🧙please, fellas impregnate, I’m here to ovulate 🦥

[Peachycream]

And the lucky winner of thread name bingo is:@SareBear87

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Here we go again, 2 threads deep, numerous cheese boards, several BFPs and more to pick up along the way!

We’re a group of hormonal, emotional and down right loveable 30somethings TTC #1
Feel free to join us, nothing is TMI and no one here will judge you, we just love and support each other which some giggles along the way!

Our last thread seemed to have some luck so let’s see how lucky this one is 🥰

If I’ve forgotten anyone I apologise but trying to remember everyone at once is hard!
@Aries491
@Sparklingwine1
@80sPadme
@PurpleCat88
@HRP1990
@CTMcG
@KayL1988
@Dannii892
@Foodster
@glasspaw
@GingerTea333
@Eli707
@SkeletonSkins
@Mrsspoon3
@Emmaldo14

@taytay2020 oh don’t worry, I’ve sworn off men for at least the next 10 years. I can’t be doing with the hassle and anxiety of it all and online dating doesn’t appeal to me even a little bit. So I’m pretty comfortable with spending the rest of my life as an old maid by this point.

Yeah I do the same thing, which is why it’s super annoying when I pop a pair in and the sun lasts for about 3 seconds. What’s most annoying is that I’d been awake for a good 2 hours before I decided it was safe to use them 😂 it’s like it did it on purpose

For anyone who was interested about when I ovulated this month, I started spotting today, so I would say I ovulated around 4/5 days before my app predicted.

Although it’s a non-issue for me now I remember at the time of confusion I was asked for updates……so that’s my final cycle update for you all. Is it sad that I’m upset by that? 🥺

@Peachycream totally normal to be sad and I’m sad you won’t be here with us 💕 might be a bit out there but have you ever thought about going it alone TTC with a doner of similar?

I’m 7dpo today, big temp drop today which I’m not happy about although could be implantation dip I guess. Also got stomach cramps today, maybe AF is on her way.

@SkeletonSkins yeah I have, it is something I’m considering. I just wouldn’t even know where to begin looking into it.
I’d waited so long to get to this point in the first place that I’m not sure I want to wait another 5/6 years waiting for someone else again. So it is on my radar.

Hopefully the temp drop is nothing to worry about lovely

@Peachycream definitely take time for you, that’s your main priority now, you time! ❤️

I’m sad that you’re sad but it doesn’t have to be the end like Skeleton said!

@SkeletonSkins I thought I’d throw some positivity your way.. I had a temp drop below my cover line at 9DPO and thought AF was on her way as I had bad cramps that evening. Could well have been as I have an 11 day luteal phase.. turned out to be implantation🤞

@HRP1990 I’ve never had so much me time haha. It seems strange to not have to worry all the time about every little thing.
I keep checking my phone to see if he’s messaged/called. Obviously he hasn’t, there’s no reason for him to. But that’s the biggest thing I’m dealing with, is the shock of talking to someone every day and now nothing at all.
I turned off my notifications thinking if I couldn’t hear or see my phone going off I wouldn’t wonder if he had tried to be in contact. It hasn’t worked. So if anyone else finds themselves in my position, just leave the notifications, it makes no difference haha.

Oh @HRP1990 I’d love that, god imagine. At the minute it seems so unlikely but you never know I guess.

@Peachycream if I was in your position that’s exactly what I would do. We live once, make your life full of what you want in any way you can.

@SkeletonSkins it’s the cost of it that puts me off.
Can I really afford the extra cost of fertility treatment on my own, it runs into the thousands easily for just 1 cycle. Is that any different with sperm donations? I presume I would still have to go through a clinic and have some kind of insemination.
And I don’t earn very well at all.
This would be my biggest problem, the financial side of it all, I just don’t think I can afford to go it alone. I think I’m just resigning myself now to the fact that motherhood just isn’t ever going to happen for me. It’s going to take me a long long time to ever trust another person again and not worry about being walked out on or how long it’s going to be before ill treatment starts.

I know it sounds like I’m being negative and defeatist, I get that. I’m just trying to be realistic about it and what options I really have open for myself right now.

And then, would it be selfish of me to do that? At some point that child is going to ask who and where it’s dad is, how do you explain that to a child? Would it make their life harder, would they be bullied, would they always feel like something was missing?

[quote Peachycream]@SkeletonSkins it’s the cost of it that puts me off.
Can I really afford the extra cost of fertility treatment on my own, it runs into the thousands easily for just 1 cycle. Is that any different with sperm donations? I presume I would still have to go through a clinic and have some kind of insemination.
And I don’t earn very well at all.
This would be my biggest problem, the financial side of it all, I just don’t think I can afford to go it alone. I think I’m just resigning myself now to the fact that motherhood just isn’t ever going to happen for me. It’s going to take me a long long time to ever trust another person again and not worry about being walked out on or how long it’s going to be before ill treatment starts.

I know it sounds like I’m being negative and defeatist, I get that. I’m just trying to be realistic about it and what options I really have open for myself right now.[/quote]
You can apply for free sperm donation on NHS if it is your first time doing it. You are also entitled to 2 rounds of ivf on NHS of you have no other children. You could also self inseminate with IUI

Peachy so sorry about wank bag ex.. but so lovely to see your name pop up. I think if it's something you really want in life then definitely look into it. My sisters friend got to 30 and hadn't met anyone but knew she wanted to be a mother and has gone on to have two beautiful and happy children without a partner. She said she knew she could give them enough love, and ultimately it's better to do that then raise a child in an unhappy relationship.

Thanks @80sPadme and @KayL1988 it might be worth having a serious look into how it works and how I could go about it. Maybe I’ll do some research.
I always imagined having this lovely little family, it feels difficult to have to let that idea go

I had a little look and I wouldn’t be entitled to anything on the NHS as I’m single, however I went over and had a little look at my local fertility clinic and sperm donation and treatment isn’t that expensive, I mean it’s not cheap, but it’s not outside of my realm of possibility

@Peachycream

I had a little look and I wouldn’t be entitled to anything on the NHS as I’m single, however I went over and had a little look at my local fertility clinic and sperm donation and treatment isn’t that expensive, I mean it’s not cheap, but it’s not outside of my realm of possibility

That's not good of NHS to not offer it. To couples. Women choosing to have a child alone should have the same rights as couples.

@80sPadme I guess it’s because it’s a choice to do it alone rather than there being no other way to do it?
I do understand it, couples who want children that have tried and can’t for whatever reason as appears to someone who is making a conscious choice to do it alone.

It seems quite complex though, while the wait is really short, less than a month, you need to have counselling first to make sure that it is really what you want to do if you’re doing it alone.

@Peachycream you could get donor sperm and self IUI? You would essentially collect the sperm, draw up in a syringe and inseminate yourself around the times you would have had sex.
I completely understand the reasons why women might not want to be a solo parent by choice and want the full package. You have to do what is right for you peachy.

I totally agree with @80sPadme, you’ve got to do what is right for you, I definitely wouldn’t see it as selfish at all though. I wonder if there are any threads on here about it?

I’ve woken up feeling nauseous, convincing myself it might be because I’m pregnant (at the grand old 8DPO 😂) when actually I know that it’s way too early for that and I most likely ate something a bit dodgy when I ate out for tea last night 😂😂

To be honest, I don’t think it’s for me, after looking into it a little more yesterday evening it seems like an incredibly stressful experience and pregnancy can feel lonely enough when you’re with a partner.
As much as I’d like to have children I just don’t think it’s in the cards for me, which is fine, lots of women don’t have children for all sorts of reasons and live perfectly happily.
I may feel differently in the few months time and maybe I’ll look into it further then.

Fun fact - you’re more likely to get sick from the salad than you are dodgy meat 👍
Either way, hopefully everything is going towards a BFP for you!

Hi ladies

So I was having a mini MN break however my chart is confusing me so I wanted to jump on and get thoughts.

Does anybody know if this temp trail looks normal? I thought it's supposed to go up and then stay kind of consistent ? Mine won't bloody stop going up and I don't know if this is good or bad!

I take my temp under the tongue.

Haven't caught up on all the recent messages yet so sorry if I've missed any major updates

P.s 7 or 8 DPO today and no symptoms at all except one boob has a really strange slightly burning sensation, which may be totally in my head 😂

@Sparklingwine1 Looks similar to mine - it gradually climbs up to about 36.9 and the hovers around there

@Sparklingwine1 your chart looks good! I think it looks like a triphasic chart! Which I’m pretty sure is 3 lots of temp rises? Before ovulation, ovulation and post ov 🙌 keep us updated!

Completely get that @Peachycream ... you have to do what is right for you and makes you happy!

@Sparklingwine1 looks completely normal to me! 🥰🥰

@Sparklingwine1 your graph looks lovely and I have graph envy! Mine definitely does not look like yours 😂

How’s yours looking today @SkeletonSkins any rise after your dip?