Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

[Mellous]

Hi all,

A thread for the ladies from the recent MC/MMC group and for anybody else who wants to join us as we discuss getting our cycles back on track after MC and starting to TTC again x

@ams19
@abimix
@plantmummy87
@thehotelcalifornia
@pettylamby
@laurat94
@neady1980

@SuzieDeLaTour yes did it yesterday on my peak and the night before. Today the lines are not as strong on the cheapies so not sure if I just had 1 peak day. I DTD Friday too so the day before peak 🤞

@neady1980 yep my LP has definitely shortened. I'm only 6DPO and I'm 99% period is about to arrive. My body just isn't back to normal at all even 3 months later xx

Joining in if its allowed. I had mc in February at around 6weeks. Just had my finished my 1st period since mc. I was totally calm about ttc before mc but now feel super anxious. I've bought some clear blue ovulation tests as I want to check that I'm definitely ovulating after the mc. Keeping my fingers crossed for this month.

@wag1987 looks like you’ve covered all bases!! 🤞

Hi @klm018 and welcome to the group ☺️ Sorry for your loss, it’s such a tough journey. I think most of us feel a mix of emotions trying again - terrified of not falling pregnant and terrified of falling pregnant and going through all the anxiety! 🤦‍♀️ But we are all in it together which makes it a lot easier. I’m currently in my TWW. Fingers crossed for you and this cycle 🤞 x

Thinking of you all today ladies. Just got home from an absolutely lovely coffee in the park with my gorgeous Mum which was so needed but I’ve just gone on IG and all the Mothers Day posts have just got me all upset so had a little cry. Even though they’re all so lovely and inclusive about all the different ways you can be a Mum. Next year we hopefully all will be in a different place. Sending love to you all and hope everyone’s doing ok xxxxx

Afternoon ladies. Just wanted to say happy mother’s to be day and hope you’re being kind to yourself. @TheHotelCalifornia I went on IG first thing out of habit and came straight off and will stay off until tomorrow.

Any remote chance I could still be in after all? Top is yesterday, bottom just now. I'm one of the minority who gets darker lines in the afternoon. Fmu is always rubbish. Can anyone see the tiniest tiniest improvement between the two?

@dippyegg32 I can def see a slight line on bottom, I too get darker lines in afternoon, wishing you every luck hun, ur not out yet!

@dippyegg32 I think you’re very much still in! x

@dippyegg32 definitely still in! 100000%!!

Hi there

Hope its ok to join. I had a MMC in January and ended up needing a MVA.

Currently in first proper cycle since MC. I've started using clear blue ovulation sticks, no positive yet but going with my cycle it may be more likely Tuesday or Wed I peak. No idea if I'm using them correctly, sometimes I try in the morning but I read your LH levels are lower so have switched to early evening. Whats everyone else experience with them?

Its nice to have a page to chat with other people going through it as I feel like my OH and family just want to move on and don't mention what has happened.

Really nice to see those BFP on the page xx

@dippyegg32 ahhh definitely still in the game!! Yay!!
Gosh I’m only 4 DPO and I’m already itching to test despite telling myself to wait until my period was due 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ It’s going to be a looooong week! X

I'm out for this cycle. Had some bleeding earlier on 6DPO. God my body is a mess! Who starts bleeding 6 days into their LP?! Ah well, I think I've accepted its just not meant to be for me and to enjoy summer and start trying again in the autumn xx

@AMS19 oh no, was it full on af bleeding? Please don’t be too disheartened. I know it somehow feels like a lifetime ago (for me anyways!!), it still is really early days after our mc’s and our bodies have been through a lot. Could you speak to your GP about your short LP? Maybe they have some advice that could help?

I’ve just spent the last hour sobbing to my husband. It’s all so so hard xx

@AMS19 please don’t give up until autumn. Your body and mind went through a massive trauma just over 12 weeks ago and for weeks before that so it will take a while to settle down. I fell pregnant straight after my miscarriage at 5.5 weeks without having a period and then miscarried again at 9.5 weeks. In hindsight I should have given myself time for my body to heal. I know a lot of ladies do go onto have successful pregnancies straight after a miscarriage but everyone is different and this doesn’t mean your body is letting you down or not going to get back to normal it’s just finding it’s feet and will get there. You’re allowed to be anxious, angry, upset and whatever else you’re feeling but don’t give to hope that your body will sort itself out and get back on that horse xxx

@SuzieDeLaTour I hope so 🤞

I thought the ovulation test would show your peak meaning the next 48hours are most fertile but then when I read on google if the test is lighter after the peak means already ovulated. So does this mean when I had peak on clear blue and positive on cheapy I had already ovulated or still fertile. So confused. I've never really tracked before so confusing me a bit. Plus my DH is finding it hard because he's doesn't want scheduled Baby dancing as too much pressure.

@AMS19 yes I reiterate what @DMT1982 has said. Your body has been through so much so don't give up. Your feelings are perfectly justified

@AMS19 ❤️❤️❤️

@AMS19 oh love I’m so sorry! Are you sure it’s not an implantation bleed or just general spotting like you had before? Might not mean you’re definitely out this month? But if you are, I think @DMT1982 said it beautifully - don’t give up hope yet. It’s so disheartening when you’re desperate for something to happen and your period arrives but you’ve been through a massive trauma and sometimes our body needs that bit longer to adjust and recover 😘

@wag1987 I take it that you’re still fertile as long as your tests show positive. I know clearblue says you’ll be fertile for the next 48 hours but I think it very much depends on the person and their individual cycle. You could test 12/24 hours into your peak without knowing and then you might only be fertile for the next 24 hours if that makes sense? Judging by your tests and when you had sex, you pretty much covered yourself this cycle so it’s just a matter of fingers crossed for a sticky bean! X

@Mellous I’m so sorry you’re having such a tough day my darling - I found myself crying this morning out of nowhere! I hope you feel better for it and your DH offered the comfort and support you need. We’ve got each other’s backs here, we can do this!! X

@dippyegg32 if I've learnt anything this week its that anything is possible!! There is 100% a line there! How many dpo now? Test again tomorrow afternoon? 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Oh @AMS19 I'm sorry! Is it for sure your period? Please don't be disheartened, your body has been through a lot! Could it have been implantation!? 💕

@AMS19 thinking of you ❤️ if this is early AF, definitely don't give up! There's lots you can do to lengthen LP (B vits i believe? I know the ladies in the post-pill chat could let you know!). But more than likely your body is just trying adjust after the trauma ❤️ my fingers are crossed that this was just IB or random spotting for you!

@dippyegg32 definitely a line there and they're looking like my early tests!

@Pettylamby ahhhh test twins haha! ❤️ I think it's finally sinking in for me! Can't believe the journey you've been on this week but I'm so happy for you!

@SuzieDeLaTour @Mellous thank you!