Trying to conceive over 40

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

@Mattieandmummy no - I don’t think you’ve messed anything up!! These things can move around a little each month, so really don’t worry! Xx

That's what part of my brain and my DH is saying. Or it might just be a month where I wasn't going to ovulate, after all that happens to everyone from time to time.

But the other part of my brain is saying but epo has estrogen in it and you need low estrogen to stimulate FSH and then folicles to grow. Sigh.

Really hope I have an estrogen surge tomorrow.

@Catconfusion sometimes it's just hard not to blame yourself isn't it! Did you call about your consultant appointment?

@Mattieandmummy if you've stopped taking the epo you should be ok, that was a very high dose but hopefully if it does delay it won't be busy much

Oh thank God, a flashing smiley face this morning. Not that I've been up all night worrying about or anything.

@Marvellouslymadmum it is. I’ve certainly done my fair share of it. I think for me it’s because it feels like my body is letting me down with the losses and my irregular cycles. All things I can’t do much about. I just spoke to the doctor and my fertility referral has gone off. It was a different doctor and he was confused as to why I hadn’t been offered a gynae referral so he’s put that through as I’ve had three losses. He thinks the fertility one will be quick but gynae could be a few months. It’s so frustrating at our age isn’t it waiting when fertility declines so rapidly. Xx

@Mattieandmummy oh yay!!! Ya seeeeee!! Xxx

@Geriatric1234 I know, I know. I'm such a numpty.

But this does lead me on to another question, does everyone find they have less ewcm post 40. The last time I was actually ovulating was pre DD at 37 and I know I had loads then, but now there's really not much and only for one day before turning so thin it's just like slightly slippery water. I know at 37 I had loads but just for one day .....

I really feel like a crazy person with all this TTC stuff sometimes

@Mattieandmummy Not a numpty at all! I booked a private progesterone test on a whim after a short cycle (turned out it was the vaccine) all because I was freaking out I’d hit peri-menopause!

Re: EWCM Hmmm, not sure about that one. I think it’s been discussed on here before… was it you @Marvellouslymadmum?

@Catconfusion I think the time pressure is so, SO stressful. But on the over 35s thread the women feel that pressure the same when they’re only 36/37 which feels so young to me now! So I just keep thinking “anything’s possible”. But at the same time I feel stressed to take a paracetamol or have a wine because then I blame that for AF appearing! TTC is crazy!!

I am now always going to test early. Tried it this month and it made life soooo much easier. Because I ovulate so early (usually Cd12) my tww can be more of a 2.5-3WW which I’ve been finding socially limiting. At least if I test from 11/12 dpo I get an extra week of normality back. It was DH’s idea but I think he’s spot on on this one!

@Mattieandmummy I definitely find I have less ewcm now.. I think it is age related. I think it also can be related to the types food you eat and your ph down there. Apparently using a sperm friendly lubricant like concieve plus can help.

@Catconfusion that's odd I've been referred to gynae for infertility 🤔 maybe it's different in different areas. Great that both of yours are getting sorted though sometimes it feels like they keep telling you that your age is a bad thing but it doesn't mean they're in any more of a hurry to help!
@Geriatric1234 yes I've spoken about ewcm I don't seem to get it every month so I've been taking epo and going to try grapefruit juice too and see if that helps. I use the fertility lube too @Mattieandmummy

@Marvellouslymadmum I think it’s because of my long cycles. The monitoring for Clomid comes from the fertility clinic not Gynae. The investigations for the miscarriages come from gynae. I was on a path for fertility services before I had Ds to get Clomid to sort my cycles out so I guess that’s why we’re going that route again. Xx

@Mattieandmummy I definitely have less ecwm now I'm in my 40's (41 and 4 months now). I found it a little demoralising at first and wanted to keep reassuring DH it wasn't him! We were using lubricant but only swapped to a sperm friendly one after reading about them on here, a few months before getting my current bfp.

@Littlemiss40andfabulous how are you doing? You must be coming up for your 12 week scan soon? Exciting!!!

@Honey2 good thanks- yes I have it in 2 weeks time!!!!!!!

@Catconfusion I was told that a gynae referal is for Fertility too so who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Littlemiss40andfabulous that's great that your scan is soon so exciting!

@Mattieandmummy I don’t think I even knew what ewcm was until the last 6 months 🤣 I literally had no idea how my cycles worked before ttc this time. But I would expect you’re right that there is less of it the older we get…..

Just wondering which type of early pregnancy tests anyone would recommend? Or are they all the same? I don’t usually test early but I have my second vaccine scheduled for Friday and it’ll be a couple of days before my period is due and I would rather be confident I’m not pregnant when I have it than worry about it. Thanks!

@99pctpractice first response tests are the best for early testing

@Mattieandmummy I only seem to get 1 day of heavy ewcm. That's usually my signal to dtd pronto that day and the following. It usually happens the day of my first peak. I've been using pre seed lubricant for he last 3 cycles and conceived each month (although 2 chemicals and currently still waiting to see if this one sticks).

@Littlemiss40andfabulous can't believe that's 10 weeks already how exciting. How are you feeling?

Thanks everyone for replying about ewcm, am wondering if I should be using preseed or not.... Never have a problem with lubrication during even if I'm not really that fussed but know that arousal fluid is different to fertile mucus. Think I seem to have very watery but not stretchy stuff and then only one day of Ewcm but is this a problem? Certainly loads of Mumsnet reports of people conceiving having never seen any ewcm at all ever and have a million children. Ok maybe not a million.

Oh for when I was young and naive about all this and hadn't spent five years trying to get pregnant 🙄

If this month doesn't work, am going to graduate to epo (on a more reasonable dose) and preseed. Decision made - there it's totally going to work now 😂

I need help ladies! My first month using opk (well proper ones after my one step disaster!) and it shows this. Is this my peak and if so do I need to DTD today and tomorrow (we did last night btw) …. such a novice to TTC lol

@Mum2baby07 that definitely looks like a positive opk get dtd!

@Mum2baby07 got for it, that's a strong line and maybe test again later.

So I've had OH SA results back... what am I supposed to be looking at/for!?

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