Shackets from yesteryear, baltic crotches ❄️ and lots of ostriches 🐦 TTC bus 48

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It’s been thirteen million years & Minster & the good time crew are still here…its September, autumn in full swing and we haven’t done too bad so far this month compared to previous months but I still think we are owed ladies.

Oh and we don’t just talk TTC, we’ll chat about anything. In fact that’s positively encouraged cos TTC can be bloody boring sometimes!

It costs an embarrassing life (or TTC) story for your ticket please then you can hop on board

Agency bus driver at the wheel.…

All aboard bus number 48

Plugging @minster2012 blog \\\___, we’ve had cancer, travels & ivf so need to get to the fun stuff, more ivf, surrogacy and more! #shamelessplug
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@Minster2012 that's so annoying having to still wait 2 weeks. I was hoping you were a day down at least today. I completely get they prefer 14 days so they can get clarity on what's going on but I do agree there's no harm in an extra scan in a week for your mental health as it's a lot to hang over you! How are you feeling otherwise (symptoms)? I hate how often things can go wrong it's just not fair. Still hoping for you that it's just cysts and not molar 🤞

I'm sorry about all the worry and waiting @Minster2012 You poor thing.

@paintfairy how annoying are they? Jesus.

I have no news just busy busy all week. I am back on a diet. I moved my weighing scales to a harder surface and saw that I'm 6lbs heavier than I thought so that's fun.

@Somatronic 😂 I have this too, I've always been 2.5kg heavier in my kitchen than my hallway. Both tiled floors so don't see the logic. Go with the lightest for sure 😉

Thanks for all the 💕 ladies, today was tough, had to sign cremation papers 🥺 my OH has been amazing but he's back at work tomorrow so it's just gonna be me.. I've told him to go and I'm ok but I really don't know how am I tbh. I've got a great support network and they are fab but I dunno.. had my dad's carer on phone crying today and I just didn't know how to respond to her... I feel pissed coz all the stress she caused him recently before the move and then she had cheek to ask me to move the wake coz it didn't suit her! She wants to be there when I scatter ashes but I don't know how to politely say no... I go back to work Friday too,, need to keep busy.

@Dollybird89 don't say no, just don't tell her when it's happening. And after say it was a private thing. It really pisses me off when people start demanding when it's not their place. We had it though with my dad. And you are well within your rights to have zero tolerance! Yes try to keep busy, but also take time out for yourself when you need it xx

@Dollybird89 don't say no politely I think just say it then. Just say "I'm afraid it's just a few of us family" all the love. You are stronger than you think xxx

@Somatronic @bez91 I've never moved my scales, maybe I should find the lightest spot!

Not seen MAFS tonight but now watching the sex thing with Alice Levine, finding it nice light relief 🤣

@paintfairy I'm glad you've spoken to them, DHs they not say they they could chase the drug company?! I bloody hope they arrive, and love that you think phoning again would make you look like a nutcase. Yeahhh that would be me 🤣😬

@2020mission tufts I've felt distinctly less pregnant. It's probably in my head but lots of poking boobs later I think they are less sore 😔

@Franklydear honestly I think the "bless you" was the worst bit. I should've counted on the second call how many there were 🙄🌈

@Dollybird89 this isn’t the time to be polite, do what you need to, and don’t have anybody there that you don’t want to, the time to show your love for the person is when they were alive, this is for you now, and tell dh that you don’t know how you feel, it’s ok to have a wobble
What is this moving scales malarkey?
@paintfairy it’s not being a nutcase, it’s getting shit done
@Minster2012 don’t you go down the dark staircase this two weeks, I wish I could say everything will be ok, but there’s still hope

@kaylsd I've broken my little toe this week so your family is in good company!
@minster2012 such a headfuck. I hope that you are coping OK, such a difficult time. One of the health visitors kept saying 'bless you' to me when I was answering their mental health questionnaire and I wanted to hit her

@Minster2012

@Franklydear is right @Dollybird89 tell her where to go. Don't feel pressured into doing something you don't want to 💕

Ouch @Kirky658 how have you managed that?

Hope everyone else is ok 😊

@bez91 I stubbed it on the side of the sofa while rushing to get Alice's bottle from the kitchen 😅

@Kirky658 @Minster2012 I have no issue with then being sympathetic or using phrases but only when it's genuine. I agree it's bloody annoying when it's like they are just programmed to do that. Also once is OK but repeatedly is, well, irritating. And also patronising. Don't feel sorry for me- just do your job and sort your shit out, to make things better for me?! That's what will help. My utter pet hate at the moment is when people call you 'lovely'. It seems to have swapped from 'hun', which i also despise. I'm neither! Do one. 🤣

You may have noticed i am a straight to the point person. The fluffiness just seems pointless to me. 😁 That's not to say I don't care- but my caring advice is also not fluffy.
I just don't do fake. I did think the same when I went to the fertility clinic to be honest- receptionist spoke to me like I was dying or something. Nope, just here for a scan. 🤷‍♀️
@Franklydear I agree with you! We need to keep @Minster2012 staying clear of any dark anythings! Sometimes being on here makes me feel useless in that sense. Because we aren't there IRL and can't do anything. And I don't feel I can say anything useful either. I too would love to say it'll be alright, don't worry (and I hope to god that is the outcome) but obviously no one knows. Its absolutely shit. But we do care. 💐💐💐

@Dollybird89 agree with everyone, it's not the time to be polite, you don't own anyone anything. Hugs to you!

@Minster2012 another 2WW. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

I had a surprise peak on my cb today. Wasn't due until Sunday I think. Good thing we DTD yesterday, but I really didn't manage the SMEP as I intended to.

Broken your toe ouch that's like having the worst paper cut ever!! And let's just hit them next time they say bless you eh?! @Kirky658

@Franklydear thank you darling, get your head into 🍆🍆for FW you

It's really cold and rainy here, just did a soggy dog walk and my hands were thinking hmmmm gloves weather! Hope everyone else is ok

@clolo have you had a lovely holiday? Did it take your mind off the first week? I'm guessing you didn't take any tests with you?

@paintfairy 🤞🏻for gloves!

Well done on the PB at the gym @larrythelizard, smashing it 💪

@paintfairy what a hassle it sounds like you're having. It shouldn't be up to you to have to phone around chasing up meds tho it doesn't surprise me. Hopefully you get everything soon so you can get started.

@Minster2012 an in-between scan even if they can't say any conclusions would definitely be better for the parents mental health to help them better prepare either way, 2 weeks is nothing to them but a lifetime to the ones waiting. I think some times they forget its real people with real emotions and mental turmoil they're dealing with. Do you think you'd sneak in a private scan yourself next week?

@dollybird89, I get that carers can become attached to those they care for but at the end of the day she needs to still remain professional and respect the familys wishes. She had no right to ask you to change the wake. Just say to her that you're too upset to deal with people right now so won't be answering any more calls, you will send out information on the funeral in due course and leave it at that. If she asks again about scattering the ashes just say I'm sorry it's going to be a private family event only. Or get your OH to deal with her so you don't have to, it's very selfish of her putting pressure on you at this time when you're grieving!

I was even more stressed as I had a text from the drugs company. You go online and select your delivery date and the earliest one was Monday! Meltdown. So I called them up. 🙄 But no- @DKDK123 I'm sure I shouldn't have to be doing this. Anyway, she said they don't offer it on the portal as people select it when they don't need it. But yes it can come by Saturday. So hopefully it'll turn up!
It did make me laugh though it said to check what was coming was correct. How on earth do I know?! 🤣 I honestly feel like I have no idea what's going on. I maybe need to accept that. But I'm sure it's not ideal.

I feel you @Somatronic. I've been good all week - only lost about 0.5lb and that was after moving the scales from one tiled floor to another. Humph. Annoyed.

I wouldn't worry about being polite @Dollybird89 it's not like you'll see her again? But then I'm a bit of a knob..!

Love that @Franklydear

Ouch @Kirky658

SMEP always looks HARD @Bundaberg84 - my DH could not manage it for sure 😂

Definitely rainy here although not sure on cold as I haven't been out yet @Minster2012. Can tell I'm feeling more comfortable in my new job as I just did a make-up free webex with a techie man!

Got a really sore throat so think I should do a LFT, not long had a coffee though so waiting for that to disappear!

I did it 🥳 I should have completed it last week but due to this chest infection I literally had to limp over the finish line drastically cutting down my daily miles this week. Other than this last bump tho I kept up my 5miles a day and managed to spread some much needed awareness about baby loss on my social media to friends and family, so really proud 💪

@larrythelizard it is, right? Well because I ovulated so early this month, we didn't do it. We were just starting - so at least I'm not too exhausted yet and will cover all bases tonight and probably tomorrow. Just in time before SIL and her boyfriend arrive for a week.

At least that's good distraction for the TWW @Bundaberg84!

Whoop well done @DKDK123 that's a great achievement!

@DKDK123 🥳 woop! Well done!
@larrythelizard we tried smep. But then like that was ever going to work. 🤣 I'm lucky my dh can but even for us it was hard. Some days you just can't be bothered. As @Bundaberg84 probably found! Life gets in the way. We did do a couple of months though.
@clolo yeah in the office doesn't sound ideal. 🤣 Fingers crossed for you. No symptoms means nothing.

@larrythelizard you're right, it is! but then again, I find the second week to be a lot harder than the first week. Hopefully this cycle will be easier.

@paintfairy absolutely! especially if you start too early haha

Oh I missed some stuff.

@paintfairy that sounds positive - means you're hopefully/possibly/probably on for this cycle 🤞🏼

@clolo we all know the first week is too early to symptom spot anyway. well done for holding out until Sunday!

Ouch @Kirky658

@paintfairy I like straight to the point 👌🏼 the best medial appointments I've had is with doctors that usually aren't British that don't skirt around and say it how it is! So have you just got to hope and wait the drugs turn up Saturday? 🤦🏼‍♀️

I suggested SMEP to DH a few months ago @larrythelizard @Bundaberg84 I knew I was being ambitious, I could manage it but him probably not. He didn't even answer me just looked at me like i was asking him a rhetorical question 😆

Fantastic @DKDK123 I knew you were close to doing it! Well done you 💪🏼 what's next 😉