Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

[Mellous]

Hi all,

A thread for the ladies from the recent MC/MMC group and for anybody else who wants to join us as we discuss getting our cycles back on track after MC and starting to TTC again x

@ams19
@abimix
@plantmummy87
@thehotelcalifornia
@pettylamby
@laurat94
@neady1980

@ams19 sorry that you didn't get much out of fertility acupuncture but sounds like it was definitely worth a go! Would be good to hear if you do go on to try normal acupuncture and how you find it as an alternative!

Morning ladies, I think that my pregnancy hormones are finally leaving my body. I took a test this morning and it's a real squinter. I'm confused though because I took an opk out curiosity. The first reading was 0 but I thought I'd check again and I got 200 both times after that so I'm very confused! I've attached the photos of the pregnancy test and the ov one.

I've got a splitting headache today and a few twinges but I'm still having the slightest hint of brown blood when I wipe, but I have to look closely for it.

I'm so sorry for your chemical @Pettylamby 😔

These were my pregnancy test and opk test readings last Friday. The pregnancy hormone has definitely dropped since Friday and I have no idea what was going on with that opk on Friday!

@Ralala the hcg tests definitely getting lighter! Hopefully a few more days and it'll be negative. The opk is super dark! I know hcg can interfere with opk tests? Do you have any ovulation signs like ewcm? x

@LauraT94 just wondering if your rhr increased in the end? x

@Mellous I'm guessing you're talking to me? 😊 yeah the opks are definitely looking darker today for both lines. No idea what was going on on Friday, the test line was insanely dark!
I did have a little bit of EWCM during the weekend but it was mixed with brown blood so I wasn't sure. I did have some ovary twinges and I have a headache today so who knows. I'm guessing that even if I have a slight trace of HCG then I can't be ovulating yet? It's just so confusing 😕 at least my HCG levels are dropping I suppose.

@gizmo167 I know how u feel, I'm 40 and first pregnancy ended in a MC at 8 weeks the end of January. I'm currently 8dpo and hoping for a miracle. It's so hard when you get older. Hopefully you will have your little rainbow baby soon xx

@Neady1980 @gizmo167

I know how you both feel too. I had a MC when I was 38, and I found out I'd had a MMC of twins at 10 weeks at my 13 week scan a couple of weeks ago. I'm also 40, and I also worry that perhaps it's my body's way of saying that now I'm just too old for it, but I'm stubborn and remain hopeful and I'll keep trying again 😊 x

@Tamalama yes sorry don't know what happened there! I think I ovulated with some hcg leftover last month, and I think some of the other ladies have as well but to be honest who knows whats happening with our bodies post mc!! xx

@Tamalama never stop trying, I was told at 16 I'd never conceive and I tried for years with my ex like i literally tracked everything for 10 years and no luck. I'm with my now partner 5 years, and accepted the fact it would never happen until I was 5 days late and got a BFP, although it didn't end well I'm more determined now than ever but still trying to keep the relaxed approach

@Mellous lol, no worries! 😊
It's just crazy isn't, like you say who knows what's happening post MC. It's so frustrating x

@Ralala Thanks for the heads up!

I haven’t done any temp checking. I haven’t even looked into what I would look for if I did?

I have had 5 days of high. Today is my peak.

Xx

Thanks everyone for all your messages, ive read them all and I really appreciate it!

My new tests arrived this morning (thanks amazon prime for that kick in the teeth) and I decided to take an FRER just to see what it would show! It's a much darker line that yesterday and very obvious so HCG must have still been on the rise when my period started! Hoping that the tests turn negative again soon and it doesn't affect my next cycle! Can't believe I'm back at the positive tests and no pregnancy stage!

OH is trying to be supportive, but of course he doesn't understand, just keeps telling me to look at the positives which I'm trying to do but at the same time I'm sad! I feel like a huge thing is missing from my life and I'm everytime I get a bit closer it's snatched away and it seems to be moving further and further away rather than closer!

OH also brought up last night, that if things didn't work out, he wanted us to skip a month because he didn't want a December baby as he thinks it's unfair to have a birthday and Xmas so close together! At the time I was like oh OK we'll see... But in my head like... NO WAY!

Anyway fast forward me getting my period at 3am and crying in bed and he says we can try again next month, I said what about skipping a month and he said it's fine we'll just go for it! I'm so worried he was just saying that because I was upset, I really don't know how I'd deal with just not trying for a month, I know it's not the end of the world and its not set in stone we'd conceive next time anyway, but to me a December birthday is better than January!

Everyone hates January!

Anyway... Just had to get my thoughts out! Sorry got the ramble! Don't know what I'd do without you all! 😘😘

Hey ladies hope it's ok to join. I think I've seen a few of you on some of the other mc threads. I'm still quite early on going through the process of mc, I had ERPC on Friday 5/3 at 10+1 but lost baby about 7+2. So currently still bleeding just waiting for bleeding to stop and hcg to fall. But need to look forward and focus on TTC and not the mc now to keep me going. What a great thread to see the BFP's. So sorry @Pettylamby about your chemical. So cruel to give you that hope and snatch it away again. I had been feeling awful but had a really helpful call with a great GP yesterday who was super helpful and kind and also signed me off for the week. Took a diazepam last night and got a proper sleep. Even DP has commented today about how much better I seem just after that 10 min phone call with the GP. Just going to try stay positive and do everything I can health wise. Previously was taking just folic acid then these cheap vitamin gummy's that were like Vit C, vit D. Then I switched to seven seas pregnancy vits. I've put them away in a drawer for now as I couldn't bear seeing them but hopefully I'll be able to get them out soon and yesterday I started the seven seas trying for a baby. Wondering about the coq10 I've heard it mentioned on a few threads? Anyone take it? I checked my seven seas trying for a baby doesn't have that in. I've deactivated my social media's as I'd just had enough of seeing the announcements, bumps and babies. Anyway sorry for the ramble. Hoping to see lots more BFPs on this thread and a few more 2021 babies :)

@Pettylamby I'm a December baby and it's a fab time to have a birthday! Honestly I think once you start trying it's impossible to stop for dates, holidays, anything really! You'll make it all work. I'm so sorry you're going through this pain, I really am! Keep looking forward 😘

@justwant2beamum yes I take Ubiquinol which is the active form of CoQ10 (so better version). I take 300mg every day to hopefully help improve egg quality

@Pettylamby oh my darling I’m so sorry 😢 it feels so cruel and you’ve been a through a rollercoaster the last couple of days wondering whether this was it. Like @AMS19 said it’s good news that your body is fertilising those eggs and better for it to stop anything progressing now rather than go through even more heartbreak a couple of months down the line. Sending you HUGE virtual hugs xx

@LauraT94 @glowingtwig I love the milestones lady! Such a good way to look at it and so lovely you’re both having scans around the same time and same due dates!! Excited for you both ❤️
@PlantMummy87 I’m sorry to hear you felt so low this morning. It’s so tough hearing about pregnancy announcements. I even found myself getting upset about Meghan Markle having a girl and thinking “ahhh why couldn’t my baby girl be ok??” so hearing so many of your friends announce their news must be incredibly tough 🤗
Like you, I’m panicking that I’ve missed my window this month - OPKs were still reading “low” on my Premom app and a clear blue digital showed low fertility the last couple of days too so didn’t bother DTD as I’ve had tonnes of work on so working until midnight etc and felt knackered! Then this morning BAM - opks and clear blue both showing full on ovulation. Arrghhhh!!!! Made my hubby (well didn’t make as such ha!) DTD just now but thinking I might have missed my chance!? 🤦‍♀️ No idea why it’s gone from 0-60 so quickly? 🤷‍♀️

@SuzieDeLaTour that's what happened. 0 to full on peak withing 12 hours! We are pretty much cycle twins then, I think I ovulated yesterday xx

@AMS19 urgh it’s so confusing!! I’m not sure I trust that Premom app, it was jumping all over the place 😜 anyway no mistaking that it’s kicked in today - will see if I can fit in another sess with DH tonight ha! X

@Pettylamby I’m so sorry to hear this :( hope you can stay positive in these times .

Everyone with positive tests how long has it taken you post MC to conceive again?

Thanks everyone for the support. It's really helped me today, don't know what I'd do without you lovely lot.

After a lot of ugly crying today I'm starting to feel a bit better. I'm definitely going to be blaming this massive wobble of the acupuncture as I am really not much of a crier, ever. Trying to stay positive that tonight it will the the absolute perfect time for the perfect egg and perfect sperm to meet. Playing that Daft punk song in my head this afternoon 😆, I think you mentioned that @dmt1982 sorry if it was someone else!

You are completely right @AMS19 it is the worry of another month going past and missing the opportunity. I was the same as you and @SuzieDeLaTour as although I was getting a high of clear blues the cheapy LH ones were showing low last night and then bam this morning peak on both. I'm hoping that the cheapies may go up a bit more this afternoon if I test then, not that that changes anything but will make me feel better for not dtd last night and when work finishes will be hunting my partner down 😆

Trying to see the positives in even if this month isn't successful my cycle seems to have got back on track, and all the things I've been doing to help myself I do enjoy and they will make a positive impact the coming months🤞

@justwant2beamum I'm so sorry you find yourself here. I hope joining us can give you some hope and support. I take a multi vit and for egg health omega 3 and 100mg co-enzyme q-10. My partner takes the same as all meant to be good for men's fertility too.

@PlantMummy87 if you do it tonight bang on peak day you're just more likely you have a boy! Honestly I've spent hours looking at other charts on FF and most pregnancy charts only DTD once or twice! It's not about quantity it's about quality. I worry we've done it too much and the sperm hasn't had enough time to build up. So honestly do it today and you'll be wonderful! ❤

P.s. I've booked in for normal acupuncture on Sunday morning. If I did ovulate yesterday it's around implantation time. And was a third of the cost of the fertility one I did!

For early testers I found this really useful! www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/results-by-day-past-ovulation.php

Have you caved yet @dippyegg32 ??