it. Seeing them also reminded me that babies are possible in all sorts of ways. We just need to keep trying and moving forward along whichever path we're trying xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 I’m so sorry to hear. What an emotional rollercoaster for you 😢 I really hope you’re doing OK and know that you will get your BFP eventually, and now you’ve had initial tests you can target the issue and move forward. I understand you may be quiet on here, some of us may be around for a while (hopefully not but who knows!) so we are here for a chat whenever you need it.

@moonpie32 massive congrats - on cycle 12! Gives me such hope! Hope you are doing well.

@Indianna2006 hope you’re doing ok? You must be in the fertile week this week 🤞🏼

CD13 here. I had a private consultation and scan which indicated I have polycystic ovaries as they could see lots of follicles. Though I do ovulate so hopefully not a big concern, I think/hope it is mild as I don’t have any of the other main symptoms (except longer cycles). I’m now taking inositol under their recommendation and a higher strength folic acid. DH is awaiting SA results.

@OK92 I am now in 2ww. About 2dpo. Will be due AF around my DD’s 4th birthday 🤦🏻‍♀️

I have polycysitc ovaries before I tried for DD. But not the syndrome. Just extra follicles. But I fell straight away. And then cycle 7 after the mc. So it didn’t change anything for me.

Subsequently after pregnancy when I’ve had scans since I no longer have the extra follicles. Or didn’t anyway. So goes to show it can change 🤷🏻‍♀️ And if you ovulate and have fairly normal cycles then your hormones are prob normal etc. my cycles never changed I just had terrible skin and it’s why I went for checks and they found I had all these extra follicles. But didn’t stop me conceiving at all!

Fingers crossed for sperm SA. When will he get the results. My DH is off for his Wednesday. And they said 7 working days x

@Indianna2006 no count was low but not terrible and morphology was extremely low, but motility very high and all other measures normal. I hope with Proxeed and some other stricter changes, this will change in time. It's just even when everything is perfect it can take so long to get pregnant so I don't feel like anything will happen anytime soon and I'm not getting younger considering it would only be baby #1.

I'm also now a bit worried about my AMH because I think for 32/33 it's actually 'low'. I hope given all my other results that the quality is good. I'm wondering if I should have a follicle scan? Has anyone had one before?

How are you feeling about the tests @Indianna2006 ?

@OK92 if they have said it is probably mild, I think you should be okay. It seems more common than you'd think - it is a relief you are ovulating normally etc . Fingers crossed with the suggested meds, it may help things x

@FlyOnTheWall89 I have heard good things about the proxeed so fingers crossed. And sperm can change positively which is a good things. Let’s hope it’s enough. But no I know what you mean. It can take 12 months with two perfectly healthy ppl. But also ppl who do have issues still sometimes fall easy ish it within 2 years and sometimes there isn’t a rhyme or reason.

I’m feeling okay about them. Glad we’re getting some but I guess anxious incase DH swimmers have changed etc. but we can only wait and see.
Trying to still just think we just need time etc as I’m older than I was 5 years ago. But also you do keep wondering well why hasn’t it happened easy.

Goes between logic and non logic tbh.

Hi all. Can I also join please. Just about to start cycle 7 TTC. I have two children already who are a bit older. I didn't anticipate it taking this long.

Welcome @goingcrazyttc I hope your stay here is short and sweet! 🤞🏼

Don’t think we ever anticipate it taking this long..meh!

On we plod though xx

@Indianna2006 eek the TWW for you already! That came round quickly. Hopefully lots of distractions if your DD’s birthday is approaching.

I think SA will be back start of next week or maybe end of this week if we are lucky. Anxious to get the results.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I’ve not heard of a follicle scan before. Could you get that done via NHS or would it be private?

@goingcrazyttc I’m cycle 7 too. Fingers crossed this is the one 🤞🏼