Trying to conceive over 40

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

Ahhh thanks @Catconfusion! And how are you doing?

How is everyone?

I’m CD 21 and 10dpo. I’m on a staycation and wondering if I test tomorrow and it’s BFN I’m safe to drink….? I know…I’m the stuff of mothering handbooks…🙊🙈 Thanks in advance - I never test early so not sure if it’s safe to assume. Xx

Hi @Mum2baby07 and everyone! I'm doing good just trying to keep myself busy and not feel to anxious every time I get a slight twinge or cramp 😕 No symptoms yet really, I just get out of breath going for walk now but not sure if that's to do with the pregnancy or just unfit lol I go for an early scan on Thursday just to check viability and make sure the bean is in its right place, I'll only be 6w so I'm not expecting to see much.

@Geriatric1234 I’m good thanks. It’s my 42nd birthday tomorrow which feels bittersweet but we’re away glamping and having a good time. I’m cd 16 and getting a high opk so hoping for a peak in the next few days. If not then its back to long cycles for me 😔. Last cycle was normal length but a chemical though I was relieved to see O early. So I’m hopeful it’ll be another shorter one. Xx

I’d say at 11dpo it would show on a frer. It’s a difficult call though as I’ve heard of people getting bfps later though I wonder if they’re sure of O day.

@Mum2baby07 how was your peri diagnosed? I can’t believe my friend was on hrt and fell pregnant. She thought it was end of the road and it wasn’t. We all have a chance at this. I’m hoping for lots of bfps on here soon. Xx

@sabtom glad you’re getting on ok. Good luck for the scan. It’s so nerve wracking but hopefully it will come quickly so you can get some reassurance. Xx

@Catconfusion I was getting some symptoms and because I’ve had chemo in the past that’s known to affect fertility they assumed peri and gave me oestrogen pessary and a gel to use. To be honest I used it for a few months but it seemed too much hassle and I stopped about 9 months ago and my symptoms seemed to ease better without. Possibly those symptoms were just triggered by coming off the pill after years on it. I’m not going to use anything again until I really feel I need it as I’m less convinced i am peri now. I think I’d rather throw caution to the wind and let my body do what it wants for a bit which is hopefully have a successfully pg!

@sabtom so glad to hear you’re ok. I got terribly out of breath when pg too so that sounds promising! Wishing you much luck for Thursday!!!

@Catconfusion what a great story - thanks for sharing.
@Geriatric1234 I’ve always had a line on FRER at 10dpo… so I think you’d see something at 11dpo. Good luck!!
@sabtom so pleased it’s all good so far. Massive best wishes for Thursday. I have everything crossed. Is it a private scan or NHS?

I’ve no idea where I am in my cycle! I think I may have ovulated on Sunday or yesterday. Didn’t get a peak on opk (high but no peak) but had lots of CM (sorry tmi) and temp was higher this morning but not high enough. We’ll see what tomorrow brings! If I haven’t ovulated what happens? Does body keep trying or can you still have a period without ovulation?!

@Geriatric1234 sorry forgot to wish you happy birthday for tomorrow!! Hope you have a lovely time away, Glamping will be lush! X

@Catconfusion sorry tagged the wrong person!! 🙈🙈

@Catconfusion lovely story! My bloods have all come back ok so far so I'm hopeful at some point it could happen to me! I was 42 in March and I did have a major sulk that I wasn't pg yet but I'm over it and don't care anymore lol

@Geriatric1234 having a couple of drinks won't effect anything at this star anyway as no umbilical chord for a while so you'll be safe even if it is a positive after a negative. I've been having a few watching the football which is the first time drinking for me this year but I thought stuff it why not!

@sabtom good luck for your scan Thursday!

@Honey2 last month my body attempted ovulation three times then finally managed it on the fourth cd33 ended up with a 50 day cycle so it can happen that way or you can have an anovulatory cycle where you dont ovulate but still get a period

I'm currently cd4 so heading into bding time and hoping for a normal length cycle this time

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks for that.. I think after my last MC I had an ‘anovulatory’ cycle, so maybe that’s what happening again. I hope so, rather that and get back to normal rather than a really long cycle 😬

@Honey2 long cycles are not fun! I've had three in the last couple of years so not too bad but I think this last one may have been down to my second Covid jab

@Marvellouslymadmum 🙈 I’ve also recently had my second jab and I do think it effects things.

@Marvellouslymadmum THANK YOU for that reassurance! Thought that might be the case and don’t want all this ttc stuff to impact every part of life!! 🤣🥂

@Honey2 thanks! Not had any symptoms so v unlikely but will test anyway. Might wait a day as MarvMadMum makes a good point.

@Catconfusion HBD for tomorrow!!! Im 43 in August, you young slip of a thing! 🤣😘 xx

Nice to hear from everyone.
Cd7 here. cycle 7. 3rd cycle properly ttc following mc.
Cycle 1 - chemical
Cycle 2 - early miscarriage
Cycle 3 - first cycle after miscarriage so skipped ttc
Cycle 4 - could not try all of fertile week
Cycle 5 - tried but not successful and had first Covid jab late in cycle
Cycle 6 - tried but not successful.

Am looking forward to fertile week and having another go!

@Catconfusion Thank you for sharing that story. It was so nice to read. Happy birthday for tomorrow.

@sabtom good luck for your scan on Thursday.

I'm cd6 today after getting my period 4 days late and will be having my pelvic ultrasound and AMH blood test tomorrow morning. Part of me wishes there was a problem so that I had an answer for why it's not happening for us. Weirdly I think I could cope with that more than being told everything's fine and that it's unexplained secondary infertility.

Hope you're all doing well.

@Honey2 the first one didn't seem to effect it but this one has!

@Geriatric1234 no we still have to take some time for ourselves

@Catconfusion happy birthday 🥳 🎉🎂🎁 hope you have a great day

Happy Birthday @Catconfusion happy clamping.
@Geriatric1234 I have been having a couple of beers watching the football too.

Well everyone some news.... I am 12dpo today and tested this morning and got a positive. This will be the third month in a row. Very nervous as the last 3 have been chemicals.I'm hoping the aspirin and progesterone cream I have self prescribed with make a difference.

Congratulations @October1979. Will be keeping everything crossed for you.

@October1979 congratulations!!! Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@October1979 congratulations - hoping for a good outcome for you x

@October1979 ooh let's hope it makes the difference for you! I'm trying the aspirin this month, it's supposed to be good for inflammation and as adenomyosis is an inflammatory disease I'm hoping it'll help!! I've got some progesterone cream on order too just Incase 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for your sticky bean this time!

@October1979 that’s fantastic news. I really really hope this is your good egg. I will be keeping everything crossed for you. Seems like there is some good baby vibes going around at the moment so this could be your month. 🤞🤞🤞