Shackets from yesteryear, baltic crotches ❄️ and lots of ostriches 🐦 TTC bus 48

[bez91]

It’s been thirteen million years & Minster & the good time crew are still here…its September, autumn in full swing and we haven’t done too bad so far this month compared to previous months but I still think we are owed ladies.

Oh and we don’t just talk TTC, we’ll chat about anything. In fact that’s positively encouraged cos TTC can be bloody boring sometimes!

It costs an embarrassing life (or TTC) story for your ticket please then you can hop on board

Agency bus driver at the wheel.…

All aboard bus number 48

Plugging @minster2012 blog \\\___, we’ve had cancer, travels & ivf so need to get to the fun stuff, more ivf, surrogacy and more! #shamelessplug
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@minster2012 you sex pest you jumping on your poor DH 😂 (I'm sure he held up his hands in protest the whole time). Our sex ban was short lived too, after the last scan because she did an internal one too I was like well fuck it that wand was shoved further than his dick was ever going to reach so pretty sure its OK just to go for it now 😂

@somatronic your friend seems attention seeking you did the right thing not being goaded into debate about it.

@franklydear fab parents night report you must be so proud of how his transition has went, all the worry and all the fighting on his behalf has been 100% worth it in the end.

@lucyrp I'm with the others, put your foot down and refuse the book say its detrimental to his mental health having such a large visual making him stand out from his peers and highlighting the negativity. If the book is just to act as a home/school diary I agree with @franklydear, it could be done as an email or phone call. Your DS would still know that you are getting informed daily of what kind of day he's had but his peers don't need to know that. I'd also be asking the teacher to keep a record of what's happened before the behaviours, time of them, who he's around etc to spot if there's a pattern or trigger to his behaviours. Plus they also need to bear in mind he's just had a new sibling in the house and a lot of kids may act out for a while until they adjust so they need to account for that too. I'd also be asking what things they're putting in place to establish positive relationships with him and what they're doing to help build up his confidence and self esteem, just focusing on the negative behaviours sounds like very inexperienced teachers to be honest. We very much go by the line of all behaviour is communication so if a pupil is displaying negative behaviours it's your job to try work out the why behind it to change it that way rather than just focus on punishment that solves nothing.

@DKDK123 yes, it's so rewarding to see that all my efforts were for a good reason and not being a jobsworth, people don't spell it to me cos I am scary, but I know they think it. As a teacher you explained it do much better, behaviour is communication, another thing one of my autism expert say: you have to presume the kid is doing the best he can, so work from there, meet them where they are

Hi All, Back in the bus after mmc at 10-11 weeks in August. Still struggling with the grief but looking at going back to ivf as time is against us. Any positive ivf stories for 38yrs and up? Trying to psych myself up for another round but feel like it’s hopeless. Only 2 embryos last time one failed and other mmc.

@lucyrp it does sound like they're very much focusing on the negatives, that's detrimental and certainly won't improve things. Hope you can come to something that works for everyone, good advice from everyone else!

@DKDK123 thinking of you today, hoping all goes well 💕

@Franklydear thank you, you've made me feel that everything I've said to them so far is correct although it does seem to be falling on deaf ears which is never good. I'm due to have another meeting with them at my request so will have to write some questions and statements down because you'll probably know all too well once you're in a meeting you can get carried away and miss to speak about half the things you meant to!

@Justanothercyster extremely dodgy and very detrimental! His behaviour wasn't the best before the school holidays and since he's gone back it seems to have gotten much worse which I'm sure could have been helped 🙄

@paintfairy I love the washing machine idea, makes sense actually considering he left his snack pot open in his bag and leaked raspberry juice all over it 👀😂

@DKDK123 my mum is a qualified nursery leader and has worked with children since she had me so I like to think she knows what she's talking about and mostly everything everyone has said on here she's also said to me and the teachers. Exactly that! It's been such a tough couple of years for everyone let alone a child starting school! He hasn't had the best chance at getting into the swing of things what with covid and his teacher coming back from maternity then going off again on maternity at 28 weeks because of covid. He's such a sensitive soul and like you say he's just had a new sibling which is greatly exciting but of course is difficult to adjust to. I really don't think there's much positivity going on or praise which I asked then to make sure there was. I asked that the book had positive things in it too so we knew when he'd done good things or gad a good day which they used to do but there's been none of that lately. When I spoke to the teacher at the gate she said he'd done a lovely piece of work the other day and I said well I didn't know about that because it wasn't written down so how can we praise the good things when we don't know about them?! Its almost like I have to discount the book altogether at home because we used to have a chat about it agyer he'd finished school and some of the time it seemed like there was only one side of the story written in the book and now poor DS won't even discuss the book at all 😢

@bez91 thanks, I really hope so as I'm at a loss with what to do as he's also like it at home with me now because I feel like everything is to do with this bloody book🙄

Sorry for the am essay! 🙈🤣

@lucyrp I have a little notebook I take minutes of the meetings on, that way they know whatever they say, they'll need to follow, I am a mean cow, so I would have ripped the book in front of them, but I made a mid 50s male teacher cry in a meeting, in my defense he deserved it, he took on my boy, you are the only one with your boy best interest at heart, don't let them tell you otherwise, and the essay? We're here to support you, I wish I was closer...
@DKDK123🥰

Today's happy music, Katy Perry, I need fireworks 🎆

Ps I know the spine is hard to crack, cut it a bit with scissors before hand, and then ripped it as this is what we do with the book, let ds know, he needs to know mum is on his corner

Oh I only came to say welcome back to @InvisibleDreamer 🙄

@lucyrp for me, it helps that I am the daughter and granddaughter of army officers and I can bluff my authority

@Franklydear I read your spine comment before seeing what you'd written above and thought you were some kind of hit woman. 🤣
@lucyrp I think if every day I had my husband list all the negative things I'd done that day, and there was no balance even with positives, then I'd be out the door in less than a week! No one can take that?
@InvisibleDreamer I'm sorry about the mmc. I'm 38 and just about to start a round. Baseline scan next week. So ask me after! 🤣 Its so difficult isn't it, I think it's so different for everyone it's hard to predict how it's going to work out for you.

@paintfairy well, my old senco thinks so, she's quite happy to see the back of me, once she made an education plan that controlled every minute of ds day, so I asked to see it, ripped it in pieces and just calmly said, we need a new one, she didn't mess with me, haven't had to should or threatened anybody in the new school yet, it's quite nice

God yes I thought you were on about snapping a persons spine @Franklydear - I would NOT mess with you 😂

@lucyrp that sounds awful for your poor little one, I agree it's been really hard the last couple of years for kids and then a new sibling in the mix, of course he might be a bit unsettled! What a horrible way of dealing with it! Are there other options for school if moving him is the answer?

@DKDK123 sending love and well wishes for today 💜💜💜

@InvisibleDreamer hello I joined the bus in sept, never good to see people return but always nice to have people to chat to! Any chance of any testing to see why the MMC happened?

Hope you're ok today @Minster2012 saw the drama of your hair! You just need to get @Dollybird89 round to sort it out.

Talking of @Dollybird89, how are you?

I was meant to be at the gym today but my left shoulder blade is absolute agony so I need to do stretching instead I think. Keep trying except Ds thinks it's funny and sits on me. Not sure an extra 16kg is that helpful to stretching!

@DKDK123 thinking of you today! 🤞🏼💕

Hope today goes well, thinking of you @DKDK123

@DKDK123 thinking of you 🤞🏻🌈come on Emily Simba!

@Franklydear im pretty sure you could find a bum flap onesie??

Reading the rest

Good luck today @DKDK123, will be thinking of you.

I think onesie is the way to go @Franklydear, how about matching his and hers? These ones come in a sexy leopard print and have the all important bum flap… 🤣🤣🤣

We have a heartbeat!!!! ❤❤❤😁 And measuring exactly 8+1 which by my last period is exactly what it should be. I dont think I breathed the entire time she was scanning until she said there was a heartbeat. Once I told the woman it was the first heartbeat we've been able to see after 8 that didn't make it that far she was nearly in tears and then made a video of the wee heart beating for us free of charge telling us that any time we needed reasurrance we were just to watch the video of our wee fighter. 😭 Dunno if I cried more the first scan when there was no heartbeat or this one where they actually found one. I've been an utter emotional mess ever since 🙈😂 Now to drive across the country for a wedding party, at least I won't need to drown my sorrows now! Thank you for all the hand holds this week you ladies really are the best supportive bunch going 😘
Now squeezing @Minster2012 hand extra tight ready for yours tomorrow

YESSSSSSSSSSSSS! Come on little miracle bean!!!!!! So pleased for you @DKDK123! Enjoy your weekend ❤️❤️❤️

Oh @DKDK123 this is just the best news. I knew your DS was on to something! 💜💜💜💜

Fantastic news @DKDK123 ! 👏🏻 👏🏻 😃 Have a lovely time at the wedding party.

Omg @DKDK123 I'm sooooooo happy for you 🥰🙌🏻🌈🥳❤️I'm crying with happiness for you (& Cos I'm an emotional wreck)

@Haiyaa love that idea for @Franklydear 🤣

@Minster2012 @Haiyaa 🙈 I did ask
@DKDK123 yes! So relieved, love the video for when you have a wobble

I wouldn't mess with @Franklydear either 😆 💪🏼

Ouch @larrythelizard would swimming help if you're still wanting to get the exercise in?

Amazing @DKDK123 been thinking of you all morning that's fantastic 😭 I'm also an emotional wreck and shed a tear. You enjoy yourself today ❤️❤️