Post Pill Party - Cocktail Club

[MissC07]

After a chilled garden soiree, it's time to shake things up and head to the cocktail club. Let's get into the spirit(s) - it's a whiskey business TTC so if you're feeling pretty fly grab a Mai Tai and have yourself some Sex on the Beach. Fingers crossed we get some BFP's and keep the Bloody Mary's away. Let the celebrations be-Gin!! Time flys when your having Rum!

Welcome to the 11th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Where we can all come and discuss the highs and lows of TTC.

Ladies already at the soiree:

@ChinChilly
@Juno231
@TheHotelCalifornia
@Moocher90
@Flowers222
@feliznavidad2
@MissM94
@Cams50
@HRHXO
@Kay00
@AllyCat31
@LauraT94
@Gracie2021
@FlyingGiraffe
@Emmgrem
@Tillybabs
@Kat668
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@mrsmacmc
@Ttcin2021
@pineapple2021
@MrsHInch
@Lovebug06
@JT90
@Sperr
@MancMama39
@Nellieee
@Robyn101
@LG93
@minipilling
@WhirlingD
@Springflower3
@crabette
@CaptainGT
@abi555
@ChillysT
@firsttimemummy321

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

@MissC07 great intro for this new thread.

Nothing exciting going on presently, patiently just waiting to ovulate... CD10. OPKs are just starting to show a line so I’m a good few days off a positive yet so DTD will commence this weekend and continue until confirmed ovulation. Speaking to GP on 20th about lack of ovulation and whether there’s anything that can be done. Going for day 21 bloods too this cycle. My day 3 bloods come back normal and nothing untoward.

It’s just so depressing when you want something so badly and everyone around you are having babies and it’s just not happening for us. I need my DH to chase up with GP as he requested an SA but hasn’t received anything further. Not sure how it usually works with GP’s who refer for SA. Anyone else’s partners had one requested by GP?

@moocher90 mine has just been given a number to call to arrange the SA, but this was a private referral so 🤷‍♀️

I'm 11DPO and got another BFN this morning on FRER. I'm very likely out so will start my laxatives today before colonoscopy tomorrow 🙃. I'm disappointed this cycle wasn't 'the one' but it has been my best cycle yet, so I can't complain! 😊

Chart

@Kay00 that looks like a good temping chart to me!

Crosshairs are back! 4th time in this "cycle" but you never know?!

@Kay00 that is a gorgeous chart! The soy seems to be working!

@thedaydreambelievers thanks x but actually I'm not taking Soy Iso. This is either a fluke or the Conceive plus ovulation + fertility support.

Your chart is looking very promising, hopefully this is it for you now xx

@Sunshinedaisybuttermellow welcome ! it took me an incredible 101 days to have AF after stopping the pill. A month of horrendous night sweats and then lots of false starts on OPK. Finally noticed EWCM and had positive OPK on day 87. And then AF on CD101. I was over the moon. I'm now CD 12 on 2nd cycle after pill and after 4 days of empty circles on CB OPK I was starting to think I was in for another rough ride this month. Found out a week ago my FSH is not great so of course I was feeling so low yesterday. I have a tendency to think the worst about everything. I got into a dark place, mostly annoyed I didn't get out of a bad marriage sooner, and then annoyed I waited 2 years with DP to get settled before TTC. I'm 38.

Anyhow, I had a talking to myself yesterday and had an acupuncture appointment in the evening. I was so so relaxed. Felt amazing. Then had 2 glasses of champagne with my dinner just because I fancied it. Then this morning, I had a CB solid smiley. What the hell is that all about???? Poor DP is going to receive some unexpected afternoon DTD later today. I've displayed the test on my bedside table like a little medal. Perhaps I should put it on DP's bedside table (passion killer???). He's in 50s so sod the DTD every day malarkey. Every other day will have to do. :)

I shall have an espresso martini please. Or a Cosmo. Depends on time of day.

@Kay00 your chart is the stuff of dreams. I've given up on temping. I'm all over the place. Think I toss and turn too much.

@MrsHInch I'm being fairly honest about TTC. I'm an open person. But I guess that becomes harder over time.

@whirlingD I feel for you! I really do. I spent 10 years with my ExH & never used precautions from about 8-10 months into our relationship. Wasted all rounds of clomid with him & the whole fertility thing was a passion killer for him, he couldn't even get it up at the crucial moments.

Out of the 6 cycles, I ovulated and released eggs on 3 occasions, but it was wasted because we didn't even DTD near the time. 🙄

I suppose at the time, I thought that everyone went through these issues etc but enough was enough when at 32 I'd resigned myself to a marriage of no sex. But found that he was helping himself at every given moment with porn and toys of his own 😢🥴

Onwards and upwards now after losing weight and getting myself a lovely new bloke who I truly adore!

@AllyCat31 fingers crossed for you!

@moocher90 hopefully you ovulate on target and your 21 day bloods are good. No idea about the sa though sorry. Hope your dh gets something from the gp soon.

@Kay00 sorry to hear about the bfn . Good that you had a good cycle though.

@WhirlingD was that after your withdrawal bleed? Congrats on the smiley, go jump your dh!

@MrsHInch well done on the weight loss. Hopefully you and dh will have a beautiful baby not too far in the future

@MrsHInch so similar!! ExH was so used to all sorts of dodgy porn that he couldn't even have "normal" sex for the last 2-3 years. When he asked to have the dodgy porn on in the background I pulled the plug!! I'm now the happiest I've ever been and if I had to choose between childless relationship with lovely man or kids with exH, I know what I'd choose!!

@Sunshinedaisybuttermellow yep had normal withdrawal bleed after finishing last full pack and then waited 101 days for proper AF! Thought I was hallucinating when it came.

@whirlingD omg! Exactly this! So creepy! My plug was pulled when I tried so hard to put the spark back in, and got the brush off, then a text from him saying that he needed to 'find his mojo'. The next day I found him enjoying himself.... Need I say no more, my bubble was burst & I was out of there!

Truly couldn't be happier with my life now xxx and like you say, I'd sooner have what I have now that what I could have had.

@whirlingD @MrsHinch oh wow! 😳 you both did the right think leaving your past fellas and finding Mr right for you xx

I have been with my oh for 17 years, 18 in Sept... and it took me 16.5 years to persuade him that our future involved children! He's still a bit unsure about the idea i think but has agreed he would like kids and is happily trying. I think if he was truthful he'd rather leave it a few more years, but I'm nearly 36 and I don't feel I have the time.

@Kay00 thanks x definitely needed a lot of Dutch currage to get out of there, but the fact that during those last moments he made my skin crawl helped!

Go for it though, go for it now while your still unsure, just so you have had the opportunity to say that you'd at least tried if that makes sense? Xx

Hopefully lots of baby dust around us at the moment xx

Hello my darlings and thank you so much for the invite to the Cocktail Club @missco7, love the new intro!! I’ve been here since the beginning haha and while personally some parties have been better than others 🙄 I absolutely love the little community we’ve built and it’s so nice to be able to talk to people going through the same thing.

@chinchilly congratulations on your BFP lovely!!! Sounds like it’s all going really well so stay positive!!

@kay00 I’m so sorry about the BFN, and OH being insensitive 😔 that would really upset me too and quite frankly I’d tell him!! good luck for your procedure is it today? xxx

@juno231 enjoy fertile week!! 🥳🍆 keeping everything crossed that this is the cycle xxx

@thedaydreambelievers good shout to push your GP, weekly bloods def sounds like something they should be doing. Hope you get an answer soon, and hope that this is indeed ovulation xxxx

Soooooo I’ve had a bit of a mental week...this is cycle 2/month 4 after my miscarriage (I have long cycles) and ERPC in January. I stopped tracking after O and had absolutely no symptoms. I tested on 8DPO just to confirm my suspicions because I was so certain I was out as had zero symptoms. BFN, so although I 100% expected it I still had a complete breakdown and spent the next two days researching puppies, fertility treatment and trips to theme parks to take my mind of it. I also drank a lot ha!! 10DPO I wanted to do a HIIT workout so thought I’d do a final test JUST TO MAKE SURE, and I cannot tell you the shock I felt when I saw the faintest line on an IC. I burst into tears, did a FRER and there was a clear line. I’m honestly so in shock as I was convinced I was out, to the point where we nearly booked Alton Towers for 2 weeks time.

I’ve just done another one this morning, 13DPO, and got a really strong line. I just can’t believe it. Me and DH are trying not to think about it really as we’re so scared. But I do feel quite calm at the moment. Obviously my heart is in my mouth every time I go to the loo but I’m not obsessing or Googling everything like last time. I’m just trying to stay positive while also not focusing on it at all. We’re too scared to have conversations about early scans or telling people so will give it a couple of weeks I think. I think pregnancy after miscarriage is honestly going to be the most anxiety inducing thing I’ll ever go through.

I did take soy iso this cycle guys to bring ovulation forward and it worked, I ovulated on CD21 which is the earliest ever. We also DTD 5 days in a row over O 😅 oh and I laid with my legs in the air after each time, so glam. And I’m taking 50mg B6, folic acid and B12 with added Vitamin D. But then I did all that the previous cycle and it didn’t work...

Anyway just wanted to let you all know and I hope this doesn’t trigger anyone as I know it’s so hard to see others BFPs when we’re all trying so so hard and want it so badly ❤️

@TheHotelCalifornia massive congratulations lovely ❤ 🎉 me and OH are the same we're not really talking about it at the moment either... such a strange feeling!

Congratulations @TheHotelCalifornia !

Oh wow congratulations @TheHotelCalifornia couldn't be happier for you. Xx

Yey!!! Excellent news! Congratulations @thehotelcalifornia 🥳🥳🥳

Wow!! Congratulations to you!

@TheHotelCalifornia omg amazing! Huge congrats 🎉

@MissC07 thanks for setting up the new thread and love the intro! So good xxx

I've found you all 😃
@TheHotelCalifornia congratulations that's amazing news ❤️
How long have you been trying? So sorry I always ask this as I get confused with the times and I also like to know to give me that hope!
@Kay00 how are you today?

I'm 9dpo and feeling a little uneasy.
I've always thought if your pregnant you get a lot of discharge leading up to the bpf or missed AF. Well I barely have any as usual at this point. I also never spot before AF, so I always hope to see a little incase it is implantation, which of course I never have.
I don't know, just the thought of the heartache next week is too much already.
Finding out my friend is pregnant by accident within weeks of meeting someone has really knocked me. I am wanting to be positive but in truth I have no positivity for this week, I'm not being negative, I just genuinely cannot see it happening. That make sense?

And has anyone had the covid jab just before their period. Mine is Monday and I'm due on Thursday. I've read it can delay AF so now I'm worried as I don't think my mind can take that 😂 it would be so cruel I won't know why Im late 🤣 hoping it doesn't do that

Yay excellent news @TheHotelCalifornia hope everything goes well this time. I’ve also taken soy this cycle and thankfully didn’t feel sick or anything so will do another few cycles if we’re not lucky this month.