TTC 35+ Thread 12

[Misty84]

Hope this works girls, haven’t done this before, we’ve run out of space on the other thread.
@thislittlebird @ElsieG3m @Marvellouslymadmum @KatRee @Anxiouswannabe

Hi @Lucylaroo - hoping for a relatively short and very successful journey for you!

Thanks @A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 . I tried your Castor oil pack suggestion last month whilst OH was away -very relaxing

I've been on a supplement buying binge over the weekend- something I do when I want to feel like I'm doing something positive but can't be bothered to put any actual effort in. Should really be familiarising myself with how to prepare and inject the meds at this stage, but not got the emotional energy for that just yet

Have to say though, I do feel like the supplements I've been on so far may be having a positive effect. Since I upped dosage of ubiquinol from 200 to 400mg and added in the alpha lipoic acid, my ovulation has been a little later, which is no bad thing for me as have been having very short cycles and early ovulation, so hoping it means they are helping the eggs mature a bit better. Who knows

Hello all and welcome newbies!

I wondered why this thread had gone so quiet then realised I hadn’t posted so wasn’t getting notifications 🤣🤣🤣

So, I’m doing well here. I’m 43 next month and kinda winding down on the TTC journey. I can’t lie, it feels like a huge relief. I feel like we gave it a really great shot so we can look back with no regrets, but now I’m going to return to my lifelong, pre-DH stance that it’s the childfree life for me. I’ve had some really exciting things happen over the past few weeks so it’s all feeling like the universe say “you’re gonna be juuuust fine”!

So, I’m ditching supplements when these ones are done, and I’ve given my ov sticks away. We’ll continue “trying” until my partner’s vasectomy in November, which will mark exactly a year of trying, which is a decent shot given neither of us have a fertility issue (just age, innit?!).

Going to keep checking in on here if that’s okay? Feel very invested in some of your journeys! I need to see how you all get on! Xxxx

@KatRee I actually loved doing the castor packs, was probably all in my head, but I felt so relaxed. Supplement binges sound good! Understand when the alternative is some scary online research into injections.

@Geriatric1234 that's brilliant news on the exciting things happening! And ditching all the tracking and stuff will just hopefully make it having lots of fun and interesting sex, rather than the scheduled quickies a lot of us prob get used to on this journey

Hiya hope is well with everyone.

Sending positive energy to you all 🍀🍀

@Geriatric1234 I'm so pleased that you're feeling at peace with your decisions, it's nice to have such a calming influence in here and love to still hear from you xx

Sorry I took a break.

I got a bad news from my ivf clinic. Apparently I do not have rubella immunity in my system despite me doing the MMR thing ages ago. They want me to do the booster and delay it by a month.

The thing is I didn't know that and I'm in yet another depressing tww. I don't know what will happen if I contact rubella during this period. Crap.

I'm not sure when I should get the booster. If I do it now what If I'm pregger ? If I don't do it what if I am pregger?

And if I don't do it now what if I am not pregger ? If I do it on cd 1 can I still start my IVF the next cycle ? It's all so confusing

It's just too hard

@Geriatric1234 so glad you're in a good place and have so many exciting things to look forward to. Reaching point of healthy acceptance is so important and well done you for making the decision. Wishing you loads of luck for what comes next. Xx

@AnxiousWannabe oh that is so tough. I'm really sorry to hear that. I think you don't have too much of a choice here I'm afraid. You can't risk having the vaccine in the tww. I think it's highly unlikely that you actually catch the actual disease. I'd book it in for the first day of your period and then delay your start (not sure how long by - you'd have to ask the clinic). I know that this must be beyond frustrating but not sure there's a way around it? I think the same may happen to me unfortunately - can't find my vaccine record and need to do the antibody test. Sending you big virtual hugs xx

@AnxiousWannabe if I were you I’d just have it and then delay a month I suppose. It’s hard. I have the same dilemma and I’m hoping my clinic will accept evidence of my two doses as good enough to start.

@Geriatric1234 that’s great that you’ve come to terms with it and are happy to move on from here. Best of luck either way, make sure to pop in and say hi 🙋‍♀️ x

@thislittlebird
I know...but why two doses though ?

The thing is if I do it on cd1 and my cycle is 30 days then it's just a one month delay. Anything shorter I'd have to wait for another no...

@AnxiousWannabe how many doses have you had so far? Two is standard, do they want another two?

Thanks @ElsieG3m @thislittlebird @Misty84
The thing is I had my MMR jab but my stupid body just doesn't retain it. I remember having it as a kid and when I was 12 i was offered the booster jab but my mum incorrectly rejected it. So I did another antibody check like five years ago and did both the MMR jabs

I'm so angry and frustrated with the whole.process. if only I had known it earlier I'd would done it sooner. Like way sooner.

The thing is I read the internet and understand it is a theoretical risk if I get the vaccine now that it may impact the baby. But who will wanna take any risk right ? If I'm lucky enough to be pregger I just need to be super careful and do rubella test every month perhaps sigh.

If I'm not pregger..most likely not..what do I do...I can't even TTC a month after the MMR which brings me to the dreaded ivf

Life is so tough.

I had my MMR jabs in the past ...but I don't retain the antibody. And I don't have records of it on hand. So the clinic wants evidence of me doing a booster jab ....instead of redoing the whole thing.

What about you ? Did u have it in the past ?

@AnxiousWannabe rubella is very rare here now, don’t travel anywhere it’s not rare if ivf works that’s for sure. I would probably just have the boosters then agree to proceed with or without the antibodies. Some people don’t retain or create antibodies like others so it can’t be helped.

I have my second dose on Aug 12 and then a month’s wait before we can proceed. I wouldn’t take the risk of having it in your system when pregnant, even if the risk is very low.

I think I had it but I have no evidence of it. So I had to redo it, then I’m just going to ask the clinic if they’ll accept written evidence of my two recent doses as acceptable to begin.

@thislittlebird
Thanks for dealing with my crap...sorry to bombard you with questions

TTC is hard. And to not even been given the chance to try is even harder. This really really sucks

@AnxiousWannabe yeah, it sucks a lot. But it is what it is. I think I only learned about this issue because you raised it ages ago, it’s even more frustrating when there’s women getting pregnant every day who don’t even have to think about the mmr.

@AnxiousWannabe just so frustrated for you. Once you think you're ready to get going (& it's such a big thing to get going!) it's so hard then to have to pause. Maybe the clinic can give you some more advice?

So I may have found a way out - we are planning to do pgta anyway which means fresh embryo transfer is out for us.

So from egg collection to frozen embryo transfer we have six weeks gap at least. So I'm asking the clinic if I can still do the egg collection and do my MMR vaccine then

@ElsieG3m
Clinic doesn't give a damn. I think they just treat this as a manufacturing process.

@Geriatric1234 I’m so pleased you’ve come to a decision and found peace with that. You’re always welcome here!!! ❤️

@AnxiousWannabe I hope you find a resolution with the clinic that you’re happy with. All these obstacles are so difficult and make this journey so much harder than it already is.

Hope everyone else is ok.
CD1 for me, so injections start tomorrow.

Hey @Misty84
Good luck ! Ur prescription looks diff from mine. I meant to reply but I was shutting this all out to calm my nerves. Gonna compare now

@AnxiousWannabe I'm really sorry that that's the case. Sounds like you've made a sensible plan though.