Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

Congratulations @abi555 💗

Hey, it me again the total dose 🙄🙄
So still get smiley faces!! But..... my break thru bleed has just started?? Is my body fucked? 🤣

@Springflower3 hmmmm.... that's an interesting one. Is it a lot of blood? If its just a little bit, then it could be ovulation spotting?

Hi @Kay00 I’m cramping really badly tbh and there was bright red blood...... I’ve felt bloated etc for days now... very typical of my period! I only stopped pill on 26th March and was doing opk for last 3 weeks!! So I’m like did I miss my ovulation or it just didn’t happen due to pill 🤷‍♀️

@Springflower3 I would say your body may have been waiting for this AF to regulate itself. I don’t think I ovulated between coming off the patch and my first period. Hopefully this is your first bleed, and then next week you can start tracking OPK’s properly and get things going knowing you’re starting at a blank page instead of less of a guessing game. 🙂

@ChillysT I think your right tbh, it is like a proper period!!! My ovesense arrived today so once this is over I will get using it! I’m actually relieved cause that no mans land was driving me mad!! Hats off to all the ladies who waited months for theirs! I’ve only waited like 3 weeks and I was losing my mind! Xx

I had the same, but my first bleed started on the Monday. And by Wednesday morning it was all over and done with! Was a very light couple days, but tbf I was only ever on Monday to Friday morning whilst on the patch so it was halved! I’m wondering if my next one will be a little longer!

I know what you mean though, mine was a 6 week wait and it was hard to not think the worst or Google everything! Then when she arrived I wondered why I even bothered acting like a paranoid maniac. Our minds and bodies like to play stupid tricks on us!! 🙈 Once you’ve had the first AF it’s much easier to start looking into your cycle as that’s what my plan was and once I had that first bleed, I counted over the first 10 days and then knew when to start using OPK’s to find my peak. It was a success doing it that way so hopefully it’s the same for you! Fingers crossed!

First period from coming off started just as I got home today. so that's 33 days cycle. My app has updated and we completely missed ovulation if the app is ANYTHING close to correct.

I'm using Clue. I've seen a few of you use Flo, is that better?

@abi555 huge congratulations!! Lovely news and thanks for the recap.

@Juno231 good luck with the surgery! Hope it gives you some answers or helps.

@CaptainGT I don’t think Flo is very accurate either. It’s only works if you’re perfectly regular I think whereas premom or fertility friend are much better as you input the data (OPKs or BBT)

@Lovebug06 a very insensitive MIL indeed! Hope DHs SA goes well and you get referred quickly. I’m at the same stage. My DH has his repeat SA next week and then we’ll get a referral after that hopefully.

Aww @ChillysT I really hope so 🙈🙈 my DP is so relaxed about it all I’m jealous! I was trying to be serious about it and explain that my AF was here and what this means and he was just like ‘ok’ 🙄🙄 here me trying to be all serious! When I get disappointed etc he is just like it is gonna happen so why stress!!! How do they have so much confidence???

@CaptainGT I’m usually a 33 day cycle so I’d be happy for it to that again!! Do you think you ovulated between coming off the pill and your AF?

@captainGT honestly all the apps just guess based on your previous data. So especially just off the pill they're going to be wildly off. As a rule they're not reliable and should only be used if you BD every other day pretty much all cycle!

@Springflower3 Haha, we should take a leaf out of their book! My partner is very chilled about the whole process. We aren’t worrying atm as we are so new to all this, I know my body is going to be all unpredictable as I’m so new to coming off contraception. So that helps. 🙂 Honestly once your first bleed comes you’ll calm down a lot, or at least I did as I knew she was working behind the scenes which was confirmed by a positive OPK. Your body is doing stuff without you realising so as difficult as it sounds, just chill and let it reset.

@CaptainGT I use Premom and Fertility Friend. However as we speak I’m just crossing all the data over to my iPhone cycle tracker. Has anyone used this?

I'm so frustrated with my stupid body. I mean, what the fuck is the deal here.

@CaptainGT both my apps were almost a week out in terms of ovulating, ovulated on day 18 of my last cycle but my app says it was on day 23 or something like that, today is supposed to be ovulation day but I've not had any pains, had some yesterday but my OPKs weren't blaring positives it was just a little line! But I'm currently day 13 so would be earlier than last months.. let's see what happens in the next few days!

@Juno231 she thinks she's being helpful 🤣 she even said to SIL 'love bug should just think it's not going to happen now until something is done don't you agree?', SIL is relatively new to the family actually so slightly embarrassing but she actually just went 'no I dont'
@Kay00 yes she is. About all things. Hard to explain but it's not meant horribly, she just doesn't think at all. Sometimes I can take it, such as a few days ago. If it was said to me in a couple of days when AF comes I would flip 😂 some things have very much upset me, I've tried explaining and ignoring but she just doesn't get it so I try to just let it go over my head if I can. It depends how bad I am feeling about it all at the time.
@cams50 thanks! I hope yours comes back quickly too, I don't know how long it takes?
My DH kept taking ages to book his, i got really annoyed, I'm sure it was the embarrassment. He now reckons he's not bothered at all and had even 'forgotten until you mentioned it' definately think he is just saying that! 😂, Not that it matters I'm so glad it'll be done tommrow.

I think it’s safe to say I have ovulated. One more day of high temps and it will be confirmed :)

@Juno231 if I ovulated yesterday does that mean that the chance of catching the egg was already gone for DTD last night well just after midnight so this morning?

Spoke to my endocrinologist yesterday who said I have hashimotos which they could tell from my ultrasound and and also because my antibodies are high, I already knew this as I had a private blood test. Also thyroid is still subclinical hypothyroid but I’ve had 3 elevated blood tests so that’s why I’m on tablets and she confirmed tsh should be nearer to 2. I’m on the lowest dose of levothyroxine but it will get upped again after my next review if it’s still not coming down. I’m booked in for bloods on 2nd June fingers crossed the meds I started 2 weeks ago has worked.

Hiii guys!

Congrats on any BFP’s I’ve missed!

I’m just checking in, I’m still going strong on the no tracking but now I’m upto CD14 I’m struggling, them temptation to nip round to the shop for some OPKs is real 😂 the gym is really keeping my mind off this especially when it comes to trawling google for all things TTC I’m know trawling the internet for bargain gym wear!

Hope you’re all well!!

@ChinChilly I've missed you! I'm CD16 and ovulated yesterday but alas there are no swimmers to meet the egg this cycle! Feels super weird.

@Moocher90 The egg only hangs around for about 12 hours so last night's DTD won't have caught it - BUT that's on the basis that temping is spot on. I think it's good you DTD after supposed ovulation just in case it's a day off or so.

@ChinChilly nice to see you back!

@Juno231 yes I’m not sure as when I plot in temps for 2mo that are higher it’s only predicting I’m 2DPO so maybe last nights may have caught....who knows

@Juno231 I’ve missed coming on here but I have to admit sometimes I find it abit triggering in the sense when i see a BFP I’m like gaahhhh why is it not me, I really need to work on that 😂 Oh god that must be frustrating! When is your appointment?

@ChinChilly well done for staying strong! Stopping tracking is hard at first I remember well, but you soon get used to it after a couple of cycles to it and it is less stressful, well I found.

I'm 12dpo. I haven't had any cramps which is weird but about an hour ago I got that kind of feeling down there. I have no idea what the word for it is. Like a rumble🤣 that is so the wrong word😂! kind of like as if your going to cramp but don't. Anyway so then I've been in tears already ridiculously as I guess cramps will begin soon. I don't know why I even get upset anymore as AF will obviously appear but I'm so so tired of feeling so bad every month.

@Lovebug06 I was so tempted this afternoon so I threw on my gym kit and used my lunch break to go to the gym! I find when I’m working at home doing work for my course is the hardest but my course is so f’ing boring my mind easily wonders!

Ahh it’s so easy to feel down when AF is due but you’re not out until she rears her head!

Hi ladies, sorry I've been MIA, been busy with work and although I've been lurking it's taken most of my morning to catch up!

Congratulations to those who have been lucky to gain their BPFs!

Good luck to those who have missed the boat & are moving on to the next month xx

A bit of advice needed for me at the mo, don't know what's going on.

Stopped the pill 28th March.
Still waiting for my withdrawal bleed.
However, I've been tracking CM & I'm pretty sure that I possibly ovulated around 13th/14th/15th April?

Can you ovulate before without withdrawal bleed?

Making me around 8-10 DPO.

I feel dreadful.
Physically drained.
Runny nose.
Dizzy.
Sore boobs.
CM is like a sticky PVA glue (never noticed it to remain so present in the past when I wasn't on the pill).
Peeing none stop.
Constipation all last week.
Really bad back ache all last week.
Bloating this week.

Don't want to be reading too much into it but this morning I woke up yawning & I'd been in bed since 9pm! Completely not like me at all.

@ChillysT sorry, forgot to answer your question lovely. All my AF's since stopping the pill have actually been really really light - only about 2 days of bleeding, and only needing a tampon for the first day with a pantyliner basically lasting a whole day for the other. I was actually getting really worried they were so light and was concerned my lining wasn't thick enough to implant... but apparently not!
I'm sure my periods were heavier before I started taking contraception, but light AF's seem to be a common problem once stopping pill. I don't think you should worry about it - it'll likely get heavier with time - and if it doesn't, it doesn't appear to stop BFP either

@MrsHInch I'm sure you can ovulate without withdrawal bleed... sounds like you have. Fingers crossed, symptoms sound promising!

@ChillysT to add to what @abi555 said - my periods took a year to increase in flow in duration, otherwise it was just barely 2 days of light AF. BUT all my ultrasound scans still showed a nice lining so the two don't seem to be correlated. I've also seen plenty of MN ladies in the past year with super light periods get their BFPs no problem.

@TheDaydreamBelievers I'm so sorry your body is trolling you so hard. Do you have anything lined up with docs to investigate it or do you think they'll fob it off as a post MC thing?

@MrsHInch I have no clue if you can but I think you have! Just a reminder though that all those symptoms you're listing can equally be pre-AF ones.

@Lovebug06 you're definitely not out silly - cramping is part and parcel of a BFP as well! Fingers crossed for you - apart from anything I'd like to shove this BFP in your MIL's face lol!