Entering the TWW with BBT charts

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I FINALLY got my rise! Positive opk was 3 days later than usual and ovulation seems later than usual too after the peak! 🙈

BUT I'm in the TWW officially!! Who's with me?! I plan to analyse everything and I'll probably test early with cheapies for a laugh! No point in pretending I'll be calm and controlled throughout this TWW!!

Officially 3rd month TTC baby number 3. But had a few months before that "seeing what happens" DS 2 and DS 11months.

Anyone wanna embrace the crazy with me?!

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 those lines are definitely looking strong! So pleased for you.

@Hopefulhedgehog if you know your cycles I don't blame you for stopping temping. Wish I could but my cycles are too all over the place. I said I'd stop using OPKs this month as DP working away and we DTD regularly enough anyways without trying to plan it but here I am just bought another 50 Amazon specials 🤦🏻‍♀️.

Really wish my gp appointment would hurry up. Feels like ages away. Won't be able to get bloods done til next cycle anyways so hoping this cycle is short. I'm just getting really impatient now 😂.

Thank you all, I guess I'm just worrying, my boobs don't feel sore anymore and I don't really feel much 🤷‍♀️ silly as won't change any outcome I know!

@LemonDrizzle44 totally get it, even if you're having heaps of sex, I still like the opks and temping for confirmation of ovulation!

Hi everyone hope you’re doing ok. AF is 2 days late for me... no sign of her coming but I did a pregnancy test this morning n was completely negative. Me and DP are away staying with friends but I’ve had to come to bed because of banging headache and just been sick. Of course this could be completely unrelated but I’m wondering what the hell is going on . My temp was low this morning , so AF must be on the way and if I’ve had bfn at 14dpo then I’m definitely out aren’t I?

Hi @SlothMamaToBe that’s really tough if you are staying with friends. Maybe being ill has knocked your cycle a little? Have you had a vaccine this month too? I had Pfizer on about CD2 and I ovulated a day later than I ever have (may be totally unrelated) but assuming that may knock AF back for me too. If you have low temps and negative test then it does look like she’s on her way :( Hope you have answers soon.

@Hopefulhedgehog thank you ... I’m really struggling emotionally with this. You’re right the temps and negative test must mean AF is coming but until she’s here it’s like torture because that one bit of your brain says what if.
I had the Covid vaccine a long time ago now as I work in the nhs. I’m not sure if I was I’ll last night or not as I feel ok today , just exhausted as had no sleep 😔.
Hope you’re doing ok?

I really feel for you. You are right until she’s here there’s a tiny part of your brain which knows it is a possibility (and the inevitable Googling “can you be pregnant with bfn at 14dpo”) I just hope you have an answer soon. I’m 2dpo so in no man’s land a bit - we go on holiday when I’m 11dpo so will likely test then because I will be drinking. Keep us updated how you are getting on x

@slothmamatobe it's shit isn't it, a complete emotional roller coaster every single month and the not knowing is the worst, because you always have that hope at the back of your mind that this will be the month. I hope you feel better soon and obviously that you get a BFP but either way, if AF comes at least you'll know.

@SlothMamaToBe sorry you were poorly last night. It's very hard being at friends. I would say it's not outside of the realm of possibility to get a negative at 14 dpo and a positive the next day. However when it's happened to me my period has just arrived late 😐 so fingers crossed for you x

And as @ContadoraExplorer said, it is just shit. Hoping for you though

Thanks everyone 💜. This thread has been such a great source of support going through something which can be incredibly isolating. I haven’t got any more tests on me so will test again later. 🤞 I get that miracle.

@SlothMamaToBe it is for me too, it's been great to chat with other people go through similar things who understand

I’m glad you find it helpful too @A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 . Well I did another pregnancy test and BFN.

Sorry to hear about the BFN @SlothMamaToBe

@SlothMamaToBe sorry I missed your update yesterday evening. Oh that's rubbish. Has your period started yet though? Seems bizarre x

Hey no worries, AF arrived first thing this morning - I’m nearly always on time 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m gonna take a break from temping next cycle , DP says he doesn’t want to do IVF ... 😔 it all seems a bit pointless as I just can’t see how we are going to fall pregnant naturally.

@SlothMamaToBe remind me have you had any checks done? There's a load they can do before IVF, prescriptions, progesterone, clomid etc. Or even something like a vitamin deficiency - I had to top my iron up quite a bit last month to get to the right levels for fertility. But yeah a break from temping def sounds good.
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Hey @A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 . I’ve had day 4 and day 21 bloods done , come back normal. I have a scan this week but I had one last year for a different reason and they said everything looks fine so presumably it’s not changed. Thing is, if it turns out to be DP, what can they do? If I’m ovulating then I guess they wouldn’t give me clomid or anything as it’s not needed? Once I speak to fertility doctor I guess I’ll find out. Sorry feeling bit flat as often I do after AF comes. Hope you’re doing ok? Have you been referred to midwife yet?

@SlothMamaToBe it's totally understandable to feel flat, and to just want to wallow a bit. Period day is always horrible. Treat yourself tonight x

Fertility Dr sounds good. If it's count or morphology I think there's some stuff they can do to improve it with vitamins and nutrition to a pretty good degree. I read a lot of reviews on Proceive male and Zita West male when picking them for my partner - he's never proactive enough to look into and order this stuff for himself but when I looked loads of people got a measurably better semen analysis after taking it

So sorry @SlothMamaToBe. AF is always a disappointment but particularly so this cycle when she’s left you hanging for a few days. Carry on your investigations and get as much info as possible then you can make a decision together about next steps. It may be they can suggest something other than ivf. It is an absolute no from DP to ivf or do you think he could be open to changing his mind?

Thank you both 💜.
Had a look at zita west vits, thank you. He is taking (sporadically 🙄) the vitabiotic ones at the moment which seem to have similar stuff in.
He says he doesn’t want IVF because of the cost and not having any guarantee of it working (even though it would be my money we use as he has no savings) . It caused quite a lot of upset as he never expressed that to me until recently.
One thing I’ve wondered for a while but haven’t known how to broach it is TMI alert - could a ‘weak’ ejaculation cause problems ? He has even commented himself that joe he’s older once he reaches climax it doesn’t really project IYNWIM 😐😬. I’m wondering if it’s not forceful enough to actually go through to reach the egg ??

@slothmamatobe I guess it might make it harder to get right up to the cervix opening (although I'd imagine it will be there or thereabouts even if it's not quite as high pressured as it used to be...!)

I tend to prop my bum up on a cushion for a bit after DTD anyway, I figure gravity can't hurt.

I don’t think it would make much difference as you hear of others artificially inseminating using a mooncup or similar. Maybe worth a try if you can stomach it to use a mooncup after DTD? and as @ContadoraExplorer says a bit of gravity can’t hurt. Has your DP had semen analysis?

@SlothMamaToBe I don't know, maybe only if there's less ejaculate and that's why it feels weaker. Has he had a count done? I suppose the noon cup works the same as the Fertilily, and I saw some pretty good reviews on that

Hi All.

How is everyone?

@SlothMamaToBe sorry to hear AF arrived for you. Not sure about "weak" ejaculation, I imagine those that self inseminate are much the same. I suppose gravity would help and also heard good reviews about the fertilily. Has DP had SA done? I think if motility is good will only need one strong swimmer??

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 how are you doing? Are you still testing?

I had my appointment with GP today. She's sending me for day 3 and day 21 bloods, arranging STI swabs and an ultrasound scan. I've spent most of today crying for no apparent reason, although I think the sudden realisation of trying for over a year has hit me today. I think every month I'm distracted by OPKS, temps, the TWW symptom spotting and all the hope that goes into it.
I'm CD8 and starting OPKs again tomorrow. Partly wanting to ovulate early so can get bloods done sooner but on the other hand want to ovulate later so that DP might be home (currently working away again).

This thread has been super helpful and love how everyone is supportive!

@LemonDrizzle44 sorry you're having a crappy day. It's okay to feel shit and to wallow in it and treat yourself. In fact I think it's healthy. Really pleased the GP can do the tests for you.

How's everyone else?

I'm okay thanks, I had a tiny tiny amount of spotting after going to the loo, and so my GP sent me to EPU to get checked out yesterday (I thought she'd just recommend something for the constipation, so freaked me out a bit, but she said it was due to MC previously). So they couldn't see anything on the scan, but my hcg was 1471 so at the threshold of where they should see something. Going back tomorrow, but they've scared me with leaflets on ectopics etc