🧙please, fellas impregnate, I’m here to ovulate 🦥

[Peachycream]

And the lucky winner of thread name bingo is:@SareBear87

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Here we go again, 2 threads deep, numerous cheese boards, several BFPs and more to pick up along the way!

We’re a group of hormonal, emotional and down right loveable 30somethings TTC #1
Feel free to join us, nothing is TMI and no one here will judge you, we just love and support each other which some giggles along the way!

Our last thread seemed to have some luck so let’s see how lucky this one is 🥰

If I’ve forgotten anyone I apologise but trying to remember everyone at once is hard!
@Aries491
@Sparklingwine1
@80sPadme
@PurpleCat88
@HRP1990
@CTMcG
@KayL1988
@Dannii892
@Foodster
@glasspaw
@GingerTea333
@Eli707
@SkeletonSkins
@Mrsspoon3
@Emmaldo14

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I’ve had five consecutive days of spotting; period is due Thursday. This is the second month now of a week of spotting before the period arrives. Normally it’s about three days, never usually this long.

Is it a weird side effect of being double jabbed, or is it a sign my progesterone levels are out of whack and I’m going to have trouble conceiving? 🙈

Welcome to the newbies, off to catch up with the last few days of posts now!

@SkeletonSkins

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Ah this is great to see!!

@OnTheRoadNow I've had spotting for about three days before AF too and that's only since jab - never had it in my life before!

Hello all, first post so hope I can just join - I am 30yo TTC #1 - I have super long irregular cycles (45-60 days) and not sure I’m ovulating. GP can’t do any more at the moment so just have to try for a bit.

Hope it's ok if I join. I'm 35 and on the 6th cycle. Fingers crossed for everyone here!

That’s good @Aries491 keep busy and it should fly by! I’m good thank you, just taking each day as it comes at the moment - feeling very blessed so I can’t complain! ❤️

@SkeletonSkins well would you look at those sky high temperatures!! I think I only managed to hit 36.8 once! I’m so happy for you that you ovulated early! It’s got to do with the (conceive plus? Is that what you we’re taking?)

Welcome @Whysitsohard91 please do join! Are you tracking your temperature? That would be a good way to see if you were ovulating or not as your temperature would dip and then rise to confirm? X

Awww thank you @OnTheRoadNow and @HRP1990, that’s so kind to hear. I temp vaginally so that’s prob why my temps are quite high haha. But I’m definitely thinking the concieve plus is making a difference!

Huge welcome @Whysitsohard91 and @Lalala1985, so lovely to have more ladies join our little crew. We’re getting so many BFPs on this thread we need new recruits so I’m not left all alone 😂

Whysitsohard91, I absolutely sympathise. I’ve had really long and varied cycles but I’ve started taking Conceive plus ovulation support this month and it seems to have really made a difference. I would also recommend temping as it’s the one way you can absolutely confirm ovulating and it has told me so much about how my body works. It feels complicated to begin with but it’s actually straight forward - take your temp on a BBT themometer at the sameish time every day, the second you wake up, and record it in FF. Your temps will shoot in after ovulation and stay high until your period.

@HRP1990 thank you! I started tracking temperature towards the end of my last cycle and it was all over the place. This time I’ll do the whole cycle to hopefully see a clearer pattern. It’s so difficult to interpret the info and not obsess about random non symptoms! Good luck ladies xx

Thank you! It’s so nice being able to share with people who understand the crazy-ness. Do you all discuss with your friends or keep it to yourself? I have fab friends but none are ttc as far as I know and I don’t want to be constantly asked when it might be quite a long process!

I’ve spoken about it with a couple of friends who have already been through it, but tbh they don’t really understand fully as they had regular cycles and so didn’t really have the same experiences as me. It’s weird how it’s still such a private thing, but equally I don’t want people asking me about it in real life all the time as it’s easier to forget about it haha. How about you, have you told people?

@Whysitsohard91 Most of my friends already have kids and are done with it so ttc isn't really a topic of conversation. I think if anyone asked I'd probably tell them as this is starting to feel like a bit of a lonely journey. I've told one friend but she lives quite far away so don't see her that often at the moment which means she's not ask in g for updates constantly (I doubt she'd do that anyway to be fair tho).

Hi @Lalala1985 I'm on cycle 6 too. I'm starting to reach frustration point and trying different things to see if they work. How about you?

Hi all,

Just wanted to let you know I am still reading, congratulations to any new BFPs (I think I’ve seen one or 2 since I left)

Ex- dickweasel and I spoke, needless to say, it did not go well and I totally lost my composure. Which I do regret, because it just makes me look small, but it was well deserved so there we go.
I still feel shitty but I’m not crying constantly now, well, at the moment anyway. It’s gunna be a tough few months I think, especially as our plans start passing by me, but it is what it is and at least after our talk I know now in my heart that he never actually cared about me at any point in our relationship, which sucks, but again, it is what it is.

I could ramble on loads more, but I won’t. I just wanted to pop by 🥰

Fingers crossed for you @SkeletonSkins I'm glad you managed to have a much shorter cycle this time round. Graph looks really good despite the dip x

@80sPadme keeping everything crossed for you too 🤞

Hi @mory87 I didn't do any testing at first just waited it out for AF but last month bought some cheap ones online (10mg sensitivity), got a bit obsessed and tested everyday for a week. Not going to do that this time! I've found it hard not to obsess but I'm 38 so don't feel I have the luxury or just wait and see

Hi @JoeMalon3y I stopped taking Cerezette in Jan and waited 51 days for AF. I did a lot of googling in that time and it can take a long time for your body to work out what its going again - I'm pretty sure mine is only just getting back on track now (was on one pill or another for 19 years). I wish I'd known how long it might take as I would have stopped much much earlier! Hope you get AF soon x

@Peachycream Doesn't sound like he is worth your time at all. I know it'll be tough when you thought you were building a future but so much better for you that you found out now that it wasn't the right relationship for you. Sending love and positive vibes your way xx

You’re probably right @Eli707 but unfortunately, my head and my heart don’t even read from the same book, let alone on the same page!
I know it’s all for the best, that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t go back if he asked. Which I know is ridiculous.
It’s gunna be a long road I think. But, as they say, anything worth having isn’t easy

Sorry for the multiple posts ladies but have been trying to go back through what I've missed this week and the it didn't post!! Sorry if this ends up appearing twice!

Fingers crossed for you too @80sPadme 🤞

Hi @mory87 I've tried not to obsess but found it difficult. I'm 38 so feel I don't have the luxury of 'wait and see' which is my normal attitude towards things. I'm usually quite chilled but bought some cheap tests (10mg sensitivity) last cycle and tested every day for a week. Not planning to do that again tho as it did my head in!

@JoeMalon3y I came off Cerezette in Jan and waited 51 days for AF. I did a lot of Googling in that time and got really stressed about it but I think what you're experiencing isn't out of the ordinary especially if you were on it a while. I was on one pill or another for 19 years and pretty sure my body is only just figuring out what it needs to do again now. Hope you get AF soon x

@Peachycream I know what you mean. I've been back to exs before when I knew I shouldn't have done just to be treated like shit all over again and it's not worth it. I even got pregnant with one of them but luckily that didn't work out (I'd have 17 year old right now if it had) and although it was awful at the time I'm thankful everyday at how it panned out. My husband could not be more different than guys I was with before - I used to tiptoe around them and worry about what I said/did - but he is my best friend in the world. I can be 100% my daft self and he loves me for it. Don't settle for anything less that than xxx

@Eli707 it’s so easy to, they say and do all the right things to get you back and it’s great again for a while and then, it inevitably turns back to how it all was before. It’s such an obvious cycle and part of you even knows it while you’re living it, so why is it so hard to walk away from?

@Peachycream because no one really wants to be alone and it's so much easier to go back than start again. But things that are worth having aren't always easy (as all of us on this thread know all to well!), they're often painful and frustrating. Stay strong and don't settle for less that you deserve xx

@Peachycream I’ve been thinking about you!

Like @Eli707 it is so much easier to go back into a life you were not 100% happy with, than to start again. But trust me, when you look back in a month, 6 months, a year you’ll wish it had happened sooner ❤️

Have you taken up any hobby’s or met up with old friends? X

@HRP1990 no I haven’t, to be honest, I don’t want to get back in touch with old friends and so much time has passed now. I’m just going to start a whole new. I think that is the best way for me to go.
No hobbies, I don’t really know where to begin with that, I’m just going to take some time for myself and figure it out as I go along. I’ve been so lost for so long now that I don’t know who I am or what I even like doing anymore. I feel like my life has been stunted by years. So starting from the ground up is a better choice than going back even further.

I’m other news I put in contacts this morning as it was bright sunshine, 30 minutes later……greyer than grey. Does the sun not know how much money it costs me when it does this shit?!

Hang in there @peachycream - the time you take for yourself now will mean you're ready when Mr Right comes along. Life is too short to spend any more time with a dhead! Also just wanted to say your comment about contact lenses is absolutely spot on! I only splash out on a pair of mine on special occasions and sunny days when I expect to wear sunglasses for a considerable period of time!! 😀😀