MC crew - Thread 10

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Well ladies it's officially thread 10, our 3rd on the TTC Boards. A collection of lovely ladies who have been through the worst experience. May this thread bring us lots of luck 🙏

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4198998-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again-Thread-2?pg=1

Lovely @AlbiMix hopefully more of us can join you guys soon 🤞🏻✨

@spookycookies sorry to hear that. Do you know for certain you ovulated ? AF arrived for me fully Monday night which was 8DPO, not a good sign! Hormones must still be up in the air. Back to cycle 2 for me now. I’ve had a good cry and a freak out but just accepting it now. I hope you at least get AF soon so you can start a fresh.

@AlbiMix I hope to join one day! Good luck to you and all the other ladies for healthy successful pregnancies xx

@Blondiebrownie6 not 100% but pretty sure. Due Sunday at the latest(cycles always irregular between 28-33days) but should be getting faint positives by now.

@spookycookies well listen technically you’re not out until AF so something could still be going on. Appreciate the limbo is the worst part and it’s super frustrating but just need to sit it out. Maybe you ovulated later than normal this cycle, I was CD24 in the end although I’m a bit everywhere anyways. Our bodies are amazing but oh so confusing at the same time! Hang in there x

@spookycookies good luck, you never know until AF makes an appearance 🤞

@justwant2beamum @Blondiebrownie6 can't wait for you to join us. I hope you're both doing well!

I'd like to stick around in this one too in case I can offer any info to others in terms of my TTC after MC experience... and I might find myself here again if the pregnancy goes south... still hard to let go of those worries.

Oh you Defos should @AlbiMix I totally get that. I don’t think those feelings will ever go away fully. How are things going for you just now?

I’ve had a spanner in the works today ....... AF Monday and normal bleeding for 2/3 days but not overall heavy. Then just spotting which is unlike me. Today I done an OPK to start tracking and it came up blazing positive :/ very odd for me so early on. I’ve just done FRER and there’s clearly a line :/ I don’t know whats! happening!?!? My BBT is still relatively low and I Defos had a period, wtf!?!? I’m not sure how to feel right now. Technically AF would have been due today!? Could it be a chemical maybe?

@Blondiebrownie6 was it def a period hun?? There's a clear line, surely if it was a chemical the line would be gone after af?? Could it have been implantation?

@gizmo167 I’m pretty certain....full on cramps , felt rubbish and was wearing a regular tampons for at least 3 days that’s were full for 2 then lighter in the 3rd (sorry tmi) at first I thought implementation but then it got heavier so was certain for AF and the BBT remained lowish. I’ve been spinning this week and bloody drunk wine last night!!! The line actually came out more after that photo and was an afternoon pee! I’ll keep doing them over the next few days to see what happens as that will be the only way to tell for certain I know. I feel 100% normal and no signs of anything just now well maybe a few cramps. last time I got a positive like that I had immediate symptoms and my BBT was through the roof.

That’s true re chemical but then wondered if it was lingering hormones? Have no idea but it’s thrown me for sure I tell you! Just need to keep calm and see what unfolds over the coming day. Hope you are getting on ok and things are going smoothly for you xx

Hi everyone, never posted on here before but this page has been my lifeline for the last couple of months!
I sadly had a mmc on 03/06/21, went for the 12 week scan and discovered babies heartbeat had stopped and stopped growing at 10wk+6d. We were absolutely devastated as we found out very early so felt like we had been pregnant for so long!! I was booked in for the next day to stay in over night at hospital to get a medically managed miscarriage. Got given the meds 9.30am and got horrible pains around 11.30am. Eventually passed a little boy at 7pm the same night, all very quick and traumatic. I passed the placenta 10 minutes later and then that night had very heavy bleeding and pregnancy tissue passing, aswell as large clots.
Got sent home lunch time next day, and had 2 days of heavy bleeds, then lighter and lighter until just brown gunk then nothing as of last few days.
We are desperate to TTC again, without having to wait for my period.
What I’m hoping is from reading all your stories and getting pg again soon after mc, is had anyone had similar experiences to me? And how soon after did you conceive?
We have had sex twice since my MC on the 3rd of June and just praying something comes of it.
Will need to check my hcg levels over next few weeks as I was fairly late on towards end of 1st trimester so assuming it will take a while to come down.
I know it seems soon but we want to have a baby so much it just seems like my body is telling me to try again, and I am pain free and feel physically well!

Sorry for the long post but just desperate for some re assurance or similar stories with a happy ending?
Thanks I’m advance xxxx

Hi @Daisyamelie I'm sorry for your loss, just want to spread some positivity 🤗 I mc at 12 weeks Xmas day 2009 and got pregnant on the 1st cycle after with dd, and I mc feb this year and am now 7 weeks pregnant so 🤞for you☺️

Period is late. Loads of pregnancy symptoms and loads of negatives tests. This every month is going to kill me. I'm hating myself for having hope when I know that I would have had a positive test by now. I just want my period to come and put me out of my misery so I can start trying again.

I just had my first period four weeks after medical miscarriage. I was super happy it came quite 'on time'. My ob gyn had told me it would be heavier and maye more painful than usually. Instead, it was MUCH lighter and shorter. Has anyone had the same? Does anyone know if this is normal? I was so happy to be back to my usual cycle and now I'm worried it nay not be the case after all....

Omg @Blondiebrownie6 what's up with that?! Sounds very confusing but also...you do read that implantation can be confused for period so...it could be a BFP?! I'll hold my congrats for now but let us know what happens, I'm on the edge of my seat now.
I'm doing ok thanks, I have this niggling feeling that something will go wrong, it sounds really stupid but it's because I just can't imagine myself having a successful pregnancy. Like I just can't picture it.

@Maropa I was also told to expect a beast period after the MC but mine wasn't too bad either. It was much less painful than my usual periods but slightly heavier bleeding.

Sorry for your loss @Daisyamelie , I waited for a period before TTC again after the MC but it happened quite quickly. I know some people do try straight away but it's advised you wait two weeks from the MC to prevent infection. The problem if you TTC before the first period is its hard to tell whether a positive test is leftover HCG from the MC or a new pregnancy. But plenty of people have successful pregnancies right after the MC.

@AlbiMix thanks for your response. Mine was definitely much lighter than usual. And now i am feeling hyper emotional like i usually feel right before a period so... who knows whats going on

It's really great news that you were able to conceive so soon after. Can I ask how many months it took? I hope you have the most uneventful, smoothest and loveliest of pregnancies!!

That’s amazing! Thankyou so much for this reply it has given me hope ❤️❤️

@AlbiMix I know, I spoke to DR/EPU and they said it seemed to heavy for implantation from what I was saying so I have no idea? I think the test is lighter today. I’m gonna hold off testing tomorrow and do it again Friday. Day 15 seems darkest and today not as dark, pic attached. I kinda feel I’ve accepted it won’t be viable and I’m just going about things are normal. My temps are everywhere to. I’ve to do another digital test Monday and called EPU back from there , thats if I don’t start losing things before then. Bless you, I can only imagine the struggle , but glad to hear you are doing ok. When’s 12wks?

@Daisyamelie sorry for your loss, like the girls say you can start straight away or wait for a period, just whatever you feel is best for you both and when you both emotionally feel ready again. Look after yourself In the meantime

@Maropa I had medical back in March and by period after was normal for me although it took nearly 10 weeks to come back! No worse off and nothing to major tbh. I did have small bleed about 6wks after MC for a few days but I think it was retained products and colour wise it was brown and no fresh blood so to speak. My pregnancy test went negative shortly after this

@spookycookies sorry you’re still in limbo. Hope AF arrives soon for you. Defos track your cycle next time so you can be certain when you ovulate x

So reassuring reading through these stories and knowing i'm not alone. I miscarried last week, if you can be 'lucky' in terms of miscarriage i guess i was aa it was early on and painless. My body seems to have taken care of things naturally and my last blood test on Fri should confirm the hcg levels have gone.

They told me not to have unprotected sex this week as a pregnancy will confuse the results when looking for hcg to go down from this one.

This is a bit of a random question but i have an appointment with a fertility doctor next week. Made it about 9 months ago aa we were struggling to conceive our 3rd child. I still think the issue stands as i had a short luteal phase and i honestly think that was what affected my pregnancy. Has anyone else had a miscarriage due to a short lutal phase? How does this get fixed?

I know it's awful to say but i'm almost considering not telling the fertility doctor about the miscarriage as i worry they'll say ' oh you can get pregnant you don't need me, come back if you have 2 more moscarriages' I don't want to lie but i've waited so long for this appointment and i don't want to be dismissed straight away.

@Beleeve I think you need to be honest with the dr. I totally understand but his advice might be different. You might end up missing some crucial information or he try's to fix a problem that you don't have.

Thank you @spookycookies I know i need to be honest really, if they decide they can't help me then so be it. I want to try again asap, i'm 35 so feel like time isn't really on my side. I do have this horrible feeling in my gut it's going to happen again but i know i can't do anything about it.

How did people find their cycle after a 5/6 week miscarriage? I feel physically back to normal and am going to start tracking ovulation staright away. Had a positive Sun which i know was hcg then a negative yesterday so i think any positive from now will be real. Fingers crossed

I took a cheapie Ovulation test yeaterday which was negative but i've done a digi one today and it's positive, any chance it's genuine or is it just more sensitive to the hcg levels potentially still in my system. Miscarriage happened last Thurs.

@Beleeve have you had a negative pregnancy test yet? I highly doubt you'd be ovulating less than a week after miscarriage. You're hormones need to go down and then you'd start you cycle so I'd expect at least two weeks if not more. My period didn't return for 7weeks.

@spookycookies I haven't taken a pregnancy test since last week. I've only taken ovulation which have all been positive apart from yesterday. My hcg levels were 140 on Friday and dropped to 68 Sunday i imagine my test this Friday will be practically 0. I do think you're right. I've been told not to have unprotected sex til my next blood test so really don't know why i'm testing. Feeling impatient and wanting to focus on something i guess.

@Maropa I conceived on the second cycle after the MC. First cycle we didn't try as I wanted to wait for a period first. I had read that there could be a slightly better chance of a healthy pregnancy if you conceive in the first three months after a MC, that's why I got back to TTC so quickly.

@Daisyamelie no problem hope you're doing ok!
@Blondiebrownie6 that's so confusing but I must say those lines are very very strong, even if d15 is mildly stronger...sounds like you have the right approach though, just getting on with it until you get more info. I had my 12w beginning of last week and it was fine but even with that I'm still not convinced 😂 maybe if I reach 16w I will start believing it?!

@Beleeve sorry I don't know much about the digital ovulation tests but @spookycookies is probably right if you've just MC'd...so difficult to tell what's what!

Both pregnancy and ovulation tests are negative today so guess it was picking up leftover hcg levels before. Last blood test tomorrow so hopefully willl be down to 0

Hope everyone is doing okay, and all your replies have really given me hope!
I am now 15 days post medically managed miscarriage, feeling physically well. Bleeding stopped 5 days after I got home from hospital so 10 days ago. We have dtd twice in that time and my OH is now away for 2 months (he’s in the army) so we had to squeeze it in before he went. Not really hoping for much as it’s a long shot to ovulate that quickly after mmc but you never know!
Did feel like I had ovulation twinges on CD12 and then some cramping on CD14 if I’m using mmc as CD1. But it’s down to nature now and if it happens then amazing if not, it will be good to atleast get AF so I can get my cycle adjusted for when OH is back in august.
Hope you’re all doing well, this thread is really helping me not just for hope but just for some familiarity and comfort. I haven’t left the house much since it’s all happened and I’ve only seen close family. My OH has been amazing and now he’s had to go I feel quite alone. Just me and little Dennis now (my King Charles cavalier) xx