Trying to conceive over 40

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

@Lastyearttc I posted a thread a few comments ago which is about a woman trying to decide whether or not to use her 2nd IVF embryo, but what's lovely are there are SOOO many stories about older mothers in the comments! I'm also 43 in August, and I'm just letting nature have a good shot, but I don't feel out of it yet. I think it's just luck at this age, but as @Catconfusion said, you aren't out until you stop popping out eggs! x

@Littlemiss40andfabulous LOVING yours and @Sabtom's updates! xxxxx

@Geriatric1234 exactly, there are so many success stories. I think our bodies want to do it, it’s what we’re designed for. Age makes it harder and in some cases impossible but so many women manage it. Our age group is the fastest growing demographic for childbirth. Even bigger than teenagers. So it’s totally possible. Don’t give up! Xx

@Marvellouslymadmum I called the GP this afternoon and they're going to do the day 21 bloods for me next month. Hopefully it'll all give me a clearer picture.

Thanks @catconfusion. Glamping sounds like fun! Good luck with the referral.

@Mickymackyboobaaboo oh that's good news hopefully that'll help

Hello ladies,
I was panicking as the period was a couple of days late after the jab but it seems all fine.
I’m going for blood tests tomorrow to see if there’s any reason for two losses in a row (one was a chemical). One of the tests is a thyroid test which I’m dreading as don’t want to be put on medication. Tsh was a bit higher than 3 last time.

@Catconfusion I'm taking aspirin throughout this cycle. Not had any medical advice but just trying to do something different. I also bought natural progesterone cream to apply from ovulation. Just in case it might help as doctors haven't been very helpful. Do t know if any of it will help but you never know. You mentioned your not out unless amh is below 1. Is that pmol/l or ng/ml?

@Catconfusion can I ask what dose of aspirin you’re taking?

@October1979 Uk measurement is in pmol I believe, but also you aren’t out until it’s zero xx

Guys: need thoughts! WWYD?

Just been offered earlier 2nd Covid dose. I can get it tomorrow at 7dpo. I’ll break all my early testing rules and poas, but regardless I doubt anything will show that early.

I’d feel so much happier getting the second dose, and I can find no evidence of it causing fertility issues (though most of this is from the USA and they aren’t using AZ which is the one I had).

I had quite a big reaction to first jab (temperature/early period) but apparently the second jab is far less of a reaction.

All input welcome!! Xxxx

@Geriatric1234 I too am getting my second dose on Monday 10dpo. I don't think it will be a problem. However I did get my first dose and had a chemical that month. I also had a chemical the month after. I don't think the vaccine had anything to do with that. Just egg quality. I'm going to get mine x

@Mum2baby07 some women with reoccurring miscarriages/ chemicals are advised to take aspirin. It thins the blood and makes sure enough gets to your womb to produce a good lining. It is thought that some women clot and aspirin makes the difference. Some say wait until you have a positive and some say taking it may help implantation. Also some articles say it won't make a difference. I'm just trying something different xx

@Geriatric1234 When I went for my second AZ jab, one of the questions asked is 'could you be pregnant?' I said yes because I was in the TWW and I could've been pregnant and not known it yet (I wasn't at that time) but they said to be on the safe, come back the following week if I get a BFN. They said to me if it was Pfizer or Moderna they would've jabbed me as they said they were safe to give to pregnant women but they didn't have enough research yet for AZ.

Like @sabtom I had my first vaccine in the TWW and didn't know if I could be pregnant or not. I had Pfizer and they said it was safe either way. I wasn't pregnant that month, but the following month got my BFP.

@October1979 I’m thinking I might do the same this cycle. I can see it will do any harm.

I don’t know anything about Amh. I’ve never had mine measured so I don’t know. It’s just something I read somewhere that stuck. X

@Mum2baby07 it’s just the baby aspirin so the 75mg ones before bed. A doctor once told me bedtime is the best time to take it. X

Obviously aspirin isn’t for everyone and it’s probably best to speak to a doctor before taking. However not all doctors are clued up on the benefits. I’m only taking because I took it throughout my only successful pregnancy and my excellent GP advised it might be helpful in my case.

Thanks @October1979 , @sabtom & @Littlemiss40andfabulous! I think I will get it but maybe push a few days just to be safe xx

@sabtom congratulations on the 3+ it must be nice to see things moving along.
@Littlemiss40andfabulous glad all is well for you too…

@Geriatric1234 I’m not sure id go for the jab until you’ve tested and can be sure your not preg. I do think the jab has an effect on cycles - I’m waiting to ovulate and it seems to be taking ages following my jab. It could be the MC also but after my last MC I ovulated straight away after the bleeding stopped. This time it’s been nearly 3 weeks and nothing yet. ☹️ Agree though - important to get the 2nd dose in.

I got my referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. Apt Is not until 17th Aug however. I know that’s pretty quick in NHS terms but to be honest if I hadn’t fallen preg by then I’d kinda made the decision to move on and through the towel in. Anyone been referred? Do you know what they test for? I’ve been told the apt is about 2hrs…

Thanks @October1979 and @Catconfusion my GP mentioned it to me but we didn’t really go into detail as I was calling her to report my mc and ask for fit note at the time. I might ask again.

@Geriatric1234 I had my first dose just before I got pg but my second while still pg (although mc at time) as I’m higher risk. Current advice is if you’ve had AZ first dose to have as second even if pregnant. I know this because my GP researched it thoroughly for me before I’d consider having it. It’s the risk of clots that they now offer pregnant women Pfizer or moderna instead of AZ but I was fine. I was concerned about the effect on the baby (hence my GP researching for me) but then when I knew I was mc and I was on the cusp of being more than three months between vaccines I decided to just get it as it’s been shown to be more effective to have the two within a three month timeline. My advice? Do what’s right for you! Your body. Your decision.

@Geriatric1234 it’s such a difficult one. I think it’s probably safe to have. It’s just if something goes wrong, will it play on the mind it could be because of the vaccine.

I had an early mc in both cycles I had the AZ jab. The first one I think it was unrelated as I had it during AF. However the second one was a few days before ovulation. After I was really ill all week. I seem to get a very strong immune response from the jab. I then got a very faint bfp for a few days which then disappeared. I do wonder if in my case the nasty flu like thing I had affected our chances. It’s probably unrelated and I know statistics and data don’t support a mc risk but my body did not feel strong at the time. It all kicked off after the jab. Anyway I’m relieved I’m covered now and at least if I do get a bfp I’ll be less likely to get Covid. Xx

@Honey2 I've not been referred to recurrent mc so I'm not sure about them but that is a quick referral as my gynae referral was sent off in March and I was told it would be an 8 month wait, lucking my appointment came through for end of august instead, still 5 months though.

A bit of encouragement for the ladies on here. My friend was told she was peri-menopausal at 36 so assumed she wouldn’t be able to have another baby. She even needed HRT as her hormones were all over the place. She’s now 41 and just found out she’s pregnant. It was such a shock. She’s now at the 8 week mark and all is going well. It’s a lovely story and gives me hope as my hormones came back normal so I’m not peri yet. Just goes to show, even when eggs get low a normal pregnancy is possible. I’ve got every crossed it’s all ok for her as obviously it’s very early. Hope you’re all ok. Xx

Lovely story @Catconfusion. I cling onto the fact despite being told I was peri as well I’ve had a pregnancy - yes I mc but I also wasn’t taking any vitamins etc as thought I couldn’t get pg so you’re right - until you actually reach proper menopause there is still hope!
@sabtom and @Littlemiss40andfabulous you are our beacons of hope! How are you both getting along?