Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

Thanks for sharing @ChinChilly I guess I could drive myself mad analysing my chart haha I keep googling what implantation dips look like but they don’t look any different from normal cycles that end in AF 😂😂

@AllyCat31 definitely drive yourself mad and it's not always right, I don't really have anything to go by this cycle apart from my RHR but by looking at it at the beginning of the week I was convinced I was out

@TheDaydreamBelievers I have gone private. From my first form submission it was 6 weeks until my appointment with them, but I don't know if it would have been any longer if I had got an NHS referral.

Costs so far:

£180 - Inital consultation (paid)
£0 (?) blood tests ordered at my local GP surgery
£105 - SA (waiting on instructions on how to organise)
£350 - HyCoSy (to be done after results from blood tests

I expect there to be more costs further down the line. My next consultation (further £110) will be months away, so the costs are spread.

@ChinChilly thankfully my Apple Watch tracks my RHR but I don’t know what to think of it really. I might do a bit more reading about it and pay a bit more attention next cycle

@AllyCat31 I think the general rule is that it rises after ovulation, drops just before AF is due or stays high if your pregnant.

@TheDaydreamBelievers I've gone down the NHS route. Started in July last year, took until Nov to get the referral sorted and then didn't meet with the fertility clinic until Feb but my original appointment wasn't going to be until 17th of May! To be honest if they tell me the IVF waiting list is stupidly long I might end up going the private route whilst waiting anyway. I'm 33 now for reference btw, I think knowing what I know now, I'd have gone private if I was a couple of years older.

Just popping back to say huge congratulations to @ChinChilly and @Flowers222 - amazing news!! 💗💗👏
I can't believe you've got your booking appt already!!! I'm nearly 9 weeks now and haven't even had the midwife call to book in the booking appt 🙈 they said it's crazy busy down south so some scans don't happen until the 14 week mark either 🙄 it's crazy! Had a private scan at 7+5 though and all looking good but can't believe how long people have to wait if they don't go private...

Thank you @Juno231 @Kay00 @Gracie2021 - the clinic I have approached is attached to our nhs service (all same clinicians). Their website only mentions ICSI and IVF so will see if they offer ovulation help. I'm also going to re-approach GP and see who they referred me to and get the actual numbers from my test results (dont trust them to say what is normal for fertility or not). They said they referred to gynaecology but unsure if that is fertility gynaecology or generic.

@Emmgrem thank you 😊 I was shocked when she called I even said she could leave it for a few weeks if she wanted to 😅 I'm surprised how quickly everything has happened tbh my scan before i got my BFP came through really quickly. I'm hoping to get in for an early scan, I'm just taking each day as it comes at the moment, did you find you could see much on your scan at 7+5? I'm not sure when to time it for if i get that far

@ChinChilly this was my private scan at 8 weeks on the nose to give you an idea

Also I loved my fitbit but took it off when my RHR dipped one day and it drove my sick with worry, just a warning really to ignore it to an extent now you’ve had your bfp!

Still no AF for me ladies and just done a FRER on my third wee of the day.. BFN obviously so I'm just confused, do you reckon I should ring the doctor? I just can't understand why my periods will start fucking up at the 6 month mark?

@Robyn101 ahhh look at that 😍 thank you for sharing! Yeah i think i may take RHR bit off the front screen so its not so easy to see it at a glance

@MissM94 did you track ovulation this time? Sounds like it could have just been a bit late - it happens every now and then even for the regular people, so I suspect your GP would just tell you to go away.

@Emmgrem gosh week 14 for a booking app! I'd hate that, I'd be worried about my blood tests being done too late!

@ChinChilly thankyou for responding. I'm so happy for you. X
@Gracie2021 he had the letter through yesterday so he is going to rebook. Although he is going to ask if it's quicker if he collects the pot one day and then takes it in straight in after doing his business instead of doing it in there as apparently they allow this? May be quicker than waiting to go in and do it. Not sure if anyone here DH has done this.
MIL doesn't mean to be rude. She kind of has no filter. Also only has sons so wonder if this could be something.. And conceived them easily. DH tells me to ignore her as she doesn't mean it but sometimes it's too much. Especially telling the family I have something wrong and it won't happen till I've had help 😭 I do answer and say things but it makes no difference.
@Juno231 I'm hoping it's a fluke but at least we shall find out with the next one. Hopefully not too far off.
I've just read how long all your referals took and I am thinking oh my god... I'm not gonna get seen for a very long time then, I don't think I could wait that long, maybe I should do private.
I'm a week away from AF which will be cycle 18 so about 2 weeks behind you!
@Cams50 thankyou 😘

One of my good friends is pregnant. Only been with her partner for probably 6ish months and 4 months pregnant. I've been told by another friend. I think everyone told but me. I mean I understand she may feel awkward but it being just me not told makes me feel a bit crap.. I had to try so hard to come across happy about it to my other friend though.. Don't get me wrong any close pregnancy is hard to take but an accidental one especially and even more when they'd been together a few weeks! I feel like a bitch but it makes you feel crap inside don't it?! I am truly happy for anyone but its just a rollercoaster of emotions when someone close is pregnant. I know I'm irrational as well😂

@Lovebug06 huge hugs xxx that is certainly difficult

I'm starting to believe that my body has become 'used' by OH's sperm, we have been together 17 years after all! I'm sure if I had sex with another person (haha... not that i'm making any plans!) i'd fall pregnant straight away! I think they call that Sod's Law haha!

9DPO here... Temps are still nice and high. Had a few cramps yesterday and day before but looking at past charts that's not unusual for me. I am going to the hospital for my 2nd colonoscopy on Sunday (joy!) so will be expected to pee in a cup for a pregnancy test before hand. I'll be 12DPO, shall I bother testing before hand?

I need to take super strong laxatives for 24 hours before the procedure, which should leave me dehydrated etc. I'm not sure how that would effect any hypothetical little bean?? It's not ideal timing really.

@Kay00 I'd probably test before starting the laxatives tbh!

@lovebug06 stop making excuses for MIL - if she's hurting you with her comments then her intent doesn't mean anything, have OH stand up for you and consider it practice for when you set boundaries to protect your future babies! She sounds awful based on her comments tbh - and why on earth is she telling family about your reproductive abilities??

@Lovebug06 Actually, yes, I ditto Juno on this one. It's really none of her business, and funny how she is assuming the issue is all yours! I get that your partner has had children before, but sperm quality changes over time.

@Juno231 yes, maybe you're right. Maybe I'll test on Saturday morning before I take the first batch of strong laxatives

@Kay00 I'd def take a test before starting the laxatives. Or maybe call them to rearrange if they'd be able to give you another appointment fairly soon?

@Kay00 I agree test before laxatives

@Lovebug06 I get how your feeling, its really painful watching others get what you want so badly, i also agree with the others here your MILs comments are, she also has no right telling other family members that your 'having problems' maybe your OH can have a word with her and just say her comments are painful if she doesn't mean it with intent then she'll understand and be sorry for her comments

@Kay00 I agree with the others about testing before laxatives; they're very stringent the ones they usually use for colonoscopy. 😳

I'm hoping that I'm now ovulating, OPK showed peak yesterday. Beginning to feel like a sex pest. 🤭

@Lovebug06 agree your DH needs to tell her straight that her comments are hurting you both. Then next time she comments "MIL, we told you those comments are hurtful. Not sure why youd keep saying them..?" (Implication - you are being awful)

I wish I was the type to symptom spot - but I really don't like the idea of getting my hopes up! But if I were that type, then the dull cramps I have been getting low down (near my pubic bone) and the short sharp stabbing pains I have been getting all day (in the same area) teamed with the tiniest bit of blood streaked mucous when I wiped just now (sorry... tmi!) would be getting me quite excited. But maybe I am just going to get 5 days of spotting before AF shows again... bah!

Thanks ladies. Good to hear responses as sometimes it's hard to know if I'm being over the top or not. I feel bad sometimes posting about it as she's generally a nice person, just doesn't think at all.
I flit between letting it go over my head as I know it's not meant badly, that there is just no filter, to it upsetting and annoying me....
I will tell DH he needs to say something if it happens again. Knowing it isn't mean badly and ignoring it isn't always down to me, maybe it can be down to others to think what they are saying too and how it can make someone feel.
I'm actually finding the bit where she is encouraging new SIL to have a baby now and saying all the things to her that was said to me harder than the other comments. I know it's not horribly but it's just like it hasnt happened and thinks it wont so it's now all with her. And she has a dc so they know it'll happen or more likely. Not much I can say about that though. I have discussed with other SIL recently though, she has a dc but has been very understanding and has made a point of trying to include me in things. Her family member had fertility problems and she knew how bad it was for her. So I'm hoping that carries on.
Glad I have you all, you all understand me! ❤️
I'm 7dpo, is anyone at the same point as me?

@Kay00 that sounds promising. I have my fingers crossed for you so much.

Fingers crossed for you @Kay00.