MC crew - Thread 10

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Well ladies it's officially thread 10, our 3rd on the TTC Boards. A collection of lovely ladies who have been through the worst experience. May this thread bring us lots of luck 🙏

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4198998-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again-Thread-2?pg=1

@Daisyamelie so sorry you're having to deal with this alone now that your OH has left, please do come here for support whenever you need it

@AlbiMix that’s amazing! 12wks is a huge milestone. Hopefully your worries ease soon but like you say after MC will they ever fully go!? I hope you can enjoy it all soon.
My test this morning was visibly lighter so it’s non viable pregnancy for me. I’ll call EPU Monday still just for a chat, unsure if it will just reabsorb or if I’ll have a period again!? Who knows! Feeling sad & disappointed , I was clinging on to a small bit hope but knew in the back of mind the outcome. We’re away on our staycation in a few weeks so that will be a nice distraction for a while!

@Daisyamelie that’s good things eased for you quickly. Have you done a pregnancy test to make sure it’s negative ? I know the HCG hormone after MC can sometimes take a while to fully leave the body, it’s only really when this is close to 0 or below 10 will your body then gear up for ovulation again. For some it happens quick but for me it took a little while. I say this in the kindest way but just be sure your hormones are back down so that when you take a pregnancy test in the future you can be sure it’s a possible new pregnancy and not left over hormones from the MC. Take care of yourself and glad to hear you have your pup keeping you company , a fluffy friend in the mist of all this is certainly a comfort x

Thankyou all, yes been taking hpt since stopped bleeding, the first was positive and the second one was a very faint line so hcg still there to an extent, so doubt I will ovulate until it’s all gone! Will test again in a week and hopefully will be negative 🤞🏻 just looking forward to getting W cycle back and tracking ovulation properly again, I was very regular before the mc so hoping it will go back to that 😬 going to my parents today to visit our little boy today where we buried him 💙 hope you all have a good day xx

@Daisyamelie just a post to say that I feel for you being on your own. My husband just left the army last year and it can be so tough. Glad you are with your parents, sorry for your loss xxx

@LaurenNH thankyou for your message ❤️ it’s tough and as you must know it’s just army life! But in this kind of situation especially is really hard xx

Hi all. I've just been told i need to have another test blood test next Friday which will be my 4th. My hcg levels dropped from 140 to 68 from Friday to Sunday and then today are 14. Is it normal the decrease in levels slows down? I would have 14 would be low enough so i am surprised i need to go back.

@Beleeve I never had a blood test but it took me 3 weeks to get a negative pregnancy test so I assume I still had 25+ for a while. I was 9+3 so might be different depending on how far along you are.

I'm feeling full of rage today, literally just had a meltdown because i had to return a parcel and it asked me to print a label 🤷‍♀️ Everyone around me is annoying me and i just want to scream or cry! I feel like my hormones are going crazy today!! Don't know if that makes sense as i'm down to 14 hcg but i feel so up and down at the moment. Thank you @spookycookies and all for listening to me moan though, i do appreciate it.

Hope you’re all well ❤️ Just thought I’d let you know I got my first BFN today 16 days after mmc. So anything from now if it is a positive I know will hopefully be a new pregnancy 😁 never thought I’d be so happy to see a negative!

Hi everyone, are there any OPK gurus that can help - I was expecting to ovulate Friday but I'm still getting flashy smiley today 😡 and I was wondering if this is because I missed a stick at the beginning of the week? I thought my cycle had gotten back to post-miscarriage normal but apparently not 😔

Hi all,

Hope you’re all ok and having a good week. @LaurenNH, I’m by no means an expert on OPKs but I found that I was the same. Had one ‘normal’ cycle after my mc and then the next one was way off. 12 days of flashing smileys and then I gave up testing for that cycle. I think it was the stress of it all as I’m pretty sure that I ovulated the following day. Decided to have a month off trying last month but still tracked with OPKs, it was back to normal again. We’re actively trying again this month and I’m trying to relax about the whole thing. Will be starting with the OPKs on Saturday and hoping I won’t get a high number of flashing smileys again! Did you get your static smiley in the end? X

Thanks @MSK1 for your reply. I did finally get a flashing smiley when I tested again Sun afternoon so ovulation was yesterday 🤞🏻 I also had some spitting the week last week which is very unusual for me but I think can happen in the lead up to ovulation?

Glad you got back to normal, fingers crossed for you this month. I feel you about trying to relax, I decided I wouldn't track last month to try and stop myself obsessing but it didn't help!

Just waiting around for two weeks now until it starts all over again 🙃 x

*spotting 🤦🏼‍♀️

@LaurenNH You never know, this might be your month so you might not need to use the OPKs next month! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. X

@Beleeve so sorry you're struggling, it's shit and it could be hormones, it could also just be emotional distress from the ordeal you've been through - either way I would say these feelings are completely justified. I was very irritable after the MC, I think partly coz I was sad most of the time so when something (however small) annoyed me it just sent me over the edge onto full blown anger 😂 I promise you will feel better in time though.

Congrats @Daisyamelie on the negative test, I also felt a huge sense of relief when I had mine. It's a fresh start :)

Sorry @LaurenNH I'm pretty useless on opks but sounds like you're on track now!

Hi ladies!

Does anyone ever have days where they are just DESPERATE to be pregnant again? It comes out of nowhere, really feeling that ache today.

Hope you're all having lovely weekends xxx

Hi...can I join ?
I had a miscarriage at 11 +3 week on 15th june, it was an inevitable abortion, my sack was out with the baby floating inside ( sorry tmi) ...had to do d&c to remove the placenta...and i want to ttc right after i have my next af....
We have been trying for almost 6 years and I am 31. And it was my first pregnancy. I am reading all the positive comments and I am encouraging myself for ttc.
Good luck to everyone.🙂

So I’m in a bit of a confusion right now.... I had my Mmc medically managed on June 3rd, as stated in earlier posts everything came away with the placenta etc that day, bled for a week, then had negative pg tests by the week after (so 2 weeks post mmc). I have had bad backache and leg cramps and slight twinges in my left lower side the last few days and me and my partner have been having sex since I stopped bleeding. Just took a FRER and it is a BFP. I have had several negatives since the mmc and Even up until 2 days ago they were.
I’m so confused, could I be pregnant again this quickly?
I can’t get hold of EPU until tomorrow.

Also I done an IC and it was negative, but the FRER is positive.
Anyone else had anything like this?
Don’t want to get my hopes up...

@LaurenNH Think it's totally normal to feel like that. You will have good and bad days and i think you need to just let those bad days happen, have a cry if you need to, just don't bottle it all up. It will happen for you even though sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage @Khan2021 that must have been awful. I feel the same as you that i just want to try again straight away.

@Daisyamelie That does sound promising. Sorry don't know what IC means (i'm rubnish with the terminology) but i can't see how you could get a positive after negatives unless it was a true positive. Have you had bloods done to confirm the hcg levels had dropped?

Ic is internet cheapie!
I never had bloods done to test my levels so had to just go by home pregnancy tests, I only ever used the cheap strip ones that measure 10mlhcg as I thought the more sensitive the better surely? To make sure I was as close to 0 as poss.
But now I’ve tested with FRER, clear blue (said 1-2 weeks) and Sainsbury’s own and they’ve all come out positive.
Will phone doctors and EPU tomorrow morning and ask what is best. Think getting bloods done 48 hours apart will be best step and go from there. It just seems very soon!
I’ll post below my exact timeline as I’ve kept it written down.

June 2nd - found no HB at 12 week scan, baby measuring 10+6
June 3rd - Miscarriage at hospital (medically managed, Passed fetus and placenta same day
June 10th - stopped bleeding
June 13th - had sex in morning

June 14th - sharp pain in side day time
June 14th - had sex in evening
June 16th slight cramping and watery discharge
(Possibly ovulated between 16th-19th going by symptoms but didn’t LH test)
June 19th - Negative pregnancy test
June 20th - Got slippery clear discharge in evening
June 24th - Sharp pain in side creamy cm with brown in it

June 25th Leg cramping and lower back pain creamy cm with brown in it

June 27th - Positive pregnancy test on FRER and Sainsbury’s own. Positive 1-2 weeks on CB

@Daisyamelie
Congratulations!!! Really happy for you
I really am impressed about your detailed information.
I stopped bleeding after 10 days had sex ( though it was protected) on 12th day .
And on 14th day I am bleeding again.
My doc prescribed me contraceptive pills for the next 21 days , and told me not to even think about sex for couple of days. feeling heartbroken , what is wrong with my body!!!

I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling heartbroken, there is nothing wrong with your body and don’t get too disheartened! It’s a long process and I think sex can sometimes irritate the cervix after a miscarriage so maybe that’s what the bleeding is. I bled a little after we had sex for the first time and it felt a bit tender, so was probably too soon to be honest. You will get there. Wishing you all the best xx

I'm 8dpo now and been having brown splotting since 5dpo (with one red bleed at 5dpo) I knew my luteal phase was short but 5 days!!! What was everyones forst cycle after a miscarriage like? Could this be connected to that? Was really hoping the miscarriage would re-set everything and sort my luteal phase out so i am disappointed.

I'm 8dpo now and been having brown splotting since 5dpo (with some dark red bleed at 5dpo and today) I knew my luteal phase was short but 5 days!!! What was everyones first cycle after a miscarriage like? Could this be connected to that?

From what i've read i was really hoping the miscarriage would re-set everything and sort my luteal phase out and even that i would be more fertile so i am disappointed.

How much exercise do you all do in the tww? I know being a couch potato isn't a good idea but worried doing too much is bad. I am booked in for dance fit twice this week, does that sound ok?
I'm probably just over thinking things but just wanted a second opinion. Lost my first pregnancy at end of April and really want to get a BFP again
Thanks x