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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Misty84 · 27/07/2021 11:41

Hope this works girls, haven’t done this before, we’ve run out of space on the other thread.
@thislittlebird @ElsieG3m @Marvellouslymadmum @KatRee @Anxiouswannabe

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Marvellouslymadmum · 22/02/2022 21:43

@MiaKay hi and welcome

@Tinkerbell098 I'm sure it'll be fine I've known other ladies on here have one and be fine!

@KatRee yes it was pretty awful but luckily everything has come back over the course of the day. I've got to phone again tomorrow about the appointment as the correct secretary wasn't in.

Tinkerbell098 · 23/02/2022 08:59

@KatRee @thislittlebird @Marvellouslymadmum thanks for the reassurance. Hope it goes ok.

@Marvellouslymadmum hope you get to sort out your appointment today. How strange!

MiaTTC2 · 23/02/2022 12:21

It's so nice to meet you all! ❤️❤️

KatRee · 23/02/2022 21:57

Nice to meet you too @MiaTTC2 ! Is there a chance you might actually not be late yet if your cycle hasn't yet settled down again? Not really sure how it works when it comes back after giving birth? May be worth testing again if it doesn't show up within the next couple of days? Are you tracking ovulation at all?

@thislittlebird ooh, I wouldn't fancy paint fumes when feeling delicate with the hormones- will be nice to have a freshly decorated house though! I'm OK thanks, EC should be Monday all being well

@Marvellouslymadmum Glad you are finally up and running again after Eunice - what a nightmare! Any luck getting through today?

@Tinkerbell098 I found the HyCoSy, which is similar to HSG absolutely fine. Had a few seconds of pain when they were trying to get the dye up the tube that turned out to be blocked, but it was very fleeting and just like cramps, nothing unmanageable. I find focussing in breathing helps me relax in those situations

Hoping43 · 23/02/2022 23:28

@Tinkerbell098 sorry to hear you had a blocked tube. Do they know the cause?

Tinkerbell098 · 24/02/2022 10:58

@KatRee thanks, I hope they will let me take my mask off for a bit as I would want to be able to breathe properly through all that pain. Good luck for EC on Monday. How are you feeling about it?

@Hoping43 hope they are not blocked! Only having HSG on Wednesday, so I don't know how my tubes are yet!

KatRee · 24/02/2022 17:44

@Tinkerbell098 - thank you- this is my third EC, so in a way I am less nervous, because I know the procedure itself has been fine in the past, but in another way I am more nervous about whether we get good results because every failed cycle is a step closer to the end of the road, which feels very scary and sad x

Hoping43 · 24/02/2022 19:14

@Tinkerbell098 sorry I read it wrong! I thought it was you saying your tube was blocked. Good luck xx

KatRee · 03/03/2022 20:12

Hope HSG went ok @Tinkerbell098 x

thislittlebird · 03/03/2022 21:00

@KatRee I forgot your EC was Monday, how did it go?

@Tinkerbell098 hope the HSG went well!

ShirleyValentineManc · 04/03/2022 10:09

Hey girls

On IVF list at Manchester RI. Waiting to hear when we start.
Had two pregnancy announcements this week, and I'm beyond furious. Why us, right?
This is the third time where so called friends have had private chats with me, sharing our fertility woes, only to have these women announce pregnancies on social media, and not give me a private heads up, as discussed.
One is a neighbour, I sit in my lounge and see her coming and going and it's like a slap in the face.
Really not in a good head space and here to speak to you who may have/had the same rage.
Need to find some peace

KatRee · 04/03/2022 13:05

@ShirleyValentineManc Wow, how insensitive! We know pregnancies are going to happen and people are going to want to share their good news, but it doesn't cost anything to have a bit of empathy. A sensitive heads up is so appreciated and really helps soften the gut punch of a social media announcement. I'm sorry that people that you were close enough to to share your struggles haven't shown you the consideration to do this. I can only think that they felt awkward and decided to avoid a difficult conversation rather than treat you with kindness

@thislittlebird Thank you- it went ok thanks. We got 9 eggs and I'm feeling well recovered

ShirleyValentineManc · 04/03/2022 13:42

@KatRee perfect words, thanks for taking the time to respond, it's made a difference
They've been binned off!
Hope everyone is feeling ok on this rollacoster

KatRee · 04/03/2022 14:13

@ShirleyValentineManc Good! Glad it helped a bit
Hope you get your start date soon x

ShirleyValentineManc · 04/03/2022 15:45

Does anyone here have 'unexplained infertility'? We've assumed we'll have to have full IVF as they can't test a condition that doesn't exist!

Hoping43 · 04/03/2022 16:40

@ShirleyValentineManc I don’t know what I have yet. Been TTC our third for nearly 12 months. Had two previously with no problems and much quicker. Gearing up for treatment now, either IVF or ovulation induction. I would like a HSG to see if I have any scarring from my previous c-section but we have an appt with a consultant 29th March so just waiting to see the recommendations. X

Cally1980 · 04/03/2022 19:36

Hi! New here,
41 never been pregnant, partner had a vasectomy reversal 6 months ago (no kids) Started using ovulation tests, first try’s coming up. Realise it’s a super long shot!

thislittlebird · 04/03/2022 21:07

@ShirleyValentineManc ugh, hate that. They could just text so you get time to process, but nope. Don't worry, you aren't alone in the rage. I'm not sure I have peace but I definitely have the rage lol. Sounds like binning them was a good call!

I'm not sure if I mentioned it on this thread before, but I had a work friend who basically didn't tell me she was due to have a baby, and I had to find out through colleagues who aren't as closer as her. Six weeks prior she'd told me they were 'trying'...

@KatRee 9 eggs is great! Well done, when do you get the next update?

@Cally1980 welcome to the thread! You never know tbh, some people have no problems (including my friends at 39/40) but there's a few of us here who can't leave the ttc boards however hard we try!

ShirleyValentineManc · 05/03/2022 12:16

Welcome @Cally1980 yep me too, no children, how silly to believe, stop contraception and we'd have a baby in a year Grin
@thislittlebird told my fiance how I felt, he said he feels guilty everyday, "I can't give you what you want" Jesus, this is just awful isn't it?!
Read the news about the poor little boy killed by his mother and partner. I just can't make sense of this world sometimes. People on this thread desperate to give a loving home and then people like that?!

KatRee · 05/03/2022 12:29

@ShirleyValentineManc
I have semi-unexplained fertility! They can account for my sub-fertility as one of my tubes is blocked, but the other one is open, so I should have been able to get pregnant after 3 years trying. Despite that my clinic did say I could try a couple of cycles of ovulation induction with times intercourse before starting IVF if I wanted to. This is a private clinic mind, I don't know if NHS clinics would have a different policy

Hi @Cally1980 - Not an expert, but from bits I've read, I don't think it's a long shot at all at 41. For most women it takes longer as we get older as the proportion of good eggs in fewer, but lots and lots of people eventually have success. Quite a few of us here have been very unlucky however, but I think most of us have had investigations and have some kind of idea about why. I would say I do wish I'd pursued investigations earlier- I spent over a year thinking maybe we just weren't trying hard enough!

@thislittlebird - thank you- I have had a 'good quality' embryo transferred this morning and three more are being frozen. Still a long way from an actual baby, but this is the best result I've ever had across 3 cycles

I've been trying to eat a fairly high-protein/low carb diet since our last cycle failed. At least 60g protein and less than 100g carbs/day and also started taking 2 new supplements - TruNiagen and PQQ. Both have been linked with improved egg quality (in animal studies, so evidence isn't considered strong, but they don't do any harm - well only to your bank account ! )
I'll never know if these things have helped or not, but the quality of our embryos was so much better than before, so maybe they have

thislittlebird · 05/03/2022 12:46

@ShirleyValentineManc yeah, it’s really bloody awful. I don’t think people who haven’t been through this can even imagine the pain of it all. It’s trauma, but it doesn’t really get acknowledged. It’s so easy for everyone else to do.

@KatRee ahhh that’s great news! 3 frozen is very exciting! Fingers crossed for this one, but it is nice to know you have back ups. I wish I’d had a transfer now, I’m finding all the waiting really very hard. My body betrayed me with breathing issues 😩

I ate a high protein diet (like you, 60g upwards per day) because I’d read a study about women 36-39 with poor egg quality where a high protein diet had helped them improve quality. Obviously impossible to say if it helped but it makes some sense to me that lots of protein helps eggs develop. I’d had a protein shake for breakfast all through January and then during stims I cranked it up a bit more and had protein three times per day mostly.

Cally1980 · 05/03/2022 13:47

Thanks to those who replied.
Im hoping it’s not a long shot but we don’t know if the reversal worked, plus I’m bordering on obese and have been stressed from work. Trying to take it easy and just got an ovulation flashing face on a clear blue test strip so going to give it a go this month :)

Marvellouslymadmum · 05/03/2022 18:05

@KatRee finally got it all sorted and managed to start the 100mg clomid in time! Glad your ec went well and congratulations on being pupo!!

@ShirleyValentineManc I think we've all had the rage, it's ok to think why you and be upset. Hopefully it will be your turn soon. We are classed as 'secondary infertility' just because we've both had children 15 or more years ago - I think its pretty much the same as unexplained! I've done 3 rounds of clomid 50mg and now in my first cycle of 100mg after almost 4 years ttc so hoping this will work!

@Cally1980 hi and welcome, good luck 🤞🏻

I'm hitting the weight loss and exercise hard now, it's the last thing I can do that may make a difference!

ShirleyValentineManc · 06/03/2022 11:56

@Misty84 how are you?

Hoping43 · 06/03/2022 12:20

Hi guys. How is everyone? Does anyone have any idea about what kind of treatment I may be offered? Had two children previously, no issues. Had planned section with my second. I have regular periods, bloods all normal, antral follicle count normal. Waiting on AMH results. Husbands results normal. I’m 35. Do you think I will be offered ovulation induction or do you think it’ll be straight to IVF? Just wondered if anyone has been a similar position? TIA

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