Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

@abi555 congratulations!!! That is clear as day 😊

@abi555 Congratulations! ☺️

@Moocher90 Snap with the peak opk today! I've had ovulation pain tonight so hoping to dtd before bed and then just keep my fingers crossed! 🤞🤞

@abi555 congrats again xxx so happy for you please put your journey when you have the chance if you haven’t already x

@FlyingGiraffe snap me too! I’m glad since AF finished we have had sex 5 times abs we will squeeze one in tonight but last cycle I ovulated the next morning so if my temp is higher 2mo then I prob won’t bother DTD 2mo night

@abi555 congratulations!!! So happy for you!! I hope everything is going well with the new house too! ❤️

@abi555 That line is clear as day, no mistaking that! Congratulations on your BFP! 👏🏼

@abi555 massive congratulations 🥳 so happy for you! The wait was worth it!!

@Moocher90 how did you get on last night??

I took a opk this morning and I’m still 0.29 so I don’t think anything much is gonna happen in the next few days... just feeling so deflated. I’m sick of feeling bloated and sore boobs.... if the opk was actually going up I would feel more positive!!

@abi555 Amazing! So happy for you. :D

@abi555 congratulations! Can I ask how long you've been trying? Sorry I get everyone mixed up. Sorry if you have already answered this I need to catch up on this thread.

I am 11dpo. Feel nothing except tender boobs which I've had for probably 3/4 days. Had a few spots but nothing major. That's it. Totally different from last month, but that has happened to me numerous times. Had those cramps after ovulation for a few days which is odd but also had that last month for the first time!
I'm starting to think about it more now as it's approaching... The sdc won't be here this saturday, so at least I can cry as much as I need to without worrying they'll notice 🤣
Cycle 16 has flown by for me. I have no idea why. Quickest of them all
DH sperm analysis tommorow finally.
Feel like i am seriously behind what I should be doing seeing as I am nearly cycle 17 and this is only just being done. But at least it's something.

Apologies in advance as I will most likely be feeling horrific this weekend and be posting on here very upset! But it's because I know you all understand me.

Need to catch up on everyone's messages since I last posted. Hope your all feeling okay

Swinging by to say congratulations to @abi555!! There's no denying that FRER result 🤩

@abi555 HUGE congratulations!!!!!

@firsttimemummy321 how you doing today? xx

@Lovebug06 Good luck with DH's SA, hopefully you will fall pregnant naturally, but it certainly feels good to be getting the ball rolling with investigations. I really can't wait for my 1st appointment in 2 weeks time, even if i'm paying private.

@Kay00 I feel like I'm a bit behind getting this all done but it's still steps. I think he will be fine as he has dc already but you never know!
I hope these 2 weeks fly for you, if its good maybe I will look into private, I've heard good things from another girl.

My MIL has decided I will not be getting pregnant at all until I receive treatment and said I need to forget about it now until I've had help....
Maybe so. But nobody has told me this so I'm a bit

I think even if DH sperm is fine, and my bloods were good, we will still get referred due to the time we have been trying? I think this is right and bloody hope so. Just checking incase the doctors try and fob me off, Its what I'm clinging to!

@abi555 Massive congratulations! Amazing 🥰

@Springflower3 we did DTD but my OPKs are crazy strong still. That was with my FMU at 6am this morning

@Moocher90 will you be able to dtd today... just to cover all basis?? How long are you off the pill??

Here is mine this morning, I am so disappointed cause I got my hopes up yest when it was the highest it has been!!

@Lovebug06 you'd definitely get referred anyway. All tests can come back fine but they don't test for everything (eg NK cells, DNA frag as part of SA - it's too expensive) and there's plenty of things that can be wrong that they can't even test for with modern medicine yet. E.g. you might ovulate every month but the follicle membrane is too strong to release the egg - all tests would show ovulation is fine etc etc but your OH's swimmers would never even meet the egg.

Not to worry you but I just don't like it when people tell me that because my fertility tests were fine that everything is clearly okay cause that's not at all what it means.

@abi555 hahaah we bloody knew it! Hope your OH withdrew his scepticism and admitted he'd been a poo for not celebrating with you! Congratulations and please pay the TTC recap toll

@Springflower3 I have been off contraception since August. Yes we will DTD tonight but it won’t be until after 11pm as hubby is working

Happy hump day ladies. Woke up this morning and FF gave me crosshairs so I'm officially 3 DPO. 10 days earlier ovulating than usual too. I'm hoping my LP is still the same and not shortened, will see what happens.

Thanks everyone!

So for @Juno231 @Moocher90 and @Lovebug06 who asked about my journey...
I came off the combined pill in early October and got my first AF on New Years Eve which made for a happy start to 2021 as I was getting v stressed about its absence.

After that had a very short first cycle, then a CP in Feb and now very luckily a BFP in April. I realise I am very lucky as I haven't been trying very long compared to some on this group, and sending so many good vibes and baby wishes to everyone here.

I did go a little mad on research and the google rabbit hole, and feels like I've bought every supplement under the sun! Started taking B12 complex and high dose vit C after my short first cycle as had a short luteal phase... not sure if they helped or if my cycle just naturally regulated, but I had a long luteal the next month ending in a CP.

Also bought ubiquinol and vitamin E for egg health. Had my bloods tested (not for TTC but for something else) which showed a low vit D so also started higher dose supplements for that as has been linked to poor fertility. Also taking pregnacare.... so basically started rattling!

I found TTC really stressful after only a few months, so also started acupuncture sessions. Really not sure on the science behind acupuncture helping fertility, but I can vouch for how relaxing it is... and always left my sessions feeling like I was floating on a cloud!

I've attached my chart this month as I know some ladies like to look at them. I feel FF may be wrong and I actually ovulated on day 14, which would make more sense to me in why I have a strong line. Symptoms wise, I have had absolutely none. In fact, would have put money on having a BFN this month as feel so normal!

Still getting spotting - there was quite a bit this morning which is making me very cautious about getting excited - but trying to ignore it and what will be will be. There's nothing I can do to change it if this isn't going to stick, so just going to enjoy for now.

Hope that helps!xx

p.s. yes, Juno, OH has now admitted he was being a poo! hahaaah, his words were 'Well. THAT's a strong line, isn't it! with his eyebrows practically meeting his hairline haha. But we did then celebrate and he promises to believe me in future!

@Juno231 that's exactly why I want to be referred. DH has kids already so if his SA comes back fine as expected and my bloods were good, I didn't want to be fobbed off as it could be something else! It's been a long time, I feel now there has got to be something going on with me. Or I at least want to be checked now, what if it went on and on and I found out so much later when something could be done now?!
Good to know all that though, thanks. I should know more when I've been trying this long, but good to check.
Still not keen on MIL telling me and everyone that I have something wrong with me and to forget about it now until I've had treatment though... Not been told this and its being told to other people like its definite! As if I could forget about it anyway. That is a typical response from someone who conceived easily😂 which I'm also told about often.
@abi555 thanks lovely, very happy for you. X

@abi555 Aww, congratulations again! 6 months is a relatively fast turnaround from coming off the pill to getting your BFP so great to see! ☺️ When you say you had a very short first cycle, can I ask how your first AF was and how they regulated after that? My first one came 6 weeks after stopping contraception so luckily wasn’t a long wait, but it lasted a very light 2 days! I’ve no doubt my second is brimming as my cramps this week have been terrible and I’m constantly hungry! Classic signs for my body pre-bleed.

@abi555 aah thank you for the recap! I think you might be right about CD14 ovulation - FF is only saying it's 16 because of the EWCM you logged on CD15 I think. I'm also glad OH ate his words lol

@Lovebug06 ha yes and apart from anything MIL's defeatist attitude has no upside to it?? At least if you carry on trying there's the chance of getting a BFP but what's the point of not trying?! Also that's an insensitive thing to say regardless and not her business so she can shove it.

Is it normal for OPKs to get darker my SMU today is darker then the previous..... but got peak on CB and opk yesterday

@moocher90 all looking good for Ov today or tomorrow, try squeeze in DTD tonight as well just to cover all bases. Exciting!!

@abi555 Thank you for the recap, I'm so pleased for you! Funnily enough I got a leaflet through my door for acupuncture today... maybe its a sign!

@Lovebug06 Wow... Is your MIL always that insensitive? This is why I am loathed to tell anyone. I'm starting to feel sad about not conceiving yet... I just feel like it will never happen for me but I don't want my future to be without children. Having extra pressure or more insensitive comments (on top of the random things my sister already says) would make it much harder for me.

@Moocher90 mine tend to hit 'peak' then get darker the next day and sometimes even the day after that!

@abi555 Great recap thank you! I'm def going to try acupuncture next cycle if this cycle doesn't work.